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writes:hi the as you may know previously i had a boyfriend but now we have broken up and i am with a new man, would you think it was mad if we decided to have a baby i am 18 and he is soon to be 21 please can you help us thankslovesickpup Reply to this Question
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reader, lovesickpup +, writes (7 January 2008):
lovesickpup is verified as being by the original poster of the question hi there thank you for your answer we are goin to take your answers into consideration
lovesickpup x x
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 It is a bad idea. You will regret it. Your child deserves a stable home and family, and you are too young to provide it. You know it, that is why you are asking advice here.
-Frank B KErmit
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reader, Sparkly_Stars +, writes (7 January 2008):
 I really really think you should wait! You are still so young yourself, and have so much to learn about life. You have the rest of your life to have children.. this is the time for you to party at uni and have fun! Also, how do you know that this guy who you are thinking of having a baby with is going to stick by you 100%? (unless you 2 are planning on getting married??) It is sooo hard to be a single mum out there, and I am sure you would want to give the baby the best life possible.. so why not do it later.. when you have more security?? Good luck x x
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): It's your body and your baby. Only you can answer your question. 18 is young to become a full-time mom, but there are plenty of young mothers out there, so you wouldn't be alone. If you feel you couldn't provide it with the absolute best care and the absolute most love, find adoptive parents. Think about what's best for the child, and don't worry as much about your own needs and principles.
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reader, howcomehoney  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 I'd say wait AT LEAST five years. If you and your man are still together and still want a child, then you can talk about it again. If not, then having a kid now would have been a bad idea. You're only 18, you're basically a kid yourself! Have fun while you still can!
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reader, Lady Mallard +, writes (6 January 2008):
Hiya i hope i can give some decent advice to your situation as it's one very close 2 my heart, I'm 19 and had an overwhelming broodiness from about 16-18 & i'm pretty sure i know how ur feeling.
My best mate is the same age as me & she had her 1st @ 17, and she gave me so many pointers about having babies young. First, her & her bloke broke up about 2 months after the baby was born, and he still has no daddy bcos she's 2 busy scraping for money & looking after him to meet anyone new. Also, as a teenager, she has not had time to live life and have that much fun before she's had major responsibilities, and even now she still does a lot of drugs. She's not prepared herslef for motherhood at all, and because of this she can't give her kid the perfect life all mother's want for their children & it crucifies her.
The main thing here is whether you're prepared love. Do you have a house, a job, a supportive family, independance & responsibility, the mental stability, a long term relationship, & equally importantly, are u prepared 2 sacrifice the best years of your life for bringing up a baby? If you can honestly say yes to these then it seems that you perfectly capable of bein a good mother, but The thing is, anyone can have a baby, but my mate struggles physcially, financially & emotionally(she suffers from bad depression now, she used 2 be such a go getter) because she can't provide a perfect life 4 her baby.
I hope this helps, think about it chuck xxx
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reader, Dangly +, writes (6 January 2008):
how long have you been together? do you love him? will you be able to support this baby? will your future been able to cope with a baby? you need to ask yourself many questions before you do something that big!
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): this is all very well, but can you theoretically support one? What about your finances? Are they healthy enough for a new additon? Are you in a good area for a child to grow up? Or a dodgy counsel flat? Only you can answer this hun
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