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Archived questions from: October, 2014 (see latest in Crushes category)

Crushes: Help and advice

Is it wishful thinking or could my crush be gay?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3463 days ago

31 October 2014 (M) - So I'm bi but not out yet and there's this guy I've had a crush on for just over 3 years now. We started off as friends at uni, we met during the first week but had this instant connection, people described it as a bromance, we just clicked, an...

My crush went back to his ex??

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3466 days ago

30 October 2014 (F) - So i like this guy he was my crush we were friends and all but one day he told me he felt the same. We started having a flirtationship but then he went back to his ex!? Why i just dont understand i feel confident in my self to know i have positive ...

He's 14 to my 15. He had a Gf but broke up. Should I keep talking online to him?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - There’s this guy at my school in the year below me and I've had my eye on him for a while (just thinking he's cute and what not), but when i found out my friend knew him i made a move and found out he had a girlfriend. We talked for a while an...

I really like this guy, but I can't figure him out. Any tips please to help me understand?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - I've been hanging out with this guy I met in class. He's 23. At first, he would just text me about school stuff. Then, he started asking me to hang out with him. We would talk almost everyday and its mostly him contacting me first. So, the first ...

I do miss him. But first I want him to miss me. So HOW do I ensure that he really misses me?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3466 days ago

29 October 2014 (F) - Okay so there is this guy I like. recently we hung out and he told me how he thinks i'm beautiful and that he likes my personality. I like him a lot too hes really cool, and we seemed to have been getting a long just fine, but the problem is. ...

Should I go with girl A? But what can I do about Girl C's jealousy?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

29 October 2014 (M) - Hello DC, it's been a little while. I need some help. Girl problems, as usual. Pretty wordy, this one. Sorry. There's a girl, let's call her Girl A. She's new to my life, but when I met her, I knew something good would happen. I had asked her ou...

Am I being a bad friend? I have a crush on her ex. But she has said that she likes him, but will never get back with him.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3465 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I have recently had sex with a guy and I'm starting to really like him, however he is one of my closest friends ex boyfriend.. I told her I kissed him once at a party and she didn't seem bothered at all but she also told me, weeks after that, that...

Why couldn't he be nicer to me? Should I ignore him, just as he did to me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

28 October 2014 (F) - I am attending a course at university. I go to this course once every week with my friend. There is a guy that I like. Today in the end of course this guy talked almost all the time to my friend and not to me and also he gave his number to my fri...

Should I stay away from her until she's officially divorced? Right now she's separated.

This question has 7 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

28 October 2014 (M) - So, this is a new one for me... There is this girl that I got acquainted with recently. We really hit it off well and have a lot in common. We do seem to connect well on an emotional level and she says that I bring out the best in her and stir ...

Do I tell him that I have a crush on him and that I love him? I don't want to ruin our friendship.

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I dont know what to do anymore. I am head over heels in love with my best friend and we have known each other since we were 6 years old. I now live in a different country from him and we dont see each other a lot. We might see each other at christm...

This man hardly knows me, so why does he keep on asking me out? I feel conflicted due to our mutual friend's illness

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3465 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Why does this man keep asking me out? This man is friends with a man that I like. The man I like has been seriously ill lately (he had an operation recently and was in hospital for a few weeks). This man has asked me to go out with him a few time...

Still mourning my ex who passed away due to suicide. How can I move on? And what to do about the crush I have on my tenant?

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3468 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - Lost my boyfriend a year ago through suicide. People are telling i should move on cause we were not married. In my heart i still miss him a lot. Recently ive discovered that im having a crush on my tenant, which is when my late boyfriend died i...

Met on holidays. Is it too early in our friendship to get him a birthday present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3469 days ago

27 October 2014 (F) - I met this guy on holiday, he's in the army and is posted in Germany. But comes from the same place as I do. Just after I met him he was being deployed to Afghanistan for 3 months, we spoke everyday and he'd ring me sometimes too. After his ...

Unhappily married. Is this younger man interested in me?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3469 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - Is this younger man interested in me? I am an unhappily married woman who is re-considering her options. One of the main reasons I am still married is for my 2 young children. My husband suffers from a mood disorder, depression and anxiety. In ...

Should I somehow try to take this to the next level? Or leave things as they are at present?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3470 days ago

26 October 2014 (F) - I'm currently a college freshman studying abroad, and there's this guy who's a senior, also from my country, whom I met back in May, when he finished his junior year and flew back to our hometown. It turned out that he lives at a 5-minute walk from ...

How can I deal with the pre-cum that occurs, despite my best efforts to deal with fact I'm easily aroused by pretty girls?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3467 days ago

26 October 2014 (M) - hi, i am single man, 29 years old. i never had a sex or even any kind of relationship. please i don't know why i easily get erection. so, i got this idea— when i see a nice girl or think about sex, i relax my body and my penis just to prevent erec...

I have strong feelings for her. She says we're not compatible. How do I get over this?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3471 days ago

25 October 2014 (M) - Dear Cupid I am a 46 year old man, after being out of the dating scene for a very long time I met this gorgeous 48 year old lady at work. We got talking initially I asked her out and she declined stating that she was in a complicated relation...

