My best mate and boyfriend slept together, please help!
Q. dear cupid, i just found out my best mate has shagged my bf. and i dunno what to do? should i try and make a peace with her? or should i never talk to her again? or should i knock her brains out? im more unset with her because she knew...
A. 8 August 2006: Dont knock her brains out, that wont solve anything my dear. Why should you make peace with her, you have done no wrong, if she is a true friend she would acknowledge her evil and come and make ammends with you. Dont do anything, there is a system ... (read in full...)
I slept with my best friends boyfriend,how can I show her I'm sorry?
Q. dear cupid. Am i a bad person? ive made the biggest mistake of my life by hurting the one best friend ive ever had. by haveing sex with her bf and i knew she really loved and liked him. do you think i could get her back? how could i ...
A. 8 August 2006: I wouldnt say you are a bad person, but what you have done is bad. The fact that you are remorseful means, in my opinion you are not a bad person, but you behaved totally wrong and if I was your friend, I would never trust you again. Why did you do ... (read in full...)
Married, 33 and fancy the girl at work
Q. hi,going through hell at the moment,im 33 married with 2 kids 12 and 14.my wife is 43,and im not in love with her.i do fancy a girl who works next to me who is 25,im no good at asking girls out how do i let her know i like her....
A. 6 August 2006: I love what Dr Psych has written, its brilliant and so true about hell etc. I am inclined to respond the way the anonymous female reader has, but let me say this; WAKE UP/
Can you not see the danger in what you are thinking and want to do? Whet... (read in full...)
I came inside my girlfriend...
Q. Me and my girlfriend of 1 1/2 months, had unprotected sex. I came inside of her and she went straight to the bathroom to pee. Does she still have a chance of getting pregnant?...
A. 6 August 2006: Eyeswideopen has hit the nail on the head, but all the others are perfectly right too, where you urinate from is different from the actual vagina where you ejaculated, you urinate through the urethra and you ejaculated in her vagina so urinating ... (read in full...)
I don't want sex with my hubby
Q. How do I avoid having sex with my husband for some time?...
A. 6 August 2006: What sort of a question is that, why do you want to avoid doing what is natural with your husband? Can you elaborate as to why you dont want to be intimate with him anymore please? Thanks. xXx... (read in full...)
How do you tell the difference between a crush, infatuation and real love?
Q. How do you know when you're in love? Simple question, complicated theory eh? How do you seperate love from a crush, or an infatuation? ...
A. 5 August 2006: Its easy, when you truly love someone you will see past the fact that they dont have a perfect, make up painted face, perfect neat hair, beautifully pressed clothes etc etc. True love goes beyond physical natural beauty, if you lust or have a crush ... (read in full...)
We're in a seven year affair and he cheated on me! How do I get over my hurt?
Q. I have had an affair with my married boss (now, former boss) for 7 years. He told me daily how very much he loved me and that no one had ever made him feel the way I did. 2 1/2 months ago he lied to me. He told me he was going to be playing golf ...
A. 4 August 2006: Two typos that need correcting:
HUSBANDS should not be plural I apologise! I do hope it was not more than 1 husband anyway!! (sertious, I am not making a mockery here)
AND
notm well that certainly isn't in the English dictionary!! Not... (read in full...)
We're in a seven year affair and he cheated on me! How do I get over my hurt?
Q. I have had an affair with my married boss (now, former boss) for 7 years. He told me daily how very much he loved me and that no one had ever made him feel the way I did. 2 1/2 months ago he lied to me. He told me he was going to be playing golf ...
A. 4 August 2006: Is this question for real? You were seeing a married man,(married meaning he HAD A WIFE) the lying scum is now playing the game on you, and you want advice on how to deal with being cheated on. Did you ever consider his WIFE? Of course notm you ... (read in full...)
How to do sex
Q. im a virgin so i dunno what to actually do with my bf. what should i do when im having sex with him?...
A. 4 August 2006: The female (immuno) below has given you great advice, just perfect. I dont think its necessary to say "well just do this and if you try doing that it will feel great" NO. Some people may be able to give you that sort of advice, but I wont, its not ... (read in full...)
Why are women such idiots!
Q. Last Wednesday I had a teeney tiny argument with my girlfriend, I later on apologised (even though it wasn't my fault). On Friday I asked her did she want to do something or go somewhere and got no reply.....fine. On Sunday still no word so I rang ...
A. 4 August 2006: Why are you apologising Dr Pete, thats what Trac-C said anyway, the title you gave immediately gave us the jist of the question he posted!!!!!!!!!
Dont worry yourself!!!
xxx... (read in full...)
Can he get in trouble for getting me pregnant?
