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37yr old mum of 2 living in the Uk. Happily single. Too busy to date at the moment but tend to go out & socialise in the neighbourhood pub a stones throw from my house every saturday night.

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Why won't he just come back to me?

Q.   I was with my ex for almost 5 yrs and we were engaged to be married and have a daughter together. He left me over a year ago and started dating someone else within a couple months. For almost that whole relationship we've been sleeping together and ...

A.   30 September 2008: Because he doesn't have to! Why would you want him anyway, he is cheating on his girlfriend. Ever wondered if he has always been cheating on you the whole 5 yrs? Just curious. If you hadn't been giving him sex the last yr, he might well of come back... (read in full...)

I need help with my husband's child's mother before I hurt her!

Q.   Hi, everyone! ok i have a big problem. im married to a great man who has a child by another women. they had him when they were teenagers and now we are in our early 20's. the childs mother is crazy! my husband didnt have any parental rights {wasnt ...

A.   30 September 2008: I agree with emilysanswers. Because your husband pays child support that means the child has his name? Hang on, the mother is also paying child support everyday! So he has hers. It riles me when people bang on about being in debt and not being able... (read in full...)

Should I move in with him? My boyfriend says it's over if I don't....

Q.   I have been with my boyfriend for 5 years. He wants me to move in with him, but my family don't really like him and don't want me to. They say that I'm too young and that they don't think I'm ready. I originally said yes but when I told my Mam she ...

A.   30 September 2008: If you dont love the guy enough to put him before your parents, then i reakon you should let him go. He's been with you 5 yrs and wants a commitment. Thats normal, and 5 yrs is a long time to date before moving in together. Not many wait that ... (read in full...)

Is it normal to have sex after one week?

Q.   I have been going out with a girl for a week and we all ready had sex. Is that normal? She talks openly about it on the phone and I feel comfortable talking about it. She trusts me with some of her secrets and I told her mine because I can trust ...

A.   29 September 2008: You're both old enogh, not breaking any laws, and seem to really like each other, and it felt right? Whats wrong then? Sounds fine to me! Enjoy yourselves. C xxxx... (read in full...)

My bf is insisting I give up my chat room friends!

Q.   ok.. so here's the problem.. my boyfriend and I fight all the time! one of things that we are constantly arguing about is the fact that i like chat rooms and all that stuff.. he wants me to give up msn and my chat room and leave all the f...

A.   29 September 2008: Is it only an hour an evening? Only i used to love going in an msn chat room yrs ago and the guy i was dating at the time wasn't keen on it either. He never used pc's at all then. It wasn't the chat room he had the biggest problem with, it was msn ... (read in full...)

How can I help my friend to see the real truth?

Q.   My Girlfriend is in a relationship with a guy that is still living with his ex. He swears it is because of the laws in the state he is in. He tells her that he will lose his daughter if he tells his Ex about the current relationship. I think he is ...

A.   29 September 2008: Frustrating isn't it. Its usually easier to see whats what from the outside. Of course he's full of bull. And even if what he says is true, where does that leave your friend, being the other woman. Great prospect that is! She is being used and sure... (read in full...)

Our adult son is addicted to drugs and we cannot say no to helping him...how do we cope?

Q.   This about a parenting dilemma. I hope someone can come up with some good advice. My adult son is addicted to drugs. We tried to help him many ways. We never found out ,what happened in his life what made him turn to drugs.. We tried many ways to ...

A.   29 September 2008: Its a nightmare isn't it. My little bro who is 26 went bankrupt a few yrs ago because he basically ran up 20 grand of debt because of drugs. We have the most brilliant mum ever, and she is in the same position as you still. She used to give him mone... (read in full...)

He's 40, we met online and he says he loves me after only two weeks! How can this be possible?

Q.   Hi all, need some advice on a LDR. I am 38 yo woman and 5 yrs out of a long marriage ( and so far dateless) and recently met a 40 yo man online. He lives in the same country (though diff nationality) but is overseas on work contract at present. ...

A.   29 September 2008: Alarm bells would be ringing to me. No I dont think people can genuinely fall in love over a pc screen. Especially not within a week! He sounds a bit of a fantasist, and you sound like you are flattered. But I find it hard to get my head round lo... (read in full...)

