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writes:So I just got home from a sort of first date with a guy. We hung out at my house last weekend just to break the ice so I cooked lunch for us nothing major. Tonight we went out for drinks and when it was time to drop me off we were just chatting talking laughing in his car when he went to go kiss me. It was awkward, I had gum in my mouth too and guess I wasn't ready. It lasted shortly, nothing major. He texted me after and was like wow weak kiss. I know it was blah but now my self esteem shot down. When I said I'll make it up to you he was just like SMH( shaking my head) I was also like oh great now you probably think I'm some awkward herb n he's like yeah, what was the issue? I'm like no issue just i don't know. Hopefully next time I'll show you, if there will be a next time and all he wrote was 'yea'. I feel like a pathetic 24 year old loser now and I just feel it was so awkward and now he probably thinks I suck completely . What do I do? I guess I'll wait till he makes a move and texts me but damn I wish I could rewind. Feeling sad and low :/
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reader, Brokenv  +, writes (19 October 2014):
It was only your first date. Kissing in the car is awkward.
Write him off. He doesn't sound very kind. Sounds like if things are not the way he wants it he will always be disappointed.
Do you have a male friend? A friend to have a "practice" kiss with? Nothing more but a tester.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (18 October 2014):
 You know what , I blame it on this texting addiction that people have got. It's like they have incontrollable verbal diarrhea, whatever passes through their mind they just have to put it out, whether it is appropriate or not, stupid or not, corteous or not etc.
I mean, what an idiot, this a text that a 12 year old could send ! this is SO rude- what, he gets a kiss, he does not like it for some reason, and he sends you the rating and the critique ?! who is he , the Michelin Guide of kisses ?..
The only acceptable way he should have handled this would have been to : 1) decide that for some reason you were nervous or not in the mood or whatnot, and see if the second kiss would go better
2 ) decide there's nothing to do, you are just a natural born bad kisser, and disentangle himself from a second date with you.
But , complaining about the quality of the kiss- what does he want, saatisfaction or his money back ?!
And I am surprised of you , OP, that you did not feel how uncalled for was his comment and answered all submissive and tail-between-your-legs.
No no, OP, you are a princess and your kisses, even " weak " or " bad " are a HONOUR for all the toads who remain and are be considered toads until they haven't PROVEN themselves to be princes.
This one is a terminal toad who does not deserve your attention- just delete him from your dancing carnet and move on. Or tell him that next time he can kiss your ***, if he likes that better :)
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (18 October 2014):
Only a first date? I'd write it off and go date someone else. Sounds like the chemistry just wasn't there. Forget it and move on, no reason to be embarrassed.
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reader, anonymous, writes (18 October 2014): He sounds like a dick, you have nothing to prove, the fact he tried shaming you about it is absurd, I wouldn't see him again, but if you think he is maybe just bad at communicating via text it could be a misunderstanding.
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