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I'm 16 and I think I'm pregnant. Can my 18 yr old bf get into trouble for getting me pregnant?

Q.   ok i have a boyfriend that is 18 years of age. well i have a feeling i maybe might be pregnant and im 16 (gonna turn 17 soon tho) we are a year and 3 months apart. so can he get in trouble for being 18 aand im pregnant? jus wonderin thanks...

A.   1 September 2006: Not if you are in the UK because the age of consent is 16. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)

My moral standard is incompatible with that of my boyfriend

Q.   I am a very pure and innocent person and am celibate (restrain from sexual relations). Having just promised to celibacy recently my very close boyfriend of a year and a half and I have been disagreeing on things. The vulgar media today really ...

A.   23 August 2006: Typo! Yet again, that should say "uneQually" not the neologismn I spelt! Sorry. ... (read in full...)

My bf is in jail and I cheated. Should I tell him?

Q.   dear cupid im 17 and my boyfriend is in jail and i just met this guy and i really like him and i cheated on my boyfriend i`ve been tryna break uwith my boyfriend should i tell him that i cheated....

A.   21 August 2006: Sweetie, maybe your relationship with your boyfriend has runits course, if you no longer want to be with him as he is in jail anyway and you cant physically be with him, then end it. Its entirely up to you if you want to confess to cheating on him. ... (read in full...)

Husband admitted having feelings for someone else!

Q.   my husband of 10 years has just told me he has feelings for another woman who he works with but there is nothing in it and just feels comfortable being with her. It has left me devastated and hurt. Please someone give me some advice...

A.   21 August 2006: Yeah I agree with Dr P on this one. My dear you have every right to be devastated, I think you need to sit down with your hubbie and tell him to put all the cards on the table and explain what is going on in his head. Please keep us posted. Take ... (read in full...)

I'm crazy about him but does he feel the same way about me or not?

Q.   dear cupid,i'm seventeen years old and very confused.there is this boy that i'm crazy about and at times i feel as if he feels the same way about me but then there are times when he keeps his distance.what does that mean?sincerely,angelbaby17...

A.   21 August 2006: It could mean a lot of things, I had this guy who was really nice to me most days then made me feel like s*** other days, all cos he liked me and was annoyed that I was a Christian, he was an Atheist. Why am I telling you that, what I mean is, some ... (read in full...)

Can I be pregnant even though I have 'not' missed a period?

Q.   Hey... I was just wondering if it is possible for me to be pregnant even although I haven't missed ah period? Thanks x...

A.   21 August 2006: Quite simply, yes it is possible. xXx... (read in full...)

I no longer like kissing my girlfriend!

Q.   Why do i find kissing really tedious? I find kissing once or twice and pecking etc is fine, but i have started too dislike long snogging!! I'm really confused. Too begin with it was really great! But now after 9 months I only like kissing ...

A.   21 August 2006: Well I think you need to gently tell your girlfriend how you are feeling otherwise you will just explode with disgust one day and she will really be hurt. I cant possibly say why she is like this, only she knows that, talk to her, but be gentle. xXx... (read in full...)

Was the teacher hinting at something inappropriate?

Q.   A teacher at my school recently said 'fancy a job, (name)?' and then winked at me while smiling at me. One of my mates says thats really inappropriate... is it? I'm so confused :S... thanx xxxxxx...

A.   21 August 2006: Well I am incined to try and see the good in most things and it could really be very innocent, I mean he only winked, he never touched you did he? Winking has been taken to mean something suggestive but really a wink is just a way of showing some ... (read in full...)

I've slept with my married cousin, and I can't stop thinking of him!

Q.   Dear Cupid, Last year I got extremely drunk and my cousin and I got very close. 3 weeks ago we went on a family holiday together and we ended up sleeping together 3 times. I'm feelin so confused. He's all I think about and whenever I see h...

A.   21 August 2006: Yep you said it, walk away, the cousin bit is an issue but the fact that he is married means that this ought to have been a no go area so please dont entertain the idea of having more sexual relations with him, end it now, for your own good. Take ... (read in full...)

