I can't stop thinking about my boss, help!!!
Q. I think my boss is interested in me and I can't get him off of my mind. What should I do?...
A. 1 June 2006: Well firstly having a relationship with your boss is not always a good idea. You need to establish if he really is interested in you and then if he is, I hope he is single, otherwise there will be major problems. If he does like you then you need ... (read in full...)
My husband has fallen out of love with me
Q. my husband and i was deeply in love,he said he's not in love with me anymore what can i do to make him fall back in love with me?...
A. 1 June 2006: My dear as Hopeful rightly said, you cant make someone fall in love, neither can someone fall back in love with you. What you need to do is establish why your husband feels this way because this doesnt just happen over night, perhpas he was feeling ... (read in full...)
What does beauty is in the eye of the beholder mean?
Q. what does 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' mean?...
A. 31 May 2006: Thanks Wendyg!!! I use that phrase a lot to people because I know so many people with a low self esteem that I am reassuring them all the time, everyone beholds things (i.e beauty) differently so stop worrying about your looks I often say to ... (read in full...)
I have a phobia of being sick, and seeing others sick, its ruining my life, what can I try to help ?
Q. hi have a phobia of being sick both myself and other people i think about it after every meal when i go out anywhere and its really ruining my life i know it sounds rediculous i and will avoid eating.If i dont eat then i cant be sick right.i am ...
A. 31 May 2006: My dear I have sent you a reply if you go on to this page i.e www.dearcupid.org, sign in as usual and then go to "Mailbox" you will see my reply, once you have signed in onthe dearcupid page.
I have suffered with emotophobia for years and like you ... (read in full...)
What does beauty is in the eye of the beholder mean?
Q. what does 'beauty is in the eye of the beholder' mean?...
A. 31 May 2006: This phrase simply means that there is no universal definition of beauty, what I see as beautiful you may see as ugly and vice versa. How I perceive you is how I behold you and if I see you as pretty thats me, whereas someone else may not see it ... (read in full...)
The sight of showing skin makes my boyfriend cringe, what's wrong?
Q. My 26 year old b.f. cringes when he sees anything that remotely show cases anyone showing skin. He tells me he does not know what kind of women he is attracted to. Is this normal???? ...
A. 30 May 2006: My friend it sounds as if your fella has Dermatophobia although techniocally this a a phobia of skin lesions (cuts) or skin diseases such as cancer etc etc. I have not heard of anyone who is directly phobic of skin but it may be worthwile trying to ... (read in full...)
I'm concerned about how I'm feeling, any advice please!
Q. hi there, im feeling sick, my heatbeat has increased in speed and my underarms are sweating so badly! Whats wrong with me??? Im concerned! Thank you! ...
A. 30 May 2006: Hello, unless you are not in a very hot environment day after day, then you may be experiencing panic attacks if you are getting these symptoms when placed in a situation which may cause some pressure or anxiety. Are you tense, nervous or worried? ... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship, but my ex wants me back, too!
Q. Please help me. I'm in a present relationship now at almost about 4 years. My ex-bf wants to win me back and I love him too. What shall I do? I love them both......
A. 30 May 2006: Ok, I have read your excerpt and I think I understand the situation a bit better. So you say a girl said she is pregnant by your ex? If so, have you found out the absolute truth i.e is it fact or is it just gossip? If it is true, then why are you ... (read in full...)
I feel me and my boyfriend should just be friends now, what can I do?
Q. I have been in a relationship with my boyfriend for almost 4 years now. I've been with him since I was in high school. Lately I've been feeling like we've grown into mere friends and sometimes I even feel like we're roommates. Just recently when I ...
A. 30 May 2006: My dear its not so much a case of telling your boyfriend about the other fella you were seeing, if nothing intimate happened, but the issue is that you no longer seem to love your boyfriend so what you need to do is end the realtionship with your ... (read in full...)
I want her back, how do i make her realize what we had was great?
Q. me and my Lady just recntly broke up... I WANT HER BACK SO BAD! She says we can be just friends and if anything happens in the future it happens. but i dont know if i should give her space to possibly make her realize how great we were together(do ...
A. 29 May 2006: I agree with Hopeful, just respect her decision for the time, if you insist on what you want, she wont be happy with that. You need to give her the time and space she needs, if you try and beg and plead with her she will get frustrated and it could ... (read in full...)
If they are trouble,but I love them, do I go for it?
Q. If there's someone who you're totally in love with, your heart says go for it but your head says that the person is trouble, do you go for it?...
A. 29 May 2006: Yes I know harp on about my "heart" this and my "heart" that
I mean to insert PEOPLE in between know and harp!!! Sorry. xXx... (read in full...)