Q. I am a 17 year old who is dating a 20 year old, and I want to know if he can get in trouble if he got me pregnant, if my mom knew we were having sex?...
A. 4 August 2006: You are both at the LEGAL age but by the sound of your question you are not at the EMOTIONAL age for sex as you sound very immature and naive. If you are worried about getting pregnant there are 2 options:
DONT HAVE SEX
OR
Use PROTECTION.... (read in full...)
Why are women such idiots!
Q. Last Wednesday I had a teeney tiny argument with my girlfriend, I later on apologised (even though it wasn't my fault). On Friday I asked her did she want to do something or go somewhere and got no reply.....fine. On Sunday still no word so I rang ...
A. 4 August 2006: What a cheek, how dare you say that all women are such idiots, talk for yourself, had it not occured to you that you may be the idiot as well? Of course not because a true idiot cant see themselves for who they really are.
I do agree that your girl... (read in full...)
Does it Matter that My 15-Year-Old Friend Won't Have Sex with Me?
Q. I'm really good friends with this girl in my neighborhood. She's 15 and I'm 19. we both want to get more into an intimate relationship and bring our friendship to the next level, sort of like friends with benefits. The thought of sex has come up, ...
A. 4 August 2006: What do you mean it doesnt matter, you are an ADULT teenager she is a CHILD teenager, of course it matters, are you mad! Listen mate, stop henkering around a 15 year old for sex, she is right to be worried about the age difference. Leave her alone. ... (read in full...)
I have some questions before I do "it"...
Q. I'm only 15, but I'm worried about the first time I have sex. I'm worried I wont do it right. And, should I shave my pubic hair before I have sex, will he think I'm weird if I have hair. Please answer my questions. Thanks ...
A. 3 August 2006: Allio121, my dear we have given advice, well at least the advice I gave her is that she is way too young for sex and thats my opinion. Why would she be asking about the future now? The reader is obviously asking about the present. ... (read in full...)
Do women prefer a hairy chest or shaved chest?
Q. what do women prefer, a hairy chest or a shaved chest?...
A. 3 August 2006: Not too much hair and not too smooth that he looks like a child. As long as he lookes like a man, thats all that matters. xXx... (read in full...)
Ladies: do you think you're more sympathetic to females who cheat?
Q. Why is it on this site that women tend to be so sympathetic to a woman who has cheated and are so very understanding but when it's a man who cheated you hear phrases like, "Once a cheater always a cheater" or "A leopard never changes his spots". Is ...
A. 2 August 2006: Hi mate, I am completely the opposite, I am more inclined to be totally unsympathetic towards women, as a woman myself, I know women better than men and therefore I sometimes disagree with their motives for cheating. If anything, I am equally ... (read in full...)
Aged 14 and I don't know if I should have sex...
Q. I'm 14 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for months and he wants to have sex. I would but I don't know if I will ruin my 1st time. Also there all negative points and I don't know what to do. ...
A. 2 August 2006: My dear at 14 yo are too young emotionally and physically to have sex, if you are not ready to have sex yet your boyfriend ought to respect your wishes, simple as that. xXx... (read in full...)
I'm 14 years old and could be pregnant
Q. Ive been having sex unprotected for a while about 10 times without a condom i was jue my periods last week and they came and stayed for one day i usaully have my periods for 7 days could i be pregnant im 14 years old and realy scared ...
A. 2 August 2006: I am sorry to say this but have you no understanding of contraception better still have you know understanding of morality? You are 14, why are you having sex. Anyway, me ranting at you wont help, what you need to do is get a pregnancy kit and or ... (read in full...)
Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?
Q. Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...
A. 2 August 2006: to the anonymous reader below:
Your bloke should be arrested for rape, he had sex with you aged 13 and he is 23. He is a rapist according to the law and you my dear, how can you possibly think it is acceptable to lose your chastisity the first da... (read in full...)
The love of my life continues to take his ex out... !
Q. Hi im a 25 yr old woman and 7 months ago i met my partner online but he was alredy in a long term relashonship we started to see each other after 3 days and 2 months later he finish his relashonship whit his ex and moved in with me but he still gose ...
A. 2 August 2006: Why are you bothering with this man if he still continues to take his ex girlfriend out? Can you not see that he is just playing you, dont you think that you deserve better than that? It sounds to me that yiou are a litttle insecure and you feel ... (read in full...)
Not sure how to interpret his text, does he mean we are over ?
Q. Have been going out with a lad on/off for the last three months. For the last week I've really busy and have been unable to return his msgs. Then yesterday he sent me this text here it is word for word "Deep heartfelt msg take1, sorry4annoying y...
A. 2 August 2006: I dont believe for one second that he has finished it, if anything it seems to me that he is a bit gutted that he has been texting you so much and you have not reciprocated his messages! I think you should explain exactly how you feel and you will ... (read in full...)
