Obama for president?
Q. Wow this is so intense! I origanly come from America but live in Canada! But I cant belive it there could be the first black president! I dont have a problem with couler and have been doing about slavery in history and I think we've came so far! I ...
A. 10 September 2008: You know, I've read literally thousands of political forums and I've yet to see a singe person ever convinced to change sides because of it.
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I have nightmares and hear voices before I sleep. What should I do?
Q. i'm 13 and i have never had a real problom sleeping before but for the past few months i keep hearing things that keep me up at night so i turn the tv on to block out the noise. but then i wake up agin and hear my name being called over and ...
A. 8 September 2008: There are doctors who specialize in sleep disorders. If this is really causing you issues I suggest asking your general doctor to refer you to one. They can run some tests on you to see what is going on, they are experts in these sorts of things and ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me information about all contraceptive methods?
Q. Hi I used to be on the pill, because I had heavy periods and stomach cramps. A year after I began taking the pill I found out there was many associated risks, eg. Cancers. So I stopped the pill. Now I have a great boyfriend and am considering beco...
A. 8 September 2008: Condoms are generally very reliable, and the only way to stop STDs.
Having said that, I managed to get someone pregnant when a condom split. So it does happen...
If you hate the pill I recommend considering the IUD, although i'm not sure at ... (read in full...)
How long should I wait on sex to earn respect in a relationship?
Q. Ok it's super unlike me to wait on sex but I'm coming to realize that pretty much if you want someone to respect you, you have to give it some time. So... how long do I give it and more importantly how the hell do I politely turn it down??? Guys are ...
A. 8 September 2008: I don't think guys are necessarily used to all girls 'givin it up'. They are used to some girls 'givin it up' and some not. Depending on their mood, they're either looking for one type or the other.
Now I'm going to generalise, so please don't sh... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a porn addiction. He does't seem to find me sexually attractive.
Q. I have a problem and I really don't even know what to think of it anymore. I've been with my boyfriend for over a year now. He's kind, intelligent, gentle, loving, and generally amazing to me. The only problem is that he has a porn addiction. He's ...
A. 6 September 2008: Wise words from Diovan there.
Just to scare you a little, my house rules include no womens magazines and a very limited dosage of womans soaps allowed. And there is no TV.
But then there are also no mens magazines, no 'mens TV shows' and no po... (read in full...)
Should I have sex with my best friend's boyfriend?
Q. I've known "Mark" for about 4 years and "Hannah" for 11 years, they are my best friends and I feel very close to them both. I've had feelings for Mark for a number of years now but they are not reciprocated - he told me last year that he just wanted ...
A. 6 September 2008: If you go ahead with this, in a few months you'll have lost your best friend, this guy, your virginity, and around school you'll me known as 'that slut that slept with her best friends boyfriend'.
After that, good luck trying to find another ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend got sick after we had anal sex. What can I do to help her?
Q. Hey everybody recently me and my girlfriend had anal and vaginal sex and she has been sick for 2 days straight and she says she feels as if her asshole ripped and her vagina is ripped also and when we were doing anal she was bleeding... She got a fe...
A. 6 September 2008: Like the others say: doctor right away! It could be an infection and infections down there can get very nasty and cause permanent damage.
Don't delay one more minute. She needs to tell the doctor exactly what happened.
One other thing, giv... (read in full...)
We had unprotected sex and he came in me but some of the fluid came out. Am I safe?
Q. ok i had my period two weeks ago and i had unprotected sex yesterday and he came inside of me and some of it came out. does it all come out or doess some stay in and does that cause me to get pregnant?...
A. 5 September 2008: Your period two weeks ago puts you right in the most fertile period of your menstrual cycle. You have a high probability of being pregnant. If it's not too late take a morning after pill, and also tale a pregnancy test (bear in mind it can take a ... (read in full...)
Obama for president?
Q. Wow this is so intense! I origanly come from America but live in Canada! But I cant belive it there could be the first black president! I dont have a problem with couler and have been doing about slavery in history and I think we've came so far! I ...
