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37yr old mum of 2 living in the Uk. Happily single. Too busy to date at the moment but tend to go out & socialise in the neighbourhood pub a stones throw from my house every saturday night.

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How do I make my boyfriend realise that I'm more important than anything else and to quit smoking?

Q.   my boyfriend likes to smoke but i dont want him to smoke.every now and then so i permitted him to smoke once in 2 months..but he cant wait...for him smoke is more important than me..i said him that i dont need him if he cant live without ...

A.   15 September 2008: Hang on a mo, you dated a guy that smokes even though you dont like it? This is a no brainer really, if you dont like him smoking and HE wants to smoke, then its not going to work is it. Its not as black n white as smoking being more important than ... (read in full...)

Do you think he doesn't want to know?? Should I text again??

Q.   Hi all, Im 34 have 2 children and have been seperated from my husband for 3 months. i went out last weekend and met this guy there was instant physical attraction between us. We exchanged numbers and spent all evening together. he is 4 years young...

A.   13 September 2008: I'm hazzarding a guess here but he might of just been up for the ride to be honest. Doesn't sound like he's all that keen for anything long term. All i will say is be caucious with a guy thats younger and doesn't have kids. I dated someone 10 yrs ... (read in full...)

Do you think he will ever realise he has made a mistake and come back??

Q.   My husband divorced me after 16 years leaving me and the children citing that he wasn't happy and that there must be more to life etc. I was terribly hurt. Since then he hasn't bothered with the children and although he is very well paid it has been ...

A.   13 September 2008: If he's going through a mid life crisis then its possible he will see that the grass isn't greener and want to come back at some point. But if he has fallen out of love with you, he wont come back. I wouldn't of thought anyway. But it drives me mad ... (read in full...)

I don't want to push him into a relationship (he's freshly divorced) but I can't "hang around" indefinitely. He said while drunk that he didn't want to make me suffer. We haven't had sex yet. Any thoughts?

Q.   I've been seeing this guy now and again for the past year. It started out as a friendship but last year was difficult because he was going through a difficult divorce and he was quite distressed about everything. His wife told him that he had made ...

A.   12 September 2008: He doesn't sound ready, its as simple as that, from what you had put there anyway. When he was drunk that was different, i could do and say loads when i'm drunk, then regret it the next day, i have done in the past. You learn the older you get i th... (read in full...)

Before we marry he wants me to sign a prenuptial contract, my heart says yes but my pride says no!

Q.   Im in my early twenties, my partner is in his thirties. basically we are getting married next year but before we do he wants me to sign a pre nup, i am quite offended by this as now i believe he doesnt trust me. his not a millionaire but has his own ...

A.   11 September 2008: If you want to marry him yes. If he bought the house, his deposit etc, and started up his business, its just sensible to sign a pre nup. Its not like he's being negative, no one is psychic, and i doubt many people get married thinking they will get ... (read in full...)

What could these stomach pains be?

Q.   Hey was just wondering what this could mean? I have real bad stomach pain like cramping and in the lower back of my hips. Today when I was doing the dishes my stomach touched the sink just a little bit and it really hurt. I also went to sit on a ...

A.   11 September 2008: You're not mid cycle by any chance are you? Could be ovulation pain. Was reading the other day about a few women that get it bad, just rang a bell, especially the bit about the pain in the tummy when sitting down, they mentioned that. C xxxxx... (read in full...)

I am thirteen, and have had my period for a while now, I want to use tampons, my mother is strongly opposed to my use of them, what is wrong with tampons at my age?

Q.   Well I use tampons secretly behind my moms back. I find pads uncomfortable. I asked when I can use tampons and she tod me when you're WWWWWAAAAAAYYY older! She's afraid I'll hurt myself (im 13!) and that I'm too small to use something "big". AND ...

A.   11 September 2008: She is against them because she doesn't trust that you will remember to change/take the last one out i expect. You could get Toxic shock syndrome. I would like my daughter to use tampons bacause i happen to believe they are cleaner and more comf... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a compulsive liar, he said he cannot stop lying so I broke up with him. Good decision?