I'm in a relationship, but my ex wants me back, too!
Q. Please help me. I'm in a present relationship now at almost about 4 years. My ex-bf wants to win me back and I love him too. What shall I do? I love them both......
A. 29 May 2006: I totally agree with AshyTay, you cant love two people at the same time otherwise the whole world would have infedility problems. I think the problem here is that you were never out of love with your ex so you should not have started dating someone ... (read in full...)
I really like my cousin - is what I'm feeling wrong?
Q. Hi there... okay im 21 years old, when i was 18 i did something that I thought was stupid and wrong, i slept with my cousin! Before i get judged at, i couldnt help it, yes we were drunk but there has always been something there between us. Anyway, ...
A. 29 May 2006: You said: Before i get judged at, I couldnt help it,
Well let me stop you there my friend, you could help it, we as humans chose to do everything, yes sometimes we are trouble is you didnt want to help him because you desired forced but in this ... (read in full...)
If they are trouble,but I love them, do I go for it?
Q. If there's someone who you're totally in love with, your heart says go for it but your head says that the person is trouble, do you go for it?...
A. 29 May 2006: Listen to your head my friend. Your heart i.e your body probably is saying yes because of the thrill and the excitement but God gave us a mind and a brain for a reason. Yes I know harp on about my "heart" this and my "heart" that but I think its a ... (read in full...)
I need to know...What is love?
Q. What is the difference between love for a friend and a lover? If you're in love with someone but there's no lust then is it still the 'romantic' type of love?...
A. 29 May 2006: Hi my dear, I have answered a similar question to this some time ago. To be IN LOVE with someone there will be 2 types of love, erotic and phylios love. Erotic obviously being sexualm and/or intimate love and phylios is the love you have for ... (read in full...)
Two boyfriends.... one choice.
Q. I have 2 boyfriends. I have been with Dave for 2 1/2 years, and about a year ago i met a guy called Liam and we started going out. I am at university so the deception was quite easy. But neither bf knows about the other, and i am to graduate soon, ...
A. 29 May 2006: My dear, of course you know that this is wrong, otherwise you would not have asked the question. If you have ever read any of my replies you willl know that I wil tell it like it is, but at the same time I am not here to judge or condemn you, its ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant even if the tests show a negative?
Q. Me and my partner have been trying for a baby for over 12 months. July last year I had a miscarriage, but since then I haven't managed to get caught pregnant. My period is now over 1 week late. I have done 3 pregnancy tests where they're all ...
A. 29 May 2006: There is the chance that you may be pregnant because my sisters friend was in a similar scenario and the pregnancy tests showed up negative but when she went to the hospital it turned out she was. Go to your GP for proper confirmation. Best of ... (read in full...)
Unprotected sex... could I be pregnant?
Q. hi i had unprotected sex a day after my period had finished and was just wandering if i could still have gotten pregnant. ...
A. 29 May 2006: Yes my dear, as Dr Pete has so rightly said, it is still possible for you to be pregnant. It may not be as likely as other times, but it is still a possibility as ovulation is not always like clockwork and as Dr Pete says, early ovulation can take ... (read in full...)
Should my baby have my surname or his??....
Q. I'm pregnant and my babies father 4 years older than me and he wants the baby to have his last name......
A. 29 May 2006: My dear you have not given me much to go on here. Are you and the baby father together? When you say he is four years older, is that relevent, how old are you? What is wrong with the kid having his surname? My close friend is not with her baby ... (read in full...)
That time of the month
Q. could anyone give me any help? I started my periods in year 7, so over 3 years ago as im in year 10 now. They seem 2 be abit iregular, as they come about every three weeks and sometimes go over a week. They are very very light at the start and get ...
A. 28 May 2006: Dont worry babe, this is normal. I am 23, I started my period around 13, when I started, they were really light, came every 43 days and were pain free, also they lasted around 7 days. With in a few months and then years, they became heavy, painful ... (read in full...)
I love him, but we are different races...What can I do?
Q. My mother wants me to break up with my boyfriend because he's Bengali and I'm Pakistani, she's furious with my decision and won't hear me out. I love her too much to not break up with him but I love him too much to give him up. I've cried myself ...
A. 28 May 2006: My dear is this a case of different religions or is it the fact you are a different Can I also ask how old you are? The reason I ask is because if you are an adult, i.e. over 18 then really it has little to do with yor mother, as long as your ... (read in full...)
Feel like I might be the only virgin in my crowd!
Q. Help! I'm 18 and I think I'm the only virgin out of all my friends. They all have girlfriends and I've tried and failed to find someone. Even when I did it only lasted a month. The rest of my friends have been in relationships for 4 months at least ...
