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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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I'm impatient to date her, how do I convince her the ex isn't a problem?
Q. Ive been hanging out with a new girl for the past 2 weeks and weve known each other for years and have liked each other for years, but due to complications we didnt date each other. It seems that we are going to finally do that soon. She wante...
A. 12 March 2008: Just simply tell her that you like her a lot and want to start dating, but don't put too much pressure on her. She may need a little more time to adjust and work out her feelings about your ex. I'm afraid if you push too hard you may scare her ... (read in full...)
How do I keep a long distance girlfriend when we're both too young to drive?
Q. theres this girl that i really like. she one of my friends cousins. she attractive as hell, shes nice sweet and everything you could ever want to find in a girl. i talk to her online every night and we txt each other alot. she knows how much i like ...
A. 12 March 2008: Well, this is a bit challenging because of the distance between you. Why not continue on enjoying your talks but stop pressuring her for some kind of commitment. That way you can get to know each other, and when you can drive, you'll be able to see ... (read in full...)
I am scared something will go wrong wearing tampons while swimming.
Q. helloo. This may sound like a really wierd question but oh well. Basically i am 15 and having been using tampons for about 6 months properly but i have this fear of wearing them swimming. I am scared something will go wrong. Please put my mind at ...
A. 12 March 2008: As long as you have the tampon properly inserted, you should have no problem. Just make sure the string is well nestled so it doesn't stick outside your bathing suit! If you want to be sure you could try it out in your bathtub with the bathing suit ... (read in full...)
I've felt intense waves of pleasure...did I have an orgasm?
Q. I'm 17 years old and female and my girlfriend is currently living interstate. Recently I've been experimenting with masturbation whilst text messaging her, but up until a few days ago I felt barely any pleasure. However the last few times after a ...
A. 12 March 2008: Sounds like one to me!... (read in full...)
How do I lose weight quickly? My boyfriend complains and finding clothes is hard!
Q. I am 5ft 1, i weigh 167 pounds and am 27yrs, my b/f complains i am fat, how do i shed a lot of weight in a short time, the worst part is that i feel very fat and i can hardly finds clothes to wear. I heard about the cayenne pepper diet, has anyone ...
A. 12 March 2008: There are no safe ways to lose weight really quickly. You have to exercise and eat right and the weight will come off in a healthy way. Focus on nutritious foods, avoid all fast food chains, and snack on veggies or fruit.
Walking a lot, taking t... (read in full...)
My ex found out she is HIV positive. If I am infected, how do I tell my girlfriend?
Q. A few days ago, I got a series of rather disturbing test messages on my cell phone from a number I didn't recognize. After a little searching around, I found out that it was an ex-girlfriend whom I was on bad terms with. Long story short, the ...
A. 12 March 2008: What a weight off your shoulders! Thanks for the followup, and take care!... (read in full...)
Can you recommend how to calm my nerves about presentations? I get stomachaches by only thinking of this.
Q. this may sound petty, but i am soo worried. i have to present a book i have been reading to my class, and i am so nervous. recently when i read aloud in english, i get really nervous and i sound nervous and i have to take deep gasping breaths ...
A. 11 March 2008: Good for you, and thank you for following up with us. I did want to hear how it went. Well, you've learned that you do live through these things, right? And you'll do better each time you have to give a presentation because you did everything you ... (read in full...)
Not to do at your new job!...
Q. I had just started work at a new place and the girl showing me around had the most amazing long wavy blonde hair, fantastic. I followed her up the stairs to where my desk was, but before we got there i tripped up the first step. Oh god, i just ...
A. 11 March 2008: If she'd been facing the other way, you might have had a large bag of silicone in your hand when you hit the ground!
Thanks for the laugh!... (read in full...)
What is BAD sex to you?
Q. What, to you, constitutes "lackluster" sex?...
A. 10 March 2008: No imagination!... (read in full...)
Since moving in together we just fight about little things and it's getting me down. Please help!
Q. I moved in with my boyfirend about 6 months ago and we keep having these stupid rows over little things. I can't take it anymore I feel like screaming at him, he's cracking me up... I love him to bits but I just wish he didn't nit pick on ...
