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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 4 March 2009: You know, I answered this question over a year ago, lol. I wonder how things went? She was willing enough to give him oral sex, she just didn't want him to come in her mouth. Isn't that a good enough compromise?... (read in full...)
Curious Physician
Q. Ok I'm 28 years old with two children. I have been married for 5 years. Me and my husband started to have marital problems during my last pregnancy. I started to tell my physician things in my marriage. He started off by asking me personal ...
A. 23 February 2008: If you're uncomfortable with your physician, it's time to find a new one. If there is something 'off' about him for you, then he is not the doctor for you.
You don't need to explain why you're leaving his practice to anyone if you don't want to.... (read in full...)
Can you answer my questions on sex please?
Q. Ok I am a 20 year old virgin in college which is tough. But I think my time may be coming. I have A LOT of questions (sorry, and thanks to anyone who reads it all) help on any would be appreciated. Anyways I hear all this about women having a hard ...
A. 23 February 2008: Wow, there are lots of questions there! First, I'd like to say good for you for doing your research, and for recognizing that sex should be pleasurable for both partners. You are most definitely on the right track.
There are many books out ther... (read in full...)
How can I get my husband to Man up?!
Q. Is there a site where professional women can talk about their lives with blue-collar husbands? I heard something about that on 20/20 or something, but I really didn’t catch more detailed info. When I got married in my early 20s I was a junior a...
A. 19 February 2008: Wow, this question is really complex, as bemused said. You asked for comments and suggestions, so I'm just going to write to you off the top of my head.
I think all any of us want is unconditional love, but as we get older, we develop expectat... (read in full...)
How can I be sure he likes me too?
Q. Hi THere, I wonder if you can help. I quite like a man at work but I am not sure how to tell if he likes me back. I've just come out of a long marriage a few months ago and I am ready to start dating again but I am very rusty because I married at 1...
A. 18 February 2008: Thank you for the follow up post; it is nice to know that your words can help someone. I think you sound like you've got your feet under yourself once again, and are looking forward to things! It may just be that your eyes are opened to the ... (read in full...)
This old friend helped my wife through hard times in the past, but isn't flirty/sex talk out of line?
Q. My wife and I are recently married (1½ years). Since we were dating and a few times since our wedding she gets calls, text messages and e-mails often sexual and flirtatious in nature from an old friend. When she was single she says they talked a ...
A. 18 February 2008: You are absolutely entitled to your feelings about this. She may not know or understand how you feel, so I agree with Annalisa that you need to discuss it calmly with her. It sounds like they've been engaged in this banter for many years now, and ... (read in full...)
I can't stand him looking at other girls! What do I do?
Q. I am married to a gorgeous guy much younger than me and we are basically very happy. I just need helpwith one thing...... he really stares at other women. I've talked to him about it and he reassures me how muchhe loves me and says he finds it ...
A. 18 February 2008: Men are hardwired to visual stimulation, I think. It's kind of amusing to watch the "reboot" sequence take place, after the system crash caused by an absolutely gorgeous woman bouncing past! My husband too likes to look at attractive women... (read in full...)
How do I handle his lies and suggestions he'll cheat?
Q. Hi everyone, I have been with my partner a few years now. A while ago I found out he went away for a week with his ex (he told me he was visiting a relative but told his mates where he was really going). After confronting him, he reckoned it was ...
A. 18 February 2008: I would ask myself if I could be happy long term with a man who isn't too troubled by lying or seeing other women. I would take a look at what I want in a relationship, then compare it with what currently exists. If there are things that I ca... (read in full...)
How can I be sure he likes me too?
Q. Hi THere, I wonder if you can help. I quite like a man at work but I am not sure how to tell if he likes me back. I've just come out of a long marriage a few months ago and I am ready to start dating again but I am very rusty because I married at 1...
A. 18 February 2008: Isn't it funny that no matter how old we get, we still have the same question: Does he/she like me? It doesn't matter if you're in grade school or at university or in a nursing home, there's still that uncertainty!
It sounds promising to me. As T... (read in full...)
Would it hurt if I told him he has a small one?
Q. would it hurt a mans pride to tell them they have a small penis? especially if they are already an insecure person....