My husband is texting a female colleague frequently, he says it's work-related. Should I be suspicious?

Q.   hi, my partner keeps texting a woman from his work, i have seen his phone bill and he has replied 250 texts in one month to her, should i be suspicious? he says he was only asking for her help at work when he didn't know how to do something....

A.   27 September 2008: Ask to see some of the txt, that amount sounds excessive for a long term couple let alone a co worker. Surely calls would be cheaper! On the other hand, he might of deleted them! Because his inbox was full of course! Hmmmm. Best thing to do is st... (read in full...)

What are your opinions on this dilema???

Q.   whats everyones views or opinions on this dilema can a marriage that was already on the rocks with one partner(the husband)not loving the other partner then having an affair,resulting in a baby with added financial implications SURVIVE?...

A.   26 September 2008: With a great deal of maturity on both sides and a lot of determination yes, although to get into all those predicaments in the first place one would have to question the maturity of the sperm donor! C xxxxx... (read in full...)

I like this girl but she's taken...

Q.   Hi, There is this girl at my college who I really like, i get the bus home with her a lot and I have become friends with her but i kind of want to ask her out. The problem is she is with someone else, obviously it is not possible at the moment fo...

A.   26 September 2008: She is taken....end of C xxxxx... (read in full...)

Do I owe him and his parents money now?

Q.   So my boyfriend and I had been going out for almost four years. We're in college, and during freshman and sophomore year I lived with him in his apartment because he'd wanted me to. I didn't have to pay any part of the rent and no one said anything ...

A.   26 September 2008: No! You owe him noting. The way he treated you was basically taking advantage of you. No you shouldn't of let him move in after he had said he was hooked on someone on line, but no one is perfect and you made an error of judgement. Your family were ... (read in full...)

I want to tell her that I'm not interested...but how can I do this in the nicest way possible??

Q.   Alright, so I'm wondering if there's a nice way of breaking it to a girl that you're not interested. Back in June I hooked up with this girl at a party, and all we ended up doing was kissing, because she said she wanted to take it slow, which I th...

A.   26 September 2008: Er like ja! Just tell her outright. Go down to Sports world and purchase a pair of balls. Inviting her over to your mates was just a laddish thing i guess? Blokes being blokes. This girl has respect for herself and isn't handing sex to you on a ... (read in full...)

My ex returned to his ex, it's getting confusing and I can't understand why suddenly he's insisting on being my friend!

Q.   I'm 27 and had been seeing this 19 year old guy for four months. We had quite a pleasant relationship and I grew very fond of him. Then suddenly he wanted to end it because he said that he can't handle the emotions. He comes from a tough past and ...

A.   26 September 2008: Possibly because he wants you as a fall back if it doesn't work with the ex? Guys can be attracted to complicated lives as well as women can, and I personally would steer clear of someone like that. But its easy for me to say. If its not comfy fo... (read in full...)

Can steroids be the cause of me not getting a hard-on?

Q.   Hi, I need litle bit advice. i cant get a hard on now. i use to be perfectly fine but then i was on steroids for a while for body building. since i have come off them i dont seem to get a hard on, i think its because of the steroids but i d...

A.   26 September 2008: I have heard before that people get 'performance problems' when they have taken steroids. But best thing is to go to your docs, or failing that, have a nose on google. Not always totally reliable, but you will know reputable sites if you do your ... (read in full...)

My ex sex buddy doesn't talk to me since he is hooking up with another coworker. I thought we were friends?

Q.   My coworker and I started messing around with no strings attached. I just broke up with my boyfriend about a month ago and am still in hopes of re-patching things up. However, one day we all went out and I invited one of my other girl co workers to ...

A.   26 September 2008: You're mad for getting into anything but platonic friendships if you have your sights set on getting back with your ex. This bloke knows that, has got in with someone else, likes her, and has lost interest in you now. He doesn't need a shag buddy, ... (read in full...)

Why is injustice allowed?

Q.   is this justice or what????sorry my question has got nothing to do with relationships..but, i just want to get this out of my chest! last year 2 of my cousins were driving around when they had an accident.the guy who hit them said that it was ...