Q.   Hi I really need some advice. Me and my boyfriend were going out for 8 months, but he was a compulsive liar. We have sat down and he has admitted the lying but says he cant stop it. He has told me every lie hes told. But he admitted to texting a ...

A.   10 September 2008: What you're experiencing is instincts. Regardless of what yarn he spins you about fighting for you sweetheart. C xxxxx... (read in full...)

I love this girl who is very abusive, and controlling, I have broken up with her, she makes her way back, she has hit me, how do I end this completely?

Q.   Basically Iv been dating a girl on and off for about 4 months now, and she's spoken to me like dirt for pretty much the whole time, except for the first 2 weeks when I met her. I really want to end it, and I have 9 times now, but everytime I do she ...

A.   10 September 2008: Bubbloo is right. The alarming thing is, on the outside we can see how bizarre this situation is. But you wont. Lots of us have been there where we are getting these alarm bells ringing, almost telling us quietly that this 'possibly' isn't right. ... (read in full...)

I am eleven years old, and I can't stop thinking about sex, and having sex, how can I stop this?

Q.   Hey aunts and uncles im 11 and lately i have been really into sex and i want to have sex really bad. Any ideas on how to stop this feeling?...

A.   10 September 2008: DIY? Just be careful hun. My brother is 26 now, but he was thinking like you at your age and became a father just before he turned 15! Please be careful. Its against the law and can lead to allsorts of problems if you cross the line. My brot... (read in full...)

I cannot be comfortable with my lover's past, yet we may have a future. What can I do?

Q.   my gf and i have been together for a year now, and all the while i have been trying to deal with the demons of her past, namely the 11 other men she has slept with. she was at an all female boarding school till the age of 18, and between then and ...

A.   10 September 2008: Depends what you term as a slut. Maybe she has a colourful past. So what. That means nothing. Well, it probably does actually, but all in your favour! I had only slept with 2 blokes by the time i was 29, 1 of them i married and the other i spent 9 ... (read in full...)

I love this girl who is very abusive, and controlling, I have broken up with her, she makes her way back, she has hit me, how do I end this completely?

Q.   Basically Iv been dating a girl on and off for about 4 months now, and she's spoken to me like dirt for pretty much the whole time, except for the first 2 weeks when I met her. I really want to end it, and I have 9 times now, but everytime I do she ...

A.   10 September 2008: You stop going back to someone because you are scared to be on your own thats what. Have some more pride! And more backbone! You say you had a new girlfriend. How do you get a new girlfriend that quick? This isn't mature 'love', its immature 'lov... (read in full...)

I like this guy, we did not date, we kissed and had sex, now he flirts with other girls and I feel used, what do you think?

Q.   i really need help. i really fancy a boy and im not sure if he actually does like me, he flirts with me and kisses me at random moments, sometimes holds my hand. and were not even going out. He also keeps asking me to have sex with him alot, i did ...

A.   10 September 2008: He likes picking you up and putting you down. The power gives him a buzz. But unless he is way older than you, its very unlikely he is ready for anything serious, and likes to play the field. Best thing is to not hand sex to someone on a plate. Wait... (read in full...)

He called me months after the break up and said he missed me but never called since. Why is he behaving this way?

Q.   Why do men try to control a woman..I was dating this guy who broke up with me 3 months ago I never tried to contact him and then a week ago he called and said he misses me and wants to take things slow...so one night he called and that same nigh...

A.   10 September 2008: Is he actually still alive? Have you checked?! He might of had a row with his current beau. In fact thats about all i can think of to be honest. Sees you as miss dependable, testing things to see if you are still interested and if he still has the ... (read in full...)

My boyfriend is a compulsive liar, he said he cannot stop lying so I broke up with him. Good decision?

Q.   Hi I really need some advice. Me and my boyfriend were going out for 8 months, but he was a compulsive liar. We have sat down and he has admitted the lying but says he cant stop it. He has told me every lie hes told. But he admitted to texting a ...

A.   10 September 2008: Its easy to say from this side of the fence but yes! I think you have had a lucky escape. But its a tough pill to swallow for you because you are really into the guy! If he is a compulsive liar then get out, or get used to not knowing where yo... (read in full...)

Am I about to start my periods?

