Am I stoopid to thing the guy I'm sleeping with, the long-term-girlfriend guy, likes me.. ?
Q. I've recently been sleeping with a guy who has a longterm girlfriend. When I met him I knew he had a girlfriend, but, as someone with very low self-esteem, I was totally overwhelmed by his obvious interest in me, and we started having a ...
A. 14 May 2006: Martini is 100% right my dear, you need to find out whats causing the low self esteem, with me it was my childhood, it stemmed back from primary school and secondary school and has stayed with me up until now at age 23. Because I identified what was ... (read in full...)
How can I get my mp3 player back from the girl who nicked it?
Q. I was doing sport on Friday afternoon at school and had my mp3 player stolen from my jacket when it was hanging up in the changing rooms. The changing rooms are always kept locked when we do sport for this exact reason. I talked to a teacher and ...
A. 13 May 2006: Forget the other people and what they will do or think, ask the girl politely if she took the MP3 player. Dont let her under any circumstances get away with this. Use your discretion and ask if she knows anything about it, if things start getting ... (read in full...)
I feel like I'm losing his interest... Sex-wise.
Q. i've been w/my man for 8 yrs i'm 26 he's 10 yrs older i feel i'm losing his intrest is it his age?what can i do to make him feel10 yrs younger.when we got together i was the one who shyed away now i want him all the time!!!any suggestions???...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend, you both knew the age gap when you entered into the relationship so are you sure its the age that is the problem? I dont think the age has anything to do with it, I think you need to question why he has changed towards you. By talking to ... (read in full...)
Do I play hard to get or tell him I want him back? Which is best?
Q. Should I play it like I'm strong or show him I love him and want him back? My boyfriend of 7 years finished with me a month ago. We were planning to get married in a couple of years, but do the whole travelling round the world thing for a year fir...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend the answer is simple. BE HONEST. Whats with all the playing hard to get? Youmay end of losing him for good because he may get fed up with your games. Tel him straight how you feel and dont consider playing hard to get because he will ... (read in full...)
Is it normal for a married girl like myself to be crushing on another woman...
Q. Ok, well hello. I'm a married women who appears to have developed some sort of crush on another woman? Is this normal? I have only been married for a year and I love my husband. Recently I have been flirting with a friend of mine. Whenever we see ...
A. 13 May 2006: No my friend this is not normal behaviour. How come you are married to a man as it seems you are confused about yur sexuality. You need to decide if you want to remain with your husband because you cant go on like this. xXx... (read in full...)
He's busy going out with someone else but I think he really likes me.
Q. ryt i have seen questions like this but i just wanted to tell you about my situation and to see if anyone had any suggestions, i don't know if the lad i fancy likes me, he's busy goin out with someone else but i think there's something there we talk ...
A. 13 May 2006: Smiling and saying nice stuff to you my dear does not necessarily mean he fancies you. But as Martini has rightly said, he is with someone else so whether he likes you or not, he is not single so please dont do anything about it because it will be ... (read in full...)
Me and my boyfriend had sex without a condom but he pulled out, Is it still possible to get pregnant?
Q. recently me and my boyfriend were drunk and we startin kissin and it lead on further we have never had sex and i let him put it into me but he pulled away before he came to make sure there was no chance of me gettin pregnant as we had no condoms! i ...
A. 13 May 2006: Thats the problem when you get drunk and emotions are all over the place and libido is rocketing and then before you know it, sex happens when it shouldnt. My dear it is very possible for you to get pregnant, it certainly is. It sounds so obvious, ... (read in full...)
Ooops! She found out I kissed her friend. What do I do?
Q. about a month ago i snogged a girl and she and i were both goin out wit some 1 but we both felt the same and said we would keep it quiet ever since now and then we kiss and flirt. but recently i went away with her best mate and a few other ppl and i ...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend, if you cant help kissing other people you need to remain single so your girl wont get hurt. People may say kissing is not really cheating, but its what kissing leads to and if you keep on kissing other girls when you have a girl, ... (read in full...)
Two guys...which one do I choose? Help me out here.
