Do I stay with my boyfriend or leave him but run the risk of being alone forever?
Q. Hi im 22 and im so confused....I dont know if i should leave my partner or stay...im a single mom off a gorgeous little boy...my partner used to be such a nice guy...now his dad has terminal cancer hes changed so much...a few hours ago i refused to ...
A. 3 October 2009: Good on you. It is hard I know. My children whitnessed things they shouldn't have a couple of years ago. I was always one of those people that said people shouldn't expose their children to things like that. But when you are in the thick of it, you ... (read in full...)
If he is sent to prison, should I go and visit him? I still love him and feel bad about all of this...
Q. hi i have just won a criminal court case, against my ex for stealing fraud and driving offences whilst banned. he was an alcoholic, he pleaed guilty to all 5 charges against me. at first he tried to blame my by pleading not guilty, but come...
A. 29 August 2009: From my understanding, prisons are the worst place for addicts to go. Things are easier to get on the inside. So I would think very carefully. If he was going into rehab I would say he's a better bet! Its a tough one. But until he stops stealing and ... (read in full...)
My girlfriend often stops me during sex because she feels like she needs to pee...is she actually close to orgasm?
Q. I've been reading alot about girls orgasms. My girlfriend quite often stops me during sex cause she feels like she needs to pee... What are the chances of this being conected to her having an orgasm?...
A. 29 August 2009: Quite high.
Its not unusual for women to think they have wet themselves when they orgasm too. See if she will let you carry on and ignore that sensation and see what happens. Whats the worst? She will wet the bed (or wherever you are)
Could... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or leave him but run the risk of being alone forever?
Q. Hi im 22 and im so confused....I dont know if i should leave my partner or stay...im a single mom off a gorgeous little boy...my partner used to be such a nice guy...now his dad has terminal cancer hes changed so much...a few hours ago i refused to ...
A. 29 August 2009: Its very stressful for his mum right now, but of course you should call the police if he is threatening you in any way! You are so young, it just seems crazy putting up with all this rubbish. There are plenty of guys that will take on someone elses ... (read in full...)
Why would a woman who's recently changed her appearance start going out all the time with friends instead of being at home with family?
Q. Why would a married woman of 10 years loose alot of weight and start staying out with her friends rather than come home to her family. She says she hasn't done anything wrong, but in her words "she looks so good she just wants to go out with her ...
A. 29 August 2009: Oh dear, well it could well be the female equivilant of the midlife crisis going on then! If she is also slimmer than before, she might just want to make the most of it! Doesn't have to mean she is off elswhere with someone new though.
Let us know... (read in full...)
Does he want me back, or was he just horny?
Q. I broke up with my ex month ago We still living together in our place , I tried to get back to him twice, but he rejected me, and I felt my self so cheap, and I forgot about him totally and started focusing on my life and try to enjoy it ...
A. 27 August 2009: He was just a man!... (read in full...)
Do I stay with my boyfriend or leave him but run the risk of being alone forever?
Q. Hi im 22 and im so confused....I dont know if i should leave my partner or stay...im a single mom off a gorgeous little boy...my partner used to be such a nice guy...now his dad has terminal cancer hes changed so much...a few hours ago i refused to ...
A. 27 August 2009: An ok relationship? Doesn't sound like it to me. The last time I had a relationship that volitile was in my teens. And I soon met someone else that didn't throw his weight about and ended up with him until I was near on 30.
At your age you can leav... (read in full...)
Why would a woman who's recently changed her appearance start going out all the time with friends instead of being at home with family?
Q. Why would a married woman of 10 years loose alot of weight and start staying out with her friends rather than come home to her family. She says she hasn't done anything wrong, but in her words "she looks so good she just wants to go out with her ...
A. 27 August 2009: Possibly because she feels she hasn't lived. I went through the same thing in my late twenties early 30's. Lost a lot of weight, after having 2 children and being with my partner 10 years. Guess I felt I had a lot of living to do still. We split by ... (read in full...)
How do I go about finding someone that will accompany my sexual fettish for being treated like a baby?
Q. hi i'm not quite sure how to word this so i'll just spit it out. i have been looking for someone to to diaper me and treat me as a baby. but not having any luck. could you please help me? i suffer from acute infantilism disorder because of the ...
A. 25 August 2009: I agree that your past problems need rectifying. But this is not an usual fantasy, and there are a lot of sites dedicated to this one in particular. The reasons it is a fantasy to many is lots of reasons! Thats not what you're asking for here I ... (read in full...)