Too young to love

Q.   I know 8 months is nothing but my boyfriend is 8 months younger. He is amazing! So, IF you are older than your boyfriend than tell me your story and tell me about it to make me feel better. I'm just used to being with older guys so please help! ...

A.   21 August 2006: Well thats great my dear, as you said 8m months is nothing, my sister is 25 and her fella is 21!!!!! They are blissfully happy!!! So stop worrying, I like older men or younger men, I am 23 and would marry someone 2 years younger than me, but 8 ... (read in full...)

She is 20 year older, I am attracted but I don't want a relationship

Q.   I have for some time been attracted to my nextdoor neighbour, she is 20 years older than me but is divorced how can i approach her without offending her i am not looking for a relationship i just want to tell her that i have been attracted to her ...

A.   21 August 2006: Ok, I am a bit confused, if you dont want to date her but you just want to let her know that you "fancy" her why dont you just come out and tell her as you have nothingtolose seeing that you dont want to be an item? I am sure that she may be very ... (read in full...)

Is cheating ok so long as he doesn't find out?

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 yrs, he is 27, I am 22. Three months ago I slept with some one else, so I split up with him, but didnt tell him why and he still doesnt know. We got back together three weeks ago, in the meantime, I ...

A.   21 August 2006: And may I just add, if you are asking whether its ok to cheat providing they dont know, that would be true of every criminal offence and every evil on the world in that case, its ok t drive at 60 pmh down a 30mph road, and injure someone but as long ... (read in full...)

My BF got deported now he won't answer my calls!

Q.   im 18 and my boyfriend is 23. He got deported back to South Africa. He left in March. We were both in love and he is my first love and I'm his but now he doesnt answer my calls or texts. He said he will never leave me - I dont know what to do!...

A.   21 August 2006: My dear there could be a genuine explanation for this, what if he had his phone stolen or he lost it in transit? Obviously I dont know, but I want you to at least see that there may be a genuine reason why he has not got in contact with you and why ... (read in full...)

We've agreed to wait six more years until we date. Can our love last that long?

Q.   I'm 12 years old and in love with an 17 year old. We love each other very much and we are very open with each other. We both have said that we will not go out with each other until I am 18, which is in a very long time! Can we still love each oth...

A.   21 August 2006: My dear try to be realistic, I know they say true love waits but just enjoy being a young girl first and dont be ladened down with the issue of being in love in 6 years time, if it is meant to be then maybe after that long period you could reunite ... (read in full...)

I love her as a friend but she wants more... How do I make myself clear without breaking her heart?

Q.   Right this is my situation, I'm very good friends with a girl basically she's my best friend, emotionally we are very great, but physically I am not attracted to her at all, plus I'm not looking for a relationship. She came out of a long term rela...

A.   21 August 2006: Sometimes you have to be "cruel" to be kind, what I mean is, dont come out and say something along the lines of "I dont find you attractive at all" but you need to simply tell her that you are happy being single and you are privelaged to have her as ... (read in full...)

Do other people interlock fingers during sex?

Q.   I recently slept with a male friend of mine (we aren't going to be dating, just messing around) but I've never had sex before this and was wondering if it's normal for a guy to hold your hands during sex. He was on top, and kept interlocking his ...

A.   21 August 2006: Having sex is about being intimate with someone and intimacy involves other means other than intercourse so what you have described is just part of being intimate, sounds normal to me.... (read in full...)

Is cheating ok so long as he doesn't find out?

Q.   I have been going out with my boyfriend for 4 yrs, he is 27, I am 22. Three months ago I slept with some one else, so I split up with him, but didnt tell him why and he still doesnt know. We got back together three weeks ago, in the meantime, I ...

A.   21 August 2006: Is it ok to have sex with other men and then be with your boyfriend so long as he doesnt find out, thats what you are asking isnt it. So is it ok to steal from your parents so long as they dont find out, is it ok to rob the old lady down the street ... (read in full...)

Is being with my third cousin incest?

