Is this young woman sincere or is she just playing games?
Q. Susan(32) is a woman I met last year(September 2007) and we went out for a couple of weeks in Early to mid June. She had known each other for months when we started dating. The dating started when a mutual friend suggested I ask Susan out as Sus...
A. 10 October 2008: I would say she doesn't want to date you, but wouldn't mind you as a friend. Why does that have to mean you're an ego boost for her? Not being funny but most women get hit on buy guys regularly, keeping you as a mate would serve no purpose other ... (read in full...)
I'm thinking of doing a spell to get my ex back. Am I wasting my money and do they work?
Q. I'm thinking of doing a spell on my ex to get him back, I'm wondering if they work? I've seen one I can get on the net which will cost around £25. I don't wanna waste my money but has anyone known them to actually work? ...
A. 10 October 2008: Wasting your money. Harry Potter isn't real. Do people actually pay for that sort of thing. Thats unreal.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
If my boyfriend fell asleep while I was giving him head, do I have the right to be pissed?
Q. If my boyfriend fell asleep while I was giving him head, do I have the right to be pissed?...
A. 9 October 2008: Too right! did happen to me once, even though he denied it, in fact it wasn't whilst I was doing something to him, it was when he was...well you get the picture. But to be honest, its no reflection on you, it is literally tiredness!
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex. I still love him, but I don't know why he is denying his feelings.
Q. I did something very wrong on tuesday night. Slept with my ex! He asked me to come around as friends and see him. then he asked for a cuddle. feelings between us were strong and one thing let to another. It was fantastic though. Felt just the sa...
A. 9 October 2008: Sorry to be blunt but people have helped you try to make sence of it before, but you didn't listen hunni. Everything everyone has said has been proved right. He is reeling you in, then when you show you care, he flings you back out again.
He's a hu... (read in full...)
Help me break up with him AGAIN... please?
Q. Kay , well ive been dating this guy for a year now and he wants to get married ... and im only 18 ! I cant get married !!!! Dont get me wrong ! I love him and everything but like Crap .... i need to focus on my life . AND ive already broken up...
A. 8 October 2008: Get a grip and just end it! Dont let someone keep manipulating you to get back with them if you really dont want to.
Hows it gonna be if you actually go down the road of organising a marriage?? How terrible!
I got married at 18, people told me ... (read in full...)
I don't trust him and I'm getting paranoid. Can this work?
Q. I'm in love with a man I don't trust. I check his e-mails behind his back, I go through his phone, I am just so paranoid!! I never used to be this way but he cheated once and I just can't seem to get over it. Do you think there is any point carrying ...
A. 8 October 2008: Soon as someone lies to you or deceives you, its hard to get things back on track. Basically it wont work if you dont trust him no. You dislike him because you resent his cheating making you feel this way.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
My husband says it is all my fault. I think it is him. Can this be fixed?
Q. Help my husband of ten years is not the same person. We fight almost everyday and a few times they have become physical in front of our two kids. He says it is all my fault and that if I was to change and get on some meds. that it would fix ...
A. 8 October 2008: Arrrgggg this isn't healthy for your children! Time out time out! Dont mean to be harsh and none of us are perfect, kids need to know we all disagree at times, but any violence that starts happening when there are kids in the mix, needs nipping in ... (read in full...)
He says spending less time together will save the relationship. Is he being honest here?
Q. My bf of 7 months, said to me the other weekend that we need to spend time apart so like instead of me seeing him everyday i will see him on the weekends, tuesdays and thursdays and sometimes fridays nites after we both finish work,we use to argue a ...
A. 8 October 2008: Only you know if you can trust him, but assuming his age is similar to yours, its usual for young people to like some space. I suggested this to a guy I was dating once, and he took offence. But if you're arguing, like we were, it could be because ... (read in full...)
Did my ex return to me because I paid someone to do spells??
Q. this is a bit of a random question but, i broke up with my ex last year and even after having no contact from all that time i couldnt move on, although he had, so i decided casting a few spells would bring him back to me, i payed someone to do it, ...
A. 8 October 2008: Personally I dont think 'spells' work no. I do however belive in the saying 'what will be will be' so I bet fate played a part here, thats what i reakon happened anyway hun.
