Do boys want to have sex with someone they love??
Q. do teenage boys want to have sex wiv someone they love or dont they care? do they just want it wiv anyone on their first time?...
A. 23 May 2006: My dear, I cannot possibly speak for all teenage boys, some want to have sex purely for the sake of it, some may genuinely in time develop strong feelings for a girl and want to have sex with her because he loves her. It really depends on the boy ... (read in full...)
I slept with my bfs best friend!!
Q. I slept with boyfriends best friend and my boyfriends other friend saw us and told him. I denied doing anything and then gave in a bit by bit I told him the truth. I never meant it to happen and I regret it, my boyfriend says I only regret getting ...
A. 23 May 2006: My dear if you dont know yourself why you did it, how can we possibly know why you did what you did? My friends, I cant sit here and judge you, all humans are fallable and make mistakes, but you need to try and earn your boyfriends trust again. You ... (read in full...)
Best friend moved in on the guy I loved from afar!
Q. My Best friend has asked out the guy I have loved for over 11 years. She's rubbing it in my face by kissing and hugging him in front of me and she keeps telling me all the details of their nights out. It's making me feel so upset becuase I have ...
A. 22 May 2006: Well for starters find yourself another friend. What sort of "best" friend carries on the way your so called mate has. If she knew you liked the guy and she keeps rubbing it in your face, she is no friend, my dear but she is an enemy. I suspect ... (read in full...)
Men: please tell me why I can be a "great girlfrend" and still get dumped...
Q. Man's advice! I finaly ended it with my on /off boyfriend because he keeps going hot and cold on me and his reason for this was because he hasn't got time for a girlfriend. He said I'd be a great girlfriend but hasn't got time for me. Why?...
A. 22 May 2006: My dear I think what your boyfriend is simply saying is that you are a lovely and decent person and ots not cos you are some horrible so and so why he doesnt want to be with you but because he is to busy then he doesnt want to commit to a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks about sex with other people
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and he no longers wants sex with me. When he masturbates he thinks about sex with other people. Does this mean our relationship is dead and i should move on? Or does it mean sex is boring and if so ...
A. 22 May 2006: Oh, yes I never realised that either, I assumed you were female also. I kind of overlooked the part where it said you were male thats why I assumed he was thinking of other women, my mind only thinks of maen and women in a relationship. I apologise. ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend thinks about sex with other people
Q. Me and my boyfriend have been together for 4 years and he no longers wants sex with me. When he masturbates he thinks about sex with other people. Does this mean our relationship is dead and i should move on? Or does it mean sex is boring and if so ...
A. 22 May 2006: My dear you have answered your question and it is the former, the relationship is dead. No the sex is not boring, you need to move on because how dare he think about other women when he is stimulating himself, its wrong and you should notput up with ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheats and treats me badly
Q. ive been with this boy for well over a year now and he says hes mad about me and loves me but he keeps doing things to hurt me, hes got with other girls, sent me a pic with him and 2 naked girls, send me pics of girls (not their faces!)tryd getin ...
A. 22 May 2006: No my dear your boyfriend is not mad about you he is just mad. He is a loser if he persistantly keeps on treating like like the dirt off the ground. Why do you put up with it? I totally agree with Dr Psych, you are allowing him to do this to you ... (read in full...)
Guys and makeup...
Q. i am 15. i dont where make up. why do guys always go for the girls that wear make up?!? it isnt what they really look like, they are painting a different face on themselves basically. why do boys like that, or do they??...
A. 22 May 2006: Hello dear, well I am 23 and I dont wear makeup either. I am of the opinion what you see is what you get so if they dont fancy me without makeup, thats tough!!! If you are comfortable in your own skin, then do not feel obliged to wear makeup. To ... (read in full...)
I find sexual activities disgusting! How do people bare it?
Q. i have a question that is really confusing me. why would anyone want to finger someone? or have oral sex. it is discusting. tell me why people want to do this. how can they bear fingering someone?!?...
A. 22 May 2006: My dear I have often questioned this myself and as a Christian people think that I am some sort of Bible bashing freak and dont believe in fun, which is not the case at all!!! But for me personally, oral sex is one of the biggest turn offs that ... (read in full...)
My fella has a big fella! Can it damage me?
Q. My boyfriend's penis is massive but we're planning on having sex soon. It'd be my first time and i'm so scared. It's painful enough being fingered, i'm worried he'll do actual damage to me. What can we do?...
A. 22 May 2006: I agree with all answers, willywombat is spot on in my view! Dont worry. xXx... (read in full...)
My ex wants me back but i'm with someone new, should i take him back?
Q. My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years broke up with me 3 months ago. I was quite upset as we had been through a lot together and the reasons I was given were not things that could be changed in any way. I decided though, that I would not waste too much tim...