Can someone explain to me what goes through his mind when he decides to go speak to me?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3473 days ago

23 October 2014 (F) - Hello dear Aunts and Uncles, I hope I can keep my question short, simple and to the point. I've been in a happy relationship for quite some time and so is this other guy (presumably) I've known for many years. before any of us were into our...

The girl I have a crush on now hates me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3474 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - Hi. So im a bi girl, and i love this other girl, SN, with all my heart. Now, she found out some time ago, when we were still good friends. When she found out, she avoided me for two weeks, but then we sorted it out and we were good friends again, e...

I can't stop thinking about her! I know it's unfair on my boyfriend, so what do I do next?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3475 days ago

22 October 2014 (F) - I have posted something like this before but here it goes.. I'm 20, a girl, and have been going out with my Boyf for 3 years. We recently went on holiday with his family and his cousin took a friend who is also a girl with her.. She is 29 and ...

My parents object like crazy that I wanna go out with a guy alone!

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3475 days ago

21 October 2014 (?) - Hi there :) I recently told my parents that I like a guy and that he likes me too. And I really wanted to gain their trust of just hanging out with a guy. They object like crazy that I wanna go out with a guy alone. Which in a way I understand...

A friend thinks I have a crush on her ex but I don't

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3476 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - Ok, so i have a crush on this girl 'S', but she knows and now she has decided she hates me. There is another girl, 'A', who is one of both mine and 'S's best friend. Now she thinks i have a crush on her and told a couple of people this, includin...

Been single for 9 months. So why am I attracted to Players and Commitment Phobic men?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3476 days ago

20 October 2014 (F) - i find myself stuck. Iam really attracted to good looking men who are commitment phobic/players. I've tried dating the nice guy and i get really bored and not at all interested. Ive been single 9 months now and i just want a good relationship. sick ...

Wondering what might have been. Do you think he regrets that he was rude to me? Or has he moved on?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3476 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - I met a man last year who expressed interest in me. To say we met at the wrong time is an understatement. When we met, I worked for a bully boss and helped take care of my ailing grandmother. Very stressed out during that time. I have since f...

Do you think his expectations may include sex on this fun weekend he's arranged?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3475 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Hi. I'm getting a divorce and incidentally met a very old colleague from about 15 ago. He's invited me to join him in another city to watch a big football game and generally a weekend together which I accepted. He's booked the hotel, I haven't...

Should I go for it or not? He knows I found him attractive in his youth, but he's not as attractive any more.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3475 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, There is a guy I have met on Facebook - who was absolutely gorgeous looking a few years ago. He wants to meet up with for a possible relationship - but the thing is - he is now middle aged and not looking half as good as in his youth...

I want friendship only. Should I let him initiate the conversation? He's married and a work colleague.

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3477 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - Hi!!! There is a senior guy at workplace who initially tried a lot to impress me and tried talking to me a lot. I got a secret crush on him but he did not knew. So he tried hard. Now when i talk to him he talks to me normally but my intution...

I think my professor has a crush on me

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3477 days ago

19 October 2014 (F) - My proffessor likes me.he is 28yrs older to me.he pays more attentoon to me than any other student,caught him staring at me many times, he touches things that are closer to me but never physically came closer and also doesnt give me extra advantage ...

I don't hear from him for days -- does he like me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3477 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I met this guy at a bar 3 weeks ago. He was wearing the shirt of a band I like and I thought he was hot, so I went over and asked for his name and phone number. He seemed shocked but gave them to me anyway, and asked for mine too. We chatted for a ...

Do I ask her if she likes me or just move on?

This question has 8 answers - newest was posted 3475 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - There is this girl, and to make it short, I feel as if she stole my heart an never gave it back. Therefore it's really hard for me to be open to feel anything for anyone else. I told her I like her but she reacted in the way I figured she woul...

Enjoyed our first date together.Is it too much to send her a card wishing her well?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3477 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - Just a quick one. Went out with someone (first date if you will), and had planned to meet up again soon. She's since postponed this, I think she has a lot on with work - stress etc. Is it too much to send her a card wishing her well? Have sort ...

I think I'm over him now. He broke up with me. Why is he now reaching out to me, considering he has a new Gf?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - My ex dumped me about 1.5 years ago. He's in a relationship with someone else 3 months after our breakup. I was desperate and couldn't move on. I spent over one year to put myself together and decided to move abroad. The last day before I left ho...

He says my nature is bad. That was his reason for breaking up with me. What was my fault?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I met a guy online 3 months back. On the first day itself I had phone sex with him. Initially he was very loving. We were even planning to meet. He used to say if I make you pregnant I will marry you. He said we will make videos while having sex...

Does she truly love me? What do you think?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - I have being dating a girl for about two years now and I love her very much. before we started dating she had a boyfriend but I loved this girl because she is so jovial,sweet voice and easy to go along with and so respectful. so I started getting ...