Q.   I am 10 yrs old, I have got a white discharge, pubic hair, even I get sweat in my armpits. Does that mean I am going to start my period?...

A.   10 September 2008: My daughter is 11 and a half and a skinny minni! So I am not expecting her to get her periods for a year or more yet, even though a lot of her peers at school have already started theirs. But she doesn't get discharge yet and is only just star... (read in full...)

Does this sound like something that's beyond hormonal problems?

Q.   I'm on the birth control pill Desogen and have been taking it every month for 18 months now. For the first like 17 months I had virtually zero adverse symptoms, but this past month was a nightmare. I felt nauseous pretty much every single day, had ...

A.   10 September 2008: The trouble with contraception is it can be fine for so long, then completely go t*** up all of a sudden. My sister was using the mirhina (sp) coil for 2 or 3 yrs perfectly fine, thats got hormones in, then suddenly started getting spotting. Now for ... (read in full...)

It's happened again. I'm lost and alone, no hope and no money, how do I cope?

Q.   Hello. I have just moved back in with my ex again (a couple of months ago). As ever to get me back he said he wanted babies and a home together. Instead I have ended up spending my savings while sitting in his bachelor place waiting for him to join ...

A.   10 September 2008: Its horrible when you come out of it worse than the previous time you split. I'm sure we all go through that even if its only once, its mighty frustrating. I remember ending it with a guy because he lied, then i let him manipulate us back together, ... (read in full...)

I was almost hit by my boyfriend - where do we go from here?

Q.   I am in an overwhelming state of mind and don't really know what to do next. Here is what happened... A couple nights ago my boyfriend (of six years) and I had a casual night out. Dinner with his mom, and then we rented movies - but before we we...

A.   10 September 2008: He's probably under a lot of stress. BUT be very careful. I was with someone 2 yrs before they grabbed me by the throat. We had split by this point and needless to say, it was never an option to get back with him, especially after that. But i dont ... (read in full...)

Do guys like curly hair, or should I straighten it?

Q.   ok.. so i have pretty long hair. it goes down to my ribs. my hair is naturally very, very curly! usually i just scrunch my hair and work with my curls.. but lately like halfway through the school day, my hair gets very frizzy. it bugs me alot. i ...

A.   8 September 2008: curlphobic men? thats probably the single most ridiculous thing ive ever read on here lol Ive NEVER in my life heard of a bloke that HATES curly hair. My little bro likes girls with straight poshed up tidy hair, but he's dated curly haired girl... (read in full...)

I'm worried about her tendency to lie about big and small things. How do I deal with this?

Q.   I've been engaged for a few months now and my fiance stays in another town. I love with all my heart and I am looking forward to our future together. There is however one issue that worries me. She has the tendency of lying about issues both ...

A.   8 September 2008: Yes dont get married yet! If you seriously cant ask her due to not wanting to upset her, i dont think your communication is too good? Just a guess. But why would anyone marry someone that lies. And i expect if she lies about big and small things, ... (read in full...)

Do guys like curly hair, or should I straighten it?

Q.   ok.. so i have pretty long hair. it goes down to my ribs. my hair is naturally very, very curly! usually i just scrunch my hair and work with my curls.. but lately like halfway through the school day, my hair gets very frizzy. it bugs me alot. i ...

A.   8 September 2008: Oh and by the way, lots of guys love curly hair, reminds them of a pretty china doll! Guys said they preferred my hair curly to straight. I think we suit what god gaves us to be honest. C xxxx... (read in full...)

Do guys like curly hair, or should I straighten it?

Q.   ok.. so i have pretty long hair. it goes down to my ribs. my hair is naturally very, very curly! usually i just scrunch my hair and work with my curls.. but lately like halfway through the school day, my hair gets very frizzy. it bugs me alot. i ...

A.   8 September 2008: Welcome to my world! I used to hate my curly hair, like yours, it goes frizzy. Unfortunately naturally curly hair tends to be dry too. So any moisture in the air makes it frizzy. I use curl defining moouse, serum then diffuse dry it. Then you can ... (read in full...)

Does it sound like he is in a serious relationship?

Q.   if a man is using adultfinder a site in which the people on it are looking for sexual encounters does it sound like he is in a serious relationship or is a man probably single? ps he is not my boyfreind....

