Am I right in thinking that a threesome would ruin us?
Q. is a 3 sum out of the question??? my boyfriend has recently admitted he wants to see me with another girl, at 1st i was unsure but sed i would consider it. now he says he wants a 3 sum where he can join in. this has made me insecure as i fe...
A. 20 August 2006: I am glad you told him straight, good luck with everything and I hope it works out well. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?
Q. Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...
A. 16 August 2006: Thanks Wild Thaing, I will bear that in mind!!! Cheers!
All the advice given has been great, thanks. xXx... (read in full...)
Over the last 10 years together I have constantly cheated!
Q. I have been with my partner for 10 years and we have 2 kids. The problem is I can't seem to stay faithful. Over the last 10 years I have cheated on him on numerous occaisions. I dont know why I do it, cause I actually really love him. He left one ...
A. 16 August 2006: My dear,there is obviously a deep settled issue in you that needs to be addressed as it is not healthy to carry on like this anymore. You need to ask yourself "why" are you doing this. What good is it achieving? All youare doing is hurtingyour ... (read in full...)
He loves rough sex and I want him to calm down! Is there anything I can do to make it less rough?
Q. My boyfriend is really into rough sex. I've asked him time and time again to calm down but it's like he loses control and starts either biting me or going too hard...I've talked to him and he says he's trying to cool it down but is there anything ...
A. 16 August 2006: oops sorry, that typo was not intentional.
It should say luck and not good lick!! I am so sorry, I is right next to O on the keyboard so its a genuine mistake. xXx... (read in full...)
He loves rough sex and I want him to calm down! Is there anything I can do to make it less rough?
Q. My boyfriend is really into rough sex. I've asked him time and time again to calm down but it's like he loses control and starts either biting me or going too hard...I've talked to him and he says he's trying to cool it down but is there anything ...
A. 16 August 2006: My dear, just tell him you dont like rough sex, if he has any sort of love and respect for you, he will honour your feelings and put his desires aside. It almost becomes like abuse if you just put up with something which is hurting you, causing you ... (read in full...)
Two days left? What does this mean?
Q. my fella has told me that we only have 2 days left of our relationship!! why has he given a deadline? what does this mean? im risking everything for him and now we only have 2 days left together!! i am so confused as i love him so much! i do i love ...
A. 16 August 2006: That sounds very bizarre and I think you deserve a proper explanation. I am baffled as to why he has put a number of days on the relationship, so you should ask him to be straight with you and demand a reason for his decision. Good luck. xXx... (read in full...)
Ladies:- Being a toned guy would it be better to wear Briefs or boxers ?
Q. Lady's. im am an athletic build and my whole body is toned. would wearing briefs turn a girl off or would boxers be the best option?...
A. 16 August 2006: Boxers. Definately.... (read in full...)
Am I right in thinking that a threesome would ruin us?
Q. is a 3 sum out of the question??? my boyfriend has recently admitted he wants to see me with another girl, at 1st i was unsure but sed i would consider it. now he says he wants a 3 sum where he can join in. this has made me insecure as i fe...
A. 16 August 2006: I strongly believe that a threesome is a terrible idea and not healthy for any decent relationship. Please dont entertain this idea my friends. xXx... (read in full...)
Is he after an affair?
Q. A married man keeps winking at me and telling me i've seen his 'nice side'.... do you think hes after an affair?...
A. 16 August 2006: God knows what he is after, perhps he does whatsome sort of fling but if he is married, then dont entertain his gestures, leave him to it,if he wants to wink then fine, but dont allow the winks to lead to something else as you will only regret it. ... (read in full...)
Is it normal to bleed from sex?
Q. is it normal to bleed after having sex two days in a row? with the first day being your first time having sex?...
A. 16 August 2006: It is normal seeing as you did only have sex for the first time on one of the 2 occasions, as the agony aunt below has given you solid, good advice I dont want to repeat her but as she said, if it keeps happening, just go and see the doc, to check ... (read in full...)
Married 23 years and hubby wants a threesome! Should I do it?
Q. Ive been married for 23 years and now my husband wants to have sex with me and another girl he says he would like to watch us suck each others pussy and then have sex with each as the other helps should I or should this be a no no ...
A. 16 August 2006: ABSOLUTELY NO, THATS DISPICABLE. Please dont disrespcet yourself by doing this my friend, you have been married for over 2 decades thats a blessing, dont ruin it now. xXx... (read in full...)
Should I fake it?
Q. I've started seeing a new guy and things are going great and I think pretty soon we will have sex. My problem is that I've only been with one other guy (I'm 20) and in that 2 years we were together I never had an orgasm, through intercourse, oral or ...
