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writes: My wife wants our relationship to end after 9 years of marrage. She obviously wants someone else. I don't want it to end but she gets upset and angry when I let her know this. I don't know what has made her decide this exactly and she wont tell me clearly what has made her decide.How should I proceed? Reply to this Question
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reader, Angel ron +, writes (30 April 2006):
 have you ever tried couples counseilling or going to relate if you haven't I suggest you try that one. Howvewer thats perfectly fine if your wife is not happy and wnat to leave and be with someone fine thats pefectly fine just let her go and if she comes back don't let her back in get a quick divorce on the grounds of adultery and unreasonable behaviour and try to get compenesation for what she has done to you. she doesn't deserve to ahve a nice man like you . Yuo will eventually meet someone else.
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reader, Aunt Audrey  +, writes (30 April 2006):
 I would imagine your wife must have some reason for wanting to end your marriage, and you deserve an honest explanation as to why she feels this way.
She may have met someone else, but this is not necessarily the reason, and unless you both sit down and talk about it you will be left forever wondering what went wrong. Tell her you at least deserve an explanation.
Is she leaving you or are you expected to move out? Do you have children to consider?
You need to get to the root of the problem here so you have some understanding of what's gone wrong. Only then can you try to repair the reationship.
If your wife has made her mind up about ending your marriage there is little you can do except hope that at some point she changes her mind and decides to give your relationship another go......
Good luck!
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reader, Mama +, writes (30 April 2006):
Hi,This is always a very difficult one! but one you can resolve. You need to sit down with her, but don't make it a 100 question chat, be careing, she obviously has some needs that you are unaware of. Question? has she got someone else or is it becaues there has been a breakdown of cummunication? Try to spend some quality time with her asap. Let her know that you want to help. If she has someone else, and you just can't let her go try telling her that a new love is always better than an old one. I have said this so many times in the past. The grass is always greener on the other side untill you get there. When she does, one day this new love if she has one will also become old. Then what, she will be getting older too. One day she will be old and lonely, if she leaves you, it will be hard. But what dosen't kill you makes you stronger. You will find someone who really loves you, I did, I really hope you work it out. xxx
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reader, bonym +, writes (30 April 2006):
 If your wife wants to end the relationship, then I am afraid you will have to let her have her way. I know you will be upset, that is natural, but if you persuade her to stay in a relationship which she doesnt want to be in, she will end up despising you and you dont want that. You need to establish why she wants to end a marriage after so long, you need to sit down together and talk, and I mean just talk everything through. If she leaves you, no doubt she will soon regret it and want to come crawling back, but you do have feelings so dont just let her back in that easily, demand an explanation as to why she has made this decision. Good luck xXx
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reader, Napoleon +, writes (29 April 2006):
 First I would suggest trying to talk to her about marriage counseling and indicate your willingness to change anything you are doing wrong. Also try to talk to her family members or close friends. They may have some idea of what's going on with her. Also check your joint bank statements for the last few months and see if there are any unusual transactions (this is to see if she is seeing someone and to protect yourself just in case). You should also start looking for an attorney who practices in divorce/family law. You must be realistic about this situationShould you not be able to work this out, consider counseling for yourself and be prepared to move on with your life. You must understand that in order for a marriage to work both parties must be committed to making it work and if she is not, your marriage will be at an end. That is something you must be ready for because it is largely out of your control. Good luck!
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