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writes: I’m 19 yrs old and still a virgin , and so hungry 4 some, not that there’s a problem with me or I’m ugly, it’s just some think just away seems to get in the way or happen. Like now there’s a 20 yr old girl I no she’s really pretty and we’ve been friends for nearly 2 yrs now, she likes me and I like her and we both no it but we ain’t done nothing yet, because she’s got a boyfriend and I don’t want to break it up. Although she’s pretty I don’t no if I could do it with her because she not a virgin I no it sounds silly but I just feel my first should be with a virgin cause I feel she’s been doing it with other boys and just the thought of it turn me off her but part of me want to but the other half just saying no, I no it sounds crazy I don’t know how I’ve wait so long with out doing it. IS THERE ANY GIRLS OUT THERE THAT UNDERSTAND MY POINT OF VEIW. IF THERE IS PLEASE CONTACT ME ASAP PLZZZ
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reader, bonym  +, writes (24 April 2006):
 Hungery, why the rush to lose your virginity? Virginity is precious, and can I say something else, virginity cannot be lost, once it has gone, you aint ever finding it again!
Relax mate and wait for the right person, life is not all about sex, sex and guess what more sex. There is much more to life, you are young, do not be so eager to be a none virgin. I believe in sex during marriage, so when the time is right for you, sex will happen. You may not believe what I believe, but either way, the more worked up you get about it; it will prove to be disastrous the first time. Relax, wait and in due time, you will find yourself with a lovely young woman, perfect for you. xXx
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reader, startingover28 +, writes (22 April 2006):
Okay, being a virgin at the age of 19 is not the end of the world. There are plenty of nice girls out there that have had 2 or less partners and although may have some sexual experience, every partner is different. Most 1st times ever are like 1st times with a new partner, especially if you care about the person and are in a relationship. Most women would be receptive to teaching you a thing or two and so long as you are open and comfortable enough to talk about sex. Point being, to tag onto Jake's response, if you wait until you are in a relationship you get the opportunity to have sex and get feedback so an awkward 1st time can be made up for later. Women are okay with that. Women aren't looking for a sexual stud that bangs them like some porn flick, they want to feel special, sexy and listened to in the bedroom. Women are all different and like different things, the key is being tuned into that. Point being, you can have sex with 20 different women 1 time and still be really bad at sex.What do your values about sex? Stay true to them, find someone that values the same thing. I was 21 when I slept with my first and it was a good relationship and lasted awhile so that I was able to figure out what I liked through lots of practice. Incidentally, he had been with a lot of women, but still needed a lot of guidance. Good luck!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 April 2006): Okay, here is a woman's perspective. I waited until I was 21 and married my first. It wasn't rushed and I trusted him and he was no virgin, but it would not have mattered to me either way. I am no longer married but I am glad I waited until I was with a good person and in a relationship with him. For women, their is a lot of emotion involved with sex and even if you have had sex before, the first time with someone new can be awkward. If you are with someone who knows you are a virgin, she will understand and probably feel empowered by the opportunity to teach you a thing or two. Also, knowing how to treat a woman like she is special and listening to her needs as well as communicating your own is the key to good sex. It always gets better the more you do it. With this 20 y.o., for you, if it turns you off that she has been with other men, then follow your gut and wait for someone that has had fewer partners or no partners and doesn't have a current boyfriend. Oh, and porn, I am not opposed to it, but don't assume that women like to have sex that way, remember they are actors.
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reader, iamsoscrewedup333 +, writes (21 April 2006):
don't wait for a virgin, that is stupid. you don't have to inform the person you are with that, hey this is my first time unless you want to. Also, you may be able to get some just by telling them you are, some chicks are turned on my thinking that they are your 1st
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reader, Gryphon +, writes (21 April 2006):
 I hate to sound like the stereotypical morality parade here, but having sex just to have it is no way to live. Sex outside of a tender and loving relationship in my opinion simply can’t compare to when you are madly in love and know your love is something special. As for her conquests… that is entirely up to you to decide how you feel (and you seem to be against them), but remember that if her belt is notched with more men than you can count on one hand – then she may just be out to get sex and wouldn’t care for any energy you would try to put into a relationship. I hope this helps, and know that I was 20 till I made love and it was worth waiting through adolescence for…
Take care,
~Jake~
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