A. 18 February 2008: It seems like a simple question you've asked but I guess there's much more to your situation than you've shared with us.
Yes, it's hurtful! Just as it would be hurtful if he told you were not very good looking or attractive.
If he is not sexual... (read in full...)
I love my husband but I always have to fake orgasms...
Q. Hi i'm 30 and been married for almost 6 yrs now. Since the first time i had sex i only had 2x orgasm with a partner. I can only get orgasm when i masturbate but not with my husband or with my past relationships. I always have to fake it everytime we ...
A. 18 February 2008: Namatjira so thoroughly answered this question I have only this to mention. There's bad in bed becausue they don't know what they're doing and don't really care about the partners satisfaction. Then there's bad in bed because they don't know what ... (read in full...)
He takes offence when I don't swallow his cum.
Q. I tried really hard to talk to my boyfriend about him cumming in my mouth, because he loves the thought, but whenever he has in the past, I've had to stop myself gagging. I don't think it's the taste, but kind of the gooey texture.. I just don't ...
A. 18 February 2008: Throw up once after he comes, making sure you make lots of gagging noises; he'll never ask you again.... (read in full...)
My girlfriend broke up with me to be with somebody else and did not accept my suggestion to remain friends, I do not understand what went wrong.
Q. First off i just wanna say thank you for all the help, i'm in an awkward situation, so any advice is greatly appreciated. Situation: About 4 weeks ago, my girlfriend of just under 3 years broke up with me. We had been dating for roughly 2 and a ...
A. 18 February 2008: Breaking up is never ever easy for either party. You gave lots of information about how you feel but there's really no knowing what's going on in her head or life. I'm sorry that you're feeling so much pain.
I don't know why she would want to ... (read in full...)
Any position except for missionary is painful for me. Any physical defects on my side? How can we amend this?
Q. I'm having a problem with sex. No matter how hard we try, my boyfriend and I can't do any position other than missionary. It's painful for me to do anything else, it always feels like he hits a certain spot and it's the most painful thing ever. My ...
A. 17 February 2008: Thanks for the follow up answer!
Hmm, you said lubrication is a problem, maybe you need to try one of the personal lubrication products to help?
Doggy style is kind of one of my personal favorite positions, but the position is more that just b... (read in full...)
Any position except for missionary is painful for me. Any physical defects on my side? How can we amend this?
Q. I'm having a problem with sex. No matter how hard we try, my boyfriend and I can't do any position other than missionary. It's painful for me to do anything else, it always feels like he hits a certain spot and it's the most painful thing ever. My ...
A. 17 February 2008: Kitty, please go see your doctor. It isn't normal to have painful sex -- missionary position or not-- and you may have an anatomical issue or an infection or something. But we are not trained medical experts...
This is one for the gynecolo... (read in full...)
My husband doesn't want sex.
Q. My husband is no longer interested in having sex... I am 27 years of age, he is 33. We are both (physically) in fantastic athletic shape and have no kids. We have been married for almost 6 years now, and we are both working in the same industry ...
A. 17 February 2008: I hope we can be of help, this sounds very frustrating and sad for you.
You had yourself checked out, has he been to the doctor recently too? Maybe there's a problem he's having that he's trying to avoid dealing with, and is too afraid to bring it... (read in full...)
I've never been pregnant before, is this possibly pregnancy?
Q. I had sex the day after my period ended, took Plan B. 1wk later; lower abdom. cramps, brwn dischrg; pink spotting, NO appetite,emotional,couldn't sleep. preg test-Neg. Wk2 cramps, no appetite nausea after eating, slept more, fatigue. 2 Preg ...
A. 17 February 2008: I'd suggest a talk with your doctor or the nurses at your clinic.
Here is a link that seems to answer some of your questions. Sounds like the side effects are what you are experiencing.
http://www.we... (read in full...)
Seeking revenge over my boyfriend's cheating. What should I do?
Q. my bf cheated on me and now i wanna show him...i've revenge like feelings for him...i just wanna show him that he is the one who has lost something by cheating on me....otherwise it's goin to ruin my self esteem...we are in touch on day to day ...
