I married her out of laziness, now she's pregnant and I worship someone else!
Q. In 1998 a girl invaded my life. Through neglect or simple laziness, I went out with her without complaining, even though she grated with me. She idolised me. Five years on and the relationship was still there, again through my laziness to tell her ...
A. 28 August 2006: I am sorry to hear about your recent baby,i cannot imagine what you are going through, how are you right now? How is the situation with you wife? I sincerely hope that the two of you can work things out. I really do.... (read in full...)
I am 11 years old and internet dating!
Q. well i am 11 and i talk to this guy on msn, i have never felt the same way about any one ever before, we went out a couple times. And now we arent going out, i want him more than anything else in the world. And trust me, i want alot of things! See ...
A. 8 July 2006: Listen my dear, you are ELEVEN. You are not emotionally or physically mature enough for dating. Its as simple as that. xXx... (read in full...)
I married her out of laziness, now she's pregnant and I worship someone else!
Q. In 1998 a girl invaded my life. Through neglect or simple laziness, I went out with her without complaining, even though she grated with me. She idolised me. Five years on and the relationship was still there, again through my laziness to tell her ...
A. 8 July 2006: My friend I have two words, Oh and Dear.
What a mess, why oh why would you marry someone you dont love. You have done this woman no favours, you have allowed her to become attached to you, and now you are bound to here for LIFE not because ... (read in full...)
I'm 22, married but have a spark with a co-worker!
Q. I am a married man of 2 years now, im 22 years old, and i have been through the ups and downs with my wife, and am currently in marriage counseling, well what it has been now for about a wwek is i have a co-worker that i have worked with for about 1 ...
A. 8 July 2006: First of all let me say that it is honourable that you got married at a young age, but that also seems to be your downfall. You are a young man with all this passion and feeling and thats why you are in the situation you are in. You have some sort ... (read in full...)
18 and I'm ashamed to be a virgin!
Q. Hi. I'm 18, I've never been really kissed (my first and last kiss was a little pash with a guy in year 4) i'm pretty ashamed because all my friends are no longer virgins and constantly ask me about who i've kissed and why i don't a have a b/f. I a...
A. 8 July 2006: My dear whay should you be ashamed to be a decent, respectable young lady? Most girls lose their virginity way too young and end up regretting it. They lose it to please their mates and end up paying the consequences. Dont be ashamed, I see no ... (read in full...)
First I said yes I would, now I don't want to
Q. Hia, Me and my boyfriend have been going out for just over 2 weeks. He's much more experianced than me (He's 15, and I'm 13). The other day he asked me if I would give him a hand job (wank him off), and I said yes. He's coming over my house on Tuesd...
A. 6 July 2006: My dear you are but a CHILD. And as for your boyfriend being more experienced, he is a child too and has no right being experienced in sexual matters. Listen to me, if you are not comfortable with doing something DONT DO IT. If he is that much of a ... (read in full...)
Is 110 sexual partners too many?
Q. I want some advice, mainly from the women out there. I would like to know what you all think is an acceptable number of sexual partners for a man in his late 20's to have been with. My boyfriend is fantastic but I can't seem to get past the fact ...
A. 6 July 2006: My friend, I dont think there is a definative number of sexual partners that is acceptable for a man, but the question I tend to ask is "why does someone see the need to sleep with so many people?" I mean think of it like this, people who sleep with ... (read in full...)
I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn? Any comments?
Q. As a man, I don't understand why women have this big problem with porn. Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week. Also make love with my wife ...
A. 4 July 2006: You said this: Porn itself is not the problem. It the person. I look at porn 5-6 times a week. I watch some movies, read stories and Jerk off about 6 times a week
WRONG. Porn is absolutely vile and disgusting and as a woman I find it abominab... (read in full...)
I'm a Christian and he's agnostic. Other than that, we get along great. Will it be a problem?
Q. I am a 25 year old single girl. I have been on a few dates with several different men. But I was set up with this guy from some friends and we have been dating for a couple of weeks. I really like talking to him. He makes me laugh and think and well ...
A. 4 July 2006: My dear consider a rather shallow but useful analogy, does the colour pink go with the colour green, does jam go with spaghetti? Not really. Neither does a NON Christian go with a TRUE Christian because they clash. If you are truly a Chrstian you ... (read in full...)
I think I need to lose my virginity!
Q. Hi I am 14 years old and I feel Im getting to that age where I think I should lose my virginty. I don't have a boyfriend or anything, but I really wanna not be a virgin anymore. Any advice? StIlLaViRgInNY...
