My boyfriend and I don't argue, is this healthy?
Q. this is a bit of a random one , normally in relationships, i get easily wound up if the guy does something wrong, like if im meant to pick him up when hes drunk and isnt there, i would go mad, and other stupid things that drunken guys do , but w...
A. 23 October 2008: To be honest, my kids dads sister used to think we were a tad weird because we didn't argue. Her and her hubby did. And they are still together, yet we split 7 yrs ago. Hope that doesn't put you off! lol Seriously though, thats not why we split, so ... (read in full...)
Should a woman text/call, or should she wait until the man contacts her?
Q. I've been on a couple dates with a guy i really like, and have known him for a month now. We have a great time when we see each other. He has told me he liked me before. I just dont know how long i should wait until i call or text him. I dont want...
A. 22 October 2008: He still hasn't contacted you yet?
Did you try txting him?
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Should I stop paying the mortgage?
Q. My Ex-partner lives in the house we own jointly. I have moved out into another property and now pay 2 mortgages. She refuses to pay her half of mortgage and expects me to pick up her tab. I have asked that house be auctioned she refuses; the house ...
A. 22 October 2008: If there are no kids, then the house will need to be sold if you split, IF she cant buy you out. At the moment you've got more chance of winning the lottery than selling a house in the Uk! So you will probablty have to wait. Not the best time to ... (read in full...)
Should I stop paying the mortgage?
Q. My Ex-partner lives in the house we own jointly. I have moved out into another property and now pay 2 mortgages. She refuses to pay her half of mortgage and expects me to pick up her tab. I have asked that house be auctioned she refuses; the house ...
A. 21 October 2008: See a brief. You dont say if you have kids, that will make all the difference.
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I need married men's advice!
Q. I need married men advice( and wifes also) Ive got people saying(with my last question i am too "motherly" to my husband and that is why he takes me for granted and never shows me any respect. I stay at home with the kids and keep up with all the ...
A. 21 October 2008: Sounds like you're being one. Why should he work full time and come home and do chores? Its not like your children are youngsters. Soon as my 2 reached secondary, I started working, and I am a single parent, so there is no one to do the chores for ... (read in full...)
Does hanging out with more than one guy make me a bad woman?
Q. hi..i have recently just hang out with three guys.we all had a drink together.i was told to hang with more girls than guys.but before i hang out with them i told them that I wasn't a hoe or a slut.they accepted that but i kinda felt left out at ...
A. 21 October 2008: Well I would be interested to see what people say about this because I get on better with guys and am usually the only girl in the pub most the night on saturdays hanging out with guys. If you know you're not sleeping with them, then dont worry ... (read in full...)
'They're not together but spending time together' - what does he mean by that?
Q. Hi everyone im new to this posting stuff so bear with me, Basically around 2 weeks ago i split with with my guy over the fact he couldnt gt over his ex he always had to see her because of the child they have together, anyway he said we can still be...
A. 21 October 2008: I'm sure this is the same question as yesterday. It means he is giving it anothr go with his ex. 'Seeing how it goes' is a way of letting you down gently.
If they have a child, leave them be to sort out their relationship. Theres a little one invo... (read in full...)
3 weeks ago my partner and I split up and I'm going mad!
Q. Help me I'm going mad, after my 3 week split with my partner, well let's just say he has a new woman, basically I know that they are seeing each other but are not in a relationship yet just seeing how things are going. Anyway about 3 hours ago I ...
A. 20 October 2008: That is bull. Ive heard that before when an ex started hanging out with someone new, and i had finished with him, and wouldn't get back with him, and supported the new girl. But he kept saying its nothing serious, we are just having a bit of fun, i ... (read in full...)
Guys: Was marriage worth it? Do you miss the excitement of the single life?
Q. I’m getting married and I’m scared to death. I just want to take a quick survey and see if marriage worth it for the guys out there that took the plunge? Why did you get married? Did you remain faithful? Did she remain faithful? Do you miss ...