I think my girlfriend is cheating on me but she always manages to make me feel like I'm in the wrong!
Q. So, I've been in a relationship with the same girl for over five years - off and on - more on than off, though. We've had ups and downs and have mostly worked through them. Problem as of late is that I think she's cheating on me, maybe she isn't ...
A. 25 August 2009: There's a saying...just because i'm paranoid, doesn't mean their not out to get me!' I have been accused of being paranoid in the past, then it turned out I was actually being lied to. So my instincts were right.
The phone business is enough to conv... (read in full...)
My crush likes my best friend, how do I get over him?
Q. i really like this guy but he likes my best friend. i thought he liked me because he kept giving me signals and telling me stuff that no one else knows. how do i get over him? he asked me if she liked him and said that he didnt really like her but ...
A. 25 August 2009: Oh dear. So he was probably saying stuff to you thinking you would pass it on to your mate?
Only thing you can do is meet someone new really! This sort of thing happens in life. As we get older we let it go over our heads a bit easier.
I'm a big be... (read in full...)
Baby on the way..how do I stop freaking out about every little thing?
Q. me and my most recent ex are having a baby together, but we are not together anymore. we have discussed getting back together and want to make it work for the baby (plus we still love eachother). the thing is that i freak out on him about stupid ...
A. 25 August 2009: I agree with Greg. Those hormones are all over the place enough as it is. Must be a struggle to have a problem with your relationship going on at the same time. Once the baby is here, you wont have time to be worrying about him! Your priorities will ... (read in full...)
Could the gunk on the comforter be semen? How can I get it tested?
Q. Dear Cupid, I have found white, milky hard gunk all over my comforter. I suspect my spouse and cleaning lady had oral sex. You see my spouse and I have had no sex of any kind -not even oral sex for 3 years or more. When he drinks alcohol, he ...
A. 21 August 2009: What is a comforter over in the States? Its a childs dummy here, a soother? If thats what it is, thats all wrong???? :o/... (read in full...)
How to help someone who is a pathological liar?
Q. How to help someone who is a pathological liar? He has many good qualities except that his weakness is women, he denies he has gf, he can't tell them the truth, just the ones these gals want to hear. He says he is a Christian, I want to help him be ...
A. 21 August 2009: Sounds like a nightmare to me, you wont ever trust the guy. He would need some councelling I expect. Otherwise he wont change. Women always think they can change blokes, its never gonna happen.
There's a psychological reason he does it, & only a tr... (read in full...)
I am attracted to a 16 year old! How do I stop thinking about him?
Q. My little brother has a friend that he grew up. I watched both of them grow up. Now my little brother is on his way to becoming a career criminal. Always in and out of jail. While my brother has been away, I've been spending a lot of time with his ...
A. 21 August 2009: Why? Its legal? Oh hang on, is it legal there? It is here in the Uk. He's young though, so not going to be looking at settling down. If you really want to forget about him, you'll have to not hang out with him? Otherwise, is it a 2 way attraction?... (read in full...)
Big age gap & it seems he doesn't love me like I love him..
Q. Hi, I'm a 39 yr old female and I've been seeing a 22 yr old guy! I have fallen in love with him, but have been trying to hide it!! I'm crying as I write this, because last night, we talked, and we've decided to stop the intimate part of our ...
A. 20 August 2009: You're nearly 40 & this guy is 22. Its highly unlikely it would work anyway. Usually 22 year olds get with older women for the kicks. He says he felt the same way, but on the other hand he isn't ready for a full on relationship? Hmmmm. If he really ... (read in full...)
Toxic relationship!
Q. I have an online male friend that tells me he loves me. I love him as well but not quite the way I think he wants me to. Any time I try to put some distance between us he goes of his nut and acuses me of using him and not loving him anymore. I speak ...
A. 20 August 2009: This isn't normal.
You cant possibly have a 'relationship' with someone you have never met. It smacks of issues. The most common one being that people like these kind of 'relationships' because they are what they see as safe. Avoiding real init... (read in full...)
What are the chances of being pregnant if he came inside of me 3 times?
Q. what are the chances of me being pregnant if the guy came inside me 3times? ...
A. 20 August 2009: Quite high. Obviously.... (read in full...)
Is it possible that my attraction for guys who treat me horribly stems from being sexually abused?
Q. First of I'll start with a bit of history about me; I've dealt with depression, anxiety, paranoia, self-harm and a near miss with an eating disorder. It's all happened together and it was hell. At the same time I was dealing with feelings for my ...
