I had encounters, with a man I met on the internet, only for sex, I saw him, in the area where I live, my boyfriend does not know I did this, should I tell him before the internet guy, or someone else does? |
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writes:two years ago I met up with someone off the internet for sex. He said he was a virgin and so I agreed to be his first. We met up 4 or 5 times just for sex. I thought nothing more of it until now... My boyfriend and I have recently moved to a small town just outside of London due to his work. We were in a cafe the other day when I saw\ this man (also from Glasgow) from the internet! He didn't say anything, neither did I. I love my boyfriend dearly but really don't want to tell him about what I did as I'm so ashamed. However, I'd hate for my boyfriend to find out about my fling with this man from the net, from someone elseo- possibly the man from the net!can anyone help!!
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reader, ChiRaven  +, writes (21 August 2008):
 Your boyfriend doesn't think that he's your first lover, does he?You should probably just ignore the entire situation. If your former lover (or anyone else) brings up anything unpleasant, you can just say that the guy was someone you were involved with years ago, but that it didn't work out, and that apparently he still harbors some resentments about that fact. Just tell your guy to please ignore what the former guy says. After all, it's not really important to who you are now, is it?Don't feel a need to confess. Your boyfriend really probably doesn't want to hear it. Do you want details of his past involvements? So just let it be, and if pressed just dismiss it as something that was over a long time ago and the person who insists on dragging it up is just apparently carrying a grudge over something left over from that time, but you have no idea what.No big deal. It really isn't.
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reader, hlskitten +, writes (21 August 2008):
 You dont say if you was with your guy 2 yrs ago when it happened or not?I'm assuming you were. If so, is there a real danger that your guy will find out? If there isn't, and you know you would never cheat again, then i'm of the belief that if confessing something to someone is only to ease your concience, dont do it. If it isn't going to make their life better, dont do it. If there is a real chance he will be told by someone else, you might well be best to.Its gotta be your decision at the end of the day.2 years ago is quite a while. He hasn't found out yet has he.Good luckC xxxxx
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