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writes:have you ever rekindled a relationship with an ex boyfriend? He ended the relationship to be with someone else but I still love him and know that my feelings will be the same in the future. what steps i take now to be with him later if his current relationship ends? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2008): Well im in the same situation, he told me he loved me and the other day he was making out whit another girl, and now they have been dating for about 6 month and im still not over him but that does not mean that i'm not having fun ! If you think that he is the one and if it's destiny you will be together but don't wait for it too happen have fun and if it's going to happen it will so don't worry ... If his current relationship ends try talking too him again if you fell in love once why woudn't it happen again. Love,Paola
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reader, lah mouw +, writes (22 March 2008):
 although you may feel like you will still have feelings for this man this may change. Please, do not wait for him, you are giving him absolute power by even trying to wait for his current relationship to end. You have to get back into reality and realize that although his current relationship may end, he might not want to ever get back together(harsh I know.).But I suppose if you are determined to "win him back" you can try out the following:-Avoid contact with him for about a month (he may realize that you don't need him as much as he thinks you do, causing him to get curious and contact YOU)-focus on you-make yourself look presentable, (dress to impress)-rethink your relationship, think about why you broke up, think about if you really want to get back together with him and why. -have fun-if he still wants to be friends. be his friend, be there for him, but don't keep mentioning that you are friends and you are there for him (he may catch on)-be the person he fell in love with in the first place.
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reader, LazyGuy  +, writes (22 March 2008):
 BAD idea. Really really bad.
It ain't just the ex-factor. NEVER DATE AN EX.
It is as another poster said an open invitation to become a doormat. If you hook up again he will just dump you again when the next girl comes along.
Considering the reasons for breaking up, consider it final and move on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): If he dumped you for someone else, he doesn't Love you. So why would you want to have him back, you wouldn't. You deserve better. Now if you had ended because of a fight or jealousies or something other than another person that might be different. He clearly does not want to be with you, another girl would not have caught his heart if he did. It is better to accept this and forget him. If he does come back hopefully it will be too late for him and you can say, sorry, look what you could have had, loser!
Take care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): Go outside and lay down in front of your door. You apparently want practice being a doormat.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Hi
Um i wouldn't. I would have more self respect. Sorry but thats a crazy idea. He left you for someone else. Wheres your pride.
There wont be any way i could think of to make sure he comes running back after it goes tits with her. Although its possible he is the type that would. Not sure theres anything you can do to make it more likely though.
The only steps i would take now, are steps in the oposite direction to that scumbag. But hey, thats just me..
Maybe others will have more ideas.
C xxxxx
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reader, shandygirl +, writes (21 March 2008):
 I don't mean to sound disheartening, But if he ended the relationship with YOU to be with SOMEONE ELSE, it is futile to think that you and him will be together again.
I was in 2 different relationships that I left someone to be with someone else. I never wanted to go back to the former. Sorry for my answer hon, but I have to answer honestly.
But, if you want to try, do it. And this is what I would do if I were in your shoes. I would be "friends" with him. Email, & "chance" meetings. Even find out were they go, and go there too with a date, which may spark some feelings for you from him.
Good Luck.
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reader, pinkybobfan +, writes (21 March 2008):
 Hey,,
you cant go on holding on to him. what you need to do is enjoy ur life!! ofcourse ur still going 2 love him..miss him.. im in the same situation!! but see ur mates go out have a drink meet new people!! thats what you life needs. if you keep feeling down make sure u keep urself busy as it will help keep ur mind off him!! :D Keep Smiling :D xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 March 2008): I think this is difficult and depends largely on the kind of relationship which you had and why the relationship ended the first time. Knowing how he feels about you is key; does you still talk, spend time together as friends?
If he cares then he'll be making regualr contact with you.
So how can you rekindle it... well think about what you had before that worked. For me, relationships are all about having fun, when that stops I lose interest straight away. Don't get freaky, don't regualrly 'check up' on him, but flirt with him and be fun... chances are if he left you for someone else it was because of attraction. If his motives are therefore shallower ones, don't show him too much that your over keen.
Hope this helped, probably didn't!
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