A.   26 September 2008: Oh and this reminds me of a couple of yrs ago here, a multi millionaires son was driving his mums flash 4 wheel drive BMW wrecklessly and smashed into a toddler. The toddler is brain damaged now and needs 24 hour care for the rest of her life, I ... (read in full...)

Why is injustice allowed?

Q.   is this justice or what????sorry my question has got nothing to do with relationships..but, i just want to get this out of my chest! last year 2 of my cousins were driving around when they had an accident.the guy who hit them said that it was ...

A.   26 September 2008: Life sucks at times doesn't it, and isn't always fair. I hate all that 'not what you know but who you know' balls. The road traffic accident annoys the hell outta me too. People say, oh but such and such only got 2 yrs for rape etc etc why shou... (read in full...)

Is my wife cheating on me or not? I have to know!

Q.   My wife slept with someone behind my back some time ago. I found out about it, and I have forgiven her. Then more recently she saw the guy out in a bar, a chance meeting according to her, and talked with him. Again, I found out, she says, they just ...

A.   26 September 2008: 1 She's seeing this guy intimately. Impossible to answer acurately on a web site, BUT it looks very likely. Feeling she hadn't lived enough is a common one, I went through that 9 yrs after getting with my childrens dad, and it sucks because ... (read in full...)

I need to protect my son, and should I seek legal advice for our future?

Q.   Hi, I feel so weak, i need to protect my son. I live with my partner of 4 years and my 9 year old son from a previous marraige. Last night my partner prevented my son from using the toilet for 10 minutes because he was on the loo, then he had...

A.   26 September 2008: Because your son is only 9, I would be surprised if you had to sell up, I have a feeling your bloke would have an obligation to wait until your lad is atleast 16. But dont quote me on that, you will definately need to look into it. And yes, I would ... (read in full...)

My wife was not a virgin and this discovery has hurt me deeply. Please help!

Q.   my wife told me that she was not a virgin before we got married, myself was a virgin and only lost it to her.now we are married and truly love her but hurt her past and at times i illtreat her. so i will never experience breaking a virgin i ask ...

A.   26 September 2008: Whats the big attraction to wanting to be someones first? Atleast you can be assured that she wont ever wonder what its like with someone else. My ex hubby loved the fact he was my first, but it didn't actually do him any favours in the long term! C... (read in full...)

Getting very mixed signals from him, I wonder if I should just ignore him all together?

Q.   I had been out on a couple of dates with a guy I have known for a very long time. The third date involved him coming to my place for the weekend (he lived 60 miles away). We had a really nice weekend, went to the zoo, romantic dinners etc. As he ...

A.   26 September 2008: Maybe a gentle nudge, just so you get more feedback on the situation. Make a bit of effort to see if he will meet up again. Atleast you will know one way or the other. C xxxx... (read in full...)

Should I continue dating this new man? I still miss my ex!

Q.   Recently i got dumped by my boyfriend from whom i was in love, and even though i haven't seen him in a month neither talk to him i still miss him. I had lunch this thursday with another guy, he's really nice, a gentelman, he's what people would say ...

A.   26 September 2008: Its way too soon to think of getting with someone else, thats why you cant get to like this new guy. Why did you go out with someone new if you still have feelings for your ex? Its not very fair on the new guy. If people rush into something new when... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months yet he doesn't agree to change his relationship status to committed on his online profiles!

Q.   Please tell me if you think I'm being paranoid. My boyfriend snapped at me becuase he said someone changed his profile on some bebo thing to show that he's in a realtionship so when I said does it really matter he said yes it does because someone ...

A.   25 September 2008: Well by the sounds of it, from what you have put, it sounds like he wants to keep his options open. Date you, then see if anyone else comes along. From this side anyway. C xxxx... (read in full...)

I found flirtacious texts on his phone, he said he did it because we were on a break at that time, I understand that but can't get the texts out of my head!

Q.   Me and my boyfriend have been together for about 1yr 7 months.Last night i went through his phone i know this was wrong but... i found texts he sent about 3 months ago to this girl saying "i enjoyed our sexy kiss last night etc.... I got really ...

