Can a smaller penis look bigger from a different person's perspective?
Q. Hi i am about 18 years of age, and I have a question on measurement in penis sizes. When i put the ruler next to my penis it shows me that i am 8 inches. Now the problem is, when i was in MMA the men had to take showers when the session was over. I ...
A. 5 November 2009: Don't spend too much time in the showers looking at other guys' dicks. People don't appreciate it.... (read in full...)
I feel like such a golddigger!
Q. My boyfriend and I are getting married next summer. Lately, he's been really flashing his money at me. I've never been used to people spending a lot of money on me, especially since my family has never had very much to spend. I love that he's so ...
A. 1 November 2009: As you already know he is just trying to make you happy. If you tell him clearly that he doesn't need to spend money to have you love him then he will love you all the more.... (read in full...)
Why is she confused and doubting her feelings for me? I have done nothing wrong
Q. Me and my girlfriend have been dating since April, although we were having casual sex for about a month prior. We got engaged in August, just as she moved to China for a year. We had spent almost all of that time prior to her moving away in each ...
A. 1 November 2009: I went through this for more than 5 years when I was young and it really left me a mess. At the end of that time I vowed that I would never again get involved with a girl who needed me less than I needed her. If she tells you that you are "to... (read in full...)
Should privacy still be allowed even although you're married?
Q. My spouse and I are at odd ends! I want to know if it is wrong of me to not give my spouse my email password. I have been told time and again that when you are married your not allowed to have personal email's or anything that is not disclosed. My ...
A. 31 October 2009: Seriously, how difficult is it to set up multiple e.mail accounts? It takes, what, maybe 4 minutes to set up a new account. Different e.mail accounts for different purposes. Some you are happy to disclose and some she doesn't even know the ... (read in full...)
She's given up money and material things for love, to be with me.
Q. Just looking for some input from women or men, anyone who has been with a lot of money and passed it by for true love. My fiance has dated several very wealthy OLDER men, and I mean very wealthy and I mean very older, like 30 years older. But...
A. 22 October 2009: Why will you "never" be rich?... (read in full...)
Why is it that so many men choose to be dishonest to women?
Q. What is this code with men? Why is it that so many men choose to be dishonest to women, all women and be "men" with each other, you know drink, womanize, even cheat on their women and then look that woman in the face and act like they know nothin...
A. 10 October 2009: Rhythmandblues2 Yes - I would take exactly the position that you are mocking. As long as a person is a extremely discreet and stays clear of disease that outside affairs or one night stands can (obviously not always!) strengthen a marriage rathe... (read in full...)
I just keep asking myself if I'm gay
Q. hi 26 and ive been attracted to females all my life,im in a serious relationship but latley ive been asking myself am i gay,i cant get it out of my head.when im around other males i get an uneasy feeling and my thoughtss run wild,not in a sexual way ...
A. 8 October 2009: You are not gay. Sometimes we just get a thought in our heads that becomes like an itch and it won't go away as long as we think about it. You have to give yourself a break and not worry about it.... (read in full...)
Why is it that so many men choose to be dishonest to women?
Q. What is this code with men? Why is it that so many men choose to be dishonest to women, all women and be "men" with each other, you know drink, womanize, even cheat on their women and then look that woman in the face and act like they know nothin...
A. 8 October 2009: Because sometimes / often it is the disclosure itself that does the damage. I have many friends in the UK and America who I know without doubt sleep with girls when they are over here in China. I have no problem at all in sitting down at their di... (read in full...)
We put on gay porn and had sex am I gay
Q. Ok i have a problem, A few weeks ago I bunch of my buddies and I went out to a bar we got really drunk and one of my buddies decided to crash at my house. We were bored and put on porn, we weere just talking when we looked up and didnt ever realize ...
A. 8 October 2009: Looks like it. Good luck. ... (read in full...)
He is calling me chubby and it hurts
Q. My boyfriend who I have not been dating for very long tells me I'm a little fat around the midsection and rear section. This really hurt my feelings when he said this. We had just made love and he told me I was not fat just a little chubby an...
A. 8 October 2009: Out of interest, which country is he from?... (read in full...)
Why do guys cheat? Should I give in?
Q. I've kind of browsed the site for a similar question and not quite found what i'm looking for. Basically there's this guy, and I fancy him it's purely sexual. And he fancies me too I know he does because he's said so and he wants to meet up ect y...
