This woman at work has a crush on me...do i tell my wife and how do I proceed with this? Help!
Q. I've been married to my wife for two years, and been together for about six. We are both in our mid twenties, and although we are young I feel that i have married the love of my life still. However I work in a small team and spend everyday with on...
A. 6 May 2006: Sir, the dream doesnt necessarily mean you fancy her even though you dreamt of having sex with her. Listen my friend, the dream could be your minds way of saying look, if I let this go on, then this (i.e the sex with the woman) will happen and you ... (read in full...)
I think this guy doesnt like me anymore because I wouldnt flash him!!
Q. hey! okay there is a guy that i like and i was talking to him and he was like i like u to but then he wanted me to like flash him and all other stuff and i said no and then he was like oh i thought u were different and he all this stuff and i do...
A. 1 May 2006: Listen, if this guy seemed only interested in you for your body, then he is a real loser and a jerk. I bet you are an absolute stunning young lady, believe me, you will find a decent more respectable guy, dont worry about this loser, if he thought ... (read in full...)
I slept with a girl on Holiday before we dated, but I told her I didn't, I'm feeling quilty.
Q. I have told my girlfriend that I didn’t sleep with this girl on holiday. It was before we started seeing each other. This type of thing has come up before and she has already told me that she would finish with me if I told her that I haven’t slept ...
A. 1 May 2006: Samsmith this is a tough one, but I admire you because you genuinely want to do right. You havent actually cheated on your girlfriends so I am a bit miffed as to why she would finish with you because of something that happened in the past. The ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin but want to have sex with my boyfriend, I'm scared of the pain.
Q. Hi I am a 20 year old virgin... I can get almost any guy but the problem is that I'm scared of the pain. My boyfriend and I try having sex a lot but it seems like he's killing me down there and it hurts... Should I take some medicine b4? I need some ...
A. 1 May 2006: Dear reader, the primary reason why you are experiencing pain is because you are probably very tense, just as County Woman has said. I dont really think I need to add anything more because she has really given you a great response. Relax and try ... (read in full...)
I think im in love with a much younger guy!!
Q. Me and this single guy who lives by me we are attracted to each other, nothing has happened yet but small talk, he's works and is doing some construction for his overly protective parents,so i hardly get to see him now. He's 33 and i am 48,he ha...
A. 1 May 2006: My friend what is the problem? You are 48 and he is 33, so what. You are both mature adults, its not like you are 48 and he is a teenager, then we would have issues, but if he is single, you are single, and you both like each other, what is the ... (read in full...)
I like a girl but shes just got back with her ex!!
Q. There's a girl I really like at work. Problem is she's just got back with her ex. What do I do now. I don't want to move on, especially if she splits with him again. How do I find out if I'm in with a shot?...
A. 30 April 2006: Sir, if she is now back in a relationship, you must back off for now. You cant go and meddle with the relationship, that wont be wise. What you must do is let things have their course, if she does split up with him, then after a good while, you ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with him but I don't trust him. Should I end it or keep on trying?
Q. hiya.. ive been seeing my boyfriend a couple of months now..it was going great at first, we enjoyed doing the same things, watching the same films.. I think i am falling in love with him but for some reason i dont trust him anymore!! I dont see the ...
A. 30 April 2006: My friend, a relationship needs three KEY things to work as well as a host of others, the three key things for me are: 1. TRUST 2. LOVE 3. COMMITMEN TLC, without TLC, you cant have a relationship, if you dont trust him, you will always be thinking ... (read in full...)
The sex life has dried up..do I leave or just have an affair on her?
Q. help me i am married. have been for ten years have two children 2 and 5 we have a ok marriage the normal ups and downs but the sex life has dried up so help what can i do. i feel like leaving her or having an affair...
A. 30 April 2006: Under no circumstances should you just have an affair, how can you even think that. Just because the sex has dried up as you so eloquently put it, does that mean you should sleep with someone else? NO it doesnt. You need to start showing your wife ... (read in full...)