A. 5 September 2008: I think politics should not be a part of this site. Please any future moderators don't approve questions like this. There are a thousand online communities any of us can visit if we feel the need to get political. Politics here is like pissing in ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm in an unequal relationship due to her past!
Q. This is very common, I know! I started seeing my girlfriend almost 4 months ago, and right from the start we were very open about our sexuality and sexual past. I told her I had only had sex with one girl previously (my girlfriend of 6 years) and ...
A. 5 September 2008: This does come up frequently, although you have handled it much better than most by the sounds of it. I wish I had your temperament about this.
Given that you have an otherwise good relationship, I would suggest the two of you make an agreemen... (read in full...)
Should I tell him that I was dating/sleeping with someone else in the earliest stage of our relationship? I did tell both at then our relationship was casual.
Q. After a long dry spell, I decided that I should start looking for my 'special someone'. I met two great guys and decided to date them both for a while to see which one was a better match. In the beginning it was very casual - I would see each man ...
A. 29 August 2008: Perhaps think about what you are going to do: by telling him you are unloading your guilt about what happened. But you are loading it onto him, he is not going to like what he hears. You are kind of turning your problem into his problem. Is that ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend pushes the limits when I am not ready. Am I too harsh to him?
Q. My boyfriend (hes a few years older then mke) wants to go all the way when I wasn't ready. I did talk to him at least two times but he kept (he would tried an grabbed one of my breats we were in his car. I would him off)on doing it. Then one when we ...
A. 26 August 2008: Right decision. The guy clearly doesn't respect you. Don't be tempted if he comes crawling to you all apologetic with his tail between his legs.... (read in full...)
I don't want him to judge me, if I tell him the truth. I love him so much.
Q. Dear Cupid I was date-raped three years ago. All I remember about the incident is him saying he's clean and I should not worry about diseases, but I should get the morning after pill. Anyway, I fell pregnant, but aborted and went for every test ...
A. 19 August 2008: You didn't kill a baby, you aborted what would have become a baby eventually, belonging to a man that raped you. What you did is entirely ok. Even many people who are very religious make exceptions for abortions that are from rape, where they do not ... (read in full...)
He chose me after a long open relationship. I don't feel I can trust him.
Q. hey i am slightly confused atm and am looking for some answers... i recently got together with a guy after a long winded journey... basically we were in a so called open relationship, something that i didnt wnt to be in but as i wnted to be with him ...
A. 19 August 2008: Your ultimatum sounds like it was exactly the right thing to do. And now he's pushing back.
His former cheating and your earlier rather peculiar 'open relationship' situation gives you very good cause to be suspicious. It certainly sets a dangerou... (read in full...)
I get self concious about my height. How can I loosen up and approach the guy I like?
Q. I'm sixteen and I feel like I don't fit in a lot. I'm 5'11 and most of the boys are shorter than me. I hate going to dances. I went to my semi and wore shoes that made me 6'2. I'm freakishly tall. I like this boy and I think he likes me. I feel too ...
A. 19 August 2008: You should visit Holland some time. The Dutch are the tallest race in the World, I'd say at least one in three women are your height or more (in the North at least), and the average male is over 6 foot!
That's no solution to your dilemma I know, ... (read in full...)
Off topic, I know, but does anyone know how the Rubiks Cube works? I need to prove a point!
Q. I have a Rubiks Cube.... My cousin James spent the summer with the famiy and I. I was on the couch playing with the cube and i got frusterated with it and said "here james you figure it out!" (i was tired, and do things right when tired) he aske...
A. 19 August 2008: Yes you can take them apart and put them back together, and when you do they can end up squeaking. So that sounds like what he did.
I suggest you mix it up again, then ask him to show you how to do it with you watching. ... (read in full...)
Getting kicked in the balls - worse than rape?!
Q. K so on youtube today there was a guy who was convinced that getting kicked in the balls is worse (in both pain and adverse side effects) someone getting raped.. I dunno I just thought it's be interesting to get some opinions on this Also, ho...