Q.   Me and a girl are real close and now I find out that shes my 3rd cousin. Does 3rd cousins matter or is that still gross???...

A.   21 August 2006: Let me give you an example, my mum has a half sister and she has 7 kids and about 15 grandkids, my auntie's children are my cousins and my cousins children are my second cousins and the children of the second cousins are third cousins. Hope that ... (read in full...)

Is being with my third cousin incest?

Q.   Me and a girl are real close and now I find out that shes my 3rd cousin. Does 3rd cousins matter or is that still gross???...

A.   20 August 2006: Well it depends on your own views of morality and religious beliefs etc. My opinion is my opinion and that doesnt mean that I am right and you are wrong or vice versa. I personally would not have a relationship with any cousin being first, second or ... (read in full...)

How can I make him ONLY want me?

Q.   How can I make my husband to be madly in love with me and not to look to any girls anymore?...

A.   20 August 2006: Got to totally agree with David Lewis, he is spot on. I mean you really cant make someone love you and stop looking at other women etc, if you know where you stand with him and yo know the depth of your relationship you should have nothing to worry ... (read in full...)

Am I right in thinking that a threesome would ruin us?

Q.   is a 3 sum out of the question??? my boyfriend has recently admitted he wants to see me with another girl, at 1st i was unsure but sed i would consider it. now he says he wants a 3 sum where he can join in. this has made me insecure as i fe...

A.   20 August 2006: I am glad you told him straight, good luck with everything and I hope it works out well. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)

I kissed another woman and I have no guilt feelings. Does this mean I don't love my gf?

Q.   i have been with my girlfriend for two years and we have a son together. it was going great until about 1 1/2 years into it when we started bickering alot and arguing constantly. we broke up recently but decided it was too hard to be apart. but i ...

A.   20 August 2006: typo. "Cannot" it should say on line one not cannos!!! Ever so sorry. ... (read in full...)

I'm 16 and I think I'm pregnant. Can my 18 yr old bf get into trouble for getting me pregnant?

Q.   ok i have a boyfriend that is 18 years of age. well i have a feeling i maybe might be pregnant and im 16 (gonna turn 17 soon tho) we are a year and 3 months apart. so can he get in trouble for being 18 aand im pregnant? jus wonderin thanks...

A.   20 August 2006: No he wont be in any trouble as you are 16 and you were 16 when you conceived as well, so you certainly have no worries and in the UK thats the legal age and I am quite sure that the legal age is no higher than 16 in any other country. Take care ... (read in full...)

I kissed another woman and I have no guilt feelings. Does this mean I don't love my gf?

Q.   i have been with my girlfriend for two years and we have a son together. it was going great until about 1 1/2 years into it when we started bickering alot and arguing constantly. we broke up recently but decided it was too hard to be apart. but i ...

A.   20 August 2006: My friend, I cannos possibly tell you if you love your girlfriend but you need to ask yourself why you kissed another lady. Its obvious that you like this other girl and maybe your relationship has run its course with your girlfriend, but you need ... (read in full...)

I'm 17 - she's 15. Illegal?

Q.   Hi, I was wondering what is classed as ilegal in the UK with an under 16 year old??? I'm 17 and she is 15! we are really love each other and want to get more physical but don't want to break the law! Please can you tell us what is ok? THANKS....

A.   20 August 2006: Can I just say that Dr Pete is right, and I am not just saying that cos he is one of my mutual friends but he is right, yes the age of CONSENT is 16 but a 17 year old will not be charged for rape by having intercourse with a 15 year old, so please ... (read in full...)

I'm in love with my sister in law...

Q.   I love my siste in law what can I do? I was married 7 years ago and I am 30 now I have a son and love my wife. But I have 3 sisters in law but I feel love to one of them she is 22 now. I find this love when I feel her watching me and every t...

A.   19 August 2006: Before I even read Babygirl's response the same three words came into mind as she wrote but let me put it another way just as efective. ABSOLUTELY HELL NO. Why would you even ask if its ok to start a relationship with the sister of your wife? Do y... (read in full...)

Just a friend or does she want more??? Women respond please....