A. 28 May 2006: My friend, I totally agree with reader anon. It is not a race so there should be no hurry! Can I tell you something, when I was a bit younger i.e. around 13, 14 etc my friend "Anon" would go on about what she did with this guy and how many "orgasms" ... (read in full...)
I'm showing the signs of pregnancy... could it be?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are both 16, Im on the pill, but recently keep forgetting to take it! and i have been throwing up and feeling terrible for over a week, am i pregnant?...
A. 27 May 2006: I totally agree and advocate what Phoebe has written. My dear, read her advice and do what it says. The only way you can find out is not by asking for opinions, you need to get the proof so a pregnancy test is perhaps your next purchase. Throwing ... (read in full...)
13 and not sure how far to go!
Q. how far should i go with my bf....(im 13) me and my bf have been going out for a few months and are best friends. We always talk about things we want to do....but im not sure how far we should actiucaly go (not sex!!!!)....becasue were only 13 im ...
A. 27 May 2006: My dear if you have to question how far to go then it clearly indicates to me that you are not physically nor emotionally mature for sex. Sex isnt just a case of two people having some really intimate fun, my dear there ar responsibilities with ... (read in full...)
How do I make my boyfriend care for us?
Q. how can i make my partner care? my partner and i have been together for 3 years. We just had a baby. He does not work and i went back full time. the problem is that finacialy it is not possible to live the life we used to and it became so bad ...
A. 27 May 2006: My dear I am afraid that I cannot give you advice on how to "make someone care" its just not really possible. Its like asking how do you make someone love you, they either do or they dont. What you do need to do I believe is to tell him what the ... (read in full...)
Why am I single??
Q. I've been single for like forever and i dont know why i think ill never get a boyfriend. but im always around guys and i know some like me but we like never go to an actual relationship. I guess i get scared or something and i stop talking to them i ...
A. 25 May 2006: My dear as you said, you are only 15 so please dont worry yourself. When the time is right for you, of course you will get a boyfriend. I have been single for ages! I mean I had a relationship when I was much younger and I pretty much have been ... (read in full...)
We got into a big fight and I lost her....what can I do?
Q. i have recently split with my gf of 1 year and 4months i love her so much and i dont wanna lose her. we had an arguement and i hit her and i told her i was sorry and that i wont do it again i want help so i can get her back she told me she loves me ...
A. 25 May 2006: My friend you need to give her some time and space. If she wants to get bak with you, she will do so in her own time when she is ready. I am not judging you or saying you are a bad person, and I know you know you have done wrong, but NO ONE has the ... (read in full...)
A girl is saying she did stuff with my boyfriend, what should I do?
Q. please help me i dont no if my boy freind has cheated on me the girl is going round saying she has done somthink with him and i realy dont wana lose him ????...
A. 25 May 2006: I totally agree with the others particularly wendyg, she haa said what I was thinking really. As a female myself I often comment on how dangerous and manipulative we can be, I have experienced it so many times. Perhaps this girl is just jealous of ... (read in full...)
Fifteen with a 23-year-old boyfriend. Illegal?
Q. I'm a 15 year old female from New Jersey. I was wondering if it was legal to date (without sex!!) a 23 year old male? If so, besides having sex/oral, if it was possible for him to get in trouble? My mom tells me its illegal for us to even just dat...
A. 25 May 2006: Here in the UK as far as I am aware it is not illegal for someone your age to go out on a date with a 23 year old, but as everyone has said if sex is involved it becomes statutory rape because you are a minor. My dear I know you say that there is ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend wants me to sleep with his friend
Q. I'm 18 and have been dating my 21 year old boyfriend for 6 months. He's a virgin, and surprisingly, doesn't want sex at all but suggested to me that I should sleep with his friend instead. I'm not a virgin; I've had sex once with my only other bo...
A. 25 May 2006: You said: Yet away from the bedroom we're compatible in every other way.
My friend, I think that you are both as Irish49 and others have said, incompatible. It is not normal for your fella to actually want you to engage in a sexual relation... (read in full...)
I've been having sex with the band teacher and I'm not excited about it. Should I stop going out with him?
Q. I am 16 right now and I have my own car, OK. Well I have band class and our band teacher asked me if I would come to his house after school for something. Well I trusted him because he is a family friend. Anyways I drove over to his house the othe...
A. 24 May 2006: Your band teacher is a perverted man I am sorry to say that, but what right has he got having sexual relations with a minor like yourself? Its not right AT ALL. I agree with everyone on this page. This must stop, he is using you and he is getting ... (read in full...)
Should I go for a younger guy ?
