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writes:split with my ex of 15 years 18 months ago.last summer he wanted to be back with me,i said i needed a couple of weeks to think about it,by that time he turns round and says to late he had found someone else.things didnt workout with this women and she only wanted to be friends with him,so 2 weeks ago he says he wants to give it ago with me again,which we have for the past 2 weeks,one big problem he still wants to stay friends with this women,which i dont mind,but he is phoning every night,to be honest he cant wait to i'm out of his flat before he rings her.then last weekend there walking down the high street together and my daughter bumps into them.i dont think this is right but he thinks its ok.and says i must trust him.she's only his friend,but they did have sex together the once i know of.
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reader, O Connor  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 well the first red light here is that he was only happy to get back with you when he was rejected by the woman he bumped you for - this is a bit selfish of him to just come running to you when he has nothing else. i wouldn't be happy about this 'friendship' either. Don't get me wrong, I am fine with my boyf having female friends in his life, but there is a line - i.e constantly contacting them, and going out with them alot would not be accepted by me. I am wondering if this man is just trying to convinve this woman to take him back and is just getting his bit with you while waiting? I don't know what you really want to do, but if it were me, I would tell him how you feel, and that you are not prepared to wait around while he plays hookie with another woman. good luck hun xxx
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 I'm really wondering why this man who wants to get back together with you would jeopardize the reconciliation by staying in contact with the woman he admitted to sleeping with...
Something doesn't smell right to me. You told him don't mind, but I think you really do mind. You need to tell him this. As far as trusting him is concerned, he has a little way to go before he can expect full trust from you. He has to earn it back, and he doesn't seem to be doing this, with the daily phone calls and meeting up with her. Is he just looking for a place to live until he can convince this other woman to take him on as her boyfriend? I don't know, but you need to decide what you want and what you're willing to accept from him.
All the best, and good luck with your talks and decisions with him.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (7 March 2008):
 No i wouldnt be happy with this at all. And bless her, your daughter would say its ok, she wants you both to stay together.
Its not normal and i wouldn't be happy about it.
C xxxxx
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