Q. I am having a problem-you see, I have a friend (R) and I like him and I have liked him for a while and I am finally getting the idea that he likes me too, he is nice and does a bunch of other things that apparently show he definatley has interest in ...
A. 13 May 2006: My dear, you go with the guy who YOU think in your heart is the right one for you. Yes, thats a really obvious answer but here is what I mean. You need to draw up a mental list about guy R and guy T. Make a list of 5 things you like about R and ... (read in full...)
He's married, he ignores me and only comes around to see me for sex, but I love him so much.
Q. Hi, i need some help to sort my true feelings. have been in a long distance relationship with the man i luv truly. emails, phones, letters, gifts almost five years. we have had our ups n downs, but until recently i realised i need to move on becos i ...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend, listen up good. Firstly what has the last last part of your question got to do with anything, "he is married to a white gal"
That to me is totally irrelevant, well the bit about her colour is pointless, but let me just point out whic... (read in full...)
I'm 30 and submissive. Should I trust this dominant guy, 60, I met online?
Q. I met a guy on line, A man really as he is 60 and I am 30. My query is, should I trust him even though, He has given me his home address and I have spoken to both him and his daughter, on seperate occasions. I am a submissive, something I have...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend,I am not so sure about this. How can you really trust this man? How can you love him as well, you have only spoken online, correct? No I do not think you should relocate at all, as the previous person said, your daughter comes FIRST. ... (read in full...)
Am I stoopid to thing the guy I'm sleeping with, the long-term-girlfriend guy, likes me.. ?
Q. I've recently been sleeping with a guy who has a longterm girlfriend. When I met him I knew he had a girlfriend, but, as someone with very low self-esteem, I was totally overwhelmed by his obvious interest in me, and we started having a ...
A. 13 May 2006: My dear are you insane? Listen, the low self esteem doest wash with me, my friend, please, you shouldnt use low self esteem as an excuse for this. I have been through such stripping of my self concept that I actually question God about my DNA, I say ... (read in full...)
Found out my husband had a secret kid... So I've been having secret liasons with a married man!
Q. hi guys I need some help here. I know that most of you are going to judge me and call me names but I'm ready for it. I am 23/24 and I've been married for 2 1/2 years. I have no kids. 2 years ago me and husband moved to another country were I h...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend I have absolutely no intention of judging you, I am not God, so what right havd I got to condemn you. But my dear, listen to me, you have pretty much provided the solution to your own problem where you state: but it looks like i cannot go ... (read in full...)
She looks at me and flicks her hair in my direction...does she like me?
Q. please publish as i am desperate for an answer. two years ago a girl and i really liked each other, each night we would talk to each other. after a while she aquired a new number but i never bothered to ask her for it. i dream about her a few times ...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend I would say she definately likes you. For a woman, our hair is our glory, its a fact. The greatest book in the world states it. And when it comes to women finding another man attrative a way of showing a guy we like them, we often do ... (read in full...)
Should I be upset that I found pictures and letters from his ex?
Q. I have been living with my boyfriend for six monthes. He asked me to look for something in his personal things. I found pictures and letters from his ex girlfriends. Do I have the right to be upset?...
A. 13 May 2006: Yes you do have the right to be upset my dear, however they were from his EX. You are the NOW not the past and the girl from the past ought to stay in the past and whatever photos and letters he had, they are now his story. Yes, she is history, ... (read in full...)
Spouse or parents... who do you love "more" deeply?
Q. Who do you love more deeply, your spouse or your parents?...
A. 12 May 2006: Dr Pete gave the perfect answer my friend. The love you have for your parents i.e Phylios (I dont know if I spelt that right!!) is totally different from the love you have a for a partner that is Eros. You cant possibly be IN love with your ... (read in full...)
Tell me... Am I too young to be a mum?
Q. Hi. I need some advise. I am 22 years old, 23 this year and have been with my for a long time. I have always wanted to be a mother, but always wanted it to be later on ie 28years old ish! Recently I have beenthinking of nothing else, I want to ...
A. 12 May 2006: My dear if you have a decent income and you and your boyfriend are happy, what is the problem. 23 is a respectable age, most people have their kids at such tender ages but you are the same age as me and I always said I wanted my first child in my ... (read in full...)