A. 20 October 2008: I'm not a guy, but I dont think I need to be to know you're making a big mistake if you get married mate. How did it get this far in the first place?
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He wants to make another go of it with his ex!
Q. Hi people Having just got off the phone to my ex we split on Thursday he said he's gone back to his ex, the mother of his daughter, she already has a daughter from a another ex and he said to me that he would like to stay mates she won't let him ...
A. 20 October 2008: Dont buy all that its not serious thing. Thats balls and you know it. He's keeping you on the back burner if things dont pan out with her. He's already said she's not sure. So he knows he doesn't wanna end up with no one.
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Do I need consent from my mum at age 16 to go on the pill? I don't want her to know!
Q. I am with my bf for a year and a half and now we have decided that I will go on the Pill. Is there any way i can do this without my mum finding out? ...
A. 20 October 2008: Yes just go along to your docs. Patient confidentiality, even if you were younger than 16.
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My boyfriend and I don't argue, is this healthy?
Q. this is a bit of a random one , normally in relationships, i get easily wound up if the guy does something wrong, like if im meant to pick him up when hes drunk and isnt there, i would go mad, and other stupid things that drunken guys do , but w...
A. 20 October 2008: I dont think theres anything wrong with not arguing. Me and the kids dad didn't argue the whole 9 yrs we were together. Nothing i remember anyway. But my mum always said it took 2 of us to do anything, because we were joined at the hip lol I think ... (read in full...)
Is it just me or do people think she's up to something?
Q. Hi everyone, I've only just split with my b/f 5 days to be honest and i still talk to him over the phone, anyway he basically wants to get back with his ex the other of his twin sons, ive been out withhim for 9 months, anyway hes just told me that ...
A. 19 October 2008: This is way too much baggage full stop. Walk away now and let them mess each others brains up. You are worth loads more.
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It's A Shame Am I Am Wasting My Life Away?
Q. What chance does a woman over 50 and divorced have of ever meeting a nice man when there are so many pretty young attractive girls around and many willing to give sex very easily? I have never been easy meat even when I was younger although...
A. 19 October 2008: Hey you are mixing in the wrong circles by the sound of it. My mum was mid fifty's when she met her guy she has been with now for about 4 years. She is 60 next year. They are happy as larry, and my mum was completely happy on her own and was single ... (read in full...)
Really scared of being on my own.
Q. Hi. im really scared of being on my own ive only just split with my one and only guy, my first everything basically, im feeling really lonely seeing him has someone else, ive not much confedence and all my mates have guys of there own, i dot feel...
A. 19 October 2008: Remember you coped just fine before he came along. And in time, you will again.
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Am I over reacting to this pic? Or is this really as bad as I think?
Q. I need some advice on online dating. I just started dating again ...so i'm am new to what is acceptable or not. Recently i set up a profile on a decent website. I have gotten a lot of responses However, one person in particular caught my eye...
A. 17 October 2008: Tell me about it. Ive wasted many hours meeting up with people from the net back in the day. If they hadn't lied about having actually moved out of the exes, they had ancient pictures on their profile. Needless to say I am single and staying that ... (read in full...)
Can you be friends with an ex with whom you have recently split?
Q. Can you still be freinds with an ex who you recently split with ive spoken to him on the phone and get on really well and ive seen him since we split and got on fine then. Do you think t could work like that ...
A. 16 October 2008: Quite often it can, yes. As long as you're not harbouring deeper feelings anymore for them. Otherwise it could get messy when they meet someone new.
I'm mates with 2 of my exes, but only because it doesn't bother me when they get with someone and ... (read in full...)
Am I over reacting to this pic? Or is this really as bad as I think?
Q. I need some advice on online dating. I just started dating again ...so i'm am new to what is acceptable or not. Recently i set up a profile on a decent website. I have gotten a lot of responses However, one person in particular caught my eye...
A. 16 October 2008: I would run as fast as my feet would carry me.
How many other women has he sent his private pics to.
Its almost like he's trying to woo you with his genitals, and that would ring alarm bells to me, and I would find it insulting.