A. 22 May 2006: If you still love your ex my friend whay on earth are you seeing someone else? You are clearly not ready for a new relationship and if you had remained single, this would not be a problem. It sounds to me that your current boyfriend is very keen on ... (read in full...)
My stepdad would rather have sex with me than with my mum!
Q. Dear cupid I'm an 18 yr old girl and my problem is that my stepdad raped me a week ago, so my mom kicked me out. I enjoyed having sex with him and he has come to me twice( I'm living in my friend's apartment) and we've had an amazing time but it's...
A. 22 May 2006: I have ummed and aahed about this and I am just not convinced, I mean, my dear dont use the term "rape" so lighly. If you are enjoying sex with a man, it cannot be rape, please I do hope this is not a wind up because I believe that is sick, but if ... (read in full...)
My stepdad would rather have sex with me than with my mum!
Q. Dear cupid I'm an 18 yr old girl and my problem is that my stepdad raped me a week ago, so my mom kicked me out. I enjoyed having sex with him and he has come to me twice( I'm living in my friend's apartment) and we've had an amazing time but it's...
A. 21 May 2006: I dont honestly believe what I am reading here. If your stepdad "raped" you why has your mum kick you out, it was him who did the wrong and how on earth can you enjoy sex with a rapist? This sounds a bit dodgy to me, you are not serious are you? I ... (read in full...)
My married boss wants sex...I love my job and don't want to leave. What should I do?
Q. At the xmas party, i slept with boss, it has taken me a while to get over my own embarrassment and get on with my job and we both agreed to put this behind us. However we still exchange certain looks and yesterday he asked me if I fancied doing so...
A. 20 May 2006: Listen to me my friend, this is not a good idea at all. First of all her is MARRIED and secondly he is your boss. Why on earth do you want to jeopardise your job like this? I mean if you decide not to have sex with him he may turn nasty and start ... (read in full...)
He's having problems "keeping it up"... what could be causing this?
Q. im a virgin but my boyfriend has had sex in the past. Im really ready to have sex with him but he seems to be finding it hard to keep it up? what could be causing this?...
A. 20 May 2006: Anxiety or stress are the main factors why he may be having trouble in this area. Also I think someone did mention this, but drugs can also cause this problem e.g marijuana especially. Now I am not accusing him of being on drugs I am just stating a ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend doesn't believe me
Q. i need help understanding why my boyfriend dont believe what im saying...
A. 20 May 2006: Yeah as Shania said, you need to be more specific my dear. What doesnt he belive you about? I cant answer a question with such minute details, I need more than that. xXx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend cheated when he was drunk...was it his fault?
Q. i am 16 and never been drunk. do people know what they are doing when they are drunk? cos my bf cheated on me while he was drunk - one of his mates told me. he said he was SO drunk but he got off with this girl and i dont know if he knew what he was ...
A. 20 May 2006: My dear whe you are drunk you may do the odd silly thing but alcohol is such that lose your inhibitions so for example when a person is drunk they may blab out a top secret because they have lost all sense of their inhibitions and what perhpas ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends son but he has a girlfriend
Q. I recently had a one night stand with my friends son who I haveknown and liked for a long time.He has a girlfriend,but he told me he had always fancied me etc etc now I dont know what to do I really like him and this was my first time....
A. 20 May 2006: Wait a second. I am confused. How old are you if you dont mind me asking and how old is her son? And you say it was your first time. This seems a bit shady to me, I mean if you have a friend who has a son who is at the age where he can be sleeping ... (read in full...)
He masterbates over Adolf Hitler!!! What can I do???
Q. Apologies for the length of this but I need to get it off my chest. I'm 25 and have been with my boyfriend who's 29 for 4 years now. Recently he's become addicted to looking at websites on Adolf Hitler on the Internet; even masturbating ove...
A. 20 May 2006: Kellie, I read this post the first day it was posted and I have only now managed to put keyboard to computer to give you what I hope is a respectable answer. I am a tad, well actually I am very concerned about your fella. It sounds to me that your ... (read in full...)
Our relationship consists of.... Sex. Should there be more?
Q. i have been with my partner for 4 years the trouble i dont know what the relationship is! all we do is have sex, i dont know his freinds or family nor he mine. i love him but dont know if he feels the same do i stay with him and carry on as we are ...
A. 20 May 2006: My friend, how can a relationship possibly survive when all it is about is sex? Sex is not the be all and end all in a relationship, I mean of course, intimacy is highly important in a relationship and I would be just as shocked if you said that ... (read in full...)
Mixed race relations are banned by his father
Q. I hope someone can give me some advice on this... Basically I've just split up with my boyfriend of two years (for the second time) the reasons for our split is that his dad will not meet me or allow me to go round his house as he doesn't believe in ...
