Boyfriends little girl passed away and he's now spending time with the mother... what should I do?
Q. my boyfriends little girl died 2weeks ago when i was up north with him! but it happened at his ex's! the funeral took 2 weeks to happen it happened a couple of days ago and since he went home and he has spent alot of time with his ex!! and the nigh...
A. 18 May 2006: My dear I am so sorry to hear about this, Dr Pete seems to be taking the words out of my mouth, I totally agree with all he has said amongst the other responses too. Just go along with what your boyfriend wants, if he says he cant see either of you ... (read in full...)
Sweet, sweet revenge!?
Q. Advice on sweet sweet revenge. Last year my boyfriend forgot my birthday, and on that day someone told me that I was attractive, naturally I told him, as we don't keep secrets, as he tells me when someone does that to him too. However on the day ...
A. 18 May 2006: My friend, it seems a tad childish to take revenge on him like that? I am not insulting you, just stating an opinion thats all. I am sure you know better than that, dont play him at his own game, show him what a good girlfriend you are, dont ... (read in full...)
Been having affair... can't keep on sharing but don't want to give him up! :( help me please!
Q. ive been having an affair with an attached man for over a year now and i love him and he says he loves me but he wont leave his girlfriend because he has 2 children and he wont walk away from them. he says he loves her too but if he didnt have kids ...
A. 17 May 2006: My dear it stands to reason you are very confused. I dont really think I can add anything on top of what great advice you have been given, but the simple fact is this: you cannot have your cake or eat it too. Let me explain what I mean by that ... (read in full...)
I'm 14 and a boy keeps asking me out but joking...
Q. i am 14. what does it mean when a boy asks you out but sounding as if he is joking? i mean keeps on and on asking but in a really joky way and it is so obviouse that he is joking cos he does it infront of the whole class! is he just trying to get ...
A. 17 May 2006: My dear it could be that he is "joking" to cover up how he really feels. What I mean is, some guys dont like being open about how they feel, so perhaps when he is around his class mates he likes to show off and pretend, but deep down he maybe likes ... (read in full...)
Am I a dreamer... Or is she attracted?
Q. PRELUDE It appears I was born blind, or so it seems to me. My brain gets a little selective when it comes to picking up signals from the women I'm attracted to. It's a horrible handicap to have, and all the more frustrating when your friends giv...
A. 17 May 2006: Thats no problem my friend, I am glad and I am sure I speak for others when I say that we are happy to help!!! Good luck with everything. xXx... (read in full...)
Aged 15 and never had a boyfriend
Q. hi i'm 15 and i have never had a boyfriend and no-one as ever asked me out before! why not? whats wrong with me? i am average looking. does anyone fancy me or has anyone EVER fancied me????? are the boys just shy to ask me out? (i have asked people ...
A. 17 May 2006: My dear there is certainly nothing wrong with you at all. I am 23 and the last time I was asked out was when I was 15, i.e your age!!! Seriously, I mean it. I have to do the asking now because I dont get anywhere with men!!! I have had men ask on ... (read in full...)
Boyfriend pressuring me....should i dump him?
Q. Dear agony aunts, My new boyfriend keeps pressuring me to snog him and to give him blow jobs but i dont want to. Should i dump him?...
A. 17 May 2006: My dear you should NOT be pressurised into doing anything that you are not comfortable with. If you are not ready to be intimate with him in that way then dont do it, if he wone listen, you are better of without him. xXx... (read in full...)
I slept with my boyfriend's brother and cant keep my hands off of him!!
Q. i am 23 and boy friend is24 we have been together for3 yaers he is got a brother who is currently staying with us who i had a chemistry and lkast week after a drink when my boyfriend was a sleep we had sex in my bedroom and now we cant keep our ...
A. 17 May 2006: I totally agree with Dr Pete. But may I add this, my dear if you TRULY "LOVED" your fella, you would put chemistry aside and you would not have slept with this man. The best thing you can do is to refrain from seeing your sisters fella and I ... (read in full...)
Sex whilst on a period... what do you think?
