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writes:im 20 and i like the 17year old cashier that works at the same store as me, its a little "corner store" type place. My problem is im too shy to actually ask her on a date or for her number, i can talk to her and make jokes with her but i just cant ask the big question.And better yet, most of the employees there are good friends and some family, so if i get refected they most likely will all hear and tease me about it. How do i go about asking her on a date or for her number?I know this sounds fairly simple to most but im very afraid of rejection.
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reader, Frank B Kermit  +, writes (7 January 2008):
 Do not ask for the number or a date directly. Too much pressure on either of you. I would suggest that you plan to go on an outing somewhere (ideally that caters to her interests), and when you next speak with her, just invite her along to meet you there. Assuming she agrees, exchanging numbers is now just a formality. You get to spend time with her, without the pressures of a date.
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reader, LouLee  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 Well if you're scared about rejection make sure she hasnt got a boyfriend first, ask her " so you got a boyfriend then" and if she says "no" ask her if she fancies going out sometime. You're not exactly gonna expect a harsh "no" to a question like that so be brave and good luck x
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reader, jm81690 +, writes (6 January 2008):
 this is what i do, get into small talk, then ask what she's doing on the weekend, ask if she wants to hang out, if she agrees say "alright i'll call you friday (or w/e), what's your number?"
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 January 2008): You've got nothing to lose by passing her a slip of paper with your number on it, and asking her for hers in return. Have a piece of paper to give her with her name already on it with a space for her number - and a pen as well!
Phil
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reader, AJ jess ^..^ +, writes (6 January 2008):
 i suggest that when your joking with her and having a laugh you just ask her (casually) if she would like to go for a drink with you after work sometime and go from there xox
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reader, Dr Vendetta +, writes (6 January 2008):
 simple question with a simple answer.
Ask her out. thats it. its that simple.
as for affraid of rejection.. yeah.. hate to be the one to tell you this but. get used to it.
Rejection is apart of life. people ahve differen't tastes and make different choices. sometimes you ain't their taste or choice. hate to say it but, grow a thicker skin and basicly deal with it. there no way of getting around the rejction if it comes to that.
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reader, Landie  +, writes (6 January 2008):
 It might sound a little silly but you could ty writing her secret admirer notes. Some girls find it sweet.
ask her to reply to your note and put it in the same place.
You can just write letters for a little while and once you have enough confidence in yourself. Ask her to meet you in a kind of blind date and see where things go.
hope things work out good luck.
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