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After premature ejaculation with sex workers, I'm worried I wouldn't be able to satisfy a future girlfriend

Q.   I have never been in a romantic relationship with a woman due to the fact that I tend to be painfully she around women in general. I can only attribute this to the fact that I suffer from a learning disability which has greatly impeded my social ...

A.   11 February 2014: It is not at all uncommon to cum quickly if you are young and inexperienced and with a professional. All men have a tendency to come quicker with women that they are not familiar with. 1) prepare yourself before a situation in which you will be ... (read in full...)

How can I protect my sister from her 40 year old boyfriend?

Q.   1.) My sister's boyfriend is 40+ years old and i think he is racist because of the way he interacts with other people including us. btw my sister is only 26. (the guy is british, my sister is filipina), my sister claims that he loves the guy. 2.) ...

A.   9 April 2012: Sadly there is not much that you can do other than stand ready to pick up the pieces as and when she gets hurt. Very gently without using accusing words,let her know how you feel and let her know that you will be there for her when she needs you. ... (read in full...)

Am I kinky or should I relax and stop worrying about it?

Q.   am i kinky? i am a 46 yrs. old slim attractive widow. in march of this year, i met a wonderful likewise lady three years older than myself for companionship etc. we have become enormously great friends and confide in each other. one weekend las...

A.   7 August 2011: Relax and have fun. You are doing no one any harm.... (read in full...)

I think my married teacher is having an affair with another teacher! Can I intervene??

Q.   So I am madly crushing on my teacher. Don't worry this isn't one of those stupid "should I tell him!?" questions. I know he'll never reciprocate my feelings and I never plan to tell him and I am perfectly comfy with him not knowing and liking him ...

A.   8 May 2011: Just don't get involved. Not your business. IF they are having an affair then it will probably pass and he and his family will get on with their happy lives. If you try to "fix" the situation then you will likely make it much worse.... (read in full...)

Bf and I haven't had sex in 7 months. Should I be concerned that the spark is fading?

Q.   My fiance and I have been together for three years and we haven't had sex in seven months. I realize that most people would leave in that situation or at least try to to do something about it but oddly enough, we're both perfectly content. We do get ...

A.   6 May 2011: Yes. ... (read in full...)

She is satisfied with our sex life, but I want to last longer....any advice?

Q.   My girlfriend loves rough, fast, powerful sex; but I cum very quickly from too much accelerated stimulation (say, less than 1-2 minutes). She doesn't complain, and says she loves it - and I can tell, and so do I enjoy it as well, but not as much as ...

A.   6 May 2011: All that I can say is that those "delay" or "last longer" condoms seem to work. I accidentally bought a batch and I didn't know that I was using them and honestly I thought that I had a problem because I was banging away for 1/2 an hour and nothing ... (read in full...)

Do these few seconds he had inside her count as him losing his virginity?

Q.   Right I don't know if this question belongs on the site but it's too hard to find out on google ... Basically I don't know wether my boyfriend is still classed as a virgin or not he said once when he was on holiday he met this girl and they kinda ...

A.   4 May 2011: Why does it matter?... (read in full...)

If a guy has sex with a girl, does that mean he loves her?

Q.   If a guy has sex with a girl does that usually means he loves her? Also If he didn't love her how can guys have sex with a girl without having deep feelings for them? Thank you just curious....

A.   4 May 2011: No. Unfortunately there is no necessary connection between a guy having sex and being in love. If you want to test to see whether or not he loves you, then take him shopping for 3 hours whilst you try on 27 different pairs of jeans and then dec... (read in full...)

She told me that her ex's looked better than mine??

Q.   Quick question for the guys. And unfortunately this has happened to me so thats why im asking. What would you do if you recently started dating a girl that you really liked and she really liked you back and during a conversation she told you that ...

A.   27 April 2011: Well, as genital mutilation is on the table, you might say that you'd rather that she has a a labia reduction "so it doesn't look so dangly. Oh, and then quit the relationship of course as this one is permanently damaged. In future don't ask ... (read in full...)

I have this sense of guilt like I cheated! Have I done something wrong?

Q.   Early in my relationship, my girlfriend and I just were very honest about our past sexual history. Probably for most, too honest. Through all this, I admitted to her having slept with a friend of mine, at a time when we were both single and it ...

A.   26 April 2011: This doesn't even merit one Hail Mary. You did nothing wrong. Get over it. ... (read in full...)

Promiscuous wife had 40 partners, I have only been with her!