Q.   Can someone please clear this up for me!!! I just came out of a relationship were I still to this day have feelings for my ex. I'm coping and trying to move on with my life. Anyway, I met someone who works in the same building with me and she is ...

A.   19 August 2006: Well she seems to care very much for you, thats clearly obvious, but the question is, do you want to reciprocate those feelings? Go for a trial date, i.e. just go out as mates having a laugh and see how things work out from there, but as I say it ... (read in full...)

My moral standard is incompatible with that of my boyfriend

Q.   I am a very pure and innocent person and am celibate (restrain from sexual relations). Having just promised to celibacy recently my very close boyfriend of a year and a half and I have been disagreeing on things. The vulgar media today really ...

A.   19 August 2006: My dear its a simple case of being "unewually yoked". You and your boyfriend are very different and its not up to you to change him. For example, I am a Christian but I do not force what I belive on others. I may respect another person for having ... (read in full...)

How can I keep Thrush at bay!!?

Q.   Hi, This is a bit of an embarrasing problem, but I need help on how to get Thrush banished from my life! I get frequent bouts of it... My sexual health is okay ive been checked out.. I just seem to get rid of thrush and then a week later get...

A.   17 August 2006: Contrary to popular belief thrush occurs when us women can become over zealous with trying to keep down there clean and fresh and its not about being unhygenic as some silly people have said to me. When you shower or bathe, dont use soap or feminal ... (read in full...)

Im only 19 and really want a baby, is this a wise thing to do ?

Q.   i have wanted a baby now for about 3 years and whilst going out with my boyfriend we had been trying for one however i just couldnt get pregnant. I was so into the idea for having a baby because now i feel that i am ready, even though im only 19. I ...

A.   17 August 2006: My dear, perhaps the reason you have been unable to get pregnant at this time is because you are not ready to be a mum yet, yes I know you really want a child and you seem like such a caring, sweet, intelligent, level headed person from what you ... (read in full...)

Do guys want to marry sexy women?

Q.   Hi there, This may seem a silly question but for some reason it has me worried! I am 25 year old blond female. Most guys I meet who get to know me always say I am very sexy. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Do guys w...

A.   17 August 2006: I love this thread!!! Thats so true Malyce_Synn, my guy friends have often said well Victoria Beckham for example is not conventionally pretty but she is sexy because of the way she carries herself. However, I think she is very beautiful looking,... (read in full...)

Caught him with his pants down, was it more to it?

Q.   hi, my bf and i have been together 3 years, about 10months ago i saw my bf doing something which i have always qestioned in my mind. im 20 his 25. one day i was coming home afer school early , i opened our front door and walked in and saw my bf st...

A.   17 August 2006: My dear girl, even if he was showing this girl a "scar" then I am sure that the showing of the scar would have led to somethig else given the chance. It sounds to shady to me. Give him an ultimatum and he he wont then perhaps you should show him ... (read in full...)

Now normal is it for dad to perve at his daughters?

Q.   hi, i'm 15. almost fully grown. is it normal for your own dad to look at their daughters bums or legs or boobs? cos i go and get a drink and i turn round to where my dad is, on the sofa and hes looking at my bum. i saw my mates dad look at her bum ...

A.   17 August 2006: I do agree with Irish49, it sounds a tad weird this behaviour, I mean my dad is such a NON perve its unreal, he never once looked at me in the way you have suggested your father does and he would never dream of it. My mum told me about a similar ... (read in full...)

He used to be my Teacher, but we are now really close, should I tell him I have feelings for him ?

Q.   I need some advice. Im 17.. I had this teacher who was no doubt the most amazing guy ive ever met..I fell in love with him and still am. He always used to treat me so differently to everyone else. Me and him could talk for hours. He left the school ...

A.   17 August 2006: I disagree with the idea that it may just be a fling, how can we make that assumption. Well, its good that he is no longer your teacher, as that would create serious problems, but I do think perhaps you may have read into the situation a bit to m... (read in full...)

Do guys want to marry sexy women?