Its all good.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
What if he caught an STD from his previos partners? How should I express my worry without hurting him?
Q. Hello I need an advice, I am 27 years old and my boyfriend is 29, we have been together for 8 months, we started to have sex after the third month ( yes I know, I made to poor guy waited too much) but we always have sex using condom, he is my second ...
A. 8 October 2008: Its mega sensible to both have tests before going bare back! There is noting wrong with doing this, and most sane people will do it these days. Its almost essential. He definately shouldn't take offence.
The way to broach it is say to him, its not ... (read in full...)
Is there any point in discussing what we each want out of this relationship when I cant see it going anywhere? Should I just break it off?
Q. I think my relationship is in trouble. You know how you can go out with someone and it's pretty good, not too dreadful, and you start dating regularly, and it just stays sort of OK and doesn't really go anywhere? That's how I feel. I've been...
A. 8 October 2008: I had that before. Was with a guy 10 months, and it was ok, he was ok, but I just didn't see it going anywhere. It wasn't happening for me. Its best to be upfront and honest, for your own sake as well as hers. 5 months is quite early days, but we ... (read in full...)
Should I be angry at my husband? He sent a nude pic of someone else's wife to a friend!
Q. Ok, so my husband and I are both military he is away in training and was using another man's phone (Joe) when he came across pics of that man's wife naked. He then sent them to another one of his friends (Bob). That friend then turned around and ...
A. 8 October 2008: Blokes banter! Totally out of order in that respect, but if the woman in question doesn't care, then I wouldn't worry personally. Although I expect like me, you would be horrified if it was yourself! Strange senses of humours blokes have at times ... (read in full...)
I don't know if it's right for me to always ask my boyfriend for sex, as I am always in the mood, could he lose interest in me?
Q. I have a sexual problem: i dont know if its right to always ask my boyfriend to have sex with me and i want him to do it everyday how can i stop this before he loses intrest in me?...
A. 8 October 2008: Theres not many blokes that wouldn't like sex everyday! BUT the only hazard you have to be aware of is him ending up feeling like a sex machine, and wondering if you are only with him for the ride! Yes guys can feel like that too.
If you make him ... (read in full...)
We broke up because he had some really strange fetishes, are there others out there who enjoy these?
Q. My exboyfriend of 1 yr and I just broke up. He was into some really strange fetishes and over time I agreed to participate in them...things like spanking him, using a strap on with him, peeing in his mouth while he performed oral sex on me, and then ...
A. 8 October 2008: Ive heard worse!
I guess the only trouble with fetishes and acting them out, they get boring after a while and people need more. And regular sex can seem mundane in comparison. But what you suppose to do, not do those things you like because of that... (read in full...)
How long after removing a contraceptive implant, can we start trying for a baby?
Q. hey all, i want to try for a baby but i have the implant in do you know if i take it out will it take a while before i can start trying please help....
A. 8 October 2008: Not as far as I know. When I had mine taken out, it wasn't to have a baby, so that didn't apply. But as far as I know, fertility is restored straight away. I think the Injection is the one that takes about 3 months to get out the system.
Could alwa... (read in full...)
My husband's friends are "coming on to me" and it's making me uncomfortable.
Q. I'm not sure where to begin with this without making it a long drawn out story, so I'll do my best to make it short and sweet. My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years now and during that time we have aquired mutual friends. I'm not ...
A. 8 October 2008: Funnily enough I had a txt from that neighbour I mentioned this morning saying 'have I upset you because you're ignoring me' I said you're looking for someone to talk dirty to, i'm not interested, you're attached. And i'm not desperate. He replied ... (read in full...)
We've been fighting a lot so I went to stay at a hotel, he says he is sorry so should I get back?
Q. My husband amd me have been fighting a lot mainly about money. We just had huge fight about who's paying the bills. It got so bad he yelled I want a diorvce. I got so upset I went to stay at a hotel (I didnt tell him where im staying at.) Hes been ...
A. 8 October 2008: Sounds like you're living like flat mates? What ever happened to joint bank accounts? Doesn't anyone do that anymore? maybe i'm a bit behind with the times, i'm aware that might be the case, its been some yrs since I lived with anyone but the ... (read in full...)