My wife wants to end our marriage as she found someone else. What should I do?
Q. My wife wants our relationship to end after 9 years of marrage. She obviously wants someone else. I don't want it to end but she gets upset and angry when I let her know this. I don't know what has made her decide this exactly and she wont tell me ...
A. 30 April 2006: If your wife wants to end the relationship, then I am afraid you will have to let her have her way. I know you will be upset, that is natural, but if you persuade her to stay in a relationship which she doesnt want to be in, she will end up ... (read in full...)
This woman at work has a crush on me...do i tell my wife and how do I proceed with this? Help!
Q. I've been married to my wife for two years, and been together for about six. We are both in our mid twenties, and although we are young I feel that i have married the love of my life still. However I work in a small team and spend everyday with on...
A. 29 April 2006: The reason I believe you should tell her is because if you don’t and this woman becomes bitter later on, she may start stirring and you wont want that. I don’t know the lady and I cant say that she will become bitter but what if she does, AngelRon ... (read in full...)
He says he loves me but is not in love with me!!
Q. Hi, im 19 years old and i have been going out with my boyfriend for 5 years. But now he has broken up with me. He says he feels different, that he loves me but is no longer in love with me. Help! What can i do to show him that we are meant for each ...
A. 29 April 2006: My dear, you cannot show someone that you are meant to be together. If you are to be together, you will be. He obviously does not love you with the Eros love, but more the type of love you have for a family member, whereas Eros of course is ... (read in full...)
How do i stop being jealous of my ex and her new guy??
Q. I still live with my ex girlfriend in a student house with a few mates. We remained very close- practically going out but without the sex. But now shes seeing a new guy. I'm so jealous, i don't know how to control it- i end up causing argument...
A. 29 April 2006: What you need to do my friend is move out of that accomodation because jealously has a way of growing and growing, its like a rash that only gets worse, it soon becomes intolerable and eventually you will explode. If you remain in a "war zone" ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a much older man. What should I do?
Q. Recently I found out that my 15-year-old daughter is is dating a 46-year-old man. She's not planning to marry him or anything; just dating him. However, the 31-year age gap makes me shiver; I fear that this guy is up to no good. How do I bro...
A. 29 April 2006: And may I just add, its not the age gap as such i.e. I am 23 and I have no problem being with a man in his forties, as I am a grown adult and not a teen, but the issue here is the transition of the age gap i.e. a mere teenage GIRL to a full grown ... (read in full...)
This woman at work has a crush on me...do i tell my wife and how do I proceed with this? Help!
Q. I've been married to my wife for two years, and been together for about six. We are both in our mid twenties, and although we are young I feel that i have married the love of my life still. However I work in a small team and spend everyday with on...
A. 29 April 2006: Dear sir,what a lovely man you are, you seem so considerate of your wife and this lady. God bless you for being such a lovely man. Now listen to me, I would do this: a) tell your wife that there is a lady at work who has expressed an interest... (read in full...)
Trying to forget my best friend's cousin...and it's hard. Any advice?
Q. I like this guy and he's my bestfriend's very close cousin. He's not interested in me. In fact, he's not interested in girls that are smaller than him (he's 15, i'm 14). I don't know what to do. can you help me, please? this may sound weird but it's ...
A. 29 April 2006: Sweetie, you are so young and believe me one day you will realise what was I ever worried about. Take yourself out and have a fun day, spoil yourself. In 2 years time, he may come to his senses and realise what a lovely young lady Ia m sure you ... (read in full...)
Why can't I find girlfriend? I'm pretty good-looking so what's the problem?
Q. Hi, I am 19 years old and just graduated from high school. I am skinny and pretty good looking, but all of my life I have not really had any friends or girlfriends. I don't know what my problem is. I don't know why I can't find any friends or ...
