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writes:Ok well my bf cheated on me with my bestfriend not even just once but like 4 times in like a few days and i found out obviously which he is also her ex boyfriend and she cheated on her boyfriend with mine but what do i do its hard for me to be mad at my bestfriend because shes closer then a sister but thats so messed up should i forgive either of them or what ??
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): I have been through the same, but i did the wrong thing in falling out with my best friend and letting the guy get away with it. Then a couple of weeks later i ended thing with him because i couldnt forgive him. Then about a month later i made friends with her but things arnt the same, im back with the guy, but i still cant forget i love him though. Ask your self are they worth the pain? You cant forgive one and not the other its just not fair i did that and felt bad after. So make sure you do the right thing. Good luck
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reader, blondie2007  +, writes (27 April 2008):
 I have been through the same, but i did the wrong thing in falling out with my best friend and letting the guy get away with it. Then a couple of weeks later i ended thing with him because i couldnt forgive him. Then about a month later i made friends with her but things arnt the same, im back with the guy, but i still cant forget i love him though. Ask your self are they worth the pain? You cant forgive one and not the other its just not fair i did that and felt bad after. So make sure you do the right thing. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 September 2007): If she had done it once maybe you could forgive her but to let her do it 4 times now could you trust someone after 4 times? I mean it's hard to trust someone after one time but 4times is beyond a joke. I would say give her one more chance and if she messes up then tell her where the door is
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 July 2007): my last boyfriend cheated on me with my best friend, as much as i felt crushed i still tried to make it work with her as after all she was my best friend. it seemed to work for a few months infact we forgot about it and carried on as normal but we kept holding on thinking things would stay the same, all its done is in time destroy me. you need to walk away from her only then she'll pay the price. good luck!
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 July 2007): i mean just talk it out with your best friend but i would watch her with all my boyfriends cuz that means that she cant be trusted no more i feel the same way to so dont feel bad you have me as well
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 July 2007): My best friend just did the same and I will never EVER forgive her for it and I don't think you should either. Not only did they do it once, they did it 4 times. It was not a mistake. Neither of them stopped to think that you would be hurt. They did not consider your feelings so you shouldn't give them the time of day. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (13 July 2007): hi i no how u feal my best friend dumped her boyfriend i asked him out and he said yes but then she started to confess tht she still loved him i sent him a text telling him and she said thanxs for telling him in a nice way she noticed how much she missed him she is proble just noticing tht she miss him so dont blam her but your bf he just an idiot for doing tht to u dump him for give your best friend and your bf will see wat he done and he has lost u for ever and see wat an IDIOT he was yours sinserly anonismus p.s soz about the spelling
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reader, DIE-romantic. +, writes (4 July 2007):
 They are both lower than low babe!! If she was a true friend, and if you referred to her as a sister, well best friends or sisters dont act like that! Get rid of him!!And as for her... well, she seems to have no consideration for you... and no respect either. 4 times?!?!? No way! Id say you need to look at her as well, shes not completely blameless here in the slightest! Shes as bad as him.Whatever you choose to do, its upto you.Hope it all works out okay for you. xxxx
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reader, baby_caridee  +, writes (4 July 2007):
 I say break up with him. You can see the right and right decision in my point of view easily.
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reader, YummyMummy +, writes (2 July 2007):
 She cant think much of you to do it with your boyfriend not only once but 4 times. If you want to keep her as a friend then fine, but let her know first that she's hurt you and let you down. Then you must forgive and forget for the friendship to work.
As for your boyfriend you will be so much better off without him! Trust me! He obviously doesn't respect you or care for you very much to do what he has done. And what's to say he wont cheat again?! Save yourself the pain and stay away from him!
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reader, DV1 +, writes (1 July 2007):
 1. If she was your friend, she wouldn't have done it.
2. She's willing to sacrifice your friendship and her relationship for her own needs, therefore showing how little people mean to her.
3. Your now ex never liked or respected you in the first place.
Wash your hands of them.
DV1
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reader, PhillyPeaches +, writes (30 June 2007):
you need to kick them both to the curb. bottom line. with friends like those, who needs enemies?
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reader, bovvalicious +, writes (30 June 2007):
 She is obviously not your best friend and didn't value the friendship if she would do something like that, and your boyfriend obviously don't care about you that much if he cheated on you. if you dont trust them anymore then you aren't ready to forgive them, friendships and relationships are based on trust and without that they will fail so the question you should ask yourself isn't whether you should forgive them is whether you ready to forgive them if you are then you will be able to trust themhope i helped
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reader, rhythmandblues2 + ♥, writes (30 June 2007):
 Time for a new best friend, and kick the boy friend to the curb, you don't need people like this in your life....look for people who have integrity are honest and loyal and kind and who would not purposely do something to hurt you in anyway....These two did not fall on top of each other by acccident this was premeditated and carried out not even well enough to conceal the truth to you....This is not my definition of a friend, is it yours?
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reader, *shugar* *and* *spice* +, writes (30 June 2007):
 hey, well my boyfriend cheated on me to and he used to go out with my bestfriend but thats not who he cheated on me with. well i dident breake up with my boyfriend "he stoped cheating on me". but your boyfriend cheated on you 4 times so you can't trust him no more. well i see your close to your bestfriend so am i "she was ok with me going out with her EX because they broke up" but your bestfriend went out with your boyfriend while you and him wher dateing i don't think shes as close to you as you are her. but what ever you decide it's your decision.
good luck!!!!
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reader, nologo  +, writes (30 June 2007):
 Okay, what is highlighted in this story.
The answer: "shes closer then a sister".
We got 2 ways to treat "bf cheated on me with my bestfriend":
#1 - if this is about cheating, then there is lack of trust.
#2 - if this is about "sister", then there is lack of care.
Anyway, I would rather advise you to think WHY you lack it.
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reader, flower girl +, writes (30 June 2007):
 I understand that you are very close to your best friend, but she did not betray you once it was a couple of times, i would not even dream about doing anything like that to my best friend, you just don't go there.
So if you forgive her are you ever going to be able to trust her again around new boyfriends because i certainly would not she has already proved she has no loyalty to you what so ever.
Obviously it's your decision but i would think very long and hard about this, your young so you will find new friends and a new boyfriend people like this do not deserve to have you as a friend.
Take care.xx.
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