A. 4 July 2006: My dear stop right there. Why do you think that you are at the age that you need to lose your virginity? Virginity is a beautiful thing, and at 14 you have no place to be wanting to lose it, you are ridiculously young and sex should not even be on ... (read in full...)
Can you marry someone you "like" but don't "love"?
Q. Can you marry someone you can easily get along but you are not in love with? Someone you madly fall into love with usually is too intense and can not last long or easily cause problems, I am tired of this. Now thinking: shall I pick up a guy I ...
A. 3 July 2006: Is this question for real? Why on earth would you want to make a lifelong comitment to someone you are not actually in love with? Liking someone, my dear will not be sufficient for a marriage to work. Marriage works on love, trust and friendship as ... (read in full...)
How do you get pregnant?
Q. is there other ways of getting pregnant other than sex?...
A. 3 July 2006: ABSOLUTELY NO.
There is only one example of how a woman became pregnant without intercourse and that was Mary, the Mother of the Saviour Jesus Christ, but that prophecy has been fulfilled. You only get pregnant after having sex.... (read in full...)
Growing my hair to feel attractive
Q. Hey guys I have a yet another problem i would like to have long hair because at the moment ny hair is short to medium length I loike to have long hair as it will help me feel attr45active guys please give me some ideas thanks guys...
A. 26 June 2006: Re: The girl (anon) who asked about products:
Why do you want to grow your hair past your shoulders?Are you not happy with the hair God gave you? If God wanted your hair to be longer it owuld be. It took me almost 10 years to grow mine past my ... (read in full...)
Why do western women hate their mother in laws?
Q. Why do western women hate it when their husband is close to his mother? Isn't that selfish? How can you hate the women who brought him into the world and raised him?...
A. 23 June 2006: Are you not making a bit of a generalisation when you say western women, its not the case for all western women you know!! Its not a case of hating the woman who brought you into the world but for some, it may be that they think that their husband ... (read in full...)
Growing my hair to feel attractive
Q. Hey guys I have a yet another problem i would like to have long hair because at the moment ny hair is short to medium length I loike to have long hair as it will help me feel attr45active guys please give me some ideas thanks guys...
A. 22 June 2006: My friend, what makes you think that by having long hair you wil be attractive? In my opinion, (just as an example) Halle Berry was so much more sexy and seductive with short hair and I dont thinl the fake, long weaves suit her. Be happy with what ... (read in full...)
Can you love someone but not want to be with them ?
Q. Is it possible to be in love with someone but not want to 'be' with them? My friends bf say he's in love with her but doesnt want to be in a relationship. surely if someone is in love with someone they'd want to be together? Opinions please, we ...
A. 21 June 2006: Quite simply NO.
You cant be in love with someone and not want a relationship. That means either you are not in love with them, or its just lust and you know that a relationship will not bring any fulfilment apart from sex.
If you are in love ... (read in full...)
I got caught having an affair... non-judgemental advice needed!
Q. I am in deep trouble. My wife has come to know about my affair with a married woman. Initially it was for sex but I fell in love with this woman and now I am committed to her too. I cant leave my wife because I love her as well. Both these women are ...
A. 21 June 2006: My friend, I wont judge you at all but you said something that bothered me. You said you love BOTH these women. Now let me get this right, if you loved your wife, why were you seeking sex from another MARRIED woman? Can you see that NO GO AREA ... (read in full...)
Do boys know when girls have a period
Q. do teenage boys know when teenage girls are on their period?...
A. 20 June 2006: I cant agree with Dr Psych more, she is spot on!! I mean unless you tell them, how would they know?
As Angelicc said also, they may notice mood swings etc sothey may assume its "that time" but apart from that, how would they know?
xXx... (read in full...)
Can I have a short fling with the Italian boy, and not ruin my perfect relationship?
Q. Hi I'm a girl, nearly 18,and I've been with my boyfriend for a year now (who is the same age as me), I love him to bits and we have been engaged for ages now, and everything's just perfect. But there's a problem, last week my mum invited round a ...
A. 20 June 2006: "..............I love him to bits and we have been engaged for ages now, and everything's just perfect"
"...............I did think of having a short term affair, but is that a good/bad idea?"
ARE YOU CRAZY?
Why do you need to ask if havin... (read in full...)
Having a dilemma about shaving my legs!
