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Be brave, Tell the truth. Be kind. If you can do that all in the same sentence, you will be an amazing agony aunt. Sign up. I'm still trying to reach that ideal.
I heard this quote recently: ""The truth is like castor oil. It’s difficult to take and hard to swallow, so we get them to laugh and while their mouths are open, we pour a little in." -Harold Clurman
If you have an urgent question, please post it on the main page. Real life keeps me busy and has enough going on to keep me from being on here 24/7.... I hope yours does too! ;)
Current book recommendation: Untethered Soul, by Michael Singer. A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle. The Power of Now, also by Eckhart Tolle. Really powerful stuff in there about not letting your runaway thoughts take over your life. Be present in the Now. You have what you need, right there, right inside yourself. Do yourself a HUGE favor and read these books. They may lead to an important and fundamental shift in your well-being. "Unease, anxiety, tension, stress, worry — all forms of fear — are cause by too much future, and not enough presence. Guilt, regret, resentment, grievances, sadness, bitterness, and all forms of nonforgiveness are caused by too much past, and not enough presence." --Eckhart Tolle
All time fave relationship figure out book: A Fine Romance, Judith Sills, PhD. Buy if you are stuck and can't figure out why he won't commit, or why you keep picking guys who can't commit.
"Remember that not getting what you want is sometimes a wonderful stroke of luck." -The Dalai Lama
"Most people are doing the best they can, given what they know and understand. Including you. If they knew more and were aware of more, they would do things differently." -- Louise Hay
"If you tell the truth, you don't have to remember anything." -Mark Twain
I like these links right now: http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-4593/A-Simple-Way-to-Let-Go-of-Our-Negative-Patterns.html
http://www.positivelypositive.com/2012/04/04/25-life-lessons/
So here's the thing. Asking for help is a sign of strength, not a sign of weakness. Weakness is doing the same thing over and over again and expecting a different outcome. Actually, according to Albert Einstein, that's the definition of insanity but I think that's a bit of a strong word choice.
“Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can’t help them, at least don’t hurt them.” -The Dalai Lama.
The choices you make may affect others. Think about the consequences, intended or unintended, before you do something that you may have to explain later. Imagine you are standing in front of a group of people and have to defend what you chose to do.... if you can't manage to do it well, that's a fairly plain indicator it's a bad idea.
If everyone who loves you hates your partner, there might be a problem. If you only have your partner, there IS a problem.
http://www.mindbodygreen.com/0-8202/12-signs-youre-in-a-toxic-relationship.html
If he’s mean to you now, he’s only going to get worse. Some people are energy vampires; they feed on the pain they inflict on others. They are broken. They will break you. Get out. Don’t fool yourself into thinking you can fix him. You can’t.
You have my permission to say “no.”
If you are depressed, think of it like an illness. You have to treat it. Medicine can help. Talk to your doctor. If you’re drinking a lot, you’re already self-medicating. You might as well get some prescription-grade pharmaceuticals to help you get to a point where you can figure out why you’re self-medicating.
There’s a reason it’s called ‘junk food.’
Yoga is good for the body and the mind as well as soothing the spirit. Try it. Brisk walks are great too.
Don't eat crap. Canned sugary beverages or canned diet beverages are NOT good for you, they have no nutritional value and set you up for a lot of bad stuff. Don't drink them. Water is good. Decide if you can tolerate coffee or tea (I love them both) and then drink those in moderation.
Life is nasty, cold, brutal, unfair, and crappy. It’s also amazing, beautiful, uplifting, awe-inspiring and fun. You choose how you’re going to approach it every day.
I have a few soapboxes that I tend to haul out: I don't like to see people put their health or future at risk and I REALLY don't like to see them put other's health or future at risk. I feel strongly that not providing good sex education or keeping sex education from children is a form of child abuse. It's like sending them out into the world not knowing how to buckle a seatbelt.
I love this video from plannedparenthood.org (How Pregnancy Happens): http://websrvr40nj.audiovideoweb.com/avwebdsnjwebsrvr4501/portal/media/media-050516-pregnancy.html
More good information from plannedparenthood.org on the various methods of birth control:
http://www.plannedparenthood.org/health-topics/birth-control//birth-control-effectiveness-chart-22710.htm
I don't have any expertise in abusive relationships, but I do think there are some common sense basics that people who are in one might be missing. Find out more here: http://www.mental-health-matters.com/index.php?option=com_content&view=article&id=171
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My ex found out she is HIV positive. If I am infected, how do I tell my girlfriend?