A. 29 April 2006: Dear sir, I think you are being too hard on yourself. What I mean is, if you see a girl you like which will happen at some time and most times in your life, just let nature do its thing. Its not always about looks you know, for example recently I ... (read in full...)
Broken down marriage, Please help!
Q. i need to get out of my marrige but dont know how please help. ...
A. 29 April 2006: Jen, a marriage isnt something you can simply "get out of" Do you want to speak (write) to me in privately, send me an email, I cant really help you if you are being so vague. I believe in praying about situations as I am a Christian, I dont kno... (read in full...)
Did I make the right move with confused partner?
Q. k so here it is....my sons father fell in love with me while he was with his fiance that he's been with for 3 yrs. i ignoreded him for about a week and a half cuz i wasn't gonna be a third party so he left her, cuz he couldn't stop thinking about ...
A. 29 April 2006: Of course you made the right choice, this guy has issues. He clearly doesnt have a clue what he wants and its good to know that you have told him straight, no messing,I admire that, if only more women could have your boldness. He clearly thinks far ... (read in full...)
Is he being friendly, or does he want more??
Q. he is my colleage and I'm not sure if he likes me or not? Because both of us have boy/girl friends at moment. There are some signs and hope you can find it out for me. when he see me in the kitchen alone,he walks in and talks to me and I found he l...
A. 29 April 2006: Dear secretlove, if you have a boyfriend and he has a girlfriend, then this really should not go any further. Yes perhaps he is fond of you, but so what, you are taken, you cant act upon it. If you do find out that he wants more, then you need to ... (read in full...)
Don't want to be a homewrecker, but I think I love my workmate..
Q. I am considering trying to start a relationship with someone I work with. We are both public officials in a small community who work together - but not in the same office. The only problem is that she is married with three kids and I'm not anxious ...
A. 28 April 2006: Napolean, I am so very glad that you have seen sense. Good luck in the future, I am sure someone SINGLE will be available for you soon, patience is a virtuous quality!!! Lust can destroy, as long as you know the difference between lust and love, ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a much older man. What should I do?
Q. Recently I found out that my 15-year-old daughter is is dating a 46-year-old man. She's not planning to marry him or anything; just dating him. However, the 31-year age gap makes me shiver; I fear that this guy is up to no good. How do I bro...
A. 28 April 2006: I agree, who cares that she is not your biological daughter. You are with her father so in effect you are her "mother" well you are the one who is the mother figure in her life. What is your husband doing about this mess? Is he still in the ... (read in full...)
it's been a few months and I can't stop thinking of her! Is it a high school crush or something more deeper?
Q. Hi, there's this girl at school who's really friendly sweet (and cute). I asked her out ages ago but she said she wasn't looking for a boyfriend. Even after a few months I still can't stop thinking about her yet in a few eeks I'm leaving school for ...
A. 28 April 2006: Well, I dont know you so I cant simply just say that it is a high school crush, however it is natural for you to still think about her, but unless she wants a relationship, you will have to let her go. It sounds to me that you really like her, nut ... (read in full...)
How do you know a boy likes you?
Q. how do you know a boy likes you?...
A. 28 April 2006: When a boy like you, believe there are two ways to tell. One is the obvious way, he is always complementing you, talking baout your clothes, how nice you look, how pretty your hair is, how nice your eyes are etc. He always seems to make time for ... (read in full...)
He's always stared at other women but now I'm pregnant it's starting to get at me, I need advice!
Q. My husband is obsessed with women. We have a great life together but he can help stopping and looking at other women. And has done since we have met. I find it really hard at the moment be heavily pregnant seeing him watch other women knowing he ...
A. 28 April 2006: Dear reader, congrats on your pregnancy, I hope you have a healthy baby and a good birth. Now, your husband is not abnormal, its normal for men to like women even if they are married etc, but I think maybe you are overeacting. Your husband is ... (read in full...)
We miss each other but are worried about each other being unfaithful!
