When I see him..I get hurt and start shaking inside. Why am I this way?
Q. hey guys, What does it mean when you start shaking in front of a person that you had been attracted to for a long time or may be in love. This man in particular and myself are at a stage of life where we know we can never be together as we both are...
A. 31 August 2006: Sweetie, yes it sounds to me like you are in love!!! I know the feeling all to well, thats the problem when some men are just too unbelievably gorgeous!!!! Dont worry babes, you will be fine. xXx... (read in full...)
When I try and contact him the phone cuts off.....
Q. I am going with a guy who is 21 i am 22 i have not heard from him for nearly three weeks and when i try to phone him it cuts off please tell me what to do as im really worried about him ...
A. 31 August 2006: Are you ringing a mobile? If so, try texting him, if your phone has delivery reports and it says "Delivered" when the message is sent then his phone perhaps is working ok. Try ringing him but witholding the number so see if he picks up to other ... (read in full...)
Are her orgams real or fake?
Q. I think i gave my girlfriend an orgasm but i dont no! the last three times me and my girlfriend have had sex she has been on top and after about 10 mins she says she feels a pulsing inside of her a few mins later she says she has 1 big pulse an...
A. 31 August 2006: My friend why does it matter if you gave her an Orgasm, at the end of the day, you have not said that she is not happy with the intimacy so what is the problem? Npt all women will scream with ecstasy, so what, she is happy isnt she? You are happy, ... (read in full...)
my 74 year old college professor is flirting and trying to have sex with me. I am disgusted by his behaviours..what should I do?
Q. I have a 74 -year-old college professor who tries to flirt and have sex with me and other female students. Plus he is always in my face. I try to ignore him and tell him that he is making me feel very uncomfortable, but that doesn't seem to work. I ...
A. 31 August 2006: Dr Psych is right, to me whether he is 24, 34, 54, 64 or 74 it doesnt matter, his behaviour is dispicable and needs to be addressed. You need to speak to someone in the college about it and dont put it off, do it now and make sure they put a stop to ... (read in full...)
Is he a rebound relationship ?
Q. 3 months ago my girlfriend split with me the next day she went of with another man however she kept coming back to me for sex and telling me she misses me, in the 3 months they see each other everyday and have been away 3 times together, is he the ...
A. 31 August 2006: Never mind if he is the rebound, she is using you and more importantly, you are letting her do that to you. Colly, dont you think you deserve to be treated better? She split with you, she ended the relationship, but the sex hasnt ended, she has the ... (read in full...)
I've fallen for my best friend's brother and she's pissed off at me! What should I do?
Q. I am an 18 year old girl who has fallen for her best friend's brother. I understand it may be weird for my friend to imagine us together, but we really love each other and I do not understand why she can't be happy for us. She has made it clear...
A. 31 August 2006: Whats it got to do with your friend, so what if he is her brother, you are an adult and so is he. I really cant understand why she is p***** off with you, its absurd. Perhaps she is a tad jealous of you, but really my dear, you are both adults and ... (read in full...)
When I see him..I get hurt and start shaking inside. Why am I this way?
Q. hey guys, What does it mean when you start shaking in front of a person that you had been attracted to for a long time or may be in love. This man in particular and myself are at a stage of life where we know we can never be together as we both are...
A. 31 August 2006: Sounds like me and this man I met at work every day I see Pete I go all "girly" inside, he is like the most beautiful man on the face of God's earth and when I see thay bling bling wedding ring, I get depressed! My dear, its just that you are deepy ... (read in full...)
I tried dating and sleeping with other guys to get over my ex bf...nothing works! Help me!
Q. I cant get over my ex boyfriend, i tried dating other guys, sleeping with other guys, going out every weekend but its not working he is in my head everyday everynight. I took peoples advice and tried to move on as he obviously is as he wasnt ...
A. 31 August 2006: I would never have the cheek to say you are a loser, but as Yos said merely sleeping with and dating men like that wont fix the problem nor will it fill the void that seems to be missing in your life at the moment. Break ups are tough, I know that ... (read in full...)
Should I tell my Co worker that I like him ?
Q. Should I blurt out my feelings ? There is a mutual attraction between myself and a work colleague which has been building up for months. The frustration of not saying anything is really taking it's toll and me. It also seems to be taken a toll on ...