Q. A few days ago, I got a series of rather disturbing test messages on my cell phone from a number I didn't recognize. After a little searching around, I found out that it was an ex-girlfriend whom I was on bad terms with. Long story short, the ...
A. 12 March 2008: What a weight off your shoulders! Thanks for the followup, and take care!... (read in full...)
Can you recommend how to calm my nerves about presentations? I get stomachaches by only thinking of this.
Q. this may sound petty, but i am soo worried. i have to present a book i have been reading to my class, and i am so nervous. recently when i read aloud in english, i get really nervous and i sound nervous and i have to take deep gasping breaths ...
A. 11 March 2008: Good for you, and thank you for following up with us. I did want to hear how it went. Well, you've learned that you do live through these things, right? And you'll do better each time you have to give a presentation because you did everything you ... (read in full...)
He's asked me to have "nasal sex!!!" What the hell's that???
Q. Hi, I know this is going to sound pretty weird but please help me with my relationship because everything was great until my boyfriend asked if we could have nasal sex. I don't even now what that is or if he's for real but one time he asked for it ...
A. 5 March 2008: If he's been ignoring you because you weren't sure about doing something sexually, then maybe he's not such a great boyfriend. That kind of sexual blackmail is not nice!
This brings to mind a comment a microbiology professor of mine once said. He... (read in full...)
He used a condom but I'm panicking in case I'm pregnant!!!
Q. Hi. I'm seventeen, nearly eighteen and my boyfriend and I just started having sex about three weeks ago (it was my first time). I am not on the pill, but he has been using condoms (100% properly). I was worried about pregnancy so on February 29th I ...
A. 5 March 2008: Don't forget to use condom-safe spermicidal lubricants! They give a little bit more peace of mind.
And stress can certainly upset your body's natural hormonal rhythms, so try not to worry too much!... (read in full...)
Can anyone please suggest any illnesses that have these symptoms or anything that can cure indigestion?
Q. Hello! Dan’s (hubby) feeling a bit bloated at the mo. He’s been very flatulent for nearly a year, big deep horrible trumps. Very unpleasant to the ear and nose. Last Saturday, he came out of lav in such a state, went to look and his brown stuff...
A. 4 March 2008: I think you'll probably hear this advice from most of the 'aunts' here: get him to the doctor.
In the meantime, you could have a look at this website for some more information:
http://symptoms.webmd.com/symptomchecker
Good luck!... (read in full...)
Am I mis-shapen?
Q. This is a bit awkward, but I think my vagina may be a bit misshapen. My outer lips are normally shaped but my inner lips are not. On the right side the inner lip is the "normal" size, but on the left it is much larger and protrudes past my outer ...
A. 4 March 2008: You're normal, really, you are! And the "lips" are called labia, and they are all different sizes in women. The labia are not part of the vagina, by the way!
Maybe you'd like a little more information, so here's a link:
http://www.we... (read in full...)
Why does my boyfriend want a threesome AGAIN? Should I let him have one?
Q. this might sound like a stupid question, but why does my boyfriend want a threesome so much? My bf and i have been together for nearly 3 years and we've swapped partners with another couple once before, and while it physically felt great I fel...
A. 4 March 2008: So let's go forward in time to 3 or 5 or 10 years from now.
Either you've agreed to threesomes/swaps or you haven't.
Let's say you have agreed, and you feel physically great about them afterwards but feel guilty every time. So what do you have... (read in full...)
My ex found out she is HIV positive. If I am infected, how do I tell my girlfriend?
Q. A few days ago, I got a series of rather disturbing test messages on my cell phone from a number I didn't recognize. After a little searching around, I found out that it was an ex-girlfriend whom I was on bad terms with. Long story short, the ...
A. 4 March 2008: First of all, I hope this is some sick revenge fantasy on the part of your ex, in which case you'll be fine, other than the loss of all the hair you've pulled out from your head and the realization that sex can carry the risk of STDs.
You should h... (read in full...)