Q.   hi there, i dnt knw where to start but il try my best. My wife was promiscuous in her college days 40men to be exact. After i found out abt her past i asked her abt and told me she had low self esteem, i didnt believe her shes drop dead gorgous what ...

A.   24 April 2011: Live happily. You have a beautiful wife who has chosen you over a whole bunch of other men.... (read in full...)

How to handle the question about previous relationships?

Q.   hi everyone, i was on a date a few days ago, and the conversation was going well untill the girl asked me when my last relationship was. im a 26 year old guy, and i was honest i said that i had never had a girlfriend before. she seemed horrified by ...

A.   21 April 2011: When the question comes up again, stare in to the middle distance for around 3 seconds, swallow hard, then look at her and say "I'm sorry, I'd prefer not to talk about it", count another one or two seconds and then change the subject to something ... (read in full...)

My family are prejudiced towards Chinese people and China in general, but I am marrying a Chinese girl! What should I do?

Q.   I've being thinking A LOT about this over the last few months, and it is a painful one. I am from Europe, but living in China, Beijing, and have had a girl friend here for 3 years now. I do plan to stay here and do business here, and it is also...

A.   21 April 2011: Invite your family. Don't try to "heal" them. Get them over to Beijing for wedding in the Spring or Autumn. Unless they are myopic Beijing will blow them away and shut their mouths. Do any of your girlfriend's family speak any English? If not ... (read in full...)

Am I immature because I don't have a boyfriend, don't drink or I'm not pregnant or don't have my own house at 17, like everyone else???.

Q.   A lot of the girls around here are doing what most grown up's do, like getting pregnant at a young age and having their own house while I'm still stuck at home with my parents. I'm immature because I don't have a boyfriend, don't drink or I'm not ...

A.   16 April 2011: how the heck do they get the money for a house at 17?... (read in full...)

How do you say "How are you?" in Chinese and German?

Q.   what is "how are you" in chinese and german...

A.   11 April 2011: In Chinese: Ni hao - ?? - hello Ni Chi le ma - ???? - have you eaten yet ??????Ni shenti hao ma? hows your health... (read in full...)

My wife to be revealed her sexual past. I feel sick to my stomach

Q.   I am 31, she is 29. She is drop dead gorgeous. We fell in love a year and a half ago when she was one of my day nurses when I had spent some time in the hospital recovering from a tumor in my knee (non cancerous) During our time dating, I would ...

A.   31 March 2011: SillyB has it exactly right.... (read in full...)

Am I still being played by my tourism employed fiance?

Q.   Thanks for the help you guys have provided in previous threads. I think that I suffer from jealousy a lot of the time. The stuff with that married guy turned out to be nothing. They don't communicate with each other anymore. But I still have thing...

A.   19 March 2011: I've lived in China for 15 years. If your girl had a mobile phone stolen and was able to recover it at a police station I'll eat the chair I'm sitting on. She is playing you continuously. She is treating you with contempt. The phrase "I tried... (read in full...)

Intense urge to have extra-marital affairs!!

Q.   I don't have a great history with females. I have lacked confidence and have only had a sexual relationship with one woman. So far, I feel like I have missed out on this aspect of life. However, for the first time in my life, I feel more confident ...

A.   9 March 2011: It was pretty clear what advice you were going to get in general on DC, posting this question. I live in a culture where it is pretty much standard procedure for better off men to have mistresses I have a few practical thoughts and although I will ... (read in full...)

Same sex adult siblings showering together

Q.   Hello, I have a question that is a bit odd, but am wanting a non biased third party view. My boyfriend and I got on the topic of siblings showering together after seeing a mother and daughter skinny dipping in a pool. He told me that when he was 6...

A.   6 March 2011: CG is spot on. Most men, certainly any men that have played must sport, are pretty comfortable taking a shower in front of other men in a big communal shower BUT if it were in a standard domestic shower then that would involve a serious ... (read in full...)

I am so beautiful. Are my friends all just jealous of me?

Q.   I am so beautiful. I have a really nice body and i have double D's. Flirting comes naturally to me. I can honestly say that a lot of people like me and just want to be me. I'm really popular and i have a lot of experience. All my close friends are ...

A.   27 February 2011: I SO have the same problem! :-)... (read in full...)

Why will a man video his sex act with someone he is cheating with?

Q.   Emergency question I accidentally came across a movie on my boyfriend's laptop, he was having sex with another another woman from what i saw i won't call it love making. I don't know if my boyfriend intentionally recorded that act but Im sure ...