A. 10 March 2008: Time for locating both your senses of humor, I think. He needs to stop nitpicking and you need to stop taking everything so seriously. Try to find the humor in whatever it is that's causing friction between you two.
A little laughing about id... (read in full...)
Does anyone else agree with me talking about another man's wife's boobs should be off limits?
Q. I'm 25 and just started seeing a new guy. He is 30 and all of his friends are married. We went to a social gathering at a married friend's house. They were nice people and had great kids. I thought it was going great until the wife of the host ...
A. 10 March 2008: He sounds like a twit to me! Maybe there's a reason he's not married yet, while all his friends are...... (read in full...)
I cannot spend much time with my BF and his old-fashioned mother would oppose to us living together! I'm worried there'll be no improvement in the long run!
Q. My head is a mess right now, I really need to share with somebody my feelings… Last year I moved home to the country after spending nearly a decade in the city. I was 31, single and bought a house close to my parents. I was not long back home w...
A. 10 March 2008: I'm sorry you're feeling so sad, and here you should be on top of the world with a new house and your own business! You have so much going on for you.
I don't think there'll be much of a change with Colin, from what you've said. If he really w... (read in full...)
How can I bring my dad round to accepting my boyfriend?
Q. I am dating a 21 year old i am 15, we have been dating for 4 months, we really like each other and we have a special connection. He has not tryed to get me into bed he respects my choices my mum didn't like us dating a first, but now all of my mum's ...
A. 10 March 2008: Try to see it from your dad's perspective; I'm sure he wants only the best for you. Daughters are precious (sons too, of course!) and deserve to have wonderful friends and a wonderful future. A fellow with a criminal record is going to look like a ... (read in full...)
Is it normal that my girlfriend only orgasms once during our sexual encounters?
Q. help! I have no problem getting my girl friend to orgasm once, but after I do she doesn't want any more? Is that ok or am I doing something wrong? And is it ok that it only takes a min or so to do it?...
A. 10 March 2008: Once is great per encounter, and you're really on the right track being concerned for her pleasure as well as yours. Don't put undue pressure on her to have more orgasms just to make you happy...
Just to follow up on what troubledtoomuch mentione... (read in full...)
I'm afraid to drive and my new BF urges me to learn so I can also visit him, is this unreasonable?
Q. Im 24 years old and just moved back home about seven months ago after being in a 5 year abusive relationship. I've been in a new relationship for about 3 months now. I thought we hit it off. I told him a little about my situation. But recently he ...
A. 10 March 2008: Hi, I'm happy for you that you're out of an abusive relationship, good for you!
I'd like to separate the two issues you presented here. One is the new boyfriend and the other is being afraid to drive.
Let's tackle the being afraid to drive ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend depressed or just sick of me? Should I hold out or move on?
Q. Hello All. I'm 23, girlfriend is 33. We've been together 6 great years. We rarely have any disagreements, we see each other nightly, and do our own things at the weekends. I'm heavily involved in cars, and she likes gardening. I ...
A. 10 March 2008: Hi Rallyman, I'm a bit late to this discussion, but I wanted to add something.
You sound like a truly lovely man, who wants the best for this woman who is going through some troubled times, and I applaud you for sticking with this, even though i... (read in full...)
I really want to stop thinking about my ex-girlfriend.
Q. My name is Moses, I really need asistance in this, for a period of 4 year, me and my girlfriend we have been together happily, but I think every one while starting up a relationship there is this question, "Please tell me what really annoys you or ...
A. 9 March 2008: Moses, it's a little hard to understand everything you wrote so if I get it wrong, please forgive me.
It sounds like your girlfriend has broken up with you, and is angry for some reason. She won't meet you, and she has called you rude and says her... (read in full...)
He always has porn on when he makes love to me...
Q. I was sexually abused as a child and as a result I have problems in bed. I have had therapy on and off for years. I think I am doing better, but my partner tells me I am not, he has told me I am boring in bed and if it wasn't for porn he would not ...
A. 9 March 2008: The other aunts have all made excellent points. I have just one thing I want to stress; this man is not good for you! He's damaging your self-esteem and your healing process. Don't let him back into your bed or your life. Get some professional ... (read in full...)