A. 17 February 2008: Good question from Dazzerg, is he the bf or the ex-bf?
If he is the ex, the best revenge is to make yourself happy without him. The ultimate goal for you should be to feel utter indifference toward him. Don't spend precious time or energy trying t... (read in full...)
He won't let go of the other girl and he won't let me go either. What does this say about this man?
Q. I was with this guy for 4 years. He always been nice to me during our relationship, but I caught him cheating on me. Instead of begging me for forgiveness he dump me right there and walk away with the other girl. I was devasted and I started to ...
A. 17 February 2008: You are handing your a heart to a man who is stomping on it! He is a manipulative user, you know he's a liar and has obviously picked the other girl over you, though he likes a bit of sex with you on the side. You are his little puppet at the ... (read in full...)
Unsure...
Q. Dear Cupid I have been seeing my boyfriend for 2 years, I love him dearly. He stays in my house every night except for every other weekend when he stays in his own house while his two step children from a previous relationship visit. He has t...
A. 17 February 2008: Okay, I'm doing a little reality check here. He doesn't live with you but stays with you every night minus every other weekend. That would be, um, mad scribbling having to do with math 87% of his nights. That seems to be me to be a live in ... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 17 February 2008: From what you've reported, it sounds like you're putting in 80 or 90% of the work into this relationship, and she is in for only a small percentage...
I'm also hearing that it really bothers you that you're not getting what you perceive she gave... (read in full...)
My ex may have a new guy, and I fear they slept together yesterday. How can I stop torturing myself??
Q. Since I found out my ex has met somebody new, I just can't get her out of my head... AGAIN!! We hadn't spoken for a long time, but about a week ago, we got back into the habit of talking to eachother again. We had done this before, but last...
A. 17 February 2008: Do you really enjoy being tortured by her? I'm sorry to ask this question, but it sounds like you like making yourself crazy.
You're going to have to put some distance and time between you and this girl....
"I know I should cut contact with her... (read in full...)
Am I normal??? How can I overcome this shyness with women?
Q. I want to know if I'm a normal guy. I'm 26 years old and I don't date at all. Not because I don't want to date, I find woman very attractive, I'm just shy. I have gone on a total of 5 dates my whole life, and have never been on a second date. ...
A. 17 February 2008: "Faint heart never won fair maiden." Or something like that...
Dearkelja is correct, we need a bit more information to help you with this.
Do you ask the women for a date, or do they ask you? After the date, do you call them and tell them yo... (read in full...)
Are these normal reactions after sex, gagging and feeling wheezy?
Q. Is cumming the same as an orgasm? After everytime me and my bf have sex, I feel sick. I start to gag... Why is this? Is it something that he touches inside of me or what? I never do throw up but I gag and feel wheezy. Is there something wrong? [...
A. 16 February 2008: Good for you for seeing the doctor right away. Sorry to hear that it's asthma, but it's better to know what you're dealing with, and it can be managed.
All the best to you and good luck with your love life!... (read in full...)
Boys consider me ugly and I feel very low about it, whereas the school regulation does not allow make up or other forms of embellishment. What can I do?
Q. i am really ugly, i am dark and my hair is sooo curly and frizzy... my face gets so oily and it looks really bad..we wear uniforms in school and not allowed make up although i do put eyeliner...and im not allowed to straighten or colour my hair or ...
A. 16 February 2008: When I was 13 I had lots of pimples, and my parents had me get braces, so I had a mouthful of metal teeth with rubber bands in them, I felt so ugly then too! But pimples are just a bad part of natural hormonal changes as you get older and they will ... (read in full...)
I have a small penis,,how can I satisfy a female?
Q. Hi im a guy in my late teens and im really embarrassed ive got a very small penis just on 2 inches fully erect ive never had a girlfriend im to embarrassed what can i do can i even satisfy a girl?...
A. 16 February 2008: The numbers are with you; only about a third of women achieve orgasm through intercourse alone, the rest of us need manual or oral stimulation. There are lots and lots of fun ways to enjoy sex.
A girl doesn't fall for a guy for his penis, ladies, ... (read in full...)
Valentine's Day when we are in between relationships...
Q. Valentine's Day s____. That’s right I’m saying it. Here is a day dedicated to love. For most the holiday celebrates the love between two people together and in romantic love. It’s a wonderful day for lovers. But for those of us not in l...