A. 20 August 2009: Almost definately yes. If you read a book called Starting again, it has it all in there about why we go for the type of guys/girls, we do. And it will almost definately be connected to our pasts. Are you still seeing the counsellor?... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 20 August 2009: Only just got back on here after a few months away, whats happened since?... (read in full...)
I'm seeing a married man! Should I stop?
Q. I am seeing a married man and I am in love with him. He is love with me but cant leave his wife right now because of his business and financial resonsibilities. Hes afraid if he gets a divorce she will try to take his business, and destroy him ...
A. 14 February 2009: Depends if you are ok with being 'the other woman'? If he cant leave her for various reasons, it could be a while before he does.
Some people do the mistress very well. But thats usually for other reasons. Doesn't sound like you will be able to sett... (read in full...)
Should I dump my boyfriend today?
Q. Its been 6 months and my boyfriend still hasn't told me he loves me. Being valentines day I thought that it might happen today but its 5 pm here and still nothing. Im getting sick of not knowing if im important to him or not. Dont get me wrong he...
A. 14 February 2009: Whooooah less haste! I'm wondering if you're just a tad paranoid? He hasn't visited the dating site since he met you, so it sounds like he's just forgotten about it (good sign) and you say he is a great guy (another good sign) apart from the fact he ... (read in full...)
I found a text on his phone telling his ex he loved her...
Q. I've been going out with my boyfriend for 7 months now and we're really happy together, there's just one thing that upsets me. He's always texting his ex, and I know I shouldn't mind as everyone tells me she's his ex for a reason but it just really ...
A. 14 February 2009: Honey this isn't normal! No he shouldn't be txting her all the time, and no its not good enough saying he loves her as a friend. This is his way of clearing the path for him to be able to tell her he loves her. I think you deserve a medal for ... (read in full...)
He doesn't care...!!!
Q. Today is valentines day.... and he hasn't even called me or sent me nothing! ...
A. 14 February 2009: There's not a lot to go on here, but not all guys are good at this kind of thing. Not all women are! At the least, he's innocently insensitive, at worst, he's a selfish bugga and you might be better off moving on! But the day is still young. How do ... (read in full...)
Why is my name in your mouth?
Q. My ex tells everybody he's over me and hates me. But the thing is he can't keep my name out of his mouth and his friendz keep harrassing me. I would really like to know why my ex can't leave me alone if he says he's over me?...
A. 14 February 2009: If you haven't long split, the chances are that he will still have feelings, quite naturally. Thats not to say its not wrong that you split. I ended a relationship years ago with someone I still loved, because I knew it wasn't going to work long ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my best friend's fiance, should I come clean or avoid to do it again?
Q. I knew my best friend's fiance before they got together. He is extremely attractive but when he was single I had a boyfriend. I have since split up with my boyfriend. I live in London and regularly make trips up North to see my best friend. Her ...
A. 12 February 2009: This was blatently pre meditated, especially the second time anyway. I can unerstand the first time 'kinda' just happening, but what happened the second time, your mate was drunk again & had to be put to bed again, and you 2 just happened to get ... (read in full...)
My guy doesn't get along well with my daughter
Q. Need some advice on my relationship with my partner. I have a 6 year old daughter from a previous relationship, and I am expecting a baby with my new partner in the next few weeks. My partner doesn't really get on with my daughter, he does...
A. 1 January 2009: Oh dear, its a toughie isn't it. I cant help thinking its your partner that needs to make most of the effort here, because only sometimes isn't good enough for children. That wont help matters. If he made the effort all the time, it would more than ... (read in full...)
We broke up a month ago but he still flirts with me...
Q. Boyfriend broke up with me 1 month ago. Wanted to be friends. Nothing changed, still sees me and flirts at work, even spent Christmas eve and day with me and daughter. Made comment I need to get out of management so he can kiss me at work before ...
A. 28 December 2008: So basically you're not worried what might happen, are cool with him ending the relationship, but possibly drifting into casual sex?
If you're cool with it, whats the problem?
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We broke up a month ago but he still flirts with me...
Q. Boyfriend broke up with me 1 month ago. Wanted to be friends. Nothing changed, still sees me and flirts at work, even spent Christmas eve and day with me and daughter. Made comment I need to get out of management so he can kiss me at work before ...
A. 28 December 2008: He's adjusting to being single, and possibly trying to make it so you have a casual relationship..ie sex on tap.
When we split with someone, apart from if we have children with them, we should have some sort of time out from each other before we c... (read in full...)