"he's only just got back in to the water and is just paddling around for a bit." What does that mean?
Q. When speaking to a guy who just got out of a long relationship he said he's only just got back in to the water and is just paddling around for a bit. What does that mean?...
A. 9 March 2008: He just wants to keep any relationships on a non-committed basis; he's not ready for a new girlfriend yet. It usually takes some time to get over a breakup. He's being honest about where he is, that is a very good thing!... (read in full...)
How do I get over the self-induced death of my close friend?
Q. Today is one year since my friend, Taylor, committed suicide.That day changed my life and affected me in so many ways. I couldnt eat right or sleep right and picturing how she died overplayed in my head for so long. I had nightmares every single ...
A. 9 March 2008: Oh, M, my heart goes out to you. I think that if you know Taylor is watching over you now, she also knows how many people loved her, including you. She will live on in your memory.
You sound like a lovely person and I wish you and everyone... (read in full...)
She hates the ejaculating inside of her, but only after 4 years she tells me this!! I feel hurt and disoriented.
Q. I have been seeing a woman for over four years and have had what I thought was a great relationship. We have recently been talking about marriage. However, last week after sex she told me that she absolutely hates the fact that I ejaculate inside ...
A. 7 March 2008: Wow, what a bombshell! You have every reason to be hurt and disoriented by this one. I don't really know what to offer you except some thoughts off the top of my head.
You sound like a very considerate lover and she should be very happy with som... (read in full...)
We plan to move away soon, but we have a few problems.
Q. Im very confused of what to do. my girlfriend and i plan to move away together in july but i wonder if this is the right thing to do. i sometimes wonder i should be with her. i love her but maybe were not right for eachother. im quite outgoing, i ...
A. 7 March 2008: Oh, I'm so sorry you're going through this pain right now. I want to write to support you in that I think you've made the right decision based on what you wrote in your original post.
You're both still young, and it seems to me that you've g... (read in full...)
Is it possible to contract HIV by getting a tattoo?
Q. my boy friend wants to get a tattoo. is it possible for him to get infected with HIV? ...
A. 7 March 2008: It's extemely unlikely as long as he goes to a place that practices immaculate hygiene protocols. That means absolutely no reuse of the needles, using gloves, sterilizing other equipment.
Sounds like you don't think he should get one, though.... (read in full...)
Is she just looking for attention?
Q. Ok this might be a big post but please bear with me. Me and this girl "ashley" have started hanging out since i broke up with my girlfriend. Ashley has liked me for years and after years of waiting i was available and she was soo excited that i a...
A. 7 March 2008: Ashley does sound like she enjoys the relationship she has with you, but only at arm's length. Maybe she does like flirting and feeling attractive just as long as it doesn't lead to anything more.
Why not just enjoy hanging out with her, but stop... (read in full...)
I lost my virginity on Sunday... could I be pregnant?
Q. After having sex for the first time, I've noticed I'm very damp below and also since yesterday having diarrhoea my mate said I could possibly be pregnant? I'm not sure but we did not use protection and he didn't cum inside me he pulled out before, ...
A. 7 March 2008: It's unlikely that you're pregnant, but it is possible. Slim chance, but not entirely impossible.
Okay, I'm going to lecture you here for a bit; sorry, but you need to hear this so that you can make smart choices.
Unprotected sex can lead to ... (read in full...)
He says their just friends and I need to trust him, but can I?
Q. split with my ex of 15 years 18 months ago.last summer he wanted to be back with me,i said i needed a couple of weeks to think about it,by that time he turns round and says to late he had found someone else. things didnt workout with this women an...
A. 7 March 2008: I'm really wondering why this man who wants to get back together with you would jeopardize the reconciliation by staying in contact with the woman he admitted to sleeping with...
Something doesn't smell right to me. You told him don't mind, bu... (read in full...)
Why am I thinking of an old flame 13 years later?
Q. I am 40 and happily married for 4 years now. Back in college I dated a girl for a year than another year after. We were in love(so I thought)started talking about marriage. Of course one day she told me she didn't want to see me anynmore. I was ...