Q. do all guys hate/dont mind sleeping with a girl when she has her period? im always extra horny at this time and although i try to not let anything happen i cant resist my boyfriends roaming hands at this time, i even forget its that time off the ...
A. 17 May 2006: I am not a male, but in my opinion sex when its that time of the month is stomach churning, I mean there is a flow of blood coming out of you and the thought of a man inside me at that time makes my skin crawl. I dont advocate anal sex either, I am ... (read in full...)
How do you know if you've found the right partner?
Q. How do you know if you've found the right partner? Ages ago I went out with this girl (my first girlfriend) and to begin with we kept texting each other but after half term when we didn't see each other for a week as she went back home, I felt it ...
A. 17 May 2006: My friend it wont happen for the rest of your life, I dont want to patronise you but you are still young, so there are plenty of relationships stil to come. For now, concentrate on your studies and achieve the best you can. When you meet Miss ... (read in full...)
I cheated and now I'm pregnant. Don't know whether the baby is my boyfriend's or my one-night-stand's!
Q. Hi, my name is Rebecca. I have a huge problem that could wreck my life. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and we have been trying for a baby for the past 7 months. I went on holiday about 4 weeks ago and on my last ...
A. 16 May 2006: Also Bex, I would NOT recommend an abortion before telling your partner. Coming clean now I believe is best because a relationshipis built on TRUST. All the best. xXx
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I cheated and now I'm pregnant. Don't know whether the baby is my boyfriend's or my one-night-stand's!
Q. Hi, my name is Rebecca. I have a huge problem that could wreck my life. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for over a year and we have been trying for a baby for the past 7 months. I went on holiday about 4 weeks ago and on my last ...
A. 16 May 2006: Dear Bex, the baby wont necessarily be darker if he is mixed race of white and Turkish. My aunty is FULL black and she is the same skin colour as Angelina Jolie!!! Skin tone depends entirely on God, your baby may be dark even if it is your white ... (read in full...)
Rumours I've been cheating while my boyfriend is in prison
Q. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years, and he has been in prison for the last 6 months. I have always been faithful. However, people have recently been telling him that they've heard that I have slept with someone else. This is totally untrue, ...
A. 16 May 2006: My dear if you know that you have done nothing wrong then let the malicious people do what they have to do, they will soon get a good dose of Karma and before they know it, they will have to be begging for forgiveness. Some people are only happy ... (read in full...)
Short and sweet! does what you eat cause premature ejaculation?
Q. Can what u eat cause premature ejaculation? ...
A. 16 May 2006: I doubt it sir but it is a possibility that diet, i.e high fat diets may cause weak erections etc and thus cause premature ejaculation. Also I know that smoking hashish, dope, marijuana whatever you wish to call it does not help in that ... (read in full...)
Am I a dreamer... Or is she attracted?
Q. PRELUDE It appears I was born blind, or so it seems to me. My brain gets a little selective when it comes to picking up signals from the women I'm attracted to. It's a horrible handicap to have, and all the more frustrating when your friends giv...
A. 16 May 2006: Dear reader, here are the things you said and my response in capitals:
- She reached over to touch my forearm many times as we chatted (SHE LIKES YOU)
- Leaned in close to talk (Was that just because of the music? I don’t know)
(NOTHING TO D... (read in full...)
Is it wrong to break up with my girl because her hair is falling out!?
Q. Hi, I'm Tom. I've been going out with my girlfriend Anna for almost two months now. Everything was great until a few weeks ago when Anna decided to dye her hair red. Because she has very dark hair, she needed to bleach it first. She's always had ...
A. 16 May 2006: Tom, please don't take this the wrong way, I am not judging you and I don't think you are a bad person but are you that shallow that because your girl's hair has fallen out you are no longer attracted to her? If this is the case then you are basing ... (read in full...)
Are school nurses correct when they say it's IMPOSSIBLE to get pregnant on your period?
Q. I had unprotected sex with my bf on the first day of my period, a few hours after taking the Pill for the very first time. I took the ECP "Plan B" almost 48 hours later, and have continued to take my Pill at the right times (my gyno said that if I ...