A. 19 August 2008: Getting raped is much much much worse.
Getting kicked in the balls hurts like hell, but it's over in a few minutes. And I've never heard of someone getting sterile from it, you'd have to essentially break them. Cancer is impossible.
Getting... (read in full...)
Is there a chance I could have HIV?
Q. ok i have just found out that my sexual partner is supposed to be hiv positive, the last time we had sex was on the 8 of this month and we used protection, could there be a chance of me having it, i also went to get my first pap smear on aug.14 and ...
A. 19 August 2008: If you used protection then the chance is very slim. But get checked right away!
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Am I wrong for interfering with my bothers treatment of his son (my nephew)?
Q. I have a question relating to family matters. I always get such good advise from everyone here so I trust that I will be led in the right direction on this question. My brother. He is 2 years younger than I. He has 4 kids. 3 girls and one bo...
A. 18 August 2008: I wish you the best. Stay strong.
I would give one word of caution. Although you went through a similar experience as your nephew, and hence have a deep empathy, be careful not to put your experiences too directly onto him. Each of us is differen... (read in full...)
Should I insist that my girlfriend tells me about her fling?
Q. Last november me n my gf went out for a night out n she got drunk n then started talkin bout past bf's. And then she started saying something about this fling she had with a guy( she had already told me about this n knew it bothered me). Anyway I st...
A. 18 August 2008: The more you know the more it will hurt you. And there is nothing at all to gain from knowing.
This is a Pandora's box. Don't open it, trust me, I have, and there's nothing good inside. And, like Pandora, once you take it out you can never pu... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for interfering with my bothers treatment of his son (my nephew)?
Q. I have a question relating to family matters. I always get such good advise from everyone here so I trust that I will be led in the right direction on this question. My brother. He is 2 years younger than I. He has 4 kids. 3 girls and one bo...
A. 18 August 2008: I wanted to add one other thing. Your brother may be angry at his son because he's angry at his son's mother. Which would be understandable given what she did.
My first girlfriend was treated very badly by her mother because she was still angry at... (read in full...)
Am I wrong for interfering with my bothers treatment of his son (my nephew)?
Q. I have a question relating to family matters. I always get such good advise from everyone here so I trust that I will be led in the right direction on this question. My brother. He is 2 years younger than I. He has 4 kids. 3 girls and one bo...
A. 18 August 2008: I think you are right for stepping in, well done for doing so. This is family, and with family it's always your right to get involved. You've clearly seen that he's making damaging mistakes.
You should step up your conversations with your bro... (read in full...)
Have a new gf but did I get over my ex too quickly?
Q. I recently broke up with my gf of 5 yrs and i went back to scholl this week and i already got a new gf. did i get over her too fast? my best friend says i did so i figured id ask some1 else thanks for the responses and its gonna be a week or two til ...
A. 18 August 2008: Since you only said you broke up 'recently' that's too vague to give you an answer. I guess the answer really depends on your feelings.
Coming out of a long relationship, it can take a very long time for your feelings and emotions to stabiliz... (read in full...)
How can I find a decent guy? Is something wrong with me? Should I shelter myself to avoid being hurt?
Q. is there something wrong with me? i just can't find a decent guy? they all turn out to be such jerks but it starts out so great ... they tell you how much they care and like you and everything else and then they just break your heart everytim...
A. 18 August 2008: Tom has given you some good advice and asked some interesting questions. I must say I think your situation is probably toughest in American colleges, where being the biggest jerk towards girls can often take on the form of a competitive sport for ... (read in full...)
His ex was a glamour model I can't compete with; why is he dating me...?
Q. I have recently started seeing this really fit bloke and I am really happy but I have just found out that he used to date a glamour model and it ended badly between them, anyway, my situation is that I am the most flat chested female ever, and I am ...
A. 18 August 2008: As a guy I can tell you I'd really not want to date a 'glamour model'. I've known a few models in my life and ... well, it's just not my thing at all. And I know thats true of many other men too. Your boyfriend is probably really glad to be with you ... (read in full...)
My nearly-ex husband is taking money I put into the joint account to pay the bills. What can I do?