A. 31 August 2006: I dont think that you should just blurt them out like that, it may make things more arkward. Why dont you try and establish some form of mutual friendship first, then see how things go. The signs you have descrbed do sound like two people are ... (read in full...)
I kissed a guy just after he argued with his wife...was I wrong to do that?
Q. i kissed a married guy with kids and enjoyed it, it was after he had an argument with his wife outside the pub, and she punched him in the face. He told me he was gonna leave her and we kissed i would have done more but my friend pulled me away, i ...
A. 31 August 2006: Is there something wrong with that? My dear of course there is, the man is married, and you both kissed each other, the only woman he should be kissing like that is his wife. Please dont get any more involved with this man, its not a healthy idea. ... (read in full...)
This older woman at work is copying my style, its awful, how can address this ?
Q. Could somebody please give me some advice on how to handle a situation at work, im 25 years old and have my own sense of style, recently i have noticed as well as many others an older women of about 40 is buying cheap copie of my clothes and wearing ...
A. 31 August 2006: David Lewis, you are a joker, that is soooo funny!!!!
I can sympathise because that has happened to me before and its very itritating, what can I say, I am a trendsetter!! Only kidding, but Yos is right, you kind of should be flattered because ... (read in full...)
He flirts with me..so I'm wondering--would he ever be interested and what should I do?
Q. Well,i really like this boy, and im not sure he likes me the same way but he does flirt and stuff but i really like him and im just curious if he would ever be interested in me ?...
A. 30 August 2006: Flirting is an odd concept because I hold my hand up, I flirt with men all the time, every day, constantly its just M's character!!!! However I only flirt with men I do have some kind of attraction to, i.e. I wouldnt just flirt with a man for the ... (read in full...)
Can I be with my cousin?
Q. Ok I have a problem and I like my cousin and he likes me to but i dont know if we can be together. Wat can I do ?...
A. 30 August 2006: Sweetie, I cant sit here and tell you what is right or indeed wrong for you. You have to make the choice within yourself my dear. Obviously you are aware of the potential problems with being with a relative, think about the long term, can you deal ... (read in full...)
He told his mate that "I was fit"...does that mean he likes me?
Q. hi, im 15 and used to go to this badminton club and havent been in 2 years. yesterday i went there cos i wanna join the club again and there's this boy tht used to be there 2 years ago and we remember each other from then. (we aren't really friends ...
A. 30 August 2006: Yes b3x HOT is the word I wanted, couldnt retrieve it from my brain!!!!!
But let me just add this babes, he may think you are fit but make sure that he is not just interested in your body. Sometimes men and of course women are just about the phys... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask my girlfriend to shave...
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for not that long and just started to have sex, but she doesn't shave. It doesnt bother me that much but I would prefer it if she did shave. How can I approach this problem?...
A. 30 August 2006: I have just read what Dr Pete said about facial hair, that had me in stitches!!!!
To the question poster: surely you are not talking about facial hair, are you? xxx... (read in full...)
I'd like to ask my girlfriend to shave...
Q. I've been with my girlfriend for not that long and just started to have sex, but she doesn't shave. It doesnt bother me that much but I would prefer it if she did shave. How can I approach this problem?...
A. 30 August 2006: Well I assume that you are talking about hair in the region somewhere south of the border? Correct? Well, shaving leaves bumps, waxing is best, no bumps, just nice clean smooth skin!!!! Just be a bit tactful if you are going to tell her, you can ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 30 August 2006: I think you are right Ponungalungb, maybe its just an ignorant phase that started in England! I dont know!!! I actually think "ginger" haired people are very attractive men and women, I had a beautiful friend with thick, curly, gorgeous "ginger" ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with my sister before we dated...
Q. My boyfriend slept with my sister before we dated. I have some trouble forgiving him still. I'm not sure if I can move on from this and forgive him. Am I making this a bigger deal than it is? I haven't been with them in the same room together ...
A. 30 August 2006: Sorry I meant to say "your" sister not "his" sister. Accept my apologies for that typo! xx... (read in full...)
He told his mate that "I was fit"...does that mean he likes me?
Q. hi, im 15 and used to go to this badminton club and havent been in 2 years. yesterday i went there cos i wanna join the club again and there's this boy tht used to be there 2 years ago and we remember each other from then. (we aren't really friends ...