A.   8 September 2008: Could be either. I wouldn't assume he was married OR single. Just a sex add...no i better not lol C xxxx... (read in full...)

Does it matter if her 'lover' is 'smaller' than her husband?

Q.   Hi. Do you think a woman would be disappointed if she was to have an affair with a man and discover that his penis was smaller than that of her husband? What a sad question! Anyway - I look forward to your ridicule/replies! Many thanks!...

A.   7 September 2008: Maybe, if she's having the affair for sex reasons. If she has feelings for the guy, it probably wouldn't matter. Someone we're in a long term relationship it would possibly matter less on the size of their bits, i would say anyway! C xxxxx... (read in full...)

Am I shallow because I found him physically unattractive?

Q.   Am I being shallow? I have just met a guy for the first time on a dating site. We got on famously and really gelled with personality. The problem is, I actually thought he was physically very unattractive to me and didn't fancy him at all. He wants ...

A.   6 September 2008: Can i just say i met a guy a few yrs ago, that i didn't fancy at all pysically. Swapped numbers the night we met, txt a few times after, didn't feel very enthusiastic about meeting him again, but did, a month later. Can i just say, after that he ... (read in full...)

Would the test result be positive even if you weren't pregnant?

Q.   I was just wondering because I was a little confused and curious; If you are taking the contraceptive pill, it tricks your body into thinking that youre pregnant by the changes in hormones. What would happen if you were to take a pregnanc...

A.   6 September 2008: No disrespet anon but i went to the docs after having a positive result only to be informed it didn't need confirming with their tests as they were all exactly the same ones used. C xxxx... (read in full...)

My man has lied a lot about his "hobbies" and I don't know what to do about this.

Q.   My man is not descriptive of his attraction regulars of women or new interests, he claims to be pristine as men go, he has lied alot and done repeated hidden female related actions (porn , small mistakes with othr women) I have found out on own or ...

A.   6 September 2008: You wont trust him because you will be wondering what is true and whats a lie. I tried explaining this to a guy i finished with once. He lied about a couple of things, and even though he wasn't admitting it at the time, i knew he was lying. And the ... (read in full...)

Would the test result be positive even if you weren't pregnant?

Q.   I was just wondering because I was a little confused and curious; If you are taking the contraceptive pill, it tricks your body into thinking that youre pregnant by the changes in hormones. What would happen if you were to take a pregnanc...

A.   6 September 2008: Well apparently you cant get a false positive, only a false negative. As for if that applies to pill users i dont know. C xxxxx... (read in full...)

It's really hard for me to socialize and it's depessing me. Please help me!

Q.   Hello. Well, i need help to get my life going. I have hardly any friends and spend most of my time alone in my flat. I've never had a girlfriend (yeah I'm a virgin as well) and in mid-twenties it don't seem right to be this way. I just want life to ...

A.   6 September 2008: Google Avoidant Personality Disorder hun. And go from there. C xxxxx... (read in full...)

Is it ok for a 15-year-old to have sex with a 26-year-old?

Q.   Is it ok for a 15 year old male (me) to go out with a 26 year old women and have sex?? Any advice?...

A.   5 September 2008: Not in the Uk its not ok im afraid hun. C xxxx... (read in full...)

He says he flirts with other girls because he wants them to feel happy. Am I being unreasonable for not believing this?

Q.   heya last night i found out that my bf of a month likes to flirt wiv other gals i dont mind this but he likes to flirt alot he tells every gd luking gal he talks to ow gawjus they are he seys its just the way he is he seys he likes to make thm feel ...

A.   5 September 2008: I dont know your age but, i love the Darling buds of may that used to be on, with David Jason in. Pop and Ma Larkin in their 40's/50's, he was a terrible flirt! Used to love making the ladies days by making them feel good. Ma Larkin didn't mind ... (read in full...)

What is the contraceptive coil like?

Q.   I am living with my boyfriend and we both have no STDs but we use condoms for contraceptive purposes. However, I do not like the feel of them as I find the way they crease uncomfortable. Plus I find them a hassle to always think about, they decrease ...