Q. Hiya, My friends all have recently been wearing socks to school instead of tights. I'm wearing tights, but I'm boiling! lol. However I've got quite pale skin, and my mam says that if i shave my legs my 'unnoticable' hairs will just get really d...
A. 20 June 2006: Hello, there are several options you could try:
1. Shaving with a good razor i.e Venus by Gillette and dont forget to use shaving foam, also by Gilette use the one for sensitive skin as this protects your skin and keeps it like velvet
2. Epilat... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 20 June 2006: Nice comment Anja!!! Totallly agree with you, it had become more of a debate on God, and as you said, it diverted attention away from the young ladies post. But yes I agree with you, completely!!!! xXx... (read in full...)
How do I get over a boy who has a partner
Q. dear agony aunt . . . there is this boy who i have been having feelings for, for two years now. we only started talkin about 8 - 9 months ago. one of my friends told me that he wont go out with me but he will do things with me. obviously i didn...
A. 20 June 2006: "......................one of my friends told me that he wont go out with me but he will do things with me."
My dear, stop right there. He wont date you but he will play you, thats what it sounds like to me.
Listen my friend, I can honestly s... (read in full...)
Ex boyfriend wants to carry on having sex with me
Q. my x boyfriend keeps asking me to have sex with him i dont wont to but he wont stop going on he keeps saying he still loves me n i have feelings 4 him 2 i have had sex before but i dont feel comfatable with him xxemilyxx...
A. 19 June 2006: Willywombat took the words right out of my mouth!!! And I totally agree with Shania's sound advice. Dont even think about doing something that you are not comfortable with. Please dont. xXx... (read in full...)
He abused me..should I stay or go?
Q. Me and my boyfriend are having problems he physically abused me and was arrested. I love him and I don't know what to do? I don't know whether to stay or go? He is on medication to keep him calm and he has been doing better. He still has mood swi...
A. 19 June 2006: My partner physically abuses me, humiliates me, treats me like a piece of waste off his shoe, doesnt trust me and I have to ask for advice on whether to stay or togo. My dear, listen to how it sounds. Dont you think you deserve better? Why are you ... (read in full...)
I'm 12. Am I too young to make out?
Q. im 12. too young to make out?...
A. 19 June 2006: Kissing may seem like some harmless lip action, but my dear let me tell you that kissing leads to all sorts of emotions and at your tender age there ought to be no hurry to kiss boys. As long as you dont mean anything further than kissing i.e. sex ... (read in full...)
Am I pretty?
Q. This is a weird question but..... Do I have a pretty face? Cause I really dont know. Girls I know say I am ugly, some boys say I am hot then others say I'm a 'dog', My work colleagues think i am pretty, my teacher thinks I'm gorgeous but my frien...
A. 18 June 2006: My dear, beauty is in the eye of the beholder as another agony aunt rightly said. From what you have described to me you sound gorgeous, but as I said, we all behold and perceive people differently, your features on another face may not be pretty ... (read in full...)
He is Mr. Right but I am Mrs. Wrong for him HELP!!
Q. i think he is mr right but he dont think i am mrs right what should i do i really love him?...
A. 17 June 2006: I agree with Wendyg I think we need a bit more information to go on my friend. Has he given you a specific reason why you are not Mrs Right? Tell us more please. Take care until then. xXx... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 17 June 2006: Me again. Sorry to the girl who posted this question as it has turned into a mass debate about the intergrity of the Holy Bible!!
Martini I respect what you are saying, you may have studied the Bible, I have read it and have a true understa... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 17 June 2006: Sorry I am back!!!!!
Martini, this is what you said: God should have taken away our emotions, cut off our dicks and closed up our vaginas. That way, we can definitely practice monogamy - on ourselves!
Well why would God do that, we would t... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 17 June 2006: Hi harshbutfair, thanks for your comment this is what you wrote to me:
Bonym... Ignoring your belief in God do you believe *yourself* that abstaining from sex is the right thing to do, for *you*? For what reasons?
For me yes I do believe that... (read in full...)
What does the term " So fit " mean ?
Q. when a boy thinks a girl is 'so fit' does that mean he fancies her?...
A. 16 June 2006: Well Dr Pete has a point! But usually here in the UK that term is very commonly used to describe a girl who is physically gorgeous.
Other terms you may here my dear are hot, fireing, fine, hectic.... There are sooooo many!! Growing up Manc... (read in full...)
What does the term " So fit " mean ?