She doesn't want to have sex/tatoo should I drop her?
Q. Hi can you help me out. My friends 8 of us have decided to go out on the town and have tatoo's done. Also we are all trying to get laid. However my best friend Susan is not coming and says we are all dim wits. Should i remain friends with her? ...
A. 28 December 2008: It looks like she has taken that decision out your hands. Hardly surprising, I expect she would like some friends that actually act their age. For 36, you ARE acting like a dimwit!
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My husband is an alcoholic & addict but I love him! how can I help him?
Q. I have been married to my husband for 27 years, and a few months ago I found out he was having a affair with a woman he met at a treatment facility. He is a Alcoholic and is Bipolar. This woman is also an Alcoholic and Addict. The first thing I did ...
A. 28 December 2008: He isn't making you sick. You are making you sick. Why should he give her up when he knows you will put up with anything because of your vows. Nothing will change because it doesn't have to. Simple as that. Its a no brainer.
And she kicked him out ... (read in full...)
Wrong to date my half brothers half brother?
Q. my dad married a woman that had 2 kids, then had another child with her, which made me a step sister and half sister. my dad is divorces now, is it wrong to date my half brothera half brother even though im no longer a step sister???...
A. 28 December 2008: No its not wrong. You're not blood related are you, if I have read it right.
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He is a Flirt: how to make him stop?!
Q. I am concerned with my boyfriends flirting. I have never questioned him until now (6 months into the relationship). I recieved a forward from HIS myspace to a girl. And was one line that made me happy and several that just had me heart broken. ...
A. 28 December 2008: He doesn't sound very grounded to me, just going on what you have put there.
Could be a rocky ride ahead
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"backdoor" accident--how to clean it up
Q. so, last night my boyfriend and i was having sex. we was doing it "doggy-style" and he accidentally went in the a-hole...then he put back in the front! i know that isn't good because of all the bad bacteria...so what should i do to keep my "front" ...
A. 27 December 2008: I wouldn't panic. Its a well known no no that you dont do it though. Explain to your guy that, he should know that anyway. And I dont believe that condoms make any difference. If a condom goes in the back, then into the front, the risk of putting ... (read in full...)
So scared that you ended a relationship?
Q. Has anyone on here actually been so scared of love that they ended a relationship? Most people would always see it as an excuse to end the relationship. I believe that people can become so afraid that they end things thinking that the other person ...
A. 26 December 2008: Yes.
Not because of past, but because the first guy was too young, and the next guy was a manipulator.
Felt way better afterwards.
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
"backdoor" accident--how to clean it up
Q. so, last night my boyfriend and i was having sex. we was doing it "doggy-style" and he accidentally went in the a-hole...then he put back in the front! i know that isn't good because of all the bad bacteria...so what should i do to keep my "front" ...
A. 26 December 2008: Too late, its done. You might get Cystitis, or you might be lucky. Just tell him not to repeat the 'accident' again. *rolls my eyes*
C xxxxx... (read in full...)
I'm so disappointed by my guy's x-mas present!
Q. This Christmas I am so upset. I know it sound shallow but I got my boyfriend of 3 years a really nice skateboard (which was a very thoughtful and expensive gift) because he uses his really old beat up one everyday. The board I got him is amazing and ...
A. 26 December 2008: I cant relate to this as in all my 37 years I dont think a guy has ever bought me jewellery lol Oh actually, one guy bought me a pair of earrings years and years ago. Thats it though. I dont care what presents I get. And being single, I only got ... (read in full...)
The question is, what do I do now? What is my next step? How do I start over again? I'm used to seeing my children everyday....Please help!
Q. I am now 30, so is my wife. We’ve been together for 10 years now, married for 7. Our first child was born 7 years ago. We now have 4 children, or at least she does. Since the birth of her 3rd child I had always been unsure if I was the father. I ...
A. 21 December 2008: Dont know what to say really, apart from good luck, and I hope you get some peace in the end hun. You have done real well so far with it all thats for certain.
All the best xxxxxxx... (read in full...)
Why arent I getting morning sickness?
Q. hello everyone. I am 19 years old and i just founded out i was pregnant like two weeks ago. my baby daddy is 38 years old. and he already have for kids. and this will be my first one. how i found out was a test while i took two differnt kinds of ...
A. 12 December 2008: I didn't get morning sikness both times I was pregnant.
Only felt a bit quesy later on in the day if I had let myself get hungry (i was working fll time until 2 weeks before the first was born so was bad at eating regularly)so as soon as I mana... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex and now I'm freaked out!