A. 20 May 2006: My mistake, earlier I said (your father) I meant to write your boyfriends father. I do apologise. xXx... (read in full...)
My husband likes porn and I am in an abusive marriage
Q. I have been with my husband for over 20 years and have experienced an abusive marriage with regards to his alcoholism, infedility, mental and physical abuse, masturbation, sexual demands as well as him being able to carry out conversations and ...
A. 20 May 2006: My dear may I ask you one question: "What on earth are you doing with this man?"
Listen, you told me that you have suffered severe depression for over 15 years, lets put it into perspective, if there are 365 days in a year or 366 and you have been... (read in full...)
I cheated on my boyfriend, he wants to be friends but ignores me
Q. I'm inlove with this guy he said he's inlove with me to!We dated for a month then broke up cos i cheated on him,but then we got back together for a couple of weeks but then before school started he told me he thinks it's better if we just stay good ...
A. 20 May 2006: My dear I am not surprised he is ignoring you, you have messed with his head. Do you realise that cheating has a great emotional and psychological impact on the other partner? He probably just wants to keep his distance so you dont "get into his ... (read in full...)
Am I pregnant?
Q. i am three weeks late on my period and ive done two pregnancy tests and they both said negative, im not getting the sore breasts, but im getting alot more discharge than normal and it seems to be more white, also ive been getting real itcy eyes am i ...
A. 20 May 2006: From reading your post, it may still be possible that you are pregnant because some pregnancy kits are not that great in terms of accuracy however the best thing to do is go to the GP for a blood test and see what could be wrong. As fo the late ... (read in full...)
Trusting again
Q. When you give your significant other a 2nd chance after he's cheated, how do you know how to read the signs if he were to do it again without being paranoid. i mean, i want to forgive him and move on and give him the benefit of the doubt to start ...
A. 20 May 2006: My dear there is no set "time limit" on when you can give a cheating partner a second chance. The question you have to ask yourself is whether you are able in your heart to forgive that person. If someone has cheated on me I would be very inclined ... (read in full...)
What's the difference between his flirting and teasing?
Q. One of my colleague always teasing me but means no harm, I suppose. Anyway,I don't exactly know what's difference between tease and flirt sometimes from his behavior? Besides, we are very good company and have some the same interests. He looks char...
A. 20 May 2006: To me flirting is when you are definately giving someone the come on and you are trying to tell them "look I want you and I want you to know it! whereas to me, teasing is where the person may be playing some sort of mind game, i.e. they are trying ... (read in full...)
Lose weight or my boyfriend?
Q. I have a problem...I have been with my boyfriend for 6 and a half years we have a child together. We were young when we got together and my child came along quickly and unplanned. I have always loved him but the past year or so I have been havi...
A. 20 May 2006: You said: In the past 6 months people have been complimenting me and stuff and i think there might be more to life than him,
and I couldn't agree with you more. Since when has your fella adopted the role of the sun and everything revolves arou... (read in full...)
How can I make him dump her?
Q. I like a boy,but he already has a girlfriend.How do I get him to dump her and make me his girlfriend?...
A. 20 May 2006: My dear what sort of question is this? So do you want us to give you some helpful hints on how to destroy a relationship? My dear, please think about what you have just asked. It is incredibly selfish and uncalled for.
Who said this guy want... (read in full...)
He is not my intellectual equal
Q. so im with this great guy...problem is just(this is going to sound harsh)that he is not very intelligent. He is nice, sweet, caring, affectionate, tolerant and not jealous at all of my male friends. I am also very attracted to him physical...
A. 20 May 2006: Sandie, it may just be that the two of you are miles apart and are not well suited. You need to find someone who is on the same level as you in some respects at least because like Shania said, the relationship wont survie on looks alone. Lets face ... (read in full...)
Ex is ignoring me BUT I'm PREGNANT by him!!
Q. I was just wondering why ever since I told my ex I'm pregnant by him he has turned nasty, ended are friendship and completly ignores me whan I try to contact him. I dont know what to do....
A. 20 May 2006: My dear, from the short message you have posted, what I understand from it is that your ex clearly is not emotionally ready for a child.I think he wanted you back but he didnt bargain to get you AND a baby. I think he cant accept responsibility and ... (read in full...)
Forbidden Chemistry
Q. i have developed feelings for this guy in work. I've always liked him and we hit it off straight away when i first started, but recently over the last month or so theres just been a spark between us, like the room is just electric whenever we're ...
A. 20 May 2006: Hello, I know exactly how you feel and I dont want to sound like a broken record, but please make sure that you do not allow yourself to get carried away around him. There is nothing you can do about the chemistry but you can do something about the ... (read in full...)
Mixed race relations are banned by his father
Q. I hope someone can give me some advice on this... Basically I've just split up with my boyfriend of two years (for the second time) the reasons for our split is that his dad will not meet me or allow me to go round his house as he doesn't believe in ...