Q. when a boy thinks a girl is 'so fit' does that mean he fancies her?...
A. 16 June 2006: Yep, both answers here are right. Fit just means that he finds you physically attractive, simple as!!!!
xXx... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 16 June 2006: Hi Dr Pete, I guess what I mean when I say will is volition, choice or desire. Peronally I belief we all have an inbuilt sense of will within us perhaps I guess from birth. I believe God gives us all FREE will. We are free to make any decision we ... (read in full...)
Promised God that I wouldn't have sex again, but I can't empty my mind of thoughts about it!
Q. Recently I made a pledge with God to not have sex again because I had sex with my ex-boyfriend which was a really awful mistake because I wasn't able to deal with the emotional consequences of losing my virginity to someone who really wasn't a good ...
A. 16 June 2006: Hello reader, I am a Christian and here is my view:
My dear, what you are feeling is normal. God gives us feelings, sexual thoughts included. What I mean is this, because you are with someone, that means that you will develop an Erotic love for ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesnt know why he loves me, should I be concerned ?
Q. My b.f. of 1 yr and I are going through a rough patch... I asked him why he loves me and he said he didn't know. Should I be worried? ...
A. 16 June 2006: Well I would be more worried if he said he didnt love me! This sounds a bit bizarre to me. Could you be a bit more specific. Why did you ask him WHY he loves you?
I am confused.
xxx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend's a bum and I have a bun in my oven... Where next?!
Q. So here is the thing... My boyfriend and I are amazing together! We were casualy dating for about 2 years and now we are in a commited and serious relationship for 6 months. We can still talk for hours on end and have sex twice a day. We both still ...
A. 16 June 2006: You said this: So here is the thing... My boyfriend and I are amazing together!
Well thats just where it all goes wrong! How can you be amazing together if you are as good as saying that your fella is a loser and immature? Why are you having s... (read in full...)
I'm married and attracted to someone else, even though I know it's wrong!
Q. Falling In Love With Someone I Should Not I am married and have a child. I love both of them. I am a Christian and know what is right and wrong. I know that having an affair would only hurt everyone involved, but... I can not stop thinking a...
A. 16 June 2006: Whether you are a Christian or not, everyone knows this is wrong, well having an affair is wrong should I say. Its not sinful to find someone else attractive but the sinful act is having an affair. Cant you see that this is a test? I too am a ... (read in full...)
The sex is great, but I am confused!
Q. My BF and I have a great sex and when he pulls out it looks like I have cum but how comes I dont feel it. And how do I get and intense orgasm n How do I Feel it. And how will I know if ive had 1?...
A. 16 June 2006: Yep, I agree with the other two agony aunts, very wise answers given here. Its one of those questions that you know the answer to yourself, no one can tell you, you just know. Sorry its so brief, but what more cam I say? xXx... (read in full...)
I really love someone who has a girlfriend
Q. Hiya, I really love this guy, and he's told me that he really likes me, however he's got a girlfriend. He's said that he'd go out with me but he's recently slept with his girlfriend and doesn't want to break her heart as it was her first time. ...
A. 15 June 2006: You said this: But I KNOW that he's THE one. He's my special person. He's already said that he'd french kiss me but i've told him no because he's got a girlfriend. Should I or not?
And you also wrote this in the original question:He's said tha... (read in full...)
I want to know if the signals are saying that he likes me or what!?
Q. i want to know if this guy likes me he looks at me for long perods and is always touching me wanting to know were i am slaps me and jockes with me he even got in to bed with me hugs me and is always rubs his body when ever he is nere me he is always ...
A. 15 June 2006: From what you have described, it does appear that he has some sort of attraction to you, but as Bev Conolly rightly says be careful how you respond to this. He does seem a bit overly tactile and I agree with Bev, this could be a bit sinister, but ... (read in full...)
I keep thinking he's going to run off with someone else...what can I do?
Q. I'm completly paranoid that my boyfriend is going to run off with another woman cause he's had quite a few ladies in the past. no matter how many times he tells me he loves me it means nothing....
A. 15 June 2006: My dear a relationship cannot work if there is a lack of trust from either one party or both. The past is the past, the present is what matters. Your jealousy will drive him away if you are not careful so my dear, if you want to make this ... (read in full...)
I love my girlfriend, but fancy her sister, what should I do about it ?
Q. I fancy my girlfriend's sister but i still love my girlfriend what should i do about my feelings? ...
A. 15 June 2006: If you truly love your girlfriend then dont allow lust to take up any room in this relationship. You may fancy this girl my friend but is it worth risking a relationship for the sake of lust? NO. xXx... (read in full...)
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