He made a flirty comment..I think? How do I interpret that?
Q. I was having a conversation online with a male friend of mine the other day. We've been friends for several years and a couple of months ago he moved to a new province for a job. Well I was telling him about my cousins wedding and how I caught the ...
A. 12 May 2006: My dear I wouldnt read too much into this comment, I dont personally think it was a "flirty" comment but I am not trying to put a dampener on things! I am just trying to be realistic. The best way to find out is to drop a few hints to try and find ... (read in full...)
My crush is now available.... when would it be ready to ask him out?
Q. I have had a crush on someone for over a year now, they know i have this big thing for them, but he had a gf. Him and his gf decided to split up the other day. Do you thinkit is to early to ask him out? ...
A. 11 May 2006: The other day? Are you literally talking the other day or are you more like me when I say a couple I may mean 5 or when I say in a minute I mean 3 hours!!! Seriously my dear, if he has "the other day" broke off with the ex, then it is a bit too ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend doesn't have time for me.... shall i end it?
Q. I'm thinking of breaking up with my boyfriend because he won't make an effort to see me anymore. He says he hasn't got time to see me because he is studying, but i'm studying too and i would make time to see him! He lives in the same town as me,...
A. 11 May 2006: My friend, it does not sound very nice to me the way your fella hasnt got the decency to devote some of his precious time for you, how can he say he cant see you because he is studying? My dear if he wont make the effort with you then why are you ... (read in full...)
I have feelings towards a guy in a relationship.. stuff has happened and I feel bad.. advice?
Q. i have been friends with this guy for a few years and we have become very close, no one could understand our relationship as they all thought we were having something on the side. but he has been in a serious relationship with someone for about a ...
A. 11 May 2006: My friend I am sorry to hear that you have been made out to be the bad person in all this. Last time I checked , it takes 2 to kiss, so the other guy is equally to blame. How is he towards you? I can see why your friend will not like the sight of ... (read in full...)
Should I use my dads inheritance to help my girlfriend out of her financial problems??
Q. okay here it goes, my girlfriend's mom and step dad (well he was the moms boyfriend for like 16 years and they never got married so thats what they called him "dad") are seperating so they had to move out togther in some low imcome apartments. ...
A. 11 May 2006: No, you shouldn't give her the money to sort out her financial woes. My friend I am not a selfish person and I don believe in helping those in "need" but this is your fathers inheritance, it should not be used to bail out your girlfriend. My ... (read in full...)
Third person in a relationship is causing problems... what should I do?
Q. there is a girl at my mans work i've never met her but he gave her a ride back and forth to work for 3 or 4 months i never had a problem w/this.she didn't have a car and i loved him for being so kind.now she has a car and calls the house atleast ...
A. 11 May 2006: My friend, I think you have every right to question what is going on here though it does not necessarily mean he is cheating. Why dont you just confront this girl, despite what your boyfirend says. Why is he so apprehensive about you meeting her, ... (read in full...)
I know it's just a crush, but will I get over her?
Q. I'm leaving school and going to university and this girl I really fancy is in the year below me. I know it is a crush and I know at least I won't be going out with her in the near future as she wants to concentrate on getting into university. I know ...
A. 10 May 2006: Yes you will be able to get over her my friend, trust me you will. As each day goes by, you will see that the less you see of her, and the more you start focusing on other things, you will find that you will start to get over her. Focus on the ... (read in full...)
I fancy my girlfriends friend but dont want to hurt feelings!!
Q. I have been with my girlfriend for 1 year and I do love her but things have been very grim recently and i went out with her and her best friend last week. I fancy my girlfriends good friend, and i know she fancies me but I dont know what to do ...
A. 10 May 2006: Well my friend, this is not a good situation to be in. I think that you cant truly love your girlfriend if it is your desire to be with her friend. Perhaps you should think long and hard about the relationship you ar ein, ask yourself why is the ... (read in full...)
My friends don't really approve of my boyfriend, what should I do?
Q. i have just started going out with a lovely boy whom I like very much!he's the sweetest, nicest guy ever. BUT,we hang in different groups in school, he is kind of with the "outcasts" (not my choice of word), which I have no problem with but my f...