Q. I am 27 and have gotten really close to one of my brother friends - the only problem is he is only 17. We get on so well and he would be my ideal guy if he was older, he says he wants to be with me and the age thing shouldn't matter but I am ...
A. 24 May 2006: My dear I dont really see anything wrong with age gap relationships but the trouble here is the transition of the ages, i.e he is a teen child not a teen adult i.e. 18, or 19 and you are a grown woman. Personally I would not go after someone who is ... (read in full...)
I am getting married but everyone I know hates the groom
Q. I am tired of everyone telling me my partner is not good enough for me. When I say everyone, I mean everyone... my best freind, all my friends, my family, my cousins, my work colleagues, my exs' even !!! I know he is not the best looking guy on e...
A. 24 May 2006: My dear is this a case of everyone else hates the groom or should we be looking closer to home? You said this: I know he is not the best looking guy on earth (I am considered hot-property. Well for starters, it sounds like you actually dont even ... (read in full...)
The sex isn't great and I'm not sure I'm in love...
Q. Hi, my boyfiend and i have been living together for 2 years. Our sex life is not happening- he's not really interesting. I like him a lot but feel I'm not in love with him though I'm not sure what "in love" really is. Everything else is fine. ...
A. 24 May 2006: If you dont know what love is and you are not sure if you love him, why are you in this relationship? The simple fact my dear is that you are not happy with this guy and it seems pointless to carry on in a relationship which clearly isnt going ... (read in full...)
He likes me shaved, but it hurts....what can I do?
Q. My bf has a shaved pussy fetish. I met his needs, but it bleeds a lot when i shave and it stings. I want to keep it up for him though. What do i do? ...
A. 23 May 2006: Without being rude can I ask, are you mad? Why are you gonna inflict pain on yourself for the sake of your fella? You are obviously not shaving with enough care and attention or you may have incredibly sensitive skin. If you are going to shave ... (read in full...)
I wish I was skinnier as I would be more attractive then
Q. Hi. I have a problem. I believe that if i become skinnier that people will become more attracted to me. I am 5 7" age:16 and i weigh 137 pounds. so i have started to become bulimic i dont do it everyday though just when i feel like i have eating too ...
A. 23 May 2006: My dear being thin is not necessarily the way to be attractive, I mean there are but thousands of bigger ladies and girls who are gorgeous if not moreso than stick thin people. My dear I am a uk size 8 (US 4) on top, uk size 10 bottom, I used to be ... (read in full...)
Is my girlfriend of 5 years cheating or just friends?
Q. I am currently in a relationship with woman for last 5 years and don't know which way I am heading. In the past she use to go on online chatting and than she came off it. Recently she told me that she came across her college days friend who she use ...
A. 23 May 2006: My friend, relax. I personally dont think that your girl is cheating and I am not claiming to have psychic powers but I reckon they are just good friends. The fact you have been together for half a decade (5 years sounds ages when you say that!!) ... (read in full...)
Am I ugly or too fat? Is that why my friend isn't interested in me?
Q. I am on my friend's computer, so I have to cut this kind of short... I just turned 15 this year, I am 5' 5" with mid back length curly hair, fairly clear skin... that all sounds good but I am 200lbs. My mom has a condition called PCOS which makes...
A. 23 May 2006: My dear, I dont think you need any more advice and I really admire what hannieseds posted to you, I could not have put it better myself. Now if you want to know about self image, welcome to my world. My friend, as hannieseds you sound gorgeous to ... (read in full...)
Am I still protected??
Q. I missed one pill and had unprotected sex the next morning - I was virtually at the end of the pack (3 pills left) - would i still be protected?...
A. 23 May 2006: I am sorry to say my dear but it is unlikely that you will be protected, I think you know what you need to do. And in future remember, if you dont want the possibility of babies, you know what to do. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
Is this meant to hurt?
Q. Is this meant to hurt? My boyfriend and I have just entered an intimate relationship, althought we are not having sex yet. I am getting quite worried though, because when he puts just one finger inside me, i am experienceing pain. I dont do it mysel...
A. 23 May 2006: My dear dont be embarrassed but the primary reason why perhaps you are in pain is because as another person said, you may not be ready for sex. You havent had full sex yet, but if a finger is causing you pain, you are not aroused enough and I dont ... (read in full...)
Do boys want to have sex with someone they love??
Q. do teenage boys want to have sex wiv someone they love or dont they care? do they just want it wiv anyone on their first time?...
A. 23 May 2006: My dear, I cannot possibly speak for all teenage boys, some want to have sex purely for the sake of it, some may genuinely in time develop strong feelings for a girl and want to have sex with her because he loves her. It really depends on the boy ... (read in full...)
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