A. 30 August 2006: Well it certainly means that he finds you physically attractive, because the term "fit" means that you are eye candy, beautiful to look at. xXx... (read in full...)
Im obsessed with this guy... please help...
Q. I am thirty and met this Guy last year in January. He started showing interest later in June then he slowed down. He left to antoher city this year like 600km away from where I stay. Funny I can't stop thinking about him. I want to move on and I ...
A. 30 August 2006: Sweetie, what can I say, I know how you feel but you cant keep torturing yourself. Sometimes some things maybe are not meant to be, I mean take me for example, for ages I couldnt accept that this man I was besotted with is married, I was like NO NO ... (read in full...)
Can multiple partners harm you ??
Q. i am a single 23 year old woman and i have been into swinging for some time now but i have only ever done it with one person at a time. coming up soon is a multiple partner party were there are anything from 3 times the amout of men then women t...
A. 30 August 2006: Being on the pill wont protect from an STD will it? There are too many diseases knocking about these days, and you really need to be careful. Please be careful if you do go. Take care. xxx... (read in full...)
Does breast size have anything to do with height!?
Q. I'm not a sleazy perv but I'm asking this question out of curiosity. Since some girls breats are bigger or smaller than others, is this more to do with height of the girl. It's just that most tall girls I see have normal size breasts or are smaller ...
A. 30 August 2006: I dont think you are a perv!!! Well it really depends, myfriend is catwalk model height but she is quite large chested, whereas some taller girls may be flatter chested. Taller girls may also be skinnier, therefore they have a smaller bust. I am ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 30 August 2006: Thats true Dr P because technically the colour is not ginger its more reddish than anything, so it is derogatory. xx... (read in full...)
If my bf is visiting the GUM clinics with his friends...does that mean he's cheating? What do you think?
Q. My boyfriend's friends all aged 20 never had steady girlfriends and so visited the Gum clinic maybe every 6 months. To my surprise my boyfriend also went along. I thought once was ok but any time his mates went he also got checked out too. He ...
A. 30 August 2006: I agree with Wendyg, how much do your trust your boyfriend? Apart from visiting the GUM clinic has he given you any other reason to be suspicious of him? If the answer is no they maybe you are reading into it too much, a relationship is built on ... (read in full...)
Whats wrong with ginger?!!
Q. Hi, I dont understand, my boy mate has ginger hair and he finds it really dificult to get girlfriends. but I dont understand it, I have been out with ginger boys, I love ginger hair :D so why wont other girls go out with ginger haired boys???...
A. 30 August 2006: Well, everyone has their own preferences! Each to their own as they say! I am not particularly fussed about hair colour,I try to see beauty in everything. My personal preference is men with dark hair, but that doesnt mean that I dont like other hair ... (read in full...)
She offered herself up for sex and I turned her down! Should I have done that?
Q. hi,theres a girl at school and well we were gettin on real good,and on her birthday the other night,we were both drunk and she got some condoms out of her pocket and offered me sex.i said i gotta go and went home.should i have turned her down?...
A. 30 August 2006: Well there must have been a reason why you rejected her, if you were drunk at and thats the time when most people have spur of the moment sex, then you must not really, deep down like her that much? You are asking whether you should have turned her ... (read in full...)
I'm 20 and obsessed with my weight!
Q. hi, im 20 yrs old, i am obsessed with my weight, i go to the gym maybe 3 or 4 times a week, constantly checking my weight, if i even gain 1 kilo gram in 1 week i become very depressed, im constantly checking my body for fat, i feel guilty everytime ...
A. 30 August 2006: Your weight sounds normal to me, but missing breakfast is not a wise idea. Breakfast kickstarts your metabolism and by missing breakfast you are slowing your metabolic rate down therfore increasing the likelihood of putting on weight. Mydear, what ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend slept with my sister before we dated...
Q. My boyfriend slept with my sister before we dated. I have some trouble forgiving him still. I'm not sure if I can move on from this and forgive him. Am I making this a bigger deal than it is? I haven't been with them in the same room together ...