Can a seven year age gap work, is it worth taking the risk ?
Q. Very longwinded, so sit tight. I am a 14 year old girl. I have always ran with an older crowd, most friends being 17+, no reason behind it just for some reason the people I meet and get along with are a few more years than I am. So here is my pre...
A. 2 August 2006: The seven year age gap is a big issue in your case bacause you are under age and you are a CHILD. He is a man. It cannot work if you are so young. If you were 20 and he was 27 for example, you can see that the 7 years dont even pose as a problem ... (read in full...)
I think I love him. What do I do?
Q. i am confussed with my love life. i have known this lad for a year and i think i have fell in love with him what can i do?...
A. 2 August 2006: I agree, I think we need a little more detail to go on here, because what you have stated is a bit bland. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
He masturbates to porn, that's cheating right? what do I do?
Q. I've recently discovered that my fiance is not only looking at Internet porn but masterbating to it. I can help but feel this is a form of cheating. It surprises me coming from him because this is very unexpected behavior for him. Do I confront ...
A. 1 August 2006: I dont know if cheating is the word I would use to describe it, I would perhaps use the word DISGUSTING.
Ask him why is he doing it in the first place? This is what my friend Dr Pete said; That is (generally) what porn is used for. It is used to ... (read in full...)
I stood him up after a death in the family and now when I ask him out, he just changes the subject!
Q. I was getting on really well with this lad from work. After seeking advice on here we had planned to go out for a drink, however our plans had to be changed because my nanna passed away and we never went out for our drink! i Ihave since asked hi...
A. 1 August 2006: Firstly I am sorry to to learn that your grandmother has passed over to the other side, I sympathise with you and know exactly how you feel. But as for this guy, perhaps he feels that you need some time to grieve alone. Wait and see how things pan ... (read in full...)
I've cheated on my husband, gotten pregnant and now I'm not sure who the father is!
Q. Hi ppl, I have quite a serious problem here and I know I am to blame but I stirred it up and it's time to face it. I am in a marriage of 4 years but I had been having an affair with a guy for around 5 months. I was having this affair as my hubby wa...
A. 1 August 2006: I advise you to be completely open and honest about your infedility because it will absolutely destroy your husband if he later finds out that the kid he thought was his is not his and he was raising another mans child. I dont advocate what you did ... (read in full...)
A nurse asked my girlfriend if she was pregnant. We have not gone for a test yet (duh).
Q. Hey This sounds sort of stupid, but I'm worried Today my girlfriend swallowed a jube jube and it was stuck in her throat and it hurt her, so she called a nurse hotline and asked about it and told them, one of the questions the nurse aske...
A. 1 August 2006: Bev Conolly is spot on, it is a standard question, its not a case of jube jube being a soft candy or whatever it is and whether its related to pregancy, they need to know if a female my be pregnant for a variety of reasons, lets say for expample if ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends BF and now she is ruining my reputation!
Q. How would you handle this??? I had entirely too much to drink and slept with my friends boyfriend in her house and she walked in on it. They have been dating for a few weeks and I knew he had a little crush on me before they hooked up but I never ...
A. 1 August 2006: I am sorry to say this but you deserve what you get, how can you use the excuse of being intoxicated to sleep with your best friends fella. Its wrong and you know it, drunk or sobre its wrong..I do however think your friend is ignorant for remaining ... (read in full...)
What does my "being chased" dreaming mean?
Q. Does anyone know how to interpret dreams? Recently I'm being chased in my dreams. I wake up with sore legs and wonder if it has anything to do with real life??...
A. 31 July 2006: As a frequent dreamer myself I believe that dreams carry major influeces in our every day lives, let me give you 2 examples. One day I dreamt that a car reversed into the back of the vehicle I was driving and smashed up the bonnet of my car, the ... (read in full...)
He loves me more than I love him..
Q. i think my boyfriend loves me alot more than i love him ... i want to love him , but just dont feel that i do . however i feel as though i have no other choice ... i always think it may get better but can never be sure. he is so nice to me and a...
A. 31 July 2006: You said: however i feel as though i have no other choice ... i always think it may get better but can never be sure
Are you serious? You really have NO other choice? Its not fair to this guy to be with him when you dont really want to be BE with ... (read in full...)
Am I a virgin still?
Q. this may sound stupid, but i'm a girl who masterbates and never had sex yet. I was wondering if I'm still a virgin? (please don't laugh)...
A. 15 July 2006: Yes you are a virgin as you have not had sexual intercourse, and no I didnt laugh. xXx... (read in full...)
Can a Hindu man get divorced?