Dating si... (read in full...)
I want to leave my boyfriend, should I take the children with me? I feel I would be a bad mother for doing this...
Q. I want to leave my bf of 8 years,and its not for another man or any selfish reasons. We have 3 children togehter and the only way I see fit to move is by leaving the children with him. I feel like I would be a bad Mom for doing this and don't want ...
A. 16 October 2008: I find it hard to imagine not having my children with me, geez I am clock watching every other weekend when mine are due back from their dads, and thats only from saturday to sunday. I start getting withdrawel symptoms if they're not back by 5pm!
S... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has gotten other women pregnant!
Q. I have a 10 year relationship with my boyfriend. And nfortunately, there is a big problem. He has gotten other women pregnant. What would I do as her girl friend? We're living together already. Hope you can reply soon on what to do on my part as ...
A. 16 October 2008: Realise that there are far better guys to get serious with, dump this guy, and go find one of the nice guys that doesn't impregnate someone else.
Well, you did ask.
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I got my revenge on the other woman, and I didn't have to do anything!
Q. My hubby had an affair, I found out and caused hell on earth for him, asked for a divorce, even got the papers drawn up, did the whole counselling thing, he got such a shock finding out that I was not going to tolerate his nonsense. He gave up his ...
A. 16 October 2008: lol Lazyguy. I can understand your smugness though poster. I would still be worried though if it was me! Good that you're both doing counselling though. Certainly cant do any harm can it.
Good luck.
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I don't want a relationship with him, just sex!
Q. I am in love with a guy whom I hardly know, we go to the same university. He is also interested in me but all I want from him is not a relationship with with him but just sex. How am I going to explain this to him when he asks me out for a ...
A. 16 October 2008: I repeat what eyeswideopen asked?
But if you really dont want to date him properly, simply say that. Its not fair to him if you lead him to think its going to be more serious. He might well be happy with friends with benefits, but he has the righ... (read in full...)
I don't want to suggest dating her, even although she's told me she's not happy with her current boyfriend.
Q. Hello, I started university two weeks ago. There is a girl on my course who I quite like. We hang around together a fair bit, and I think our friendship is growing. However, I find myself feeling quite attracted to her. She's pretty cute, she...
A. 16 October 2008: I think you have a very sensible head on your shoulders there, not getting into anything all the time she is with someone.
And until she is single, its way better to leave it that way. If she really isn't that happy with him, she's too young to be s... (read in full...)
Should a woman text/call, or should she wait until the man contacts her?
Q. I've been on a couple dates with a guy i really like, and have known him for a month now. We have a great time when we see each other. He has told me he liked me before. I just dont know how long i should wait until i call or text him. I dont want...
A. 14 October 2008: Always a dillema, but I wouldn't get too hung up on seeming needy. 3 days is plenty of time to pass since talking. Wont come across as needy if you bung him a txt.
Go for it. I dont think guys should have to do all the chasing these days.
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My boyfriend says I'm lazy because I am too exhausted to go out on weeknights, how can I make him see how wrong he is?
Q. My boyfriend says I’m lazy and he gets upset with me because when I get home from work, all I want to do is just relax. I usually get home from work around 6 p.m. Once I get home, I have to empty the dishwasher, re-load the dishwasher, wash a l...
A. 14 October 2008: Its too expensive to be going out in the week as well as weekends!
If you're at work all week, whats the big deal about waiting til the weekend to go out?
I wouldn't be going out all week. It makes the weekend better to look forward to.
I certain... (read in full...)
Should I say goodbye to my emotionally abusive ex once and for all?
Q. I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex fiance a year ago. Then we started talking a few days ago because i called him. he said he still loves me and wants to give it another shot. i felt the same way, but i can't seem to forget about the past. ...
A. 13 October 2008: I'm sure it was you that asked this yesterday. And I expect people will still say the same thing. If you're still angry with him, and the original problem hasn't been resolved, its not going to work. I dont get why you haven't found someone that ... (read in full...)