A. 19 May 2006: My dear,I am so sorry to hear about this. Its a shame that your father has this kind of attitude. I dont believe that trying to convince his father will amount to any good because some people are very set in their ways. I think you should try to ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but there's this attractive woman at work who likes me! What should I do?
Q. Hi There. I'm in a spot of bother at the moment. I'm married,quite happily and have 2 children and darly love my wife. BUT.... there's this girl (yeah I know!!!) whom I work with. We get along great and she's really attractive. She's engaged to...
A. 19 May 2006: You said this earlier: Whoa... I have no intention of leaving my wife. Would a little casual sex on the side be that big a deal? This woman drives me wild.... I've never experienced this before. I'm loosing sleep,weight, and my marbles... all at ... (read in full...)
I'm happily married but there's this attractive woman at work who likes me! What should I do?
Q. Hi There. I'm in a spot of bother at the moment. I'm married,quite happily and have 2 children and darly love my wife. BUT.... there's this girl (yeah I know!!!) whom I work with. We get along great and she's really attractive. She's engaged to...
A. 18 May 2006: What do you mean what should I do? My friend, if you are HAPPILY married and one of the definitions of "quite" in the dictionary actually means "very" then what you are saying is that you are very happily married so why are you even giving this ... (read in full...)
Should I get pregnant by this man
Q. This is really stupid i know but i'm completely in love with this guy, who's told me he wants to have sex with me. The thing is, i know he doesn't have any strong feelings for me, and i'm tempted to try and get pregnant with his baby so i can have a ...
A. 18 May 2006: Listen my dear, please DONT get pregnant by this man. You have as good as told us that all he wants you for is SEX. He DONT love you, so please, dont trap him and try and "make" him fall in love with you. If you do get pregnant by him, he will end ... (read in full...)
My husband has been seeing escorts....is it my fault?
Q. I have just found out my husband has been visiting escort agency girls - dominatrix in particular. How should I handle this? Is it my fault as I haven't been too interested in sex for about 6 months. thanks...
A. 18 May 2006: My dear I wouldnt blame yourself but you need to address the issue as to why you hve lost your desire for sex because ultimately if he is not getting any he will look elsewhere, not that it is right to cheat, but he will argue that he has needs. My ... (read in full...)
Big, skinny, tall, short, thin... what is attractive???
Q. i am 16. do men prefer curvy women or their bodies to be more straight? mine is quite curvy and im not sure if that is attractive???? Also do they prefer small or big breasts?...
A. 18 May 2006: My dear, men have different tastes. Some men will say that they like the "Kate Moss" physique others will say they like the "Beyonce" figure. It really depends, I mean, I am slim (uk size 8 on top, B Cup,) uk size 10 on the bottom. People say I ... (read in full...)
Climaxing, orgasms and all that confusing stuff at 15
Q. hey i am 15 and when we have sleepovers etc we always play truth or dare i have been asked a number of times how many times i have climaxed or had an orgasim what are they? are they the same thing? and how do you know you are having 1 sorry i sound ...
A. 18 May 2006: But, yes are Dr Psych says they are in effect the same thing, its just that some may say that they have not experienced an orgasm even though they have climaxed. The terminology is confusing, very!!! And it doesnt help that people have different ... (read in full...)
Climaxing, orgasms and all that confusing stuff at 15
Q. hey i am 15 and when we have sleepovers etc we always play truth or dare i have been asked a number of times how many times i have climaxed or had an orgasim what are they? are they the same thing? and how do you know you are having 1 sorry i sound ...
A. 18 May 2006: My dear you are not stupid at all but if you have to ask these questions then am I right in assuming you have not experienced an orgasm? I am no expert in these matters, I was a late developer myself, but I do an awful lot of reading!!! Quite simply ... (read in full...)
Is saying "I love you" really that important?
Q. im a guy whos with my girlfriend over 6 mts. do i need to tell her i love her as i feel i show it enough. i dont usually talk that soppy. chances are she knows i love her by my actions?...
A. 18 May 2006: I believe actions speak louder than words my friend. Some people say they "love" someone with their mouth, but in their hard they don't feel a thing. I think that as long as you are a decent person, treat your lady with respect and honour, the ... (read in full...)
Boyfriends little girl passed away and he's now spending time with the mother... what should I do?
Q. my boyfriends little girl died 2weeks ago when i was up north with him! but it happened at his ex's! the funeral took 2 weeks to happen it happened a couple of days ago and since he went home and he has spent alot of time with his ex!! and the nigh...
A. 18 May 2006: My dear I am so sorry to hear about this, Dr Pete seems to be taking the words out of my mouth, I totally agree with all he has said amongst the other responses too. Just go along with what your boyfriend wants, if he says he cant see either of you ... (read in full...)
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