Q. I have recently broke up with my girl friend we both miss each other but we need to see more of are friends what is the best plan of action coz we are both scared of each other being unfaihful....
A. 27 April 2006: The answer is simple, if you cant trust yourself with regards to fidelity, STAY SINGLE! You dont need to be Socrates to work that one out. If you both TRULY loved each other, why would you need to be unfaithful to each other, come on, just stay ... (read in full...)
My daughter is dating a much older man. What should I do?
Q. Recently I found out that my 15-year-old daughter is is dating a 46-year-old man. She's not planning to marry him or anything; just dating him. However, the 31-year age gap makes me shiver; I fear that this guy is up to no good. How do I bro...
A. 27 April 2006: SAY WHAT? Your daughter is FIFTEEN and this pervert is old enough to be her grandfather. Nowadays 15 is the average age to start having your SECOND child. I am sorry I never usually get this heated, but this is WRONG. Are you not a parent, why on ... (read in full...)
She miscarried and we broke up and now shes sleeping with my friend!!
Q. A year ago, we lost a child. She lied to me about the date that she lost the child and rarely discusses the "miscarriage". She insisted I leave the house and not be arround her during the time she lost the child in fact we broke up. A month later ...
A. 27 April 2006: I am sorry to hear what you have been through. Either if it was through miscarriage or abortion you have lost a child, and that is unfortunate, my thoughts are with you. On your girlfriend, she sounds like trouble to me, if it takes a month to... (read in full...)
Boyfriend has been lying to me, What is the best outcome?
Q. i love my boyfriend too pieces but latley he has been lying to me bunking off school and lying aboutwere he is going please help i dont know what to do?...
A. 27 April 2006: My dear what you need to do is ask him, "what on earth is going on?" its simple. You are in a relationship, if he can't be honest, what is the point. The relationship wont last. Be bold, demand that he is straight with you, you deserve honesty ... (read in full...)
My first love is back in the picture and the flame is still there, what do I do?
Q. Hi I am a woman who is happily married to a wonderful man. we have two great daughters. The problem is that some time ago before i met my husband (17 yrs)i was travelling and lived on a kibbutz in Israel. Whilst there i met a truly fantasti...
A. 27 April 2006: Listen honey, you say that you broke up with this Turkish guy and in a matter of weeks you met your present partner and grew to love himover time, there is the problem. Madam, you clearly dont have that spark with your current husband, if you were ... (read in full...)
How can he possibly be over her when he slept with her when we were dating??
Q. I have been going out with my boyfriend for nearly a year now. Just recently I found out that in the first month we were dating he slept with his ex-girlfriend. This hurts me very much and makes me very uncomfortable because they have children ...
A. 25 April 2006: Dear reader you said, "When he slept with her we weren't in a commited relationship, we were just dating." Dating IS a commitment. This guy has no respect for you. He still has feelings for his ex, thats why he slept with her. I understand why ... (read in full...)
My lover wants more from me, but I'm scared to loose my other half, What should I do??
Q. I have been married for a year but been having affair with married man for 4 years, the married man now wants more and I don't no what to do as I have feelings for him and don't feel I can live without him, but I love my husband and have so much to ...
A. 25 April 2006: How can you possibly love your husband if you have been cheating for over 4 years? That can't be the case, I am not judging you, but it sounds to me that you have your cake with icing and you are eating it to. You want no thrills sex with your ... (read in full...)
In love with my ex but he is with somebody else!!
Q. I am 18 years old and am in love with my ex boyfriend and i want to spend the rest of my life with him. But he is in a relationship with someone else and i dont know what to do to get him back. Ive tried to move on and ive try to be with other pe...
A. 25 April 2006: Dear Anon, if your ex is with someone else then you are going to have to leave the situation as it is. I know its hard,I know exactly how you feel, you want to be with that special person and knowing that they are with someone else tears you apart. ... (read in full...)
Do I let the gorgeous guy at work, I really like him or do I forget it and preserve my current relationship?