A few tricky questions... Help please.
Q. I have a few questions...help would be nice. 1) My bf lives over seas so i have hard times calling him. Should i tell him i had phone sex with my friend? I want to tell but i dont want to tell. 2) My other friend has a gf now and wont tal...
A. 13 October 2008: For a start the guy you was having phone sex with doesn't talk to you now because he has got a girlfriend and she is all he will be thinking about now. Thats just the way life is. And as for telling the guy thats in another country anything... (read in full...)
So, is this relationship already doomed to fail? Has my ex changed?
Q. Has my ex changed? I broke up with my emotionally abusive ex a year ago, and just talked to him for the first time yesterday. He said he has been seeing a girl, but that it wasn't serious (yet he had sex with her) and that he stil missed me and ...
A. 12 October 2008: This guy hasn't changed. Its no good saying if we talk about the stuff from the past we wont have to bring it up again. Because in the future when problems arise, he will clam up about stuff again.
You're wasting your time in my opinion. Reki... (read in full...)
The married man I'm seeing wants to work at his marriage but also have me
Q. I have been with married man for approx. 1 year, we fell in love with each other within 2 months. In the past couple of months he has had tough times in his marriage once she found out about me. he has decided to work on his marriage, but he still ...
A. 12 October 2008: He wants to work on his marriage and have me too????
Ive never heard having their cake and eating it put like that, but it all boils down to the same thing!
If he wont make a decision, you will have to wont you?
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Been on a few dats, but I don't know how to break it off now
Q. I've been on a few dates with this really nice sweet guy but I've decided now that I just don't feel anything for him! He still keeps texting me but I don't know how to break it off- whether to be honest and explain that I just don't feel a spark or ...
A. 12 October 2008: Tricky one isn't it! Not sure, he might take the hint if you stop txting him etc, but its probably not the kindest way either. Tough as it will be, its better to be honest and say you dont feel the spark. Dont end up 10 months with someone like I ... (read in full...)
Does this mean I still love my husband?
Q. Anyone been married for a while? I have for 14 yrs, i asked my husband for a divorce but i cant' do it. I have dated guys since then, its been2 yrs separated and i cant fill the papers out of for the divorce, anyone been in this situation????? ...
A. 12 October 2008: Well think long and hard then before signing that divorce lol whats he up to these days? Is he with anyone new? Would he even wanna give it another go? C xxxxxx... (read in full...)
Does this mean I still love my husband?
Q. Anyone been married for a while? I have for 14 yrs, i asked my husband for a divorce but i cant' do it. I have dated guys since then, its been2 yrs separated and i cant fill the papers out of for the divorce, anyone been in this situation????? ...
A. 11 October 2008: Well I certainly wouldn't relish that. Mine are 13 and 11. If I wanted to raise 2 kids under 5 again now, I would have another myself, which aint happening anytime soon. Not in this lifetime anyway lol
What was so bad about the hubby then?
I spl... (read in full...)
Is it worth staying in this relationship?? So many problems when we've only been dating for 5 months!
Q. I'm dating a younger man, 10 yrs younger. He recently moved to my city with his 2 kids which he has custody of. My kids are teenagers, his are 3 and 4. Several problems here:He is without work and has asked me to buy him lunch or take him to the ...
A. 11 October 2008: He's got more things to worry about than getting his leg over. The guys gotta get used to being a full time parent.
On the other hand he shouldn't be asking you to pay for his entertainment either. But you shouldn't be handing the money over. It k... (read in full...)
Is my husband playing me?
Q. my husband and i have been together for almost 7 years but married for almost 5 years and he left me for the second time in augest and he is another state and has a girlfriend but keeps calling me and says he is will to work things out but dont ...
A. 11 October 2008: Nice guy! Why would you want him when he is capable of doing all that behind his girlfriends back?
If he really wanted to get back with you, surely he would of ended it with the girlfriend. All sounds a bit suss to me.
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My boyfriend shows my nude pictures to his friends, isn't this wrong?
