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As a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies! Which one do I choose?

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Question - (21 August 2008) 8 Answers - (Newest, 21 August 2008)
A male United States age 41-50, *nemy writes:

I started dating a co-teacher at my school 3 months ago, I seduced her the first time we went out and started making trips back to my house with her even during working hours. The thing is that I already had a girl friend working in a nearby city who I'd been with for almost 2 years. I told my new gf, I was single and didnt have any other girls. I was also dating a couple of other girls besides her and my girlfriend. The co-teacher was afraid of getting a broken heart and told me that she felt like she was falling in love with me after a couple months and was worried that I would leave her like her bf had in the past for a different woman. I told her that I loved her and only wanted her. Three days later she's waiting at my house and she inspects my cell phone and finds text messages I'd been writing with 3 other girls that indicated we had some intimate attraction together. She wrote me a note and left and said she cannot see me anymore. I called and picked her up and took her back to my house making excuses for what I had done and was also angry at her for going through my private phone. She said that she forgived me and we made intimate contact. For the next week she said she loved me but she was very confused. She said I had many problems but still can't stop seeing me. She then calls me and I'm at my other girls house and I told her I'd call her back. When I did she said she didnt love me anymore. At first I was really angry at her and called her names, and then realized that I was the bad guy and she was the innocent victim so I wrote her an apology saying I would give her space and just wanted to be friends because she was the only one I could share my true feelings with. The problem is that I desire her now more then ever and I really miss her and can't get her out of my mind. What should I do if I want her to fall in love with me again. We still work together, should I just let her recover and find a new man that will treat her better or continue to pursue her? I'm really confused and as a man I just can't resist all these beautiful ladies I wish I could love all of them? Please help!

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2008):

TELLULAH agony auntOh good,

It doesnt matter that I spelt it wrong then. LOL

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2008):

hlskitten agony auntYou cant have what you want this time so its made you angry?

Haha ok this thread is a hoax. No one can be so dysfunctional in real life i'm sure

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A female reader, TELLULAH United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2008):

TELLULAH agony auntErm!!!!

You are a teacher, shouldnt you have a little self control over what you do to other people?

If you really are a teacher, I asume you must have some level of intelligense (maybe spelt wrong, but I'm not a teacher) so therefore you know that this is an awfull way to behave towards a person.

Personally I think you are selfish.

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A male reader, enemy United States +, writes (21 August 2008):

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Do you think if I pursue her more and tell her how much I only love her it could change her mind, or would ignoring her and being angry when I see her work better?

I know I'm not the perfect man, I'm just a victim of my own instinctual drive, but it makes me angry I can't have her back and I do love her!

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A female reader, hlskitten United Kingdom +, writes (21 August 2008):

hlskitten agony auntYou're a playa basically then. And as soon as they decide they dont want you, it turns you on so you are off chasing them again.

I feel for you, its going to take a lot to work through that personality trait.

But its a shame you haven't got the ability to put this girls feelings up there and you only concentrate on your own. I mean, the poor girl said she didn't want to be hurt again like her ex did, and you lied to her and played her like a fiddle.

I cant say anymore really because you are going to put this poor woman off men for life because you dont seem to have the maturity to have a normal adult relationship. And thats a shame.

C xxxxx

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A male reader, Replacement Canada +, writes (21 August 2008):

Replacement agony auntMaybe you should choose abstinence for a while. Just a suggestion, break it off with all of these women and give yourself a few months to calm down and clear your head. Because I think you are in too deep in the mess you've created. Start from fresh a few months down the line, try your best to be open and honest with whomever you decide to date at that time.

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A female reader, PsyCookie United States +, writes (21 August 2008):

PsyCookie agony auntYou HAD to see this comming.

Sorry, but you really don't deserve her. In your writting, you realized you had done wrong but you never wished a desire to change, not even at least for her. You even blamed her for your own mistakes.

So my advise is to leave her alone and let her find a man that truely cares for her and will love her and be devout to her unlike you ever were. You already have broken her heart, don't ever do it again.

You lost her because of your wrongdoins and she will stay lost if you continue on doing this.

And please, don't use the term "man" so loosely. What you did to her and your other girlfriend is nothing manly at all. It's called cheating, something a true man would never do.

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A female reader, anonymous, writes (21 August 2008):

There's nothing wrong with sleeping around, man or woman. The major problem I have and most people will, is the fact you are messing with all these women heads. You are lieing to them and giving them false hope. This makes you a class A creep who other women warn us about. If you are not able to fall in love, sad for you but so what?? you need to start tuning into your feelings and start being upfront with these women.

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