A. 9 May 2006: What has your boyfreiend got to do with your loser mates? What sort of friends disrespect their friend's boyfriend? If you dont find him ugly, who gives a damn what your "mates" think? I am sorry to call your friends losers but thats how they are ... (read in full...)
I was so close to asking her out, but someone else got to her first.....
Q. i was gonna ask out this girls but then she went out with some other guy like the day i was goin 2 ask her wat can i do so close...
A. 9 May 2006: So close, but thats all it can be for now I am afraid. Its hard luck, but my friend she is with someone else, as easy as it may sound, you need to move on. xXx... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to a man whole calls me a "slag"... What do I do?
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man, well he used to be wonderful. He has recently started being really nasty to me calling me a slag and rough. I have never cheated on him. He always apologises the day after but I can't take much more of it what do I ...
A. 9 May 2006: My friend it makes no difference to me pointing out that he has never hit you it would however make him more of a wretch if he did, but the fact is, he disrespects you and that is not fair to you. I wish I could help you but it seems as though you ... (read in full...)
Loving someone and being IN love, advice please...
Q. what's the difference between loving someone and being inlove with someone?...
A. 9 May 2006: Yeah, thanks Dr Pete, I like the way you explained love using the pool analogy, thats better than how I put it!! By my dear, just one more point regarding loving someone and being in love, dont confuse LOVE and LUST either. It sounds obvious, but ... (read in full...)
It hurts me that my bf doesn't involve me in his life. His friends seem to take priority. What should I do?
Q. My boyfriend's brother has a baby, and he is so excited and proud of his baby niece, the only way I get to see pictures is when I ask, but to his other friends he sends them constantly, and they're constantly saying how cute she is, and it hurts me ...
A. 9 May 2006: My dear, you need to give this boyfriend of yours an ultimatum. You need to tell him EXACTLY how you feel and if at any point in the relationship you are hurt by his actions, you need to tell him straight otherwise he will carry on like this and you ... (read in full...)
I may be pregnant. How much for an abortion.... And would I need to tell my mom?
Q. I'm 14 and the weekend just gone me and my boyfriend both had sex for the first time, Stupidly we didnt use a condom but he said he pulled out in time. We went to a clinic the next day and got an after morning pill, Its been 2 days and im late for ...
A. 9 May 2006: My dear at 14 you should not even be in this mess. Sex is not just a case of rumpy pumpy, if you are not ready for a child yet or the responsibility of a child you are not ready for sex. Abortion is not the easy answer to your problem, "if I get ... (read in full...)
This guy does drugs, is that okay or should I move on?
Q. i've met this really great guy and we get on really well, he's good looking, funny, in a band...but...he does drugs, not sure exactly what...'shrooms n hash i think. Im not saying that i don't go out and get drunk but drugs are different. Do you ...
A. 9 May 2006: Well for me personally it is not acceptable to use drugs, but I am me and you are you and we all have different opinions. If he is using Marijuana, this is quite common among a lot of young people, but if he is regularly using it are you happy to ... (read in full...)
I can't move on with our relationship after he cheated on me...
Q. my boyfriend and father to my son of almost three years, cheated on me with a friend and next door neighbor.he did it several times and lost his job, spent money on her while i fought to pay bills. it's been about four months and I still can't seem ...
A. 9 May 2006: My dear I am so sorry to hear that you were cheated on, its not fair that you had togo through that, but my friend I would suggest that you give yourself some time to think carefully what you want to do next. He is the father of your child and ... (read in full...)
I'm pregnant, but I fancy another guy besides my boyfriend. What should I do?
Q. found out about 6 weeks ago that i was pregnant and my boyfriend and i are really happy about it and are keeping it. However i also recently started a new job and there is a guy here who is paying me a lot of attention and who i really fancy. He ...
A. 8 May 2006: What do you mean you cant help yourself. My dear this could potentially turn ugly. You have got to ignore the attention from the fella at work and concentrate on remaining fit and healthy for this pregancy. Attention comes and goes, you are ... (read in full...)
He likes me, I like him, but he's got someone else...what can I do?