Q.   Hi there, This may seem a silly question but for some reason it has me worried! I am 25 year old blond female. Most guys I meet who get to know me always say I am very sexy. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Do guys w...

A.   17 August 2006: To Dr Pete: Cool! I hear your point, it is very true as well. To The question poster: I think as I said earlier your questionis obvious, a man would want to marry an attractive woman because in his eyes she is beautiful. xXx... (read in full...)

Is he having thoughts about dumping me ?

Q.   Hiya, I have been with my boyfriend for 3 months now. It's my 1st relationship in some time and I really like him, however, maybe im a bit paranoid but recently he has been acting differently. He will only say I love you if I say I love you to him ...

A.   17 August 2006: I have to agree with snowbird, I am not entirley convinced that he is cheating nor would I be so quick to suggest that he is seeing as I dont know all the facts. Its sounds like such an obvious answer, but sit down together and tell each other how ... (read in full...)

Do guys want to marry sexy women?

Q.   Hi there, This may seem a silly question but for some reason it has me worried! I am 25 year old blond female. Most guys I meet who get to know me always say I am very sexy. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Do guys w...

A.   17 August 2006: I do like what Snowbird has written, very interesting!!! Dr Pete whats wrong with blondes??!!!!!!!!!! I dont know about men prefering blondes these days I think thats outdated now I mean, that would rule out most Spanish, French, Carribea... (read in full...)

Do guys want to marry sexy women?

Q.   Hi there, This may seem a silly question but for some reason it has me worried! I am 25 year old blond female. Most guys I meet who get to know me always say I am very sexy. I don't know if this is a good thing or a bad thing. Do guys w...

A.   17 August 2006: The question is not silly, but its obvious. Beauty is in the eys of the beholder so to one man, "Kate" is gorgeous to another she isn, but if "John" thinks "Kate" is attractive and he loves her he will marry her I suppose. If men think you are sexy ... (read in full...)

Never been kissed

Q.   dear cupid,im 15 and i am a virgin and i was windering if people think its still late to a be a virgin, also i have never done anything to snog a boy is this unusal for girls my age?. can any one let me know what they think plz thnx xxx...

A.   16 August 2006: Still late......., my dear girl you are only so young, of course 15 is not too late to be chaste. I know a virgin who is 26, and she is waiting till marriage and I am proud of her. Dont be in a hurry to lose your virginity ok sweetie. I never kissed ... (read in full...)

If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?

Q.   Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...

A.   16 August 2006: Thanks Wild Thaing, I will bear that in mind!!! Cheers! All the advice given has been great, thanks. xXx... (read in full...)

Why do men want threesomes?

Q.   first question: why do men want threesomes? second question: why would they want a threesome while they r already in a relationship with someone they love?...

A.   16 August 2006: Goodness, I cant spell today. That should say QUESTION. Sorry. xXx... (read in full...)

Why do men want threesomes?

Q.   first question: why do men want threesomes? second question: why would they want a threesome while they r already in a relationship with someone they love?...

A.   16 August 2006: In answer to qustin one, that is a generalisation and not at all true for all men as Dr Pete rightly said. In answer to question 2, well some people are weird, thats all, ands they obviously dont truly love their partner or they have no conc... (read in full...)

Over the last 10 years together I have constantly cheated!

Q.   I have been with my partner for 10 years and we have 2 kids. The problem is I can't seem to stay faithful. Over the last 10 years I have cheated on him on numerous occaisions. I dont know why I do it, cause I actually really love him. He left one ...

A.   16 August 2006: My dear,there is obviously a deep settled issue in you that needs to be addressed as it is not healthy to carry on like this anymore. You need to ask yourself "why" are you doing this. What good is it achieving? All youare doing is hurtingyour ... (read in full...)

Am I right in thinking that a threesome would ruin us?

Q.   is a 3 sum out of the question??? my boyfriend has recently admitted he wants to see me with another girl, at 1st i was unsure but sed i would consider it. now he says he wants a 3 sum where he can join in. this has made me insecure as i fe...

A.   16 August 2006: I strongly believe that a threesome is a