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writes:hii've just started a relationship with a guy who i've lknown for about 15 months,. he's 53 and i'm 38.we've been very attracted to each other from the start and we're very close friends.the problem is that he's suddenly impotent, we have amazing foreplay , he has been having errections all the time but when he tried to penetrate me, it just goesi think its psychological, we've been taling about it, i just want to know how i can help him
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reader, lonelyanswers +, writes (26 July 2007):
The first and formost thing to do is not to panic or get upset with him.Often this situation can be resolved with a little patience and most of all understanding. Make hime feel that it is not the be all and end all of your sexual pleasure. Tell him how good he is at makeing you satisfied in all the other area's of your foreplay etc.One important thing to consider is he will be feeling very low and inadiquate already. The reasons for the impotants could be of many, stress, worry, or purly that he has had a little problem with getting an errection lately and the more he worries about it the worse the problem becomes.Keep him reasured and most of all tell him not to worry. I would also advise if things are looking like he is going to have problems, try just changing the situation from making love to giving him a nice gentle massage and getting him relaxed, and then maybe taking things a little bit further, creating more forplay, try also adding one of his fantasies. We all have them it may just do the trick.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (29 June 2007):
 Impotence can be due to many different factors, it could be tempory due to stress, have you noticed him being under any stress for any reason?
Or it could be something longstanding due to anxiety and giult from childhood another thing that can cause it is depression, could that be a possibility.
The general treatment for phychological reasons is usually sex therapy and is found to be a successful treatment.
It could also be worth visiting your gp and getting them to run some tests to rule out pyhsical disorders.
Take care.xx.
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