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writes:Hello,I have a question, but i need to tell you the most important details you will need for decision in the shortest possible way.My ex (also my Classmate!!) had a boyfriend, but I got her from him and she became my girlfriend, they were together for only a week at that time. (but she broke his heart, he loved her looong time before they were dating)Then we were together, he was her best friend and kind of friendzoned advisor, but I got really jealous one time and made her stop talking to him, texting, block him on facebook, just cut all the communication. She did as I wanted after some time, he e-mailed her couple times but she really didn't care, as she had me and that was all she wanted.Well, but things got really bad last 2 months, she got me reeeally upset, I once told her that I am sick of her and every time she gets me upset, I care about her less and less. (This actually really buried inside of her... We had many fights in those 7 months we were together, but we got out of them every time)When we had one a bit more serious fight, she said something like "You will never find anyone who will be so much afraid about losing you, I just love you so much please be with me" and I told her something like "Don't worry, I will not break up with you for no reason". I thought I didn't write anything bad, but week later she suddenly asked if I want to break up and if I see future in our relationship... When we broke up, she said that I didn't even say that I love her to her text and that she was suffocating for one month, crying every day, whole weekends.... After the break up she befriended her ex again (not meaning me and I am 100% sure she really didn't even text with him before). We actually got together 2 days later again, when we were talking again, she said that if she wanted to make me upset and stuff she would go in relationship with him. But we actually stayed in relationship for no longer than a week, after I basically said that gym is more important for me than her when she asked, we then had free relationship and after 3 days she broke up with me for still grabbing her panties and not respecting her. Right after that I said that if we end relationship, we are ending definitely, so I cut all the comunnication with her but before that, we had a talk and she cried after I said it's her fault our relationship is over. She then just said "I know you won't care but I am sorry for it" and sat to other desk to her friends for upcoming lesson. The same day at afternoon she got into the relationship with him, the thing is, he is COMPLETE opposite of me, he is a very nice guy (but I mean OVERNICE, in their first relationship he said to her that he would forgive her even if she slept with someone else, typical desperate guy). I remember that she said to me once what would I have to do, to make her break up with me, she said that she wouldn't break up with me even if I slept with someone else, or if I was beating her...Oh and by the way... She is hysteric, I mean hysteric in fact, has depressions and she had/has suicidal thoughts when we were together. (not because of me, she actually didn't do it thanks to me)Do you think it is a rebound relationship? If yes, how long do you think it will last? Will she start missing me and wanting me back or not? By the way she seems to be happy and ok in class, texting him all day, when classmate asked if we are together again, she said that we never will again, but as I know her a bit she might act happy in public, but actually when friend of her rolled up her sleeve accidentaly she had cuts there and I think they were fresh actually, so I am confused... But if she is really happy with him as she said to me, I have no desire to really do anything to their relationship and wish it to them if she is happy.thank you for reading this exhausting post :)
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reader, Dave356 +, writes (18 October 2014):
I didn't mind her depressions and cutting, at least I felt useful by succeding in helping her, which I did and she didn't cut because it would make me sad and because I once told her that if she imagines that it's my arm she's cutting, if she will continue. She didn't, until now...We had a good relationship, it worked, but we just had constant fights which weren't that bad, until one described..And I don't think she is with him to make me upset, she says she doesn't love me anymore and that she will stay only with him from now on... But I am actually scared that she is lying and planning to hurt herself again..
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reader, WhenCowsAttack  +, writes (18 October 2014):
She has severe depression, she's a cutter, you two fought constantly when you were together, she gets with other guys just to hurt you...yeah, can't see why you think she's such a catch or why you want back into that horrible, dramatic relationship. Not one of those things you described is a sign of a good relationship.
I don't think either of you belongs in a relationship until you're ready to have a healthy one.
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