A. 16 May 2006: Getting pregnant depends upon when your body is ovulating. I found this really good bit of information you should read: I found it off a useful source and I have pasted it from an article I was reading.
"Although it is very unlikely tha... (read in full...)
He broke up with me and now I don't want to do anything but have him!!!
Q. my boyfriend has just finished with me and i dont know why, He said he was losing his love for me. what can i do?? i dont wanna eat sleep or do anything else except for being with him help!!!!...
A. 16 May 2006: My dear I am sorry to hear that your boyfriend has finished with you but just because your relationship has finished do not feel that your life has to end also. If he was losing love for you, why do you want to be with someone who doesnt really ... (read in full...)
We almost slept together, now he's avoiding me! Why?
Q. I nearly ended up sleeping with my friend's flatmate a few days ago, who has been flirting with me for some time. I didn't sleep with him because I was on my period, but ever since that night he's been really shy with me. If I try and see him or ...
A. 15 May 2006: I think you should just leave him. If you keep pursuing him he may lose interest and get fed up. If he really wanted to be with you my dear I am sure he would tell you. Perhaps he is not ready for a full on relationship. xXx... (read in full...)
Having an affair with a married man, feel used, What should I do?
Q. I am madly in love with a married man I work with and I don't know what to do. We were having an affair for two months, and I fell in love with him and told him this. He said that he felt the same but that he would never leave his wife for me, and ...
A. 15 May 2006: This is a right mess. I know you say you love him, but do you love yourself? If you did why would you be happy to be the "other" woman in a relationship. This man is married and it seems to me like he is not as into you as you are into him. He is ... (read in full...)
Are soulmates destined to be together? How do you tell?
Q. Is it true that if two people are meant to be together, they will be together...like fate? Or is it all just rubbish? Is there anyway to tell if you're meant to be with someone?...
A. 15 May 2006: I believe FIRMLY that if 2 people are meant to be together and God intnds it that way, NOTHING stops them from being together. I also believe that we can "mess" with destiny and fate if we become selfish and greedy and adopt this I want it and I ... (read in full...)
Worried that I got her pregnant last night
Q. Last night I had sex with a lady who I've known for a while, She's on the pill, I also withdrew, I am now so worried I got her pregnant, Am I just being overtly paranoid? I'm worried sick!...
A. 15 May 2006: My friend there is perhaps only a 2% chance she is pregnant IF she used her pill correctly and you withdrew IN TIME, but I am no GP and that figure is an estimate. Sex is not just about having fun you know, you ought to know by now that sex can ... (read in full...)
I don't want to cheat but can't switch off my feelings
Q. I've recently developed feelings for this guy at work which have become stronger over the past few months. He already has a girlfriend of about two years though who also works at the same place, I think he has the same feelings for me because the ...
A. 15 May 2006: Even though you haven't done anything "yet" My friend, dont let this yet become reality. Don't do anything. You may not be able to "switch" off the feelings but you are going to have to deal with the electricity and strong chemistry beyween you ... (read in full...)
Does everyone have someone that fancies them?
Q. I am 15. Is it true that there is a person of the opposite gender thinking of you and wanting to be with you? What i mean is is it true that one person fancies each and every person in your school? Does everybody have a person that fancies them even ...
A. 15 May 2006: My dear its really hard to say, but considering how many people there are in the entire Universe let alone your school, I am sure there is at least someone who "fancies" you. Itis quite common that there will be someone out there who takes a liking ... (read in full...)
He is a few years older than me, am I too immature?
Q. he's a few years older than me, im not young but im sort of "inexperienced". I really like him and i think he feels the same but am i too immature for him?...
A. 15 May 2006: Hello again, well at 18 you are an adult and of course so is he so the age really isnt an issue. As for being sexually "inexperienced" we all have to start somewhere, we are all inexperienced at one point, the question is, do you feel comfortable ... (read in full...)