Is "my" intellectual musician reserved or unfriendly? How to determine him to open up so we can build an emotionally close relationship?
Q. Hi, I'm 23 years old, and am a bit confused right now... I've liked a friend of mine for awhile now (a year or two-ish? we met in school), and we've hung out casually and talked casually, but not consistently - we used to volunteer together a ...
A. 4 March 2008: If I were you, I would just ask this guy out on a date, and stop overintellectualizing (is that even a word?) the relationship you have now.
Call him, say hi, would you like to go see xxx band with me on Friday night? Or whatever you'd like to ... (read in full...)
He said he had too much respect for me to accept oral, while I don't find this form of sex insulting, only his comment!
Q. I started to give my bf a blowjob and he stopped me before i'd barely touched him. Later i confronted him on it and he said that he had too much respect for me to have me do it. I told him i was genuinly willing to do it for him and that i wouldn't ...
A. 4 March 2008: I agree with oldersister, doublem and collaroy on this; be very doubtful of the future of your relationship with this man. Sex should be a wonderful exploration of each other's bodies and responses--instead you're getting a morality lecture. It ... (read in full...)
My fiancee got another woman pregnant. Help!
Q. I left my fiancee 4 months ago (very hard to do). We were together for 6 yrs. I found out he cheated and she is now pregnant. He never told me all this, I found out on my own. He kept lying behind my back. First he said he was just friends with her ...
A. 4 March 2008: Unless you like being a martyr, I think you should just cut off contact with anyone having to do with this man; including the pregnant girlfriend, his family and him. If she calls you, say 'can't talk now, I'm in the middle of something.' Then don't ... (read in full...)
Am I thinking too much into things?
Q. I am 23 and have been dating a man who is 27 divorced and has two children for 10 months now. I love him and his children very much and the Ex factor really isnt a factor. Things have been great for the first 8 months, I moved in with him and for a ...
A. 3 March 2008: If you both want to make this work, and I'm assuming he wants to as much as you do, maybe it's time to interject some humor into the situation. Not the 'laugh at me, I'm being stupid' kind of humor, but more of a 'laugh with me' kind of humor.
... (read in full...)
Can you recommend how to calm my nerves about presentations? I get stomachaches by only thinking of this.
Q. this may sound petty, but i am soo worried. i have to present a book i have been reading to my class, and i am so nervous. recently when i read aloud in english, i get really nervous and i sound nervous and i have to take deep gasping breaths ...
A. 3 March 2008: This is completely normal! Almost everyone in the world gets nervous before speaking in public. Even famous actors & singers.
A couple of thoughts that might help you.
If this is a class where everyone else has to give a report, then mos... (read in full...)
How can I get over her sexual past as this is the only problem in the relationship??
Q. I'm currently in a serious relationship with a girl I love. The only problem is that I cant get over her sexual past (which really isnt that bad) She's 21 and has been with 6 guys, all of them short flings that lasted a couple weeks. (the tot. ...
A. 1 March 2008: Whoops! Pushed the wrong button.
I was fiddling around trying to come up with equation that would make sense in which you both wind up with a balanced sheet, but you know, it's just so much wasted time.
If you are having such a problem with it,... (read in full...)
How can I get over her sexual past as this is the only problem in the relationship??
Q. I'm currently in a serious relationship with a girl I love. The only problem is that I cant get over her sexual past (which really isnt that bad) She's 21 and has been with 6 guys, all of them short flings that lasted a couple weeks. (the tot. ...
A. 1 March 2008: You sound a bit like an accountant...
"I've been with 27 girls on average of 2.47 times each, which adds up to
She's been with 6 guys with an average of 3.17 encounters per guy, which adds up to 19. However, the ... (read in full...)
Something has changed between us.
Q. Hi, can somebody pls help? My girlfriend and I are going through a rough patch, just arguing about nothing really. I feel she is pulling away as the loving texts\mails she used to send have stopped. However, we are stil in regular contact but less...
A. 1 March 2008: And are these 'love tacticians' in really great relationships? If they are, then maybe you should listen to them; if not...hmmm.
In all honesty, I did use what some might call 'love tactics' in my relationship with my now husband. But I really d... (read in full...)
Something has changed between us.