A. 7 March 2008: My diagnosis is that you've got a case of the "what ifs." This is completely normal and isn't a case for major alarm unless things are awful at home. I think it's common to wonder how life would have been different if we'd made choice A instead of ... (read in full...)
What am I do wrong that makes my husband watch internet porn instead of be with me?
Q. What am I doing wrong that makes my husband watch internet porn (daily), but doesn't want to be with me? He tells me he's tired or his back hurts or that I pressure him for sex and so he's not into it. I don't doubt that he loves me, but I am not ...
A. 6 March 2008: It's not you fault he's hooked on porn--it's him! I'm curious as to what type of porn he's watching--is it something other than men with women?
Have you talked with him about this at all?
Lots of men watch porn, and I have no idea how many ha... (read in full...)
He cheated on me a long time ago... Now, I'm considering doing the same. Is that wrong?
Q. I am engaged but i just found out that my fiance cheated on me a long time ago. So i'm really feeling down. I ran into this guy i used to be in love with but we broke it off because of the distance. This old flame wants to meet up and go out but i ...
A. 6 March 2008: Trouble ahead, dear, trouble ahead. Revenge sex won't make you feel better about the relationship with your fiancée. You can always catch up with an old friend over the phone. Why not instead spend some time dealing with your feelings of being ... (read in full...)
I'm male and wear women's panties. Do you out there think I'm an effeminate wimp?
Q. I've already sent this in but no reply. My problem is I've been wearing womens panties since I was 14, I wear a full brief panty mostly nylon plain no lace. I'm 5ft-7ins and small framed, I weigh 10st-7lb my chest is 34ins my waist is 28ins but my ...
A. 6 March 2008: Hi Ben, you emailed me but didn't actually ask a question so I wasn't quite sure what the problem might be.
I just wonder why you would care what a bunch of strangers think about you? The only person whose opinion should matter is you! And it's... (read in full...)
Very tough situation - needy, insecure and controlling wife, but we have a child, who she uses to influence my decisions.
Q. Hi All, I *desperately* need advice, so any thoughts would be greatly appreciated and would definitely be put to use... I am South African and I have been married for 5 years, but my wife and I have been together for about 9 years. I m...
A. 6 March 2008: I am heartbroken for you reading your words--what an awful situation to be in!
I don't have much to offer that the previous posters didn't address, other than this: see an attorney right away! First thing, now, so that you know all the options ... (read in full...)
Should I take a leap of faith for someone who doesn't want to commit?
Q. Help - should I take a leap of faith for someone who doesn't want to commit? I've been dating someone for half a year and he's moving 6 hours away for work. He did not ask me to go along with him but when I asked if he would like me to be there with ...
A. 6 March 2008: It sounds like a bad idea to me. He's been honest with you about not wanting to commit or even live with you. Moving to a new place, let alone a new country, is a HUGE step and can be full of uncertainty, loneliness, disorientation and stressful. ... (read in full...)
I don't precisely know the cause of death of my close friend, should I rediscuss this with the husband to get closure?
Q. Today I had a long chat with a girlfriend about the loss of a mutual friend of ours over a year and a half ago. Our friend died unexpectedly at home, almost certainly due to an alcohol-related issue, as she had been struggling with alcoholism for ...
A. 6 March 2008: Thanks, oldersister! And Tuatara and eyes too for your help. I spoke again with my girlfriend and my husband today and we've decided to leave it alone. I don't think it would be nice for her husband to find we went behind his back; it would ... (read in full...)
Old flame on Facebook - contact or not?
Q. About 25 years ago, I was at a week long residential course. The second evening, I met this fabulous girl, and we really got on well. The next evening, our eyes met across a crowded room, and from then on we were basically inseparable for the rest ...
A. 6 March 2008: Put yourself in your wife's shoes and reverse the situation. How would you feel about her contacting an old flame?
You don't seem to able to mask your feelings very well; my guess is that your wife will know something's up...... (read in full...)
She accepted my invitation to join some friends, but brought along a male friend. This confuses me...
Q. A little over a week ago I was at the bar having a drink with some friends when an old high school friend walked in. I went over and said hi, she seemed pretty happy to see me and asked for my phone number; and I got hers. The following Friday I ...