A. 16 August 2006: Dont fake it, dishonesty is not a good start to a relationship, orgasms are not the be all and end all,I mean just enjouy being together as a couple, why fake having an orgasm just to make him feel better, dont do it my dear. xXx... (read in full...)
If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?
Q. Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...
A. 16 August 2006: To Wild Thaing, I would probably just tell myself, why dont you just ask him for goodness sake, and stop being so silly, or just get over him, he is obviously taken!!!!! but in reality I dont think I would do that. Anyway again, thanks for your ... (read in full...)
If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?
Q. Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...
A. 16 August 2006: Thanks guys for all your replies. I think if I just asked him that would make bEtter sense!!!!! Maybe, we will see!
Thanks again. xXx... (read in full...)
Was my train-guy showing he's "interested"?
Q. I met this man on a train trip. We struck up a real good conversation about our interests (p.s. I'm 19, he's 20). We both live in the same town and when we got off the train he asked for my number and we hugged (by the by most people our age hug ...
A. 15 August 2006: It sounds promising to me, but I hate to sound so boring, but you will just have to wait and see! If he rang you the next day that is a great start and if he has invited you out, even better. Time will tell, but to me it sounds very promising my ... (read in full...)
Is 18 considered late to still be a virgin ?
Q. I'm 18 never had a proper girlfriend and never had a proper kiss with any girl and obviously never had sex. I'm getting fed up of all this pressure to have sex (there was this thing on BBC Radio 1 about sex) and it just brought back all this pre...
A. 15 August 2006: Sorry, I kind of never answered the question, no 18 is not too old to be considered a virgin at all, sorry. xXx... (read in full...)
Is 18 considered late to still be a virgin ?
Q. I'm 18 never had a proper girlfriend and never had a proper kiss with any girl and obviously never had sex. I'm getting fed up of all this pressure to have sex (there was this thing on BBC Radio 1 about sex) and it just brought back all this pre...
A. 15 August 2006: My friend, dont worry, there are many virgins in their twenties and older, dont be in such a hurry to do it, wait for that special girl so it will be a special first time and not a clumsy, dirty one night stand. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
Should I deceive my partner and get pregnant?
Q. If you were to get yourself pregnant on purpose without your partner knowing your intentions, and you had their baby and loved it with all your heart because it reminded you of him, is it still a wrong thing to do? Considering that this kid will...
A. 15 August 2006: Of course its wrong, how can you even think of such a thing. I agree with all the comments but David Lewis took the words right out of my mouth. Dont be silly my dear, please use wisodm and not emotions and dont act in folly, please. xXx... (read in full...)
How much of an age gap is too much ?
Q. What are the age gaps between you and your partners? And at what stage do you think a age gap is too much? Thanks! x...
A. 15 August 2006: I believe that whilst 2 people are adults, age really is a number. When my late grandma was 18, my late grandfather was 46 and he dies aged 95 in 1994 and my grandmother was born in 1927 so they were together for 49 years!!! And they were very ... (read in full...)
I love my boyfriend but fancy his brother
Q. Hi, my boyfriend and i have been dating for 11 months now, and only about 2 months ago i met his family. I'm perfectaly comfortable around them all now. He has 2 brothers. One of which, i've started to develop feelings for. Although i'm in love with ...
A. 14 August 2006: Sweetie listen, if you deeply love your fella, let your love for him outshine the feelings you have for his brother. Trust me, I am not saying you can just turn the feelings off, but if you tell yourself everyday how wrong it is to feel this way ... (read in full...)
How do you know...
Q. how do you know if a girl likes you, what signs do women give off and how can i tell if she likes me. also how do women like men to act around them. ...
A. 14 August 2006: I depends, my friend, it really does. As a female, I dont show a guy I like them, I kind of ignore them, cos by ignoring them, they notice you more for some reason. I play hard to get, its stupid, but thats cos I am shy!!!! Some girls, will ... (read in full...)
How effective is the pill?
Q. Hi guys Just wondering does anyone know how effective the pill is. I've just gone on it and me and my b/f are consdiering having sex without a condom, just wondering if this is safe? I know neither of us has an STD so thats not an issue but pregnanc...
A. 14 August 2006: There are many pills out there, but in general it is about 98% accurate as Dr Psych correctly said, that is the figure I was always told anyway. In the UK (not sure about anywhere else) they have a pill called Microgynon 30, which is both a ... (read in full...)
I think my girl is great...but what about her Dad?
Q. My girlfriend is lovely, and a really sweet girl but she tends too talk about her dad as if he is some sort of monster. She tells me things that he has done in the past such as scratching other peoples cars if he has a scratch on his, to make him ...