A. 8 October 2009: Why? Because that is the way that we are wired. We are programmed to want to have sex with as many potentially fertile females as we can, whereas women are generally programmed to try to find a mate and get him to stick around to help take care of ... (read in full...)
Are watery eyes while giving a blowjob a turn off?
Q. Is it a turn off if a girl's eyes are super watery after/during a blowjob? I'm excited because I finally got the hang of deep throating and I can fit my boyfriend's entire dick now. And don't worry, I wasn't forced to learn or anything; my ...
A. 8 October 2009: I really don't think he's going to mind.
Keep up the good work.... (read in full...)
How am I supposed to sit with a bunch of guys I don't know and watch porn? Who's in the wrong here?
Q. Last night my bf started yelling at me heaps because when I met his friends I was quiet and shy. However, I do feel I had good reasons for acting the way I did. Here is why: 1. I didnt even technically "meet them". I mean, he didn't introduc...
A. 7 October 2009: Get out now. He sounds very weak and easily influenced by his friends. It demonstrates very low self esteem on his behalf for him to allow you to be treated that way.... (read in full...)
When will it grow
Q. Im 14, 15 in a month and i am very insecure about the size of my penis. Im not as endowed as some of the other guys at school. and it kinda brings me down. It kinda makes me feel bad about myself when i cant fill my pants up properly. Yeah, im ...
A. 7 October 2009: Honestly, it's unlikely to get any bigger. You are going feel self conscious about it and it will take time to have confidence in yourself. I'm pretty much the same as you. I was very self conscious about it in my teens and early 20s. Despite ... (read in full...)
He has the urge to try other girls?
Q. I need advice... I asked my boyfriend (we've been on bad terms since he left for some reason) if he has the urge to try out other girls (since I'm his first, trying not to count the girl he got drunk/cheated with) He said 'eh kinda, but it's ...
A. 7 October 2009: Well, he is likely being truthful. Most young men have the "urge" to have sex with almost ANY reasonably attractive young woman. But at the same time his reply was churlish. It is one of those relationship "set pieces" where the girl asks one of ... (read in full...)
Are there stereotypes about cowboy boots I am unaware of?
Q. I am a 26-year old young professional and I have been dating a 30-year old man for almost two years. I recently mentioned that I wanted a pair of cowboy boots to wear over jeans just to go around the town with him because I liked the look. He pr...
A. 5 October 2009: Yes it's out of line. Not a good sign.... (read in full...)
I need words of wisdom. I'm a girl in a dark place...
Q. I think all my problems start with the vivid memories of my childhood. I remember I must of been only four, I was pounding on the door, screaming for my mother and when the door opened, another woman was standing there - naked. It must of took us ...
A. 5 October 2009: There isn't much helpful that I can say about your situation but, as a reasonably successful guy, I would take issue with your suggestion that your future isn't bright. I know next to nothing about you but I can see that you write clearly and well ... (read in full...)
Do men have more partners than women?
Q. how many people have you had sex with-I heard hugh hefner has been with 4000 women How unusual is that kind of behavior-is anyone here in quadrouple figures? I'm just curious-I heard men have more partners than women-is this true?...
A. 3 October 2009: How would that work, assuming a standard one man - one woman arrangement? On average woman have about as many sexual partners as men.
Very few non-professionals will ever see quadruple figures. It is certainly not something that you should a... (read in full...)
If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?
Q. We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...
A. 1 October 2009: Dear French Woman
You say that you have three beautiful children (as do I). When you had your second child did you love the first one any less? When you had the third was your love for the first two diminished in any way? I think not.
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My girlfriend was drugged and raped and I blame myself.
Q. I am 20 and my girlfriend is 18, We have been dating since high school. I go to college in a town that is 4 hours away from our home town. Last April during our last week of school I invited (begged) her to come down and attend the last class bash ...
A. 1 October 2009: Obviously you didn't do anything wrong and neither did your girlfriend but, psychologically this sick w@nker that raped your girlfriend has diminished your manhood by putting you in a position in which you couldn't protect the woman that you love. ... (read in full...)
Its all about him getting off and he never takes the time to pleasure me!
Q. why do men think it's okay for them to just raise up their woman gown and go in? the men get ready easy they can get horny just by looking at you or by kissing or just by rubbing your breast but yet they think that just because they are ready we ...
A. 30 September 2009: Tell your man that he needs to learn how to operate your machinery properly or you'll find someone else that can. He's just being selfish and stupid. ... (read in full...)