I dislike that my girlfriend hides things from me but she does this because she knows I'm extremly jealous!
Q. my girlfriend knows me well and she knows i get jealous a lot...but its not to were i ask her to not talk to them or w.e...but she just doesnt tell me anything because she knows itll hurt me...I wont denie it..it will but i want to hear the ...
A. 8 October 2008: Its a catch 22 because its easier for her to not mention something than have you go off on one. But when you do find out, it makes you more insecure than ever, and the circle continues.
If you're telling her you would rather hear the truth (whi... (read in full...)
He's my ex, he's kissed another girl...but he says he loves me and I am still in love with him. Should I wait for him?
Q. Okay so me and my boyfriend broke up maybe 3 weeks ago or so, and we're still friends and see each other everyday. I am still head over heels for this boy and we were together for a year and 4 months, but sortly before we broke up he was chating ...
A. 8 October 2008: He's having his cake and eating it sweetheart and you're letting him.
3 weeks and he's in bed with someone new, then having sex with you? This isn't normal behaviour from someone that is suppose to love you?
Tough as it may be, the only way you'... (read in full...)
She's denying we're even friends because her boyfriend doesn't like it - I have feelings for her, what should I do?
Q. Theres this girl I like...she has a bf and well she likes me too but LOVES her bf...We are super close buddies...one day her bf found out I liked her and that she had feelings for me aswell...and now she denies our friendship too because her bf ...
A. 8 October 2008: Of course he's jealous. Thats perfectly reasonable. Wouldn't you be if you were dating her and he made it known he likes her and she likes him?
Sometimes we have to stop being selfish and leave people to get on with their relationships, and not try ... (read in full...)
Is economic security more important than being treated 'right'? Should I go back to the ex or stay with the BF?
Q. I wonder if it is worth it to dump my bf of 8 months to go back to my ex, who threw me out of his house, after leaving together for 2 years and being engaged for 4, and after all that he tells me he asked me to marry him because his aunt recommend ...
A. 8 October 2008: Only you can make that choice. In todays climate I would be inclined to go for the ex! But money wont make you happy way down the line. If they make you cringe when they touch you, how are you suppose to have a baby with them, and talking of babies, ... (read in full...)
He tells me he's tired of me and my children, he treats me like a roommate now - but I don't want him to leave, I'm so miserable what should I do?
Q. I'll try to make my story short. I have been living with my boyfriend for two years. He is younger than me. I am 25 and he is 23. I have children but they're not his. When we first got together everything was great. It all started because he wanted ...
A. 8 October 2008: You have smothered him is my guess. Of course he wants to be able to go out. He is 23! It sounds like the relationship has broken down, and if he wants out, there will be very little you can do about it.
Its one thing a guy going out with his mate... (read in full...)
I wanted some closure - but do you think he thinks I want him back now?
Q. Does my ex think I'm trying to get him back? I broke up with my ex a year ago. Shortly after the breakup i changed my phone number so he would stop harassing me. He was emailing me up until July-so i changed my email in July. Well, on Saturday i ...
A. 8 October 2008: Are you being completely honest with yourself? I mean, it doesn't matter about to strangers, but to yourself? Because I cant see why you would email him after all that time, unless you wanted him in touch. When you changed your email address, did ... (read in full...)
Am I expecting too much from people?
Q. Hello, I need some thoughts about this, I have been with my boyfriend 9 months, he has introduced me to his friends, I cannot say that his friends are bad people but they are people that I wouldn't choose to be friends with me because they dont have ...
A. 7 October 2008: Its damn annoying isn't it. I gave my 2 leather sofas to a friends sister when I ordered new ones. I had sent her sister pics on the phone, she loved them. Her boyfriends mates came round with their work van to collect them. Not so much as a thank ... (read in full...)
What should I do about my relationship?
Q. Well, i need an advise, me and my boyfriend were dating about 3 years, we did argue alot over stupid staf, the last time we got in to arguement things run out of control, he was trying to hold me back from breaking staf and some how i end up at the ...
A. 7 October 2008: If the relationship is that volatile, he maybe realised you 2 shouldn't be together. To end up in hospital with a broken arm isn't normal.
Maybe he's scared what will happen next and thinks its time to call it a day.
