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writes:I am 22 and live with my boyfriend,a gay couple and a single guy. Recently I have begun wondering whether the single guy might have a crush on me. He's really shy and never had a girlfriend. We get on really well but I don't want him to get the wrong idea as I'm happy with my boyfriend. I've noticed that he goes out of way to tell me about things he thinks I'll like such as music and stands up for me even more than my boyfriend (who is sweet but kind of a push over). He tells people off if they're careless with my food (I'm gluten intolerant). Do you think this behavior could mean he sees me as more than his friend or friend's girlfriend? I don't want to encourage him as I do love my boyfriend but I have to admit that I like the attention because my boyfriend tends to take me for granted. What should I do? He may not even be interested in me but if he is then I want to dissuade him without being direct or embarrassing him.
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reader, WhenCowsAttack +, writes (18 October 2014):
I think you actually are interested in this guy. Your post is filled with positive statements about him and negative statements about your current guy.
Is he interested, also? I don't know, ask him. Just be sure to end your current relationship first if you're going to get involved.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (18 October 2014):
 I would talk to my boyfriend not about the attention you are getting from the flat mate, but about long term plans such as moving in to a two bedroom only, or sharing with just couples and no single people. Living with single people, female or male is just playing with temptations. Your friend being the single guy feels left out and jealous of the other 4 people. Even when you live with another couple the danger is still there. As long as we are living we will be curious about other people of the opposite sex. Your living situation is not ideal but it is what you can do right now. It's better than living at home and not being able to have sex but there's not much privacy living with strangers pretending to be friends. It's important to talk about long term goals so you have something to look forward to and not feel so stuck.
I would say be direct. If you are wrong and made assumptions then you are wrong. At least you will be making a point that you feel uncomfortable with him and he will back off.
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