If you were me you can forgive a cheater? Do you think cheater will repent and stop hurting others?
Q. We married 23 years and have 3 lovely children. He is 56 and me 43. I am a teacher at school and I am a nice woman. We have a happy marriage and he never intended to leave me. We are French and live in US. One day I found out he cheated on me wi...
A. 30 September 2009: You say that he "had a very well calculated plan to cheat on me". I don't think that was the case. He had a plan and yes, that plan involved him breaking his promises to you but I'm sure that what was in his mind at the time he began this and ... (read in full...)
My husband's 3rd affair and I feel nothing
Q. I am at a cross roads, I confirmed on Friday, what I knew in my mind for a couple of months, that my husband is having another affair. This will be the third affair I know of, and in the very early days he had a few one night stands. We have been ...
A. 27 September 2009: I'm not dissimilar to your husband. Those of us that have multiple affairs despite loving our wives have a flaw in our psychological make up and it is very unlikely to change until our sex drive goes or the opportunities disappear. Your husband ... (read in full...)
I'm having a second affair after I promised I would never leave him again, do I stay with him or follow my heart and be with the man I love?
Q. This could be a long post but I have to lay it all out. I am a married woman and have been with my husband for 13 years. He was my first serious relationship (I met him when I was 20). About 6 years ago I had an affair and told him I was leavin...
A. 25 September 2009: Do you honestly think that you should spend the rest of your life with a man you don't love just because he had a breakdown last time and because his family might be upset? How many lives do you expect to have? Having children with a man you don't ... (read in full...)
The man I love wont leave his wife for me and I feel so lonely!
Q. The man I'm in love with never told me that he would leave his wife.He pays all my bills,rent and still gives me extra money but,I'm just so lonely.He doesn't spend time with me like he use to in the beginning.He has keys to my house so he comes ...
A. 23 September 2009: Coming on Dear Cupid and saying that you're having an affair with a married man tends to generate the knee-jerk response and not much in the way of sympathy but you can have a little from me. We can't always choose who we love and many people love ... (read in full...)
No money, too much pride and now no respect for him
Q. Hi, I'm 26 and my boyfriend is 35. We both got made redundant in jan 2009. We are currently in big trouble financially, my partner has not found a job since january and is obsessing over the idea of going to college. my partner used to earn £40...
A. 22 September 2009: You have a biological obligation to ditch this deadbeat - survival of the fittest, evolution - the human race only progresses if women don't breed with men that can't or won't support them.... (read in full...)
I gave him bj but he couldn't stay hard and didn't cum
Q. hey i have this boyfriend.. we have been together for 2 years and we havent had sex till now... i am not quite ready for it and well my guy hasnt pressured me either... which is nice. we are both virgins and we are both 23. yesterday was ...
A. 21 September 2009: Something is not altogether right. Generally for a 23 year old guy getting his first ever blow job it would be over in minutes. My guess is that for whatever reason he was feeling uncomfortable / nervous as that can certainly have that effect.... (read in full...)
Considering a divorce here...what do you all think?
Q. Immediate problem: my husband went away to a beer festival over the weekend with 5 other single guys when I specifically told him it made me uncomfortable and I didn't want him to go. The reason why this is a bigger issue than it would be normally...
A. 19 September 2009: The language that you use is pretty revealing:
"... when I specifically told him it made me uncomfortable and I didn't want him to go."
" ... just out right defied my feelings"
He is your husband (for the time being) not a dog or a difficult... (read in full...)
How do you make a back rub sexy?
Q. My boyfriend says that back massages are a turn-on for him, but they have never seemed particularly sexy to me. Since I can't see the sexual aspect of it, it's been hard for me to incorporate them into our foreplay because I can't figure out how to ...
A. 17 September 2009: Are you making the mistake of only using your hands? Obviously you shouldn't be wearing anything down below. Straddle him at his bum or lower back and make it either a 3 point or 5 point rub.... (read in full...)
He's a really big guy...but not so big "down there". Why might this be?
Q. my boyfriend turned 18 back in july and we got together about 2 weeks after his birthday. we had sex about a month into it. he is a really big guy (6'4" 220 lbs.) so i suppose i was expecting him to be pretty "well endowed". i was wrong. hes only ...
A. 13 September 2009: Sadly, speaking as a 300 pounder, there's just not that much connection between size, height and penis size. Whether he lets on or not he is self conscious about it which means that he is likely to treat you better in bed and out of it. If he is ... (read in full...)