Q. Hi, can somebody pls help? My girlfriend and I are going through a rough patch, just arguing about nothing really. I feel she is pulling away as the loving texts\mails she used to send have stopped. However, we are stil in regular contact but less...
A. 29 February 2008: Sorry, I just realized I assumed you were in your early 20s, sorry if that's incorrect.... (read in full...)
Something has changed between us.
Q. Hi, can somebody pls help? My girlfriend and I are going through a rough patch, just arguing about nothing really. I feel she is pulling away as the loving texts\mails she used to send have stopped. However, we are stil in regular contact but less...
A. 29 February 2008: I think rcn had some good advice here, and LJ001 is correct in that there is nothing else for it but to talk to her.
Maybe this will help. When I was your girlfriend's age (I assume it's about the same as yours?), I expected my boyfriend to be ab... (read in full...)
Can anyone tell me what a "spit roast" is???
Q. What's a "spit roast" all these lasses at school where taking the piss out of a girl at school because she didn't know what it meant and I just laughed along so they didn't know any different. What does it actually mean? ...
A. 29 February 2008: I'm going to cut and baste this one!
Sorry, I meant cut and paste...
Verrrry educational, this site!... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel resentful after I helped him out so much??
Q. My boyfriend has recently come into some money (about 3000 pounds). Previous to this he always struggled, and I bailed him out of many bills that he ended up struggling to pay etc etc. I did this out of kindness and never expected anything back, ...
A. 28 February 2008: Hello1 has really good advice here!
In your first post, you said that you didn't really expect him to pay you back; maybe he took you at your word?
Anyway, you might make a tally of the money you gave him to pay his bills. Then tell him that yo... (read in full...)
How can I regain my sexdrive?
Q. I am going through a depression, which i am fighting it every day. I love my bloke but i just dont want to have sex, my sex drive has gone completely and we have only been married months. I need to go to the doctors about the depression but how do i ...
A. 28 February 2008: One initial suggestion: start exercising! You could join a gym, but there lots of ways to exercise. I personally like to power walk rather than run. Do some warm ups before heading out at a nice brisk pace, doing laps around the local park. If you ... (read in full...)
He has gotten physical and has abused me verbally as well on occasions, when things aren't going his way he doesn't like it and trys to get control over me any way he can.
Q. I have just moved out on my boyfriend of 1 year. We grew really close in this short time and we were talking about buying a house together and getting married and having children. When we 1st got together I was quite depressed. Early in the rel...
A. 28 February 2008: It's very unlikely he's going to change the pattern of his behavior. Things in a relationship generally stay the same or get worse; they rarely improve unless both partners are committed to changing drastically. Also, moving too quickly into a ... (read in full...)
How can he love me but not want to work things out??
Q. I'm 19 and he's 22, we've been together 9 months. 2 months ago, he took a job offer in his hometown. Now I'm in NC (school, working and living at home) and he's in PA (working and living with his parents). He took the job up there b/c he likes th...
A. 28 February 2008: Okay, sorry for the pseudo-mommy lecture first response. Now for some immediate practical advice.
First, don't call him more than once a day. And don't cry if you can help it at all during the call. If he calls you more than once a day, that's f... (read in full...)
How can he love me but not want to work things out??
Q. I'm 19 and he's 22, we've been together 9 months. 2 months ago, he took a job offer in his hometown. Now I'm in NC (school, working and living at home) and he's in PA (working and living with his parents). He took the job up there b/c he likes th...
A. 27 February 2008: Hi, I'm afraid this might sound a bit brutal of me, and I'm sorry for that.
You are doing something that is almost guaranteed to drive a man away, expecting him to be responsible for your happiness. YOU are in charge of your life and developi... (read in full...)
Is it wrong for me to feel resentful after I helped him out so much??
Q. My boyfriend has recently come into some money (about 3000 pounds). Previous to this he always struggled, and I bailed him out of many bills that he ended up struggling to pay etc etc. I did this out of kindness and never expected anything back, ...
A. 27 February 2008: No, you're not being petty. He's now let you know where you are on his list.
1. Himself
2. His best mate
3. Everyone else
This sounds like a debt a bank would have to write off. I wouldn't help him out any more if I were you, but if I wante... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend being selfish, to complain about her financial efforts whereas I am unemployed?