Q. Me and my husband are in the middle of seperating .He is still in the house at the moment ,but i have seperated my wage and his wage into our own accounts on the understanding that we both put money in to our joint accout to pay the bills.But he is ...
A. 17 August 2008: You need to stop putting money into the joint account altogether. Pay any bills you have to pay out of your own money, and if he needs to contribute, you need to get that money from him.
It's a horrible, messy situation to be in, but the bottom l... (read in full...)
I need advice on jealousy and suspicion!
Q. Hey Cupid, My boyfriend of 8 months has a tendency to not communicate with me for days on end after weeks of intimate behaviour where he tells me that I don't realise how much he loves me and that every other girl is inadequate. It eats me up so...
A. 16 August 2008: Possibly he's just bad at handling how much personal space he needs. Rather than communicating with you about it, he could be letting it get too much for him meaning he has to retreat the way he does.
He could say 'I need some of my own time for... (read in full...)
Should I have sex even though I'm just 13?
Q. ok im 13 and i want to have sex. i have a boyfriend, and we have been dating for about 4 months and i think i am ready he is 14 and is a freshman in high school i am still in middle school (8th grade). but my main question is, should i even though i...
A. 16 August 2008: Tremor is right. The fact that you did it once does not mean you have to do it again. Bear in mind your boyfriend will now think its 'open season' and will be wanting to do it every day. You're going to have to be really strong if you want to stop ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants to post naked pictures of me on the net!
Q. Need your help... My boyfriend took a lot pictures of me naked and want to post on the internet. Dont really know if is going to be alright. The pictures dont show my face but shows everything else...I still not sure if is going to ok after we ...
A. 15 August 2008: Don't let him.
I knew someone who let her boyfriend post naked pictures of her online, without her face showing. She thought it was anonymous...
It took about 30 seconds to see who had uploaded them, and see his other pictures, and for people t... (read in full...)
My husband went away for a week claiming that he needed some time alone. I have discovered all kinds of things on Facebook from his 18 yo 'friend.' Guess where he went away.
Q. My husband and I have been having some marriage troubles...he went away for a week claiming that he needed some time alone. I have recently gone onto Facebook and he is on there too. I have discovered all these sexy, love, suggestive bumper ...
A. 15 August 2008: It sounds very much like he's either sleeping with her or trying to. Either way, he's been completely dishonest and unfaithful to you. He needs to come clean, no question. Then you two need to discuss what needs to happen to make it right (like him ... (read in full...)
Do you guys know when there is sperm about to come out or not?
Q. Ok heres my problem me and my boyfriend have been in a 7 month relationship and i think he the one..so i gave it up to him, but here the thing he did the poke-meaning he went in and then out in and then out we didnt have a condom so iam worryed.But ...
A. 15 August 2008: You could very possibly be pregnant. As Uncle Phil says, you should go buy a pregnancy test kit from the local pharmacy as soon as possible. Given your age (and apparent lack of knowledge), you're really best off not having sex at all. But, if you ... (read in full...)
How can I orgasm easier?
Q. i cant orgasm when my boyfriend fingers me. when hes fingering me he does it rapidly and hard and i like it, but i just cant seem to orgasm. it feels good when he eats me out too, but not even close to an orgasm. Any tips on how he can eat me out so ...
A. 15 August 2008: It's probably because you're not relaxed enough. And sorry to say this: you're probably not relaxed enough because you're too young to be doing this. I have to agree with Tellulah I'm afraid. Wait a few years then try it again, and you'll likely ... (read in full...)
Can anyone give me a suggestion on a good place to meet guys?
Q. I feel kind of silly asking this, but could anyone give me a suggestion on a good place to meet guys? I don't go to school anymore, and I don't work in an environment in which I'd meet anyone that I'd want to date. Guys in bars and clubs seem t...
A. 15 August 2008: Agreed. Bars + clubs = the guys are there most often for casual sex. And once they've got that, they're unlikely to stick around.
Some (random) suggestions:
- Join a club / group of some sort. Anything from sports, marshall arts and yoga, t... (read in full...)