A. 30 August 2006: I am a bit puzzled as to why this man needs forgiveness, he hasnt cheated on you. Unless he is Psychic and forsaw that he would date you after his sister he really hasnt done anything wrong. I can understand that you may feel a bit funny that your ... (read in full...)
I'm only 12 and my Dad's friend always grabs at me! Who will believe me and what should I do?
Q. hi.i'm 12 years old virgin. my dad's closest friend grabs me at any chance he gets. i've told him not to do that and i'll tell for him if he tries it again but he says no one will believe me not even my dad his good friend for years. He said he will ...
A. 30 August 2006: Martini is right, contact a child services organisation and tell them what you have told us here. You are not a trouble maker and dont allow this man to make it seem that way. Tell them everything and dont allow him to get away with this ... (read in full...)
What does it mean???
Q. I think I know the answer to this already but what does it mean when someone tells you that they are not in love with you but they love you very much??? At the same time they kiss you and hold your hand and do all the relationship stuff. Should ...
A. 30 August 2006: I will give you an example, I love my male best friend very much, but I am not in love with him, quite simply I dont have romantic feelings for him in any way shape or form, but I do have love for him, being in love constitutes romantic and sexual ... (read in full...)
I have a low pain tolerance so I'm worried about sex!
Q. I haven't been going out with my boyfriend very long but we were friends for almost a year before we started dating. I'm 19 and he's 27, he's had one partner before me. I know he's ready for sex and I think I am too. I want to have sex with him but ...
A. 30 August 2006: Sex is less painful if you are not tensed up and agitated. If you are relaxed and comfortable then the pain can be kept to a minimum. xXx... (read in full...)
Help! My periods are very heavy!! What can I do to help it ?
Q. I Have a major Period problem. atleast thats what i think. I'm a teen and i started my period 2 and a half years ago, and i suffer so badly when they come they last for 5 days and i spend atleast 10 minutes in the toilet each time. When im ...
A. 30 August 2006: Hi, well I had the same problem, I started my periods when I was about 15 and they were fine, very light, lasted perhaps 3 days and they came every 43 days, and were regular like clockwork and also were pain free. Soon after they were as painful as ... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 30 August 2006: Well I am sorry that he is going too, but you never know, when he returns, just wait and see. Take care. xxx... (read in full...)
I was raped and I cant talk about it
Q. i am very self concious since i was raped even more than i was before and that was alot i find it very hard to sleep because wen i manage to sleep i only get bout 2 hours if that sumtimes i get less than 30 mins i dont eat because i cant it makes me ...
A. 29 August 2006: My dear girl,I cannot say I know what you are going through exactly but I have been through abuse in other ways and by not talking about it makes the situation worse, the way I am today is because I never and still wont fully open up to people about ... (read in full...)
How do i know if my husband is unfaithful?
Q. how do i know if my husband is unfaithful? He is suddenly not interested in sex. He critisizes me constantly He ogles other women. He wants to have a penis enlargement. He is suddenly working late often. He spends money (up to R1000) ev...
A. 29 August 2006: Yes, Lostandalone has given some great advice, just what I would say, break his usual routine and then you will soon find out what he may or may not be up to.
You need to tell him to stsrt showing you some respect as well, the cheeky mare! He... (read in full...)
Any Ideas to reduce in growing hairs ?
Q. Hi, Does anyone have any easy treatments for ingrowing hairs ? My man shaves every other day to try and eradicate so many, but just lately hes getting quite a few and no matter what he tries he still gets ingrowing hairs around the neck ...
A. 29 August 2006: I am a researchaholic and I found this:
mensfashion.about.com/od/groomingface/a/ingrownhairs.htm
This has some useful tips about ingrown hairs!!
xXx... (read in full...)
I really like my friends sister but would it be wrong to ask her out ?
Q. Ive known one of my mates for about 8 years now and ive really liked his sister for quite a while. Im 20 and shes 16. I get on well with her and she always seems flirty every time i see her. My mate knows i think shes fit but should i do anything ...
A. 29 August 2006: If you are a decent, caring, and loving guy why should it be a problem? If you are going to treat this young lady with respect then show your friend that you like her a lot and will do good by her. Good luck. xXx... (read in full...)
What's the best position for sex???
Q. Im just curious to find out which is the best sexual position....... xxx...
A. 29 August 2006: Got to agree with Yos, there are around 3.6 billion people in the world, some like this, some like that, every one is different!!! xXx... (read in full...)