Q. This weekend my bf and I were fooling around and I got real horny so I let him put it in me without a condom but just for a minute or so. Then he pulled out and I gave him oral until he came. I know nothing got in me and it was only for a short ...
A. 9 December 2008: If it was the weekend, as in late saturday, you could get down the pharmacy quick and get Levonel? I mean, its highly unlikely you will be pregnant, but there is always that little percentage. Dont beat yourself up about it now, it was daft, you've ... (read in full...)
I'm still kicking myself about missing work due to sick kids!
Q. Not a relationship probelm I know, but I'm so annoyed with myself right now. I rang work yetserday to say I wont be in as the kids have this virus going about. She said thats fine and the office didn't need to know cuz I can make the day up this ...
A. 9 December 2008: Cheers hun. I did ring back in the end, couldn't wait any longer lol She was good as gold, I have 2 immediate bosses and thankfully the nicest one was in. She said sorry she had been busy, but was really good about it, and I can make the time up, ... (read in full...)
Periods back 5 weeks after having baby - normal?!?!?!
Q. Heya, well I had my baby 5 weeks ago (through cersearian, I'm breast feeding him - I was told that when breast feeding it takes *at least* a few months for your periods to come back... usuaully takes around 6 months... But this morning I got up and ...
A. 9 December 2008: Yes. It happens at various times. Lots of women breast feed for a year or 2, and their periods come back way before that dont they. Its all getting back to normal. Thats a good thing ey.
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The question is, what do I do now? What is my next step? How do I start over again? I'm used to seeing my children everyday....Please help!
Q. I am now 30, so is my wife. We’ve been together for 10 years now, married for 7. Our first child was born 7 years ago. We now have 4 children, or at least she does. Since the birth of her 3rd child I had always been unsure if I was the father. I ...
A. 26 August 2008: Wow, way too much to comment on all of it, but have you thought about a break apart? I know everyone is different, but my mate had a similar situation happen, and after some time apart, he ended up getting back with his wife and bringing the girl up ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 12 March 2008: Because he's a manipulative jerk that knows you better than you know him, and has just been binned off by the new squeeze that sussed him out quick smart :o(
Didn't wanna be friends up til now huh.
Blimey that was a long scroll down to post!
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Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 March 2008: And you dont know me or my brothers situation, yet you judge that we should be getting him help. Hahaha! You think we havent? You answered the help statement on your own, if they dont want help, they wont take help.
Sorry if you saw it as insu... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 3 March 2008: You're addicted to drama. I would go see the doc and see about some counselling, to find out why. I dont think anything will change until you figure out why you need all this melodrama in your life. Its very self destructive. And could be very ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 19 February 2008: Hey thats great! 40 a day and even after all this crap going on, you still didnt start again???!!!! Now THATS something good!
And as for the manipulation, i know what you mean. I cant remember if i mentioned it in this thread, i wont check, but my r... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 15 February 2008: Very good positive attitude. Glad to hear it. Blimey he was a charmer wasnt he? not! Thats the best thing to do, keep reminding yourself how nasty he acrually was. And all those things...you deserved better.
I didnt realise he was on coke, unfo... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 13 February 2008: How far up his own ass is he?He didnt sound like he wanted to talk. He knows what buttons to press thats for sure, and exactly how you react, thats horrible. And a tad creepy! The power trip must be sensational for him! I wasnt pleasant to an ex ... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 11 February 2008: Hi
You have a constant migraine because of the pressure in your head. This is basically all doing your head in. Too much stress. I expect you're not eating either. Bad combination. We would all get migraines in this situation. This is a nigh... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 7 February 2008: Who cares if you have pushed them together. They deserve each other dont they? They probably wont make each other very happy. And She certainly wont ever trust him.
And he asks you to treat HIM with respect??? I would of replied with a lot more than... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: Well said RCN. The longer you are on your own, and really dont mind being on your own, you gain strength and know being on your own is way better than being treated badly.
Its quite a shame the amount of people on here that settle for second, thir... (read in full...)
Please help me cut this lying cheating man out my life forever!
Q. Please help. i need to move on from this constant heartbreak again. I cant believe it,i look back on this site and with the questions I asked, i didnt see this coming. 7 years with the boyfriend only to have his ex phone me and say she slept wi...
A. 6 February 2008: This is truly horrible. Nothing anyone can say will make the situation any better. Theres lots on here with problems obviously, and this is one of the many worse ones. At the end of the day, it sounds like he played you both for fools, and, small co... (read in full...)
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