We had anal sex, and I hurt her, now she is too afraid to try it again, how do I regain her trust and assure her that I will not hurt her again, if we have anal sex??
Q. How do i earn my fiances trust to do anal again? My fiance always loved it when i toyed with her from behind, and when we finnially did anal it went well and she loved it but i accidentally went to deep and hurt her. I felt absolutely terrible that ...
A. 14 August 2008: If she still wants to try it and is into the idea then i suggest you lie flat on your back and she can sit over you. As long as you don't move she has complete control and make make sure things don't go too fast / far / deep etc. And yes ... use ... (read in full...)
I recently discovered my husband has been going to adult websites. How do men really feel about sex with their mate? Is it meaningless?
Q. My hubby and I have been married almost 7 years. I recently discovered that he has been going to adult websites. Sharing myself with him means a lot to me and I almost feel betrayed. Plus, he's never told me he loves me while having sex with me. ...
A. 14 August 2008: It's incredibly special to most men. And many men are really terrible about saying that, even if that's the case. Men just generally aren't as able to talk about their feelings as women.
As for the websites, whilst it must have come as a nasty su... (read in full...)
He goes to sleep after oral sex and leaves me all worked up!
Q. My boyfriend gets so tired after I give him oral sex to a point that he actually goes right to sleep. Although I am pleased at the fact that I do this to him, I get really turned on when I do it and have to go to sleep all worked up. Is th...
A. 14 August 2008: DoubleM is right. You should get to go first :)... (read in full...)
I found out my wife is smoking weed behind my back before she goes to work. I don't know how to handle this.
Q. My wife has been hiding the fact that she has been smoking weed daily.This is before she goes to work. Behind my back.Now we do smoke daily when the day is over and on weekends.But she has been buying behind my back and using before she goes ...
A. 14 August 2008: I think muffingirl has given a good answer.
As someone who lives in a country where weed is 'legal', I would say that whilst it is illegal in the USA, I have seen that smoking a small amount has very minimal side-effects and can have balancin... (read in full...)
I don't like being intimate with a guy after sex. Is this normal?
Q. Okay. I have a problem in that I hate being intimate with a guy after the act. But love sex. And I mean seriously love it. But I hate the intimacy afterwards. After I'm done, its rare that I want a cuddle unless I really dig the guy. So when a guy ...
A. 14 August 2008: It's not really normal no. But then it sounds like you've been having sex with a lot of different guys in a short time too, and that's not that common either (despite what some people will tell you). It's usually a sign of connecting the desire for ... (read in full...)
Why are guys so sex obsessed?!
Q. I mean its fun and feels really good but girls can live without it. Girls like it a lot too but dont want to sleep with almost ever guy they see, unlike guys. I really dont understand why a guy will also lie or do anything just to get sex. I heard ...
A. 10 August 2008: Biology can account for some of the behaviour differences.
A woman (without contraception) can have sex once, end up pregnant for 9 months, and then bringing up a child for the next 15 years or more.
A man can have sex once, make someone pre... (read in full...)
My boyfriend got mad when he discovered my plans to cheat! Should I walk?
Q. I have been seeing a guy now for a few months. We live together with a third roomate and we all have jobs. I have never cheated on any of my previous boyfriends, but I will admit I was interested in casually dating some guys behind my boyfriends ...
A. 3 August 2008: You are both wrong, and unfortunately in this situation, two wrongs don't make a right.
You don't sound particularly remorseful for what you were doing. Often people's jealousy is triggered for real reasons: namely that their partner is cheating... (read in full...)
I'm scared he might use me again or want to see me for all the wrong reasons!...
Q. ok there's this dude that always trys to hook up with me but we did some stuff in his room once but it was a one time thing i thought that he was into me and he would ask me out well the next day he didnt say anything to me and asked another girl...
A. 3 August 2008: He's going to do the same thing to you again that he did last time. Meaning he'll have sex with you (or 'do stuff' as you descriptively put it), and then be off chasing other girls the next day.
To not hook up with him would be the smart thing to... (read in full...)
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