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writes:I am happily married for nearly a year with my partner of almost 12 years and I love him lots. I am worried about the feelings I started to get for a guy at work. I am almost certain that this is just an infatuation but I feel so bad about this, as if I am cheating my husband in my head. The guy at work doesn't know about this but I feel like exploding because I can't talk to anyone about it, certainly not with my husband because this would hurt him so much. However, I have a hunch that he likes me.Thinking about this guy makes me feel like when my husband and I started to go out together....butterflys and such. He is like the exact opposite of my husband.I am extremely worried as I have never had this problem before and because the thoughts of cheating have crossed my mind or how it would feel to kiss the guy.Most of you will probably say that I should stop thinking about him etc, etc but I think the bigger problem is how am I going to suppress those feelings? I guess, being friends with this guy is not an option? Please help.
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reader, hlskitten  +, writes (24 May 2008):
 You already know the answer to that i reakon. Its a dangerous game trying to be mates. You know you dont want it to stay at that. Its good that you are worried about hurting your hubby. Surely thats an indication that you still love him? Maybe you're just a little bored. Would make much more sense to chat with your husband and work at putting a bit more spark into your marriage. Not moving onto something new, that will also eventually need working on like any marriage does after some time together.
Good luck. Hope you get it sorted.
C xxxxx
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