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writes:My bf of three years has had not much interest in sex for the second half of our relationship. For months I didn't say anything as he was busy and tired so just put it down to that. After a long while I raised it and he said was that he didn't know why. I mentioned it a few more times over months and he really doesn't like it when I bring it up. I am sick of being rejected as it is like a knife through the heart being rejected time after time for 18 months by someone you love. So I did nothing... said nothing and did nothing. The result was no sex for a month. It would seem if left it to him we'd never have sex, and I feel like he's lost whatever passion he once had for me. I've read other similar posts here and it seems like it is a hopeless situation. Will things ever get better?
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2007): If he isnt interested, then why? are you fighting? is he cheating? has he simply lost interest? Have you changed in any major ways?
Im about to leave my bf because of same situation, im sick of 'asking' for sex. No other bf made me feel this way unattractive,unwanted, questioning myself... infact they wanted it more than me..
I miss feeling wanted, i miss intamacy, i miss SEX! oh and I really miss spontaneous sex that I used to have with my x. I know there is a big part of my currant relationship missing, intamacy, and a man who will make me feel wanted.
Sex isnt everything, but without it, you may as well be living alone.
If you have turned from lovers into great mates,(sometimes can happen) then move in that direction.
goodluck.
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reader, flower girl  +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Well you really need to sit him downand tell him how you feel, tell him you feel unloved and not wanted anymore and there is no point in the relationship carrying on if this is the way it is going to be.
Sex is not the be all and end all of a relationship but it is a very big part and if you can't sit down and talk about this and try and come up with a reson for why it's not happeneing anymore unless you instigate it, then it might be time to move on and for you both to find someone that you are sexually compatibale with.
Take care.xx.
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reader, love-him +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Babe if he doesnt want sex, he doesnt want sex, its like that. if you have such a high sex drive (like me) leave him for someone else. honestly you both would be happier. hope i helped, mail me if u want to talk x x x x x
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