Q. ive been with my girlfriend for 2 yrs and she has supported me financially as ive been unemployed, i spend most of my time on the computer because i can chat to the women on there they understand me far better than my girlfriend does, although we ...
A. 27 February 2008: I would like to read a post from your girlfriend. Do you think you could put yourself in her shoes and let us know how she's feeling about this lop-sided relationship?... (read in full...)
We slept together and now he is avoiding me...what happened??
Q. So after 3 weeks of dating and getting to know this guy who was planning future (months ahead) dates for us... we slept together. Now he is avoiding me? What happened?...
A. 27 February 2008: There are many theories I could give you for why he's avoiding you, but honestly, the best advice I can offer is that you move on from him. You've only invested 3 weeks in him; he's proved that he's not a keeper for you. If you spend more time ... (read in full...)
Why does he need time to think before marriage? Has something changed recently, for him to hesitate?
Q. I am engaged currently and we had a date picked out already but now he is saying he needs time to think about getting married now. I can't be mad because he is being honest, but at the same time what do i do? I know that i love him and want to spend ...
A. 27 February 2008: I think the idea of marriage is scary for lots of men, like Basschick said. It's the loss of freedom, the giving up of options, the accountability, the pressure of being responsible for someone else's happiness. It's a lot to ask of anyone!
If I ... (read in full...)
I think this is highly inappropriate behavior from a married woman...should I confront her??
Q. My wife and I have been married for a about a year and a half. We dated for three years prior to that and we have a one year old son. She found an old crush on myspace and they have been talking regularly. I've logged into her myspace account and ...
A. 27 February 2008: Okay, deep breaths...
I don't know what's going on in her mind, but a few thoughts that spring to mind follow here. She may be feeling unattractive and this man makes her feel single and available and not like a 'mom.' She may be finding motherho... (read in full...)
His age is holding him back on the sex front and it's frustrating me! Help!!!
Q. I've been with this man 18 years older than me. We get on well and sex with him is fantastic. It's amazing he can have sex with me 2 or 3 times a week. A year on he is not as good as he used to be in bed. I know it's his age. But I am always ...
A. 24 February 2008: Sex is fantastic with him, you feel horny round him--that sounds really good; do you have any idea how many men would just love to hear that?
Maybe you need to adjust your sex play with him...lots more foreplay and less worrying about how it ends.... (read in full...)
Normal weight loss or not?
Q. heyx i am 15, 5 ft 3 and last week i weighed in at 9 and a half stone. i lost 14 pounds since then, which means about 2 pounds a day. What does this mean? Am i normal? i have dieted all week, but only eat less and exersised abit more. I know the...
A. 24 February 2008: Normal weight loss through dieting is usually 1-2 pounds per week. So I'd have to say in answer to your question, that 2 pounds per day is not normal.
In fact it could be very harmful to your health -- see webmd.com for some more informat... (read in full...)
Relay my side of the story or ignore both of them
Q. Hoping some of the amazing agony aunts can help me out here. I dated a guy I really liked about a year ago. He ended it abruptly because a mutual person we both know talked unkindly about me..he related a bit of this to me. We were just establishing ...
A. 24 February 2008: It seems to me that you're dealing with some high school type behavior.
Hmmm, if it were me in your shoes, I'd wave brightly to her as she monitors your comings and goings, continue on in the meetings as if they were just any other member of the c... (read in full...)
I've got a problem being open about being gay. What do I do?
Q. Hi i have a problem. i'm a masculine guy and i have always known that i liked guys but would always aviod actually meeting any as i enjoyed the thought of being with a man but knew if it actually came to the real thing i would run for the hills, s...
A. 24 February 2008: I'm a 40-something married woman, so you may not care much about what I have to say, but here it is!
Don't feel ashamed or disgusted for your feelings; they are normal, you are normal, and it sounds to me that you're gay. Have you told your fri... (read in full...)
How does someone get to a size zero????
Q. heyx i was just wondering how u can get to size zero, and dont tell me that its bad for you, i already know. And looking so skinny isnt even attractive. I just want to know for my bestmate, she is really skinny now and she tells me that she is a ...
A. 24 February 2008: Well, I haven't been a size zero since I was about 12, so I can't help tell you how to go about doing that. I do know that becoming a 'woman' or in other words, going through adolescence, growing up if you will, meant that my body was doing things ... (read in full...)
