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writes:I joined this site as I'm so confused of what to do!!I've been going off the rails lately, drinking waay too much, going to pubs every night and clubs every weekend, having a fair few one night stands....the truth is, I seem to associate sex with being drunk now and I've realised how easy I have become. a year ago i was so naive and uptight about sex but i got into a twisted relationship and was used and humiliated, then i turned to drink as a way to get over the bloke i was with. he hurt me so so much, and when I'm drunk i become a much more confident and sexy person, but easy too. the last on e night stand i had was on valentines day, he goes to the same college as me and knows a few of my friends. we had unprotected sex, (something which iv never done on a one nighter)and now im 5 weeks pregnant. i know the lad who has got me pregnant, but what do i do?? im so confused whether to keep it/? i start uni next year and it's totally the wrong time!! but i can't abort this baby! the lad won't want me to keep it, he's abit of a player i think. do i tell him??please help me!!!
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reader, xapathyxrebornx +, writes (26 March 2008):
 I think you should tell him hun adn see what he says and follow through with this pregnancy, i think you will regret abortioin for the rest of your life.
Go through with it, and if things dont ease up or even out or get on track, then give the baby up for fostering or adoption =] x
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reader, Annalisa +, writes (25 March 2008):
 You know, maybe this is just the wake-up call you need to sort your life out.
Tell the lad, he has a right to know. He might want to help or he might just learn his lesson and use a condom next time!
Abortion is not your only option, so take it easy, think, talk to the baby's father and see what you can both come up with.
You might find your family really supportive, at this time, so talk to them.
If I was you, I would see pregnancy through, then either let your family help you or if you feel you really cannot cope, give the baby up for fostering or adoption.
If the child is fostered, you can always reclaim him/her when you are ready to look after him/her.
You might find that having a baby gives you the anchor you need in life, giving you more of a purpose to succede in your studies and carrer, because you'll have a helpless child to look after and inspire!
I wish you all the best, God bless you!
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reader, lilmisse2424  + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
 Telling the guy may be good, but you would want to do in private. Also, if I were you, I would call a Planned Parenthood number (in America) or in this case in England, it would be referred to as Life, and they will help you with advice on what to do. Secondly, the choice of the baby is up to you. If you can afford to take care of it and have support, good for you. If not, then you have the choice of aborting the baby, but the choice is yours.
From reading it, it also seems like the guy may not be very reliable, but as i stated, this is your life and your body, and your choice. Good Luck!!!
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reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (24 March 2008):
 Tricky one. For a start you could contact somewhere called Life. Number will be in the phone book. They will be good to give you advice.
The guy should be told really, and ultimately what you decide to do in the long run, still is your choice. Doesn't sound like good odds that this guy is going to be someone you can rely on?
Definately think you need to speak to a professional first off though. Its still early enough days for more choices.
Good luck.
C xxxxxx
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