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*odgedakota
writes:I've been dating this girl the past four months and things were going great. Everytime we were together we had and amzing time and laughed a lot. We talked about the future and had met each others families. Both of our families like the two of us together and thought we were perfect for each other. She's told me more than a few times that I'm an amzing man and the best person she has ever dated and she wished that we had met earlier in life. We had talked about some past relationships and both asked each other if we felt like we ready for a new one and both agreed that we were. She did however, tell me that her the last relationship she was in ended badly and here ex hurt her more than any other man in her life. They had been broken up 3 months prior before I met her and she had struggled with the break up. She didn't know why she felt so bad about the break up because the guy didn't have the same values and brought her down. She knew eventually it was going to end but she tried everything to make it work. Then one day he broke up with here without and explanation and broke her heart. Then she met me and things were great until he contacted her a few weeks ago begging her to give him another chance. She told him no but didn't tell him she was dating someone so he kept calling. She is now confused, doesn't know what to do because she cares about me and asking for some time to get through this and recover from the past relationship. How could someone be interested in going back to an ass**#* ex when she has a great guy waiting and wanting her. What should I do? the ex is still calling and she says she needs to talk to him to get closure and move on. I'm confused, do I let here go and tell her to call me when she's ready or do I fight by showing her how much I care? Please help.Dazed and confused
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reader, dodgedakota +, writes (8 March 2008):
dodgedakota is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI meant to put "Him" down not "Her" at the end of the title. Sorry.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (7 March 2008):
 Hi
If he broke her heart, 3 months wasn't long enough to 'greive' to be honest.
She certainly doesn't sound like she used you to get over him, but obviously she has realised now, she wasn't over him when she met you.
Its a shame, because if you only had a bit more time, before he contacted her, she might of recovered from him enough to say thanks but no thanks to him.
The only reason someone goes back to a relationship with someone thats treated them bad is because they dont know how to be in a decent relationship. It throws them. They are used to the rollercoaster. If everything is perfect, it doesn't feel 'normal' to them.
If it was me, i wouldn't be fighting for her. If she is even thinking about going back to him, he's not history, and he is able to pull her strings. What kind of relationship is that going to be for you? Very soul destroying i should think.
She sounds like she has some issues she needs to sort out before she's ready for you or anyone.
Good luck.
C xxxxxx
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