Why are so many people getting divorced ?
Q. I noticed in a survey that 2 in 3 marriages end in divorce in UK (so will probably be higher in america). Why are so many people in UK getting divorced? Or is it more frequent in certain areas or social classes...
A. 29 August 2006: I think a lot of it is to do with the fact that people are getting married just for the sake of it, not because they truly love one another, or indeed believe they are "soul mates" but simply because marriage is deemed as the right and honourable ... (read in full...)
I'm 14. How do I tell him I don't want to go further?
Q. ok well ive been gd m8s with this boy 4 about a year now and 2 days ago we started seeing each other. I really like him but hes 16 and im 14 and I know he will want to go further with me and I dont know how to tell him how much i like him but not ...
A. 29 August 2006: My dear if your boyfriend truly loves and cares for you he will not be offended if you tell him that in this moment in time you are not ready to take things further. So please just tell him straight. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
What do I wear to my homecoming do? "Red Carpet" is the theme. Any ideas?
Q. Homecoming is almost here!! What do i wear?? The theme is the red carpet......
A. 29 August 2006: Yeah, helpful girl is right, you gotta smell the part too!! Joop for men is beautiful, it reminds me of someone, who I would rather forget, but he smelt gorgeous though!!! Good luck. xXx... (read in full...)
I cant tell him is that I love him more than a friend
Q. i think im in love withmy best boy mate, weare so close and talk on the phone nearly every night, i have no idea how he feels about me because theres no tale talesigns. He knows me inside out and i always tell him whats on my mind, but the one thing ...
A. 29 August 2006: I think you should just tell him, why not say something along the lines of:
"Listen,I know the 2 of us are really close, we know each other inside out, and we are best mates, well how would you feel if I said that I liked you a bit more than a f... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 29 August 2006: Babes, if he is that great a friend then even if, (which I hope he doesnt) he doesnt feel the same, I am sure that you can still remain good friends, I dont see why a friendship has to be ruined. What if someone else gets there first, you will be ... (read in full...)
What do I wear to my homecoming do? "Red Carpet" is the theme. Any ideas?
Q. Homecoming is almost here!! What do i wear?? The theme is the red carpet......
A. 28 August 2006: Friend, there is nothing sexier than a man in a silk, Georgio Armani black suit, mild pinstripe!!!!! WOW!! And get a cute little red bow tie to accesorize and you will look a trillion dollars!!!! Good luck. xXx... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 28 August 2006: Dear anonymous poster, dont forget to tell us how things go with "Pete" ok? I am dying to know!!!
Hope it works out babe. xXx... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 23 August 2006: Snowbird you are right, and I think I was the one who started it, if you trace it down, I think its all my fault. Oops!!!!! x... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 23 August 2006: Dear anonymous poster: will you keep us all updated please with the latest developments between you and Pete? I hope you do and most of all I hope you are happy. xXx... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 23 August 2006: David my dear friend, if you take things slowly you may miss out on the course true love!!!! Its far better to just go ahead and take the plunge. xxxx... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 23 August 2006: Sorry to the girl who posted the question, dont mean to hijack it!!
Yes David, men with the name Pete have something unique about them, I have discovered that of late anyway!!!! xxx... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 23 August 2006: Dr Pete you naughty man!!!!!! (lol) 26 is just the right age for me!!!! hint hint!!!1 (lol)... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 22 August 2006: Sorry I just realised, I wasnt trying to put you off when I said the other Pete is too old for me, I meant that he is 20 years older than me. I am 23 so you can see his age!!!! but not with you cos 7 years is absolutely nothing, sorry babes. xXx... (read in full...)
Pete is AMAZING! Shall I go for it?
Q. Hi, uh, I'm new to this so bear with me. I'm 18, and I've got a friend named "Pete". Pete is seven years older than me (25). I've known him since I was 15 and he was 22. And nothing happened, trust me. We just became really close friends over the...
A. 22 August 2006: Well Pete sounds like an angel sent from the realms of heaven!!! What is it with people named Pete? I mean I have a thing for 2 men named Pete, but one is married so thats no use and the other is a bit too old for me, DAMN!!! Anyway babes, you sound ... (read in full...)
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