A
female
age
22-25,
anonymous
writes:This is a question I suspect I already know the answer to but would like to ask anyway.My ex bf and I were together close to three years. He cheated on me in the beginning of the relationship. I forgave him and we moved on. I now found out that he had been lying and cheating on me for all the three years. My question here is could he have loved me/cared for me at all? How could he come home to me after being with other women- why? He continued doing things for me and when I asked him why he bothered since he was clearly interested in those other women, all he said was because he liked doing things for me. Does that even make any sense? How do you justify cheating on someone and then doing 'stuff' for them cause you like it?
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female
reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (24 May 2008):
 Nightmare. Well i guess there are guys out there, and ive had one of them myself, that had a use for everyone in their life. But it sounds like he possibly liked the stable home life, but wanted the thrills of something new too. Cake and eat it sprngs to mind.
C xxxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 May 2008): No, strange as it sounds- I trusted him completely. Even after he betrayed my trust the first time. In my opinion, it would've been better to break up with me. Tell me straight that he was interested in seeing other women. Three years is too long to be lying to someone and taking them for a ride. So he did care for the things he was getting from me and not me?
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reader, Ask oldersister  + ♥, writes (24 May 2008):
 I don't think things are that extreme. Yes, he cared for what he received from you and wanted to keep that going- those things he did required less effort and strength on his part than being honest and committed. It was easy for him to do those little things. It probably got you off his back so he was free to see other women without you breathing down his neck and complaining- it was much more effective for him to get what he wanted doing what he did. He was just self serving.
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female
reader, hlskitten + ♥, writes (24 May 2008):
Hi
I have no idea, it certainly doesn't make any sense does it. Did you really have no inklings anything strange was going on? And little clues? Not even instincts? Usually us women have good instincts.
C xxxxx
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