A.   25 September 2008: Doesn't hang about does he! Seems a tad quick to move on. I would be questioning why the guy gets in relationships in the first place. Doesn't sound like he can be single even for a week! But apart from that I wouldn't worry too much about the girl ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months yet he doesn't agree to change his relationship status to committed on his online profiles!

Q.   Please tell me if you think I'm being paranoid. My boyfriend snapped at me becuase he said someone changed his profile on some bebo thing to show that he's in a realtionship so when I said does it really matter he said yes it does because someone ...

A.   25 September 2008: Good thinking Boonridge McPhalify!... (read in full...)

How should I react or even think after finding an email he sent to an ex?

Q.   my fiance of 3 years sent an email to one of his old female friends, and ended the note with 'lets rekindle freindship or more'. how should i react or think?...

A.   25 September 2008: He's after more from her. Its a no brainer. C xxxx... (read in full...)

Would you say I was alcohol dependant?

Q.   I find I have alot more confidence when I have a drink in me, as I am usually shy and prefer to sit in the corner un-noticed. But as soon as I have a drink, I love meeting and chatting. Does this mean I am alcohol dependant?...

A.   25 September 2008: I wouldn't say so. If you need alcohol most days to block out issues going on, or have to have a drink when you get home from work for instance, i would say thats alcohol dependant. Not just when you go out. We can all find it a bit easier having a ... (read in full...)

How do I go about getting in touch with ex girlfriends?

Q.   I’ve been thinking about getting back in touch with my ex-girlfriends. My girlfriend is in touch with most of her ex-boyfriends and they chat casually once in a blue moon. I haven’t spoken to any of my ex-girlfriends since we broke up. It wo...

A.   25 September 2008: Sounds a bit like whats good for the goose etc. If you haven't got a natural friendship with any exes then I expect it wont happen. Some people dont do mates with exes, others do. I think its usually safer to be mates with an ex because you've tried ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend and I have been together for 9 months yet he doesn't agree to change his relationship status to committed on his online profiles!

Q.   Please tell me if you think I'm being paranoid. My boyfriend snapped at me becuase he said someone changed his profile on some bebo thing to show that he's in a realtionship so when I said does it really matter he said yes it does because someone ...

A.   25 September 2008: Slightly. Whats the big deal, he is in a relationship, why doesn't he state that on his profile. I would find that a bit odd. Because it is a bit odd. Any sane thinker is going to wonder if thats because he wants to keep his options open, and would ... (read in full...)

He threatened he'd stay in the rain, suicidal, so I invited him to my house where he continued his abuse, when I refused sex he said his ex was better, etc. Is this emotional blackmail?

Q.   Hello there, I have been with my boyfriend for almost 16 months now. When i first met him he was a depressant after splitting up with his ex girlfriend, i helped him through it and he has been on and off them for some time know. He often says he ...

A.   24 September 2008: He was so suicidal that he had sex on his mind. Sometimes i struggle to understand why people cant see when someone is taking the p. Of course he's emotionally blackmailing you. C xxxxx... (read in full...)

I feel like being the "other man", what to do? Give her a reasonable time to leave her controlling boyfriend? (she said she would, but it has not happened yet)

Q.   I met this girl some months back. Initially we were friends and spent lot of time together. Then, she slowly disclosed her problems with her controlling long distance boyfriend. I helped her out as much as possible, and in the process we fell in ...

A.   24 September 2008: The best of bad is to forget her and move on. Cant think of any other that will turn out any better tbh. C xxxx... (read in full...)

Dated him a year and always felt like he was cheating..I just found out he was married!

Q.   I was going with a guy and we just celebrated our 1 year anniversary on the 11th of September 08. I always thought that he was cheating on me because of the lack of time spent together with me and lack if any phone calls from him. I would tell him ...

A.   24 September 2008: So basically you have good instincts. Just didn't trust them too well. You can use that for the future. Blimey i would be so mad though, i expect you are! Just try and think what a lucky escape you had. Plenty of women dont pick up on signals,... (read in full...)

Are his emails to his ex empty flirtation or leading to a fling?