Q. I'm in a relationship but i've just met a co-worker/friend of my boyfriend and he is Gorgeous! i was immediately attracted to him, and his personality excites me. He also is in a long-term relationship (girlfriend). i'm wondering if there is any way ...
A. 25 April 2006: Dear reader, there is no such thing as harmless fun! Either way, at least one of you wil get seriously hurt. If you get involved purely for "sex" you will start to emotionally fall for him, and then it will turn into a rotten affair and before you ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my best mate I am in love with them??
Q. Ok, i have posted this question before, but i really need help urgently I have fallen in love with my best guy mate who i talk to on the internet and he has a girlfriend. I have never told him how i feel about him because i'm too scared and worry th...
A. 24 April 2006: Reader, your friend has a girlfriend so please don't ruin a potentially good friendship. I believe that there is a time and a season for everything, if the two of you are to be together, absolutely nothing will prevent that, but if he has got back... (read in full...)
I want to be with him, but I'm not exactly sure how I feel!
Q. i need help so badly...im with a lad i truely wanna be with forever but i keep doubting what im feeling,how do i stop it?? leaving him isnt an option please please help me!!! thank you for your time....
A. 24 April 2006: Dear Reader, my philosophy is this, if I ever have to question something, then its not right. I will give you a trivial materialistic answer to illustrate the point, If I put on an outfit, and I keep saying, "yeah I like it, but..." it means I am ... (read in full...)
I found out my daughter has been having sex since she was 11 !
Q. Iam worried about my 14 year old daughter Iam starting to think she maybe a nymphomaniac. I didnt know until recently that she was no longer virgin well after talking with her I now know that she is having sex everyday with her 18 year old boyfrien...
A. 24 April 2006: Dear Reader, your daughter is FAR TO YOUNG to be having sexual relationships. I don’t mean to scare you but you need to sit her down and tell her exactly how risky having sex at such a young age is. Firstly, her body is not properly developed, if ... (read in full...)
Unsure how I've gotten to 19 and still a virgin!?
Q. I’m 19 yrs old and still a virgin , and so hungry 4 some, not that there’s a problem with me or I’m ugly, it’s just some think just away seems to get in the way or happen. Like now there’s a 20 yr old girl I no she’s really pretty and we’ve been ...
A. 24 April 2006: Hungery, why the rush to lose your virginity? Virginity is precious, and can I say something else, virginity cannot be lost, once it has gone, you aint ever finding it again!
Relax mate and wait for the right person, life is not all about sex, sex ... (read in full...)
Should I have an affair??
Q. I met a man at work when he came from an agency to cover shifts, we went for a drink after work and had a kiss in his car the only thing is he's married and wants us to have an affair. Should i because i don't want anyone full time and it would su...
A. 24 April 2006: Cazzy, this person has absolutely no respect for you, his wife and most of all himself. He should NEVER have kissed you. He is married and has the audacity to suggest having an affair. If he will do this to his wife, sure enough he will do it to ... (read in full...)
Don't want to be a homewrecker, but I think I love my workmate..
Q. I am considering trying to start a relationship with someone I work with. We are both public officials in a small community who work together - but not in the same office. The only problem is that she is married with three kids and I'm not anxious ...
A. 24 April 2006: Napolean, this is an absolute NO GO AREA! Listen, we all develop feelings we shouldn’t. Let me give you a personal experience. There is this man at work, I don’t particularly find him attractive, he isnt even really my type, but for some reason I ... (read in full...)
Am I really too old to have another child?
Q. I am 40 this year and would like to have another child, my husband would too. We already have 3 children, we are self employed and able to financially afford another child. My problem is that people close to me say I'm too old now and am being se...
A. 24 April 2006: Hi, I personally think that you need to think long and hard about having another child. I am 23 years old, my mum is 60, my dad is 64. All my friends have parents in their forties and I envy the fact that my parents are older, I always think, they ... (read in full...)
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