Q. the person ive liked for ages has just got a girlfriend, i know he likes me too but what can i do?...
A. 8 May 2006: Nothing my friend, while he is with someone I would not recommend anything. What can you do? While he is with someone and you start something, you will be having an affair, so while he is taken you have to stay out of the picture and try to move ... (read in full...)
I set up my friend with the guy I like....what should I do?
Q. i have just set my mate up with the one i fancy i had to becuz the lad n me were good friends i didnt mean to i'm just that sorta person n now i feel realy sad what should i do? ...
A. 8 May 2006: Well you are a really nice person to do what you did, it must be hard that you have feelings and you are seeing him with someone else. For now its just best to see how things go with your friend and the guy because it may get complicated if you let ... (read in full...)
I've been with him for awhile, I KNOW he won't cheat, but I have a feeling he will???...
Q. hi. basically ive been with my boyfriend 2 years now, he has never cheated and neither have i but for some stupid reason i have become very insecure that he will. also i just cant seem to stop nagging him! I love him so much, and just want some ...
A. 8 May 2006: In order to make this relationship last you have to abolish all feelings from your head that he is gonna cheat otherwise you will push him away with your jealousy. And what way to do that is so start believing in yourself, i.e believe that is he is ... (read in full...)
Loving someone and being IN love, advice please...
Q. what's the difference between loving someone and being inlove with someone?...
A. 8 May 2006: Well, lets use an example shall we. I have a very good male friend. I am female. I absolutely love this man, he is the greatest, he is funny, kind, sensitive etc but I ma not IN love withhim because I dont want to wake up next to him every ... (read in full...)
He's told me to have sex with other men, what should I do?
Q. I am 24 and my husband is 27. Recently he has been telling me if I want sex, I should sleep with other men. I told him I don't want to cheat on him, and that he's suggesting cheating. However, he insists he has no sex drive at all, and says h...
A. 8 May 2006: Its not normal for a 27 year old to have NO sex drive at all. You need to sit him down and have a good long chat as to why he is like this. And as for sleeping with other men, thats a ludicrous idea. Have a talk and try to find out whats going on ... (read in full...)
He's given me two STD's and narrowly missed prison for beating me... not sure what to do?
Q. im 19 and have been with my partner for almost 4 years we have a 2 year old daughter but since being with him he has givin me 2 stds in a result of cheating on me he has just narrowly missed a prison sentence for beating me badly its not the firs...
A. 8 May 2006: Hold on let me just check that I was not imagining things, your boyfriend has given you to STI's, he has beaten you and you are stil with him because? well? I know you have a child, but this partner of yours is one snippet short of being a COMPLETE ... (read in full...)
My mother said she heard people in our bedroom when she came home. Should I believe her?
Q. My name is "Sue". i have been dating an older man, "Bob" for a year and a half. My mother recently moved in with us because of some money issues. She hates us dating, because he is older than i am. I love him more than anything and would trust him ...
A. 8 May 2006: She "heard" people? And what?, what exactly did she hear? I am sorry, but your mum could just have a pot and the spoon is in her hand and she is stirring things up. Unless she tells you exactly what she heard I think you should stop worrying my ... (read in full...)
He wants to give me a "pearl necklace" but I'd prefer some pretty ear-rings!!
Q. Hiya I'm 17 and from Newcastle in the uk, studying art and design. My boyfriend and me have been going out for a few weeks now and he keeps promising to give me a pearl necklace at the weekend, but he has yet to come round with one. I love my j...
A. 8 May 2006: In my view, you should be grateful for whatever he gives you, however you have been dating for a few weeks, i.e. days and that is hardly a long enough time for your fella to know what floats your boat and what rocks it. If for example the two of ... (read in full...)
I'm engaged to a man whole calls me a "slag"... What do I do?
Q. I am engaged to a wonderful man, well he used to be wonderful. He has recently started being really nasty to me calling me a slag and rough. I have never cheated on him. He always apologises the day after but I can't take much more of it what do I ...
A. 6 May 2006: Ok let me get this straight. You are engaged to a wonderful man who calls you "lovely" names like "slag" and then he is ever so corteous to apologise the next day. My dear wake up and see this prat for who he is. If your fella cant even respect ... (read in full...)
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