Q.   I have been seeing my boyfriend for over a year, and I am besotted by him. However, he is a very passionate and attractive man and had a number of romantic flings while with his long-term ex gf of 15 yrs (girl A - who he says he was with for the ...

A.   24 September 2008: At the start of your question, it sounded pretty harmless, even emailing her now n then didn't ring alarm bells. She's abroad after all. Whats a tad worrying is the fact he didn't mention you when suggesting the sofa thing. Even so it still soun... (read in full...)

He accuses me of going on dating sites to meet men!

Q.   pls can someone tell me why my partner constantly accuses me of going on dating sites, meeting men and sleeping with them. i have in the past been to chat sites and chatted, flirted a little but that is all its been, and only went there when we fell ...

A.   24 September 2008: Major jealousy issues thats why. You are gonna spend all your time trying to prove you are worthy to this guy unless he gets some help to find out why he is so insecure. C xxxxx... (read in full...)

We broke up because he thinks I deserve better! How can I change his mind?

Q.   My boyfriend just broke up with me. He thinks i deserve better... he is still in school, and i graduated last year and got a good job. He feels he is not good enough for me, and last night told me he is putting his feelings aside and doing the ...

A.   24 September 2008: This is a classic excuse people give when they want to break up with someone, its usually a sign of a nice person. Doesn't want to offend by saying the relationship has run its course, so tend to say you're too good for them and could do better. D... (read in full...)

Could this be my period?

Q.   I've had all of the signs of getting my period, (I haven't started yet), and today I had a round, kind of biggish brown spot on my underpants. Is this my period?...

A.   24 September 2008: Sounds like its starting yes. C xxxx... (read in full...)

I've left him and now he says he won't see the children anymore. Have I made the wrong decision?

Q.   I left my husband of three years last weekend. We have two children together and I have a older daughter that he was parenting for 4 years. He says that I have broken up our family and he will not see the kids anymore. That if they want they can ...

A.   24 September 2008: If your arguing all the time, and the guy is on drugs, i would make the same decision myself! So thats that one sorted. As for him refusing to see the children, thats disgusting, and just about says a lot about the type of person he is. Could you ... (read in full...)

I'm 17 and I live with a 44 year old, but my family don't know!

Q.   im 17, with a 44 year old. i love him to bits and he's going through a divorce. he's got 2 kids - one just 3 weeks younger than me. im currently living with him, but my parents and freinds think im staying with a few mates i met at work. we have not ...

A.   23 September 2008: Its fairly common in this country 'iwannaloveme' for blokes in their 40's to be foolish enough to fancy girls the same age as their daughters. Usually its guys that aren't mature enough to cope with grown up relationships with women their own age ... (read in full...)

Can I talk to a lawyer?

Q.   My sons mother just started dating this guy whom i just had a physical fight with about 3 months ago. He has made several threats toward me and i have told her that i dont feel like my son is safe around him because he still has a grudge against me ...

A.   23 September 2008: What makes you think he will harm your son? Because you had a fight with him? Does that mean your son isn't safe with you either then? In which case taking the moral high ground gets a bit shakey. Not sure what reasons you think he's more risk than... (read in full...)

Do I risk our relationship and hurt his feelings or do I keep this to myself?

Q.   I've been with my bf for a number of years and we are childhood sweethearts. we're at the stage where we're both ready to get engaged and i don't think it will be long before he asks me to marry him. all sounds good but..... about 2 years ago, whi...

A.   23 September 2008: Doesn't sound much to me like you are deciding wheather to tell him or not because of him. It sound more like its all to do with you. You say you're quite sure he wouldn't split with you, but know that it will devestate him. So wheres the bene... (read in full...)

Getting very mixed signals from him, I wonder if I should just ignore him all together?

Q.   I had been out on a couple of dates with a guy I have known for a very long time. The third date involved him coming to my place for the weekend (he lived 60 miles away). We had a really nice weekend, went to the zoo, romantic dinners etc. As he ...

A.   21 August 2008: Why not just stay mates then? It doesn't sound to me like he is the user type, having said what he said the next day. When we are drunk we do some daft things dont we. Why think he was testing you? If he isn't ready for a relationship and he knows... (read in full...)

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