A. 14 August 2006: My friend, you have 2 choices:
1. Tell your girl you are a bit undeasy with all the weird stuff she is saying about her dad
2. Dont date her, stay friends for a while and see how things pan out.
You have to remember that you are with this gi... (read in full...)
I'm 13 yrs old and smoke , how much harm is this doing to me?
Q. i have smoked 6 or 7 cigerettes 3 in 1 go kinda 1 after another n then the n 3 or 4 after it seperate ..im only 13 and i wanna know how much harm i have caused to myself please be persific ...
A. 14 August 2006: Smoking is doing a hell of a lot of damage to your young body my dear so please do your very best to give up. You dont want lung cancer or cancer of the throat, its truly awful, my grandmother died as result of cancer of the throat yet she never ... (read in full...)
Agrophobic and worried
Q. Dear Readers Just lately i have spent alot of time inside the house. i havent been out with friends much and dread going out into the public.Every time friends ask me out i say im busy because i just cant face going out. I feel scared and i get...
A. 14 August 2006: Sweetie, are you based in the UK because there is a wonderful organisation called the National Phobics Society visit www.phobics-society.org.uk
Even if you are not UK based, there is an Email support option where you can get in touch with a traine... (read in full...)
I don't like my face colour!
Q. Hi, i am a pakistani girl, aged 18. My problem is that I would like to be fair skinned, i am quite tanned. I don't want to change myself out of insecurity or for others. I merely feel that my facial features don't suit this dark colour. I have ...
A. 13 August 2006: As a black girl who is quite dark skinned I got bullied every waking day of my life. I got racism from other races for being black and from my own race for being dark skinned, but what I have realised is that many white people are desperate for a ... (read in full...)
Our religious differences get in the way!
Q. Hi. I have been in love with my friend for over a year now and he has told me he loves me to. The only problem is that he is a Johovahs Witness and I am a Christian. He doesn't want to get into a relationship with me because we don't share the same ...
A. 13 August 2006: My dear these situations are tough, but the Bible says do not be unequally yoked i.e. two people cant really be together if they have conflicting beliefs. If you are meant to be together perhaps he will convert to Christianity but if not, either ... (read in full...)
I hate just being their friend!
Q. I am a 28 year old male virgin. I have never had a girlfriend. Most women find me unattractive, and those that say I am "not ugly" are those who I am very good friends with or are the wives and girlfriends of my best friends...so they are obliged to ...
A. 13 August 2006: My friend, its just a case of, you havent met the ONE yet. I dont know what you look like, but no I dont believe you are that ugly or hideous, some girls are very fussy about looks, I mean take me for example, I would rate myself 6 out of 10 for ... (read in full...)
Was I used by her ? and are all girls like this ?
Q. My first girlfriend broke up with me, as she was getting back together with her ex. Was I used and are all girls like that? I know that sounds harsh but I don't actually believe a women would love me for who I am....
A. 13 August 2006: Sorry to hear what you went through, but believe me, not all girls are like that, well I certainly am not anyway.
Think of this as a blessing in disguise, perhaps she did you a favour, you deserve respect and honesty, she never gave you that, bu... (read in full...)
Was it really white discharge from her vagina...or did she cheat on me?
Q. me and my girlfriend have just had sex for the first time in a week i did not orgasm or ejaculate in her but when i pulled out there was what looked like semen on the tip fo my penis she says she gets a white discharge from her vagina but i think ...
A. 12 August 2006: Hey friend, I dont think it means she has cheated on you, that discharge sounds pretty normal to me, so I think you can stop worrying my friend, ok. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
Should my abuser get away with it?
Q. Hey guys I would like to bring the man who raped and abused me 11 years ago to justice. This is the problem I found out through counselling that I was abused as a child after careful thought I have decided to bring my rapist to justice is that ...
A. 12 August 2006: I do believe this man should be punished for what he has done to you, if you feel that you are able to cope with it, that is court cases etc etc but my friend, believe me, he will NEVER get away with what he has done. NEVER. Even if you dont get ... (read in full...)
Thoughts on an Anxiety Hotline needed!
Q. I have posted here about starting a hotline; being a panic attack advisor to help anyone suffering from anxiety. Anyone would be able to ring even if suffering a panic attack at the time (even if unable to talk) and they would receive support, ...
A. 11 August 2006: Thata a great idea, I used to be a voluteer at the National Phobics Society based in Manchester, UK and the helpline is a Godsend to thousands of people across the UK for phobias and anxiety. I hope it is a success. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
I'm 14. Should I have sex with my boyfriend?
Q. I'm 14 and I have been going out with my boyfriend for months and he wants to have sex. I would but I don't know if I will ruin my 1st time. Like I think I want to have sex now....