I am 25, a virgin and never kissed a girl. I am considering going to a hooker, is this a good idea?
Q. Well, i'm 25 and I have never had sex, even I have never kissed a woman. So I have alrady decided to pay a hooker. I'm very exited about that, but at the same time scared. Am I doing something good or at the contrary? All the time I was expecting ...
A. 13 September 2009: I understand what you are thinking and why. Send me a private message and I'll give you some advice.... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man...HELP!
Q. I started interning for this company about a year ago. That's were I met him. He was my boss and a solid 18 years older than I am. There was no immediate attraction. I knew he was married and the thought of us being together never ever evvvverr ...
A. 13 September 2009: Gina is right although not because of any requirement for feminine solidarity with his wife or because what he is doing is despicable but rather because as you know already this situation will not end well for you. Move on, move away and if you ... (read in full...)
Husband cheated, don't want to stay but don't want to destroy our family
Q. I've been married for almost three years now my husband has put me down and called me names our whole relationship I left him july of last year for cheating on me but I came back cause I found out I was pregnant I thought that things would change ...
A. 13 September 2009: Get out now whilst you are still young. Many people start out with a bad marriage and find a great one second time around. Don't wait because it won't get any better regardless of what he might try to say.... (read in full...)
I'm seen as the quiet kid who never talks
Q. When I was a little kid I had many friends and always talked to other kids. Around grade 4 my parents split up and I moved in with my mom and sister into an apartment. When we moved in I made friends with other kids in the building, but there were ...
A. 12 September 2009: Do you mind? I'm mean that seriously, do you want to spend your time chatting with people over largely inconsequential things or is it that somehow you feel that you need to be talking to people integrate yourself into the group. If you do mind... (read in full...)
My husband's addicted to the gym and steroids! How do I get him to stop?
Q. I found out recently my husband's become addicted to the gym. When I first discovered he liked going the gym, I thought nothing of it, OK, it's just a hobby, but then when it became addictive I thought he must be having an affair until I discovered ...
A. 11 September 2009: Baldness, impotence, high blood pressure, enlarged heart (that's not a good thing), liver tumours, liver cancer.... Just let him know that you have no intention of sticking around when he has to start living with the consequences.
Ask him in y... (read in full...)
Is his sex drive normal for a guy who's 20?
Q. Hi I'm in need of a bit of advise and clarification if its needed. Me and my boyfriend have been together for just over 7 months and we have great sex. However he is hardly ever in the mood so we rarely have it and least once every 2 or 3 weeks. I'...
A. 10 September 2009: That is certainly well outside the range of what I would consider normal.... (read in full...)
Does my husband have another life in the UK???
Q. I've become concerned at the amount of time my husband has been spending flying out to the United Kingdom. I've noticed a lot of flight bills for flights to "Manchester, United Kingdom" and "Bolton, United Kingdom". At first I thought it was b...
A. 10 September 2009: If he's an employee then how on earth does he get the time off work?... (read in full...)
Guys: What goes on in a cheater's mind?
Q. Does a married man fall in love with the other woman/have feelings for her or do they just go back with their wife and family as if nothing ever happened. I know they have made their choice of going back with their wife but for whatever little ...
A. 9 September 2009: People vary in this respect as they do in every other. It is however perfectly plausible / possible for a man to feel genuine care and even love for a mistress / lover and yet go home and have a loving and warm (and of course sexual) relationship ... (read in full...)
How long does a guy usually last when you go down on them?
Q. So my BF and I have reached 3rd base. (hands onley so far) His b-day is coming up soon, and I think I'd like to try going down on him... All I'm wondering, is how long does a guy usually last? I'm not worried about the whole coming in mouth thing, ...
A. 9 September 2009: There is a huge range. If he's 40 you'd probably be down there for half an hour but if he's 17 and you do it right, you'll be done in a few minutes.... (read in full...)
I'm so guilty that I cheated on my husband. Should I tell him?
Q. A few days ago, I slept with a male friend while my husband was out of town visiting relatives. It only happened, once, i swear, and I did not intend for it to happen. I didn't set out looking to cheat, it's something that just happened. We'd had a ...
A. 8 September 2009: Don't under any account tell him. It's not what you did that causes him pain but him finding out about it. If by any chance he finds out through any other channel then deny it with vigour - if you love him then put your whole heart and soul into ... (read in full...)
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