Q. Hi, I'm a 35 year old single woman. I've been having an on/off relationship with a married man for 2 years. He's a hindu. One minute he says it's just sex he wants, then he says that he cares for me greatly. His actions and his words are often co...
A. 15 July 2006: Why are you having an affair with a married man, is that a decent thing to do? No it isnt, whether he can get divorced or not, what you are both doing is wrong and you need to get out of this big mess you are in. He is clearly using you, is religion ... (read in full...)
I am having unprotected sex at 13!
Q. i am 13 years old and last nite i had sex wid my bf for only about 20 seconds widout protection i finished my period 21 days ago is there a chance i mite be pregnant? is there any pills i can take now to stop it?? plz plz plz help me!!! ...
A. 15 July 2006: Listen carefully, at 13 you have absolutely no business having any kind of sex as you are totally underage. Of course there is a chance you may be pregnant, if you had sex with NO protection then its even more possible for you to get pregant. You ... (read in full...)
At 14, I hate who I am...
Q. Hate being me! I am 14 and am at a difficult age in life. I discover who I am and I really don't like who I am sometimes. I always mount myself up to everyone else and know that they are better then me. I think I am fat, ugly and thick and I'm feel...
A. 15 July 2006: Stop this my dear, do not say that you are thick, fat and ugly because it is simply not true. You are a unique, special person and dont ever forget that. Just because one lad doesnt like you, doesnt mean that there isnt a perfect oneout there for ... (read in full...)
How do I approach my tutor whom I have a crush on?
Q. I really like my tutor in college but I dont know how to approach him. I think he may have feelings for me through body language but I don't know what to say. Help!...
A. 10 July 2006: I agree I dont think you should do anything with him, certainly dont approach him either. He is your tutor, he is in a position of authority over you, it is not right for the two of you to be an item. How old are you anyway? Either way, I strongly ... (read in full...)
Can I make myself any taller ?
Q. hi im a seventeen year old girl, of average height. I wonder if therre's any way to increase my height? or am I too old to get taller? My twin brother is almost 6ft 2" and i'm just 5 4"!! Why? Please help, I desperately want to be taller. ...
A. 8 July 2006: My dear I wish I was 5"4 thats a gorgeous height. I am 5"7 or 8 and which I was shorter!!! Be happy with the way God has made you, if He wanted you to be taller you would be/ As Dr Pete rightly said we always want to change ourselves! I have ... (read in full...)
I'm nearly 40, she's 25, is the age difference too much?
Q. i am nearly forty and have fallen head over heels for a girl aged 25. Getting close to her to find out about her was, logistically, difficult however, i did ask her out and she politely refused - seeing somebody at the time. A couple of years ...
A. 8 July 2006: You are both adults over 20 so what is the problem? The only concern with big age gap relationships is the longivity of them, i.e if you stay together for life, bear in mind that when she is 50 you will be 65, that seems ok, but when she is 60, you ... (read in full...)
I have some questions before I do "it"...
Q. I'm only 15, but I'm worried about the first time I have sex. I'm worried I wont do it right. And, should I shave my pubic hair before I have sex, will he think I'm weird if I have hair. Please answer my questions. Thanks ...
A. 8 July 2006: You are FIFTEEN. I will not have the cheek to encourage sexuial activity to a girl who is so very young. Wait until you are older, MUCH older and maturer. xXx... (read in full...)
I don't think that losing my virginity is a big deal. Is there something wrong with me?
Q. is it wrong that i really and honestly dont believe that losing my virginity is a big deal? im 21 and quite honestly ready, but am not interested in love. i have a fear of the whole thing but im sick of being inexperienced. my friends think its odd ...
A. 8 July 2006: My dear its a shame more young ladies are not like you. Nowadays everyone is in such a hurry to have sex and its ridiculous how many children are sexually active nowadays. If you are not ready for love now, that does not mean there is something ... (read in full...)
This girl thinks I am ugly but I still want to date her!
Q. i like this girl but am not sure if she like me, we dnt see each other but we talk on msn alot and i now found out that she is dealing with someone, and this is now making me want her even moree p.s last time my friend asked her out for me she said...
A. 8 July 2006: I am confused, did she actually say you are ugly or do you just assume that about yourself? If your friend said thats what she said, then perhaps he or she is stirring up trouble. The fact that you desire her even moreso now she is with someone is a ... (read in full...)
I am 11 years old and internet dating!
Q. well i am 11 and i talk to this guy on msn, i have never felt the same way about any one ever before, we went out a couple times. And now we arent going out, i want him more than anything else in the world. And trust me, i want alot of things! See ...
A. 8 July 2006: Listen my dear, you are ELEVEN. You are not emotionally or physically mature enough for dating. Its as simple as that. xXx... (read in full...)
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