A. 16 February 2008: I LOVED your article! Sorry it's a bad day at the moment but it sounds like things are moving the right direction for you now.
I'll give you one and only one reason to like this day: chocolate!
Other than that, I'm with you. (I am happily marri... (read in full...)
Have you ever told someone you loved them, but you didnt? why?
Q. Here is a question i asked early this morning, i'm putting back on as i wasnt as many answers as i can. How many of you out there have told a girlfriend, boyfriend, fiance, wife, husband you loved them but really you didn't? Just curiosity,...
A. 16 February 2008: I have only ever said it when I really meant it, but that's just because I couldn't get those words out if I didn't really love them romantically. That's just me, it doesn't me a saint or anything like that. I've lied about other things, but for ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her I've seen the error of my ways and am ready to wait for her??
Q. My fiance moved out last week. We have been engaged for 3 year and i asked her to set a date for the wedding several months ago.. i also began to talk about children.. i feel i have hen pecked her out of insecurity about marriage and kids when she ...
A. 16 February 2008: Oh dear, I'm so sorry you're going through this. You are both so young. (I'm feeling quite ancient at 47.) You are slightly older than she is so I guess that makes you the grown up? My advice still stands for me, if she's 24 now she was 19 ... (read in full...)
Why is he like that ?!?
Q. Hello Guys, I've posted and answered on this site recently and I've seen some really good answers so I'm back asking a question. I've wondered about this for long while now and I think I met an answer on this site. I've been with my boyfrien...
A. 16 February 2008: My take on this, and it's only a guess, is that it's a way for him to deflect the argument onto another track where he can control the direction. Maybe you've reacted strongly enough about this in the past for him to know that he can get you off the ... (read in full...)
Planning first time sex. Does it hurt? If so, for how long?
Q. My friend and I have recently been talking about sex, A LOT. I am a virgin and he isnt. A few weeks ago, he asked me if I wanted to have sex, but I said no, because I wasnt ready. Now I am ready, and I have told him this. He is about 100 miles away ...
A. 16 February 2008: You seem too young to be asking this question, honestly. But, for the record, Red1982 had a very thoughtful and thorough answer. For me, the pain was kind of deep and I did not feel very good about it afterwards. I do remember that I did NOT enjoy ... (read in full...)
Her tears make me weak and guilty.
Q. Hello all! Ok here it goes... Well i need/want to break up with my GF of 4years. I dont hate her or anything, its just that im not ready to spend my life with 1 person yet and she was my first GF. I have been getting alot of feelings lately ...
A. 16 February 2008: At one point in time, I probably said the exact same things to a boyfriend. (This would be 30 years ago, so my memory might be a bit foggy, but I'm pretty sure this happened.) Good news, I got over it, obviously. Bad news, I don't remember his ... (read in full...)
How can I convince her I've seen the error of my ways and am ready to wait for her??
Q. My fiance moved out last week. We have been engaged for 3 year and i asked her to set a date for the wedding several months ago.. i also began to talk about children.. i feel i have hen pecked her out of insecurity about marriage and kids when she ...
A. 16 February 2008: I think hen pecking is reserved for us women! Is there such a thing as rooster pecking? --- oh, dear, let's don't go there!
Seriously, though, just tell her what you've said here. She is what you want and that you're willing to wait. Do you have... (read in full...)
He can't orgasm and I feel like it must be me...please help.
Q. Hi, Last year I went through a really really bad, stressful separation from my partner of almost 6 years. I vowed never to have a man in my life again, but once I got back on my feet, I thought it time to start dating again. I am 45 years old, wit...
A. 16 February 2008: This is probably worrying both of you! He may be just very stressed at having to 'perform' or it's still just too new a relationship to be able to relax and enjoy it. There may be a medical problem for him that he hasn't shared with you yet. There ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before calling her?
Q. Before I say what happened I would like to say I am a genuine person and not a player! rite.. I was out last nite and I gathered the courage to ask for this girls number. I know her friend and had a bit of a dance with her. I asked if she had...