Q. My boy friend used to be addicted to porn but now he doesnt havethe internet and is forever taking pictures of my bits. I wouldnt be to bothered but he shows his friends at i'm still young and i feel very uncomfortable but he says if i love him then ...
A. 11 October 2008: Er its wrong!
If HE loved YOU he wouldn't be showing all n sundry! Geez I am so glad i'm my age. I feel so sorry for young teen women, they get all the d*** heads that have a lot of growing up to do yet.
My ex hubby (whom I married at 18) asked me... (read in full...)
Does this mean I still love my husband?
Q. Anyone been married for a while? I have for 14 yrs, i asked my husband for a divorce but i cant' do it. I have dated guys since then, its been2 yrs separated and i cant fill the papers out of for the divorce, anyone been in this situation????? ...
A. 11 October 2008: Who knows. Certainly sounds like you're not entirely sure.
But there could be numerous reasons why you dont want to make it final, and only you can know the reason? Have you met some right bozo's since you seperated and are starting to realise the ... (read in full...)
Relationship dilemma - I don't want to spoil her life with my scare
Q. Hi, I have been in a relationship for almost 4 years . earlier it was just friendship and we met online thru a chat site. we have met around 5 times after that face to face and we talk daily. in the past one year our relationship changed the lvel...
A. 11 October 2008: I agree with qcumbr1. I know you're not in the Uk but 24 is extremely young to be getting married here anyway.
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If she becomes jealous then does this mean that she finally wants a relationship?
Q. Hello there! Off-limits man pursues off-limits woman. Woman flirts with man. Man asks out woman. Woman rejects man. Woman then flirts with other guys and totally ignores man. Man pursues further. Woman (ego now suitably pumped) then flirts even more ...
A. 11 October 2008: Haha well you have a clear 2 months atleast yet to play before the xmas party?
If she gets jealous then yes, I expect she's keen, but whats with all the games? Ever wonder if she's gonna turn out to be a high maintanance girlfriend? Never a dull... (read in full...)
By the time I realized what was happening, I had fallen in love! Will she leave him?
Q. Please someone help me, I don’t know what to do. I was married for 14 years with 2 beautiful girls and I had everything. I thought I had it all.... I worked with this woman who was a really good person and we just clicked, we had so much in commo...
A. 11 October 2008: She has a family, she has a life. For women, its gonna take a whole lot to get us to change it. Her kids love you so much yet one wants to stay with the dad? Thats atleast one reason this woman will stay put probably.
The other one wanting to go h... (read in full...)
Should she take the ex back and trust him?
Q. My daughter was in a relationship for 15 months. she is 15, him 17. they broke up over the summer, mainly due to him hearing rumors and believing his friends over her. At this time anyway, things were stale in the relationship. During the summer ...
A. 10 October 2008: If it was my 15 yr old daughter, I would tell her to move on, and no amount of strangers opinions would make any difference there. I believe my daughter deserves way better.
The guy is playing both of them by the sounds of it. No its not normal for ... (read in full...)
He has a baby with his ex and when I see them together I feel so jealous even although he's with me now.
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 4 months now. I am really happy but then comes the jealousy. He has a baby with his ex and I'm so happy for him but when he sees the baby and her, I feel like their old memories are going to come back to light and ...
A. 10 October 2008: If you cant get your head round this then he's not the guy for you. His ex will be in his life for the next 16 yrs atleast. And he will always have a child with someone else end of.
When you get older it will be more and more likely that some... (read in full...)
Is this young woman sincere or is she just playing games?
Q. Susan(32) is a woman I met last year(September 2007) and we went out for a couple of weeks in Early to mid June. She had known each other for months when we started dating. The dating started when a mutual friend suggested I ask Susan out as Sus...
A. 10 October 2008: I would say she doesn't want to date you, but wouldn't mind you as a friend. Why does that have to mean you're an ego boost for her? Not being funny but most women get hit on buy guys regularly, keeping you as a mate would serve no purpose other ... (read in full...)
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