In A Relationship But My Ex Wants Me Back
Q. Hi there, I need some advice.... I was in a relationship for nearly 5 years, from the age of 16. My ex decided to break up as he believed he didn't see a future for us. Although this was over 3 years ago it still left me in bits. Looking back we w...
A. 15 May 2006: My friend, if you are with someone and he is with someone, why on earth do you want to possibly start seeing him again. As Dr Psych said, you must have broken up for a reason so please, dont pursue this. If he is with someone, he shouldnt be ... (read in full...)
These are my vitals. Am I hot... or not?
Q. Hey guys Do you think iam attractive basicslly these are my vital stats iam 28 years old 5ft inches tall dark skinned dark eyes asian origin short to medium length hair my dress size is size 6 to 8 but mainly an eight my shoe size is 4 Pl...
A. 15 May 2006: My friend, vital stats dont mean anything, I mean I have what many people say is the "perfect body" I am slim (uk size 10) but curvy, shaped like an hour glass, flawless skin, long black hair, etc etc but yet still not many men seem to find me ... (read in full...)
He is a few years older than me, am I too immature?
Q. he's a few years older than me, im not young but im sort of "inexperienced". I really like him and i think he feels the same but am i too immature for him?...
A. 15 May 2006: My dear how can I answer your question with such limited information. How old are you? How old is your fella? Do you mean immature and inexperienced sexually or in other ways? My dear,if you like him and he likes you, see how things go and take it ... (read in full...)
We kissed and now I need to know his true feelings!!
Q. me and one of my mates kissed last weekend and when my friends asked him he said i made the first move and he doesn't like me in that way.. but when i see him now he either turns the other way or goes embarassed....help what should i do to find out ...
A. 15 May 2006: My dear I am afraid that this guy perhaps does not like you the way you want him too. He probably gets embarrassed when he sees you because he might feel a bit funny towards you because you kissed and he doest like you in that way. I am not ... (read in full...)
How can I make a move on a married man I really like?
Q. Listen guys hey how are you? Well I have another problem I fancy one of the Dads at my daughter's nursery, he is really nice, good looking, friendly and I really like him. And he is funny too. I would like to make the first move on to him the only ...
A. 15 May 2006: Hi Angel Ron, listen my friend, coming from some one who knows, please do not mess with a married man, its just a really bad idea. It will only lead to trouble and I am sure if you were answering a quesion for someone else you would advise them to ... (read in full...)
My gran is sick and if I don't visit soon, I'm worried I'll never see her again...
Q. My grandma is very sick and i know that she'll die soon. shes been in hospital for ages and is very weak. we didnt know them very well when me and my brothr were young because they live far away and my dad (whose parents they are, but whom we dont ...
A. 15 May 2006: My dear I know EXACTLY how you feel. I live in England, UK and my grandmother lived in Barbados. She developed Cancer in 2003 and God called her home in 2004. I was devastated because the last time I saw her alive was 2001 and I should have gone ... (read in full...)
Am I stoopid to thing the guy I'm sleeping with, the long-term-girlfriend guy, likes me.. ?
Q. I've recently been sleeping with a guy who has a longterm girlfriend. When I met him I knew he had a girlfriend, but, as someone with very low self-esteem, I was totally overwhelmed by his obvious interest in me, and we started having a ...
A. 14 May 2006: Martini is 100% right my dear, you need to find out whats causing the low self esteem, with me it was my childhood, it stemmed back from primary school and secondary school and has stayed with me up until now at age 23. Because I identified what was ... (read in full...)
Is "no-sex" a problem?
Q. im in a relationship with a man i love deeply , but my problem is that the thought of having sex with him anymore turns me right off , we been together for sevral years , iv not had sex with him for about 8 months and he doesnt seem to bothered....
A. 14 May 2006: My dear this is not normal at all. How can your boyfriend "turn you right off?" Why does it turn you off, what has happened in your relationship. You have not been intimate for 8 months, thats clearly not a healthy sign. You need to ask yourself ... (read in full...)
I like this new guy but I think I still like my ex...
Q. ok i wetn to the prom with this new guy and had SOOO much fun!... the next day i went to his house and hung out that night we started dating... my ex now has a new girlfriend but evreyone who talks to him or me thinks im wat prettier and better... ...