A. 16 February 2008: That was an interesting theory you posted, Danielepew! Three days just seems like you like her enough to contact her sooner, not too soon that you seem desperate, but longer than that and maybe it's because you're bored and have nothing better to ... (read in full...)
Help from the Ladies - Why can't I get cleavage with a B-cup?
Q. I can't get cleavage even though I'm a B-cup! Okay, my left breast is full B and my right breast is about an inch smaller, a small B. Is this why I can't wear a bra or low cut blouse and get cleavage? I also have a fairly wide shoulder span...
A. 15 February 2008: Be very thankful now for your B cups because in about 20 years the Cs and Ds don't look so good! And I'm speaking from personal experience, sad to say. Things aren't looking up, to coin a phrase.
Try one of the wonderbra styles that are on the m... (read in full...)
Today I came across lots porn in his drawer - and not classy porn either, and it seems to really bother me.
Q. Hi - I have been with my boyfriend for about two years now and everything seems nice; although today I came across lots porn in his drawer - and not classy porn either, and it seems to really bother me. I know that it is seem as normal for men to h...
A. 15 February 2008: Porn does push a lot of worry buttons, doesn't it?
My initial advice is to not worry about it so much, with a few caveats I'll mention later. I certainly am not an expert on men's sexual fantasies, but I think that most find images of women in... (read in full...)
My main problem is that she refuses to give me a blow job and she won't let me finish in her mouth...
Q. Ok, for starters I have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now, and I like to think I've been a good boyfriend. I do everything to make my relationship work, for example I clean the house every day after I get home from work and on my days ...
A. 15 February 2008: I don't have much to add to the excellent response by DoubleM, other than to ask about your level of personal hygiene. Make sure that your mouth is clean and fresh smelling brush and floss at least twice a day. And that your groin and genitals are ... (read in full...)
He won't marry me! Could he be cheating?
Q. i have been with my fiance for 6 years and i am desperate to get married and have children. he has been married before and keeps making excuses that he wants to wait to make sure about a second marriage. he says he does want to marry me but just not ...
A. 15 February 2008: Red has given you a really good answer here. I don't have much to add to it, other than to emphasize the need for you to take control of your own future. You have given him the decision-making power for your future together. It sounds like it's time ... (read in full...)
Is this man worthy of me? Should I stay with him?
Q. I have been married now for a year and things have gone from bad to worse. Its started with me crying on my wedding day when he stood by and watched as his aunt shouted at me. We havent had a honeymoon and there is always an excuse not to go on ...
A. 15 February 2008: You're obviously unhappy with the state of your marriage; it frankly doesn't sound like there's much love on his part towards you. He's been pushing you further and further away from him and has been diminishing (or attempting to) your sense of self ... (read in full...)
Are these normal reactions after sex, gagging and feeling wheezy?
Q. Is cumming the same as an orgasm? After everytime me and my bf have sex, I feel sick. I start to gag... Why is this? Is it something that he touches inside of me or what? I never do throw up but I gag and feel wheezy. Is there something wrong? [...
A. 14 February 2008: You need to see your doctor to find out what is happening. It is not normal to gag or feel wheezy after intercourse. Now, if it is oral sex, it may be that your gag reflex is being triggered.
It's also possible that if it is during intercou... (read in full...)
I am in love with my wife but have homosexual tendencies and sometimes go to encounters of this type, it is destroying my life! Please help!
Q. I need big help...I'm in a wonderful married relationship with my wife of almost 2 years. I have always thought i was completely gay, but on at least 3 times in the past (the last time being my wife) i have fallen head over heels in love with women. ...
A. 14 February 2008: Hooweee! This is a tough one. I'm sorry that you find yourself in this position, and I hope that you can get the help you need to help you and your wife with this situation.
First of all, you said that you are gay; if so, why did you get married?... (read in full...)
How long should I wait before calling her?
Q. Before I say what happened I would like to say I am a genuine person and not a player! rite.. I was out last nite and I gathered the courage to ask for this girls number. I know her friend and had a bit of a dance with her. I asked if she had...
A. 14 February 2008: Don't wait a week, that's too long I think. Laura is correct here, 3 days is a good number, not too soon and not too late.
When you do speak, ask her if she likes the cinema, and if she does, ask if there are any films she'd like to see with you... (read in full...)
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