A.   15 February 2011: It is very hard to unintentionally video yourself having sex. If he has video'd then he has likely also video'd you.... (read in full...)

Broke up with partner who was using escorts, and I feel more relieved than sad. Is this normal?

Q.   I am a 42-year-old woman who just found out that her partner of 2 years has been visiting prostitutes. I ended the relationship yesterday afternoon when I found solid proof that he had been lying to me about his internet porn use, but got the final ...

A.   7 February 2011: It's perfectly normal to feel relief after making any kind of significant or difficult decision. Making that kind of decision is stressful and so once you've made it you feel relieved. ... (read in full...)

I have reason to believe my dad is cheating on my mom!!

Q.   I am 20 years old my parents were married before I was born I am one of three siblings. I always thought my parents were having a happy marriage until one day I went into my fathers work bag and found condoms!!. I asked my mom if they used comdoms ...

A.   3 February 2011: If you always thought that your parents were having a happy marriage then they probably are. The fact that a man occasionally does something that he shouldn't do after he's been married for more than 20 years is no reason to break up a family which ... (read in full...)

Husband had sex with prostitute while on business trip and I can't get over it

Q.   We have been married for 8 years now and were courting for almost 4 years before marriage. Everything was going great and we have had a very satisfying and fulfilling relationship. We understood each other perfectly and cared for each other. Until ...

A.   18 January 2011: This has absolutely nothing to do with you or with your marriage or with how much your husband loves you. It was strange and foolish of him to tell you what he did, it surely would have been better if he hadn't. It sounds as if your husband is a ... (read in full...)

Am I just demanding too much from her?

Q.   In April, my fiancee and I will finally travel to Australia to marry. She is Chinese. My time here in China has been OK. But, there is something which is seriously pushing me away. She hasn't done her overseas work for about 6 months which is ...

A.   18 January 2011: No. Your problem is that you are not demanding anything at all. You are letting her set the agenda and you react to it. She wants you to be in charge and failing to take charge you will make her feel insecure. Why would you say that you "rea... (read in full...)

I don't cook and bf said no one will want me even he is verbally abusive to me.

Q.   I don't cook and my boyfriend hates it. He said he will eventually leave me because I am not good at cooking and housework. He said no one will want me. His ex cooks very well, but then he has issues with her character or looks. I feel so tired and ...

A.   17 January 2011: Do you "not cook" as a matter of principle or just because you haven't practiced much and you're not great at it. The first is a little odd. The second is easily solved. Anyone with functioning taste buds and a full compliment of limbs can cook.... (read in full...)

Drug, Sex and Rock and Roll

Q.   My husband is suffering from major depression. He’s a drug addict (marijuana and any drugs that can relaxing him) and also he is an alcoholic. He hasn’t been working almost 2yrs now. His parent and I have been supporting him financially. Because ...

A.   13 January 2011: If you love him as much as you say that you do then you must stop supporting and sustaining his dependency. The only way that he will snap out of it is if you basically throw a bucket of cold water on him and force him to sort himself out.... (read in full...)

He wants to video tape us having sex and I'm not comfortable with it

Q.   Okay so I've dating my boyfriend for 5 months I love him more then anything. I'm in college and he works. He's 34 years old and I'm 19 years old. I know there is a big gap but I love him and I feel like he does loves me back. so we had issues in the ...

A.   10 January 2011: Best not to, really.... (read in full...)

I am being forced to go to boarding school by my parents!

Q.   My parents is forcing me to an all boys school which is the top school in the UK. I do not want to go to it because I will be a full boarder in that school, which means I will be in the campus 24/7. I seriously can't tolerate that. What c...

A.   10 January 2011: Eton right? Do you mean right now? This would be an awfully odd time to be starting, at the beginning of the Lent Half in the first year of the Sixth Form. Very difficult to settle in and catch up starting part way through a year. Perha... (read in full...)

Are guys losing respect for girls today than in the past?

Q.   I know the guy I am with does not act like this what so ever, but is it just me, or am I getting the feeling that now a days, men expect girls to bend over and give themselves to them? Are guys really loosing respect for females now a days? ...

A.   9 January 2011: There is a general loss of respect in western society as a whole. Everyone respects everyone else and indeed themselves less than they used to. Certainly women in the Uk and US respect men less than they used to as well. It is part and parcel of ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to want to have sex at 14?

Q.   i am 14 year old boy. Sometimes i feel like i want to have sex even though i am 14 :/ is this just my hormones or something else. I don't feel comfortable talking about this to my mom or dad can anyone help ?...