Should I trust him? Does he just want a visa?
Q. Hi, I have know this guy for many years. He said he loved me before and we met again after three years,recently in the states. We started dating a year ago. He wants us to get married so that he can remain in the states. He isnt a citizen by the w...
A. 24 February 2008: Don't marry anyone you're not sure about.
If you don't love him, then certainly don't marry him. This will only lead to problems, lots and lots of problems, later.
You said he doesn't want to wait. Well, marriage is a partnership and ... (read in full...)
He feels hurt and I don't know what to do.
Q. Hey I was dating a guy all through out high school we broke up and he dated many other people. Now he is single and he found out I was in an intimate relationship with another guy. He became very upset and made me feel like i betrayed him. He began ...
A. 23 February 2008: His feelings are his problem; don't make them yours! If you've moved on and are involved with someone else, don't let this cause a problem with you. If the two of you were not an item, you have not betrayed him. If you've moved on, and don't wa... (read in full...)
My wife is overweight and I don't feel attracted to her anymore
Q. I'm married for 13 years. My wife and I have an 8 year old child. I feel like I'm trapped because I no longer find my wife attractive. The main problem is her weight. She weighs more than I do (83kg). She's packed on the weight ever since the c...
A. 23 February 2008: My 2 cents on this... If you really want to help your wife to lose weight, work out with her. Get up 45 minutes earlier, both of you, and go for a power walk, first thing. Every day. ... (read in full...)
How do you know a married man is sincerely in love and not pursuing an affair?
Q. My question is how do you know if a married man has fallen for you and whether his love is honest and not just looking for an affair? with an age gap Good advice needed and alot of advice needed...
A. 23 February 2008: He may have fallen for you, but that doesn't mean he'll leave his wife.
He's not being honest with his wife or you, unless he's moved out and has filed for divorce and has admitted that he wants to be with you to his wife.
Somehow, this... (read in full...)
How do I politely deny their invitation to go on a date?
Q. I regularly work in the evenings at my parent's family business. Of course, I get customers who are in their 20's, 30's, all ages. I'm 18, and some of the men have giving me their numbers,or myspace..or shown some sign of interest, such a...
A. 23 February 2008: I loved DoubleM's advice--sounds like a good plan to me.
Don't text them or respond on myspace, silence might be the best strategy. If you see them again, you could say that your life is just so busy now with your mom and dad relying so much on ... (read in full...)
Any advice on how to get over her once and for all?
Q. This is the first time I’ve been dumped. I just can’t seem to get over her. It has been about a month. I’ve read a lot about how to deal with it, and none of it is working…a lot of it doesn’t even apply to me. I wrote a list about why “I won’t mis...
A. 23 February 2008: Oh, dear, grieving a break up takes time. It's never over magically, it will just take time.
It seems to me you're doing all the right things. Just keep doing them, and allow yourself the right to feel a bit sorry for yourself, and the right to... (read in full...)
Dating a guy who is a father of a 1 month old. Should I break up with him?
Q. im in 13 and in high school and im dating this guy hes 18,but he has a 1 month old baby.people tell me to break up with him....i dont know what to do...
A. 23 February 2008: At 13, you're in the 8th grade, you should be spending time worrying about your grades....
Do you trust the people telling you to break up with him? Do they have your best interests at heart?
Then listen to them!
You are too young to ... (read in full...)
Am I gay because of what I did?
Q. Am I gay Over the last year I have been watching gay porn. At first it was just one or twice here and there. At this point it was just to see what was what. After watching a few time it started turning me on I enjoyed it more and more. A...
A. 23 February 2008: As a heterosexual married woman, I doubt I have much insight into this, but I do have a number of gay friends. And from what I have learned from them, most knew deep down inside from their youngest years that they were 'different.' They knew on some ... (read in full...)
Curious Physician
Q. Ok I'm 28 years old with two children. I have been married for 5 years. Me and my husband started to have marital problems during my last pregnancy. I started to tell my physician things in my marriage. He started off by asking me personal ...
A. 23 February 2008: If you're uncomfortable with your physician, it's time to find a new one. If there is something 'off' about him for you, then he is not the doctor for you.
You don't need to explain why you're leaving his practice to anyone if you don't want to.... (read in full...)
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