A. 11 August 2006: My dear, if you are in doubt dont do something you may regret. I would be inclined to say you are way too young and I believe you are, but when I say things like that, people think I am lecturing them, but I am trying to warn you, not lecture you ... (read in full...)
Please define, "going out" with someone and "seeing someone"...
Q. whats the difference between seeing someone and actualy goin out with them. i sort of know but i wana b sure thnx x x x...
A. 11 August 2006: To me, they mean the same thing, but in England, well in Manchester,England, going out means you are "dating" and "seeing" means you may not necessarily be boyfriend and girlfriend but you are "seeing" each other i.e sleeping togther. Thats what ... (read in full...)
Could I be pregnant if I come on my period?
Q. I think I might be pregnant but if I come on my period after doing things does this mean for certain I am not pregnant or do I still need to take a pregnancy test?...
A. 10 August 2006: You could be my dear, but the best way to get a definative answer is to get a test done or if in doubt see your doctor. xXx... (read in full...)
I dreamed I kissed a man at work and my BF doesnt know
Q. my bf and i have nearly been together for a year, i love him and he loves me but recently i've had dreams about another guy i work with which involved kissing but nothing more. i dont even like the guy in that way but now i'm obsessing over it all ...
A. 10 August 2006: Katherine my dear, please dont worry. Even though I am one of those people that believes SOME dreams are significant, NOT ALL are so dont worry about this. If you say that you dont even like him, why are you worrying, Sometimes, if not every night ... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin ...or not?
Q. when I was 16 me and a male friend of mine had sex with each other and i've been told that means i'm not a virgin anymore but i've also been told that i am so my question is am I still a virgin ?...
A. 10 August 2006: Hello James, well if you say that you had "sex" then I would be inclined to believe you are not a virgin but as someone has rightly mentioned I suppose what we need to establish is what type of sex because I guess some would say that for a stright ... (read in full...)
Are sex stories just as bad as looking at porn ?
Q. I know that a lot of women are uncomfortable about their partner looking at porn, but is men reading sex stories just as bad?...
A. 9 August 2006: I think it depends on the individual really, it depends on how rauncy the story I guess, but in my view (and its MY view) perhaps its the same in that you look at porn for some pleasure and you read sex stories for fun and pleasure too. xXx... (read in full...)
I'm only 14, I'm in a serious relationship, problem is he has kissed girl!!
Q. I am only 14, but i am in a serious realtionship to a guy i lost my virginity to, but yesterday i found out he kissed another girl, but it was in a game of truth or dare, and he is really sorry, i told him to delete their numbers off his phone but ...
A. 9 August 2006: Finchy is right, you should certainly not be having sex at 14 you are ridiculously young and how serious can a reltaionship between 2 children be? I am not patronising you but you are a child and you shouldnt have to be dealing with relationship ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend has a thing for ethnic girls, but I am not, and he's trying to change me into one
Q. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 2 years. I love him and know that he loves me. The issue I face is that he is really into ethnic/exotic looking girls. I am the complete opposite. I'm fair skinned with light hair and light eyes. ...
A. 9 August 2006: Your boyfriends behaviour is unacceptable. I dont understand why he is going on about ethnic girls when he is with you, its wrong that he is trying to change you, he should be happy with you, after all you are a couple so he must be attracted to ... (read in full...)
Im having my partners baby, but Im still madly in love with my first childs father!!
Q. I love my partner that im with and having his baby but im still madly in love with my first childs father what should i do ?...
A. 9 August 2006: No dear, you cant love two people at the same time, you may be very fond of your current partner to the point where you become pregnant by him but why did you and your first childs father break up in the first place?
What you need to do is deci... (read in full...)
Am I still a virgin after my drunken half-sex?
Q. ok well, one night i got really drunk and before i knew know it, this guy and i go from kissing to him trying to have sex with me. it was my first time being in this type of situation and he started to go in until i complained of the pain and ...
A. 8 August 2006: Dr Psych's answer is wonderful. I agree, the term "virgin" is a bit tricky as she said, some say you are no longer a virgin if your hymen is ruptured, some girls may rupture their hymen by other activities, but as they have not had penetrative se, ... (read in full...)
My best mate and boyfriend slept together, please help!
Q. dear cupid, i just found out my best mate has shagged my bf. and i dunno what to do? should i try and make a peace with her? or should i never talk to her again? or should i knock her brains out? im more unset with her because she knew...
A. 8 August 2006: Dont knock her brains out, that wont solve anything my dear. Why should you make peace with her, you have done no wrong, if she is a true friend she would acknowledge her evil and come and make ammends with you. Dont do anything, there is a system ... (read in full...)
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