A.   5 September 2008: I got on quite well with the coil. The old fashioned one, not the marina (sp)? one. It was fairly painless to have fitted. I never had any problems with it, and yes it made my periods a bit heavier and longer but apart from that, i would highly ... (read in full...)

I'm fed up thinking about my ex and I don't like him anymore. Why can't I let him go?

Q.   How can I just stop making myself feel awful thinking about my ex boyfriend all the time? It's been 11 months since the break up. Happened because I found out he'd been seeing other women throughout our 2 n half years together. It completely ...

A.   5 September 2008: Maybe because you haven't experienced a proper decent relationship to compare it to? This guy isn't going to make you happy, that much you know, and thats why you dont particularly like the guy. Only thing i can say is well done for getting ... (read in full...)

Is true happiness just a myth, will nothing ever be okay??

Q.   Hey everyone, this is for all of you, ive recently became part of ''Dear cupid'' and been reading all of these articles, written by guys, girls, of all ages and i just wonder so much of the time, how could a world as cruel as ours even exist?? ...

A.   5 September 2008: My daughter is 11 and she asked me the other day why are people so horrible? We have been through a bit of a tough time with someone we thought was genuine but wasn't. But life isn't perfect and no one is perfect. I happen to think if you see some ... (read in full...)

My ex has a girlfriend, but still has sex with me. What do I do?

Q.   Hi, I still love my ex but he's got a girlfriend and he keeps coming up to me for sex. He keeps telling me that he loves me. I have a daughter by him, and i'm not taking the pill. The sex with him is great. What do i do? ...

A.   5 September 2008: You start growing up, or going to the sports shop and purchasing a pair of balls and take back some control from the father of your child, who is holding all the cards at the moment. And getting pregnant isn't going to tie him down any sooner. I... (read in full...)

When I tell him of the hurt he's caused me, he passes the blame to me! Why is he doing this?

Q.   I have a friend who says he is in love with me. We are really great friends, however, i am not sure if i am ready for a relationship. What I can't understand is that whenever I try to speak to him about some emotional hurt he has caused to me, he ...

A.   5 September 2008: I will second what emilysanswers has said! For sure! Been there done that, bought the t shirt honey. Different reasons but none the less been there. If you're not ready for a relationship for whatever reason whatsoever, and you're voicing it, its ... (read in full...)

I'm disabled and can't date. Is it wrong to pay for sex?

Q.   Im disabled for 3 years now, is it wrong to pay for sex ive never had to resort to this but now because of my disability i cant get out to meet women so i feel that is the only answer...

A.   5 September 2008: I know of guys that aren't disabled but dont want to date so pay for sex. As long as you stay safe, wheres the harm? C xxx... (read in full...)

Do men who don't watch porn exist or should I give up and stay single?...

Q.   when I commit to a special man I hope to be his only and for him to get his sexual arousal from my body alone...is this too much to ask.....I cant imagine ever needing to look at another mans body for arousal once commited....and I cant imagine ever ...

A.   5 September 2008: Theres loads of guys that 'dont mind' porn. I dont think ive ever dated anyone that needs it to get them off, or watches any large amount of it. More take or leave it kind of thing. C xxx... (read in full...)

He lies to me constantly...is he cheating on me?

Q.   hi pls help, my head is a mess! iv been with my bf for 2months, he was in a r/ship for 6yrs b4 me, iv had doubts with trust becus he lies to me so much, once i was stoppin at his mates with him n they thought i was asleep n thy were talking about ...

A.   5 September 2008: Listen to your instincts. Alarm bells are ringing big time here, you have only been together 2 months and he is flat out lying? Thats even better going than an ex of mine! Do yourself a favour and avoid the rollercoaster you're heading for, and get ... (read in full...)

He is not sure he wants to be involved with someone who has kids. Should I move forward with this anyway?

Q.   I am 36 and met a man who is 49. We are both going through divorces and found comfort in each other. We have a lot in common and it is very easy to talk to him. I have told him things that I never told my husband in 18 years of marriage. He is ...

A.   4 September 2008: I would stick with friends. He is probably worried about taking on a couple of teens, which in theory is what he would be doing eventually. He might be thinking best not to even go there to start with. Which is a lot better than getting into ... (read in full...)

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