I love my BF. A flat mate seems to have a crush on me. Though not interested, how should I handle this?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I am 22 and live with my boyfriend,a gay couple and a single guy. Recently I have begun wondering whether the single guy might have a crush on me. He's really shy and never had a girlfriend. We get on really well but I don't want him to get the ...

Despite all the troubles, why does he keep on coming back to me?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3477 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - i dated a boy for nine months, we broke up publicly in may 2014, however soon realising the mistake we had made and that we still loved each other. We tried to continue our relationship in secret. however one night he held a party, but he spent mo...

It was an awkward first kiss, but does that make me an a pathetic 24 year old loser? What can I do?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3477 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - So I just got home from a sort of first date with a guy. We hung out at my house last weekend just to break the ice so I cooked lunch for us nothing major. Tonight we went out for drinks and when it was time to drop me off we were just chattin...

Is it ok for me to send this message to a guy I like? In the closet now, but should I just come out to him?

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - "Hey decided to just be honest. I’m not gay but I am bi, and I kinda want to ^^^ you off. It doesn’t make you gay to let a guy ^^^ you off, like i said i’ve had friends it happened to and they honestly couldn’t tell the difference. I’d be 100% dis...

Ten years later, and despite being in a relationship, I am still obsessing about this guy from the past. How can I move on or resolve this ?

This question has 11 answers - newest was posted 3473 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - This is taking over my life. I think about this guy constantly and torture myself by looking at his picture on-line a lot! I hear through the grape vine he's a bit of a player (I hate that in a guy.) But still can't stop thinking what could be if...

I like him but I'm too shy to talk to him

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3472 days ago

18 October 2014 (F) - I like a guy, but I'm kinda shy. I don't have the guts to talk to him yet. I had his sister tell him I like him and he said cool. But the thing is, he doesn't know me. I was going to have his sister introduce us, but I don't have enough confidence ...

I miss her. Do you think she is in a rebound relationship? If yes, how long do you think it will last?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - Hello, I have a question, but i need to tell you the most important details you will need for decision in the shortest possible way. My ex (also my Classmate!!) had a boyfriend, but I got her from him and she became my girlfriend, they were ...

Could I be Bi? How will my parents react if I tell them?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3479 days ago

18 October 2014 (M) - I'm very curious with boys at the moment. I'm madly in love with a girl (A) and she lives far away and she is very hot but there is also a boy who goes to my school, all boys) and he's called (B) I fantasize a LOT about (A and B). I don't kn...

Is he interested? We are playing the part of husband and wife in a drama at his suggestion!

This question has 6 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

17 October 2014 (F) - Ok. Here's the deal. I've been attending a new church for about 6 months. After a few months or thereabouts I have a thought that the worship pastor and I would make a good fit. Move forward a few months and he sends me an email (only me) asking if ...

Huge crush, but now she has resigned. Why!?! What the hell is wrong with me? Have I let my lunatic ego take control?

This question has 5 answers - newest was posted 3479 days ago

17 October 2014 (M) - Turning 50 is not fun. My loving wife after 25 years of marriage tells me time has been kind to me and she still calls me sexy. I adore her. She is as lovely as the day I first saw her. I have always been somewhat shy. I never considered mysel...

My crush is asking for a threesome! Do I do it?

This question has 13 answers - newest was posted 3478 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - My crush asked me to do a threesome, he has this fantasy. he said I could choose any friend /girl/ of mine to do it and make me feel more comfortable. I am interested in having something more with Him, I'm confused. I wouldn't want to do that if it ...

I like one of my good friends brothers. Should I tell her?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3482 days ago

15 October 2014 (F) - Dear Cupid, I like one of my good friends brothers I liked him way before we became good friends He has told me that he likes me back and we've made out on a few occasions but our friendship is always on and off. I really like him and have tho...

How to tell if a work colleague likes you?

This question has 3 answers - newest was posted 3481 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - i like my work colleague a lot. but i not sure if he likes me or not, we work in a bank but on different departments. sometimes i look around and see him looking at me but not sure if he like me..... i have been working there for 3 mon...

I'm going to see him for a day at Christmas, should I tell him how I feel?

This question has 1 answer - newest was posted 3481 days ago

14 October 2014 (F) - i realy like this guy and we are best friends and i realy like him but now i live in another contry i also kinda like two other guys in my class and they both tease me a bit. I'm going to meet my friend at christmas for a day. what shall i do i ...

What can I do? She is my very loyal LDR Gf. If I tell her how often I cheated she may breakup with me.

This question has 4 answers - newest was posted 3483 days ago

13 October 2014 (M) - Hi, in 2009 i was visiting my friend in another town so i met and she is a neigbour of my friend ,she gave me her numbers when i went home the same day i called her we talked suddenly the following day her phone was not working,so i thought like she ...

Should I confront her about what was going on or wait for her to talk about it first?

This question has 2 answers - newest was posted 3483 days ago

13 October 2014 (F) - At the beginning of summer I talked to a friend of mine a lot and we started flirting. I couldn't really tell if it was that kind of joke flirting friends do with each other, but it was very real for me, and when I showed my best friend some of the ...