A. 6 March 2008: Fingers crossed for you!... (read in full...)
I don't precisely know the cause of death of my close friend, should I rediscuss this with the husband to get closure?
Q. Today I had a long chat with a girlfriend about the loss of a mutual friend of ours over a year and a half ago. Our friend died unexpectedly at home, almost certainly due to an alcohol-related issue, as she had been struggling with alcoholism for ...
A. 6 March 2008: Thank you for helping with this sticky question. I did some checking and apparently we can get a copy of the autopsy. I spoke again with my girlfriend and we decided that she would request a copy of the report, and have a physician friend read it ... (read in full...)
She accepted my invitation to join some friends, but brought along a male friend. This confuses me...
Q. A little over a week ago I was at the bar having a drink with some friends when an old high school friend walked in. I went over and said hi, she seemed pretty happy to see me and asked for my phone number; and I got hers. The following Friday I ...
A. 5 March 2008: Just call her up and ask her on a proper date! You're overthinking this, in my opinion. I wouldn't worry about the male friend she brought along, you said it was drinks with friends, after all. She has established that she's not going to leap into ... (read in full...)
She prefers anal sex, completely rejecting vaginal intercourse. It makes me feel dirty but I accept this because I love her. What should I do?
Q. My girlfriend only wants anal sex and I really don't feel comfortable with this. I am a strict Christian I do not believe that this kind of sex is either appropriate or godly. I only go along with it because I love her but it makes me feel very ...
A. 5 March 2008: What kind of reason does she give you for not wanting vaginal intercourse? This would be a big red flag to me, and keep in mind that this likely won't change without some work addressing this issue. Will you be happy with her in the future if this ... (read in full...)
My fiancee and I split up for a while, I then met someone else, but now back with my fiancee, who should I choose?
Q. So, the situation is as follows. i have been with my fiance for going on 4 years now, and i truly from the bottom of my heart, not a doubt in my mind, love him. i am totally prepared to spend the rest of my life with him, no questions asked. but ...
A. 5 March 2008: You get opinions and suggestions from people here to help you reach your own answers. I think you're overreacting a bit to the posts from people who have a lot of life experience and are trying to help you do some rational thinking.
The only one... (read in full...)
He gropes me in public and then laughs
Q. I don't know what to do. My boyfriend of two months keeps squeezing my breasts and laughing hysterically. I don't know why he does this I find it rather embarrassing and degrading. He does it infront of his friends and while we're outside. I have ...
A. 5 March 2008: Oh yes it is an immaturity thing! As well as being rude, inappropriate and completely insensitive. I assume you've told him how you feel when he does it? If I were you, I would calmly tell him when you have a quiet moment together just exactly how... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have "nasal sex!!!" What the hell's that???
Q. Hi, I know this is going to sound pretty weird but please help me with my relationship because everything was great until my boyfriend asked if we could have nasal sex. I don't even now what that is or if he's for real but one time he asked for it ...
A. 5 March 2008: If he's been ignoring you because you weren't sure about doing something sexually, then maybe he's not such a great boyfriend. That kind of sexual blackmail is not nice!
This brings to mind a comment a microbiology professor of mine once said. He... (read in full...)
My ex found out she is HIV positive. If I am infected, how do I tell my girlfriend?
Q. A few days ago, I got a series of rather disturbing test messages on my cell phone from a number I didn't recognize. After a little searching around, I found out that it was an ex-girlfriend whom I was on bad terms with. Long story short, the ...
A. 4 March 2008: First of all, I hope this is some sick revenge fantasy on the part of your ex, in which case you'll be fine, other than the loss of all the hair you've pulled out from your head and the realization that sex can carry the risk of STDs.
You should h... (read in full...)
Can you recommend how to calm my nerves about presentations? I get stomachaches by only thinking of this.
Q. this may sound petty, but i am soo worried. i have to present a book i have been reading to my class, and i am so nervous. recently when i read aloud in english, i get really nervous and i sound nervous and i have to take deep gasping breaths ...
A. 3 March 2008: This is completely normal! Almost everyone in the world gets nervous before speaking in public. Even famous actors & singers.
A couple of thoughts that might help you.
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