A.   9 January 2011: It is absolutely normal to want to but it is a really really bad idea to actually have sex with someone for a few years yet. Ignore it when other boys your age tell you that they are having sex: most of them are lying because they feel insecure ... (read in full...)

Why do I always have to be the one to initiate sex?

Q.   Why do I always have to be the one to initiate sex with my girlfriend. And 99% of the time she comes up with some type of excuse not to have sex with me. This has been going on for the last year and a half and I am getting sick and tierd of ...

A.   3 January 2011: She needs to know that you will leave if she doesn't have sex with you. Having sex with you on a reasonably regular basis - say not less than 2 or 3 times a week - is a necessary part of the implicit deal that you have when you agree to be ... (read in full...)

I want to initiate an affair with a married friend of my wife and mine

Q.   I am a married man,38. I have strong feelings for an older woman who is also married and is a friend of us. I can tell from her looks that she has the same feeling. Nothing has happened up to this moment, not a word expressed, nothing at all. Ca...

A.   2 January 2011: Unlike others here I'm in no position to lecture you on your morals. On the contrary I believe that a good affair from time to time can be a positive and life affirming thing and can even leave you with a better marriage. HOWEVER, speaking purely ... (read in full...)

I was told by my GF :"Girls don't like it when guys last long, they get sore and it hurts down there". Really???

Q.   Hi, Happy New Year by the way! So, when I have sex with my girlfriend, first I pleasure her for about 7 minutes until she finishes, then we have sex and I last for about 1 minute on a good night. Now, once I kept "doing it" for a while after I wa...

A.   2 January 2011: You're doing right by going in with your tongue first BUT 1 minute ISN'T much time. She's being nice. Have more sex more often and you'll get over the problem.... (read in full...)

How can I have safe sex without the use of birth control and condoms?

Q.   how can I have safe sex without the use of birth control? My boyfriend doesn't like to use condoms and I trust him to pull out but sometimes I'm afraid. I would like to be on birth control but I can't be prescribed because I'm on chemotherapy pil...

A.   2 January 2011: Tell your boyfriend to grow up and take responsibility. "Pulling out" is not a "method". He's not ready to be a daddy.... (read in full...)

Is there anything wrong with a young woman having a "sugar daddy"?

Q.   Hi All, I am a young guy still trying to figure out life and love. I am wondering if you all can give me your opinion on a girl I met. I met this girl a few months back.She's gorgeous, a model, wants to be an actress.She's from Czech Republi...

A.   1 January 2011: I know very well a number of girls like this one and no one should judge them until they understand their lives and the societies in which they live. There are many but here is one story about one of my favourite people in the world: Xiao Qin... (read in full...)

None of the sexual aids help me get it up

Q.   my problem is that i cant seem to get a hard-on, i have tried a number of sexual aids i.e. all kinds of pills that say they can do this or that and yet none have worked for me. can someone please help me with my problem. i would love to make lov...

A.   31 December 2010: Sorry to hear about that. I don't mean to be a cynic but there is a reason why rich old men marry 23 year old models - because sometimes when you are 65 or 75 or 84, THAT is what it takes in order to be able to get it up.... (read in full...)

How do I get the maximum sex out of my husband?

Q.   I am married last month to a businessman. he loves me but sleeps little with me.. though we are together in bed but less he will hug me to sleep together.. intercourse only on weekends because of his night business files on the bed. knows le...

A.   31 December 2010: I own and run 3 businesses which employ close to 600 people. My wife also works in our business. I always, always have some work that I should be doing however NEVER, EVER, BRING WORK TO BED. Tell your husband that the greatest secret to business ... (read in full...)

If your girlfriend had only a single 2 minutes' sexual encounter before you were in her life,would you let that effect you?

Q.   If you were a virgin before your gf and you knew that your gf only engaged in sex for a minute or two and realized it was wrong and stopped. And that was her only sexual encounter before you,would you let that effect you? I love my girlfriend but I ...

A.   31 December 2010: As you say, it is nothing and you shouldn't let it effect you.... (read in full...)

Can you really alter a polygraph?

Q.   Ok, my question is I want to give my husband a polygraph test and I want to know that he cant alter the test. The reason I want him to take one is because well lets just say his work takes him to different places over seas for a year to a yea...

A.   30 December 2010: Honestly if he is a 30 something guy with a normal sex drive and he is overseas and away from you for more than a couple of months a time then he's having sex with someone. It's human nature. That doesn't mean that it's something to stress about or ... (read in full...)

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