A. 14 May 2006: My friend, just because everyone thinks you are way prettier and better is not an excuse to want to try and get you r ex back. Please my dear stop letting these comments get to your head. It sounds to me and you have said it that you want to have ... (read in full...)
I don't want to hurt her, but I feel it's time to break up!
Q. so how do I break up with her? we're both sophomores at different colleges, and have been dating since senior year of high school. i just don't feel the same way as I once did, and i really don't want to hurt her. she's been asking things like what ...
A. 13 May 2006: If you stay with her then you will only end up hurting her in the long run because she will eventually find out how you truly feel and she will have wanted you to have been honest with her. I am a bit confused though, you said right at the end that ... (read in full...)
Should I follow my heart and date this girl - who's 13?
Q. i am 16 and have feelings for a girl. but the problem is she is only 13. she looks very young but i really like her and she really likes me. if i went out if her id be called names and my mum wouldnt like me for it. i dont know what to do. follow my ...
A. 13 May 2006: My friend, while she is only a tender age of 13 I dont think that it is wise to start dating because it will soon lead to sex and she is far too young. As willywombat has rightly suggested, justbe friends for now. Its the wise choice. xXx... (read in full...)
How do I get out of this relationship??
Q. hello all, You will be sick of me by now. Is it too much to want to be a strong independent woman? Why cant i get out of this relationship? My boyfriend is mentally and sexually abusing me and instead of getting rid of him and being truly happ...
A. 13 May 2006: My dear, I believe the problem you are having is that you dont value yourself the way you should. You feel as though you should be punished and you are allowing this brute to treat you so very badly. If it has been going on for 8 years, think ... (read in full...)
Sweet 16 and never been... in a relationship. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. Hi...I'm 16 years old girl, and have never been in a proper relationship. Is there something wrong with me, or have I just not met the right guy?!...
A. 13 May 2006: My dear there is absolutely nothing wrong with you at all. I was the same like you at your age my dear but I didn't think there was anything wrong with me. Dont think that there is anything wrong with you, in time you will meet someone and you ... (read in full...)
Not sure what to think..does she like me more than being just friends?
Q. I'll keep this short (or as short as I can). I met a girl (lives like 20mins drive away) online like a year ago and we've chatted lots on MSN n stuff - we finally met up around a month or so ago. I am a little confused with things though... ...
A. 13 May 2006: Hi my friend, sorry about that, I presses add my answer when I only typed the letter M!! Anyways here is what I was going to say, it seems pretty obvious to me that this girl likes you. You say you have shared a bed, kissed, etc etc, well if she ... (read in full...)
Not sure what to think..does she like me more than being just friends?
Q. I'll keep this short (or as short as I can). I met a girl (lives like 20mins drive away) online like a year ago and we've chatted lots on MSN n stuff - we finally met up around a month or so ago. I am a little confused with things though... ...
A. 13 May 2006: M... (read in full...)
How can I get my mp3 player back from the girl who nicked it?
Q. I was doing sport on Friday afternoon at school and had my mp3 player stolen from my jacket when it was hanging up in the changing rooms. The changing rooms are always kept locked when we do sport for this exact reason. I talked to a teacher and ...
A. 13 May 2006: Forget the other people and what they will do or think, ask the girl politely if she took the MP3 player. Dont let her under any circumstances get away with this. Use your discretion and ask if she knows anything about it, if things start getting ... (read in full...)
Am I stoopid to thing the guy I'm sleeping with, the long-term-girlfriend guy, likes me.. ?
Q. I've recently been sleeping with a guy who has a longterm girlfriend. When I met him I knew he had a girlfriend, but, as someone with very low self-esteem, I was totally overwhelmed by his obvious interest in me, and we started having a ...
A. 13 May 2006: My dear are you insane? Listen, the low self esteem doest wash with me, my friend, please, you shouldnt use low self esteem as an excuse for this. I have been through such stripping of my self concept that I actually question God about my DNA, I say ... (read in full...)
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