Doesn't sound much like he'... (read in full...)
Getting the love back?
Q. I am worried about my marriage. My husband is very negative, introspective and moany. He hardly ever looks forward to or shares excitement about anything. He's really focussed on nitty gritty things like not wasting water, how many times we flush ...
A. 7 October 2008: I'm worried about the amount of times the kids flush the toilet what with having a water metre, we're in a recession hun! You're pregnant and he's stressing he cant afford to support you all. At the moment I think we are all depressed at the cost of ... (read in full...)
Do you think he has genuine feelings for me or do you think he is trying to break up and still look like the good guy?
Q. I met a guy online and we began dating, he was very intense, talking about future and using the love word(albeit indirectly) after just a few weeks. We were getting on great and he bombarded me daily with texts etc, then last week discovered he was ...
A. 7 October 2008: Very hard to say isn't it. The only worrying thing is, people that fall 'in love' very quickly, quite often fall out of love at similar lightning speed hun.
If he is on dating sites again, I dont get why you didn't ask him about that? Dont be a door... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend for another man but don't want to hurt him.
Q. Please help me. I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years with my bf, I am 35. Things are not going good. 2 years ago we were so happy to find out we were having a baby (no kids previously or since), but things went very wrong and we los...
A. 7 October 2008: To be honest, when i wanted to split from my husband when i was only 20, i was dreading it. It even crossed my mind i wouldn't get out alive believe it or not! but it was fine, and nowhere near as bad as i imagined. We didn't have contact for years ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is a functional alcoholic, what should I do?
Q. Why do I have to pay for my boyfriend being a functional alcoholic? Why do I get called names by him when he is drunk, He belittles me in front of friends, He does not talk to me, he tell mes that he has NO problems and that I am the problem, (he...
A. 7 October 2008: Blimey I had never heard of an alcoholic Narcissist til now. To be honest he probably isn't a narcissist, but the booze is letting him believe he is perfect.
Its easier for him to blame you for it, than face the fact he's dependant on alcohol for ... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend for another man but don't want to hurt him.
Q. Please help me. I've been in a relationship for almost 3 years with my bf, I am 35. Things are not going good. 2 years ago we were so happy to find out we were having a baby (no kids previously or since), but things went very wrong and we los...
A. 7 October 2008: Its horrible having to end a relationship, no one likes doing it, and thats why a lot of people cheat in the end.
Its good that you dont want to do that. But if you dont love him anymore, you just literally have to do the deed!
Ive been in your pos... (read in full...)
The both rejected my request to be friends on Facebook now I'm getting paranoid people don't like me.
Q. Sorry, my question will prob sound a little dumb..... I've got a facebook page and a couple of months ago I requested Adam to be my friend. I knew Adam from years ago, we were really close but there was no romance, we were just good mates. He moved ...
A. 7 October 2008: How do you know they have rejected you? I didn't use to use facebook from one month to the next and I would sign in and there would be shed loads of invites, most I wouldn't know, but some were people I hadn't heard from for years and I accepeted ... (read in full...)
I have trouble being faithful in a relationship, how can I stop being this way?
Q. hi... I wondered if you could help me? I have trouble with being faithful in a relationship. Every time I'm in a relationship i always destroy it by cheating and lying I wondered if you can tell me the best way to stop this? ...
A. 7 October 2008: You're still quite young to settle down with 'the one'
When you've done your living and experimenting, you will meet someone that clicks with you, and not want to cheat on them. Myabe you dont like the thought of being single at the moment, so get ... (read in full...)
My husband's friends are "coming on to me" and it's making me uncomfortable.
Q. I'm not sure where to begin with this without making it a long drawn out story, so I'll do my best to make it short and sweet. My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years now and during that time we have aquired mutual friends. I'm not ...
A. 7 October 2008: I know what you mean, you dont want to fall out with anyone by getting nasty. Its almost like guys are attracted to women that aren't there on a plate for them at times! But they do sound like they are getting the wrong impression. Ive had 3 ... (read in full...)
I think she wants to see other people during our break. What do I do?
Q. Last sunday my Girlfriend said we need a break, that she needs her space. OK i understand that and i am giving her space, she wants to call me ever couple days just to stay in touch, so i know she cares, but i think she wants to see other people ...
