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Boyfriend only likes sex if I am on top

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Question - (7 October 2017) 3 Answers - (Newest, 9 October 2017)
A female United States age 26-29, anonymous writes:

My boyfriend seems to like all sexual activities with the exception of (vaginal) sex, which he does not seem to care for. He only seems to like it (a little) if the woman is on top doing all of the work. Do any men out there feel the same way, and can you explain this to me? Do any of you dislike sex? Or, do any of you like sex but can only enjoy it when the woman is on top doing all of the work?

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A female reader, aunt honesty Ireland + , writes (9 October 2017):

aunt honesty agony auntEveryone is different and likes different things, if you are happy with your sex life then great, but if you are not and you want to try different positions then talk to him about it, it should be what works for you both not just him.

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A male reader, anonymous, writes (8 October 2017):

Almost all men consider vaginal penetration as the climax of the sexual activity and the missionary position as the normal and common position. However most couples if not all, in long term relations like in marriage experiment with other positions as well and usually when they find the position that helps the female partner to reach orgasm quickly and easily they adopt it as their favorate.

Normally men dont find difficulty in reaching orgasm.

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A female reader, Honeypie United States + , writes (7 October 2017):

Honeypie agony auntI think a lot of WOMEN enjoy being on top and in control every now and then, so I wouldn't be surprised if men enjoy that as well.

However, I think if that is the ONLY kind of sex you get that will not change.

If you are OK with a lot of oral and ?anal (or whatnot) and very little and only one position vaginal sex, then things are good. I guess.

If you two have a lot of anal sex or if that is his preferred method, it might be because he feels a lubricated vagina is not "tight" enough for him to feel much. A hand and/or mouth are also (usually) a tighter grip).

It can also be because he is worried about pregnancies?

You have to decide if the sex is good for BOTH of you or if you don't feel fulfilled. And if you don't, well then he might not be a good match (sexually) for you.

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