A. 7 October 2008: There isn't anything you can do about someone wanting to date other people. And atleast she has been upfront and not gone behind your back.
But be careful that she isn't keeping you on the back burner for when she has experimented and not found anyo... (read in full...)
Halloween - Going as a sexy she devil. But what could he be?
Q. I am going to be a Sexy She Devil for Halloween. My boyfriend kinda wants to match with me but we can't really come up with any ideas for what he could be. anyone got any ideas?? thanks a lot....
A. 7 October 2008: Same here Kylie, but this yr will be the first time I go to a fancy dress. Im buying a witch costume off eBay.
My 13 yr old son is going as David off The lost boys. My daughter is going to be a witch too. But its the 13 yrs olds clothes i'm havi... (read in full...)
What is the definition of an 'alpha male'? Come on, ladies!
Q. LADIES, LADIES, LADIES! Pray tell: what is your definition of an 'alpha male' exactly? Also: what do you mean when you say that a guy 'is out of your league'? Is it better to go out with a guy who is at the top of your league, or one who is at the ...
A. 7 October 2008: Oooh citing Askoldersister! Where can we bag ourselves one of them there Alpha males then???!!
Good luck!
I dont think ive ever been with one, wasn't even sure what one was until I looked in here!
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I dream of my boyfriend with other women!
Q. Hi! I am a 26 year old. I have a great sex life with my boyfriend. But I have one strange problem. I like to fantasise other girls having sex with my boyfriend. It is a huge turn on. I like to fantasise that I am watching him while he has sex with ...
A. 7 October 2008: Nothing. I used to have a similar fantasy! Blimey I cant believe I gave that away lol But I too wouldn't of wanted it to happen in real life! I dont even have the fantasy anymore, I think often its just a phase, in a few months it might be another ... (read in full...)
Is it just porn or is it something worse?
Q. Why would a guy I date/live for 10+ years go to such huge lengths to cover-up looking at tame Internet porno? He has a whole separate browser on our computer and it is set-up to basically not leave any "tracks". He says it's just because he's ...
A. 6 October 2008: Yes possibly because you're now thinking if he is lying about that, what else could he lie about.
C xxxx... (read in full...)
What to do with an alcoholic boyfriend?
Q. Hi. I have been dating an alcoholic for the last 8 months. We live together and have the most wonderful relationship – apart from the alcohol. He is an alcoholic but not a drunk. his parents have put him in rehab and given him all sorts of help over ...
A. 6 October 2008: If he's alcohol dependant, the drink will always come before anyone or anything, unless he completely stops. An alcoholic cant have 'just 1' They need to abstain. If he stops for so long, then starts again, you're on a merry go round aren't you.
I... (read in full...)
Is it just porn or is it something worse?
Q. Why would a guy I date/live for 10+ years go to such huge lengths to cover-up looking at tame Internet porno? He has a whole separate browser on our computer and it is set-up to basically not leave any "tracks". He says it's just because he's ...
A. 6 October 2008: lol @ the anon poster automatically blaming 'us women' when he could have simply said to his girlfriend what concerned him in the first place thus avoiding upsetting her. Rather than be honest, have a secret browser ey, its way better to complicate ... (read in full...)
Is it just porn or is it something worse?
Q. Why would a guy I date/live for 10+ years go to such huge lengths to cover-up looking at tame Internet porno? He has a whole separate browser on our computer and it is set-up to basically not leave any "tracks". He says it's just because he's ...
A. 6 October 2008: I would. It could be stuff even more sinister than you think. And if anything ever happens and the law takes your pc away, you will be in the firing line to start with too dont forget.
I'm like you, I accept the porn site thing, but if he knows you ... (read in full...)
I slept with my ex. I still love him, but I don't know why he is denying his feelings.
Q. I did something very wrong on tuesday night. Slept with my ex! He asked me to come around as friends and see him. then he asked for a cuddle. feelings between us were strong and one thing let to another. It was fantastic though. Felt just the sa...
A. 21 August 2008: He's a user, but not sure about a barsteward.
He's said he doesn't want anything more than friendship (with the occasional shag thrown in by the looks of it) and only you can control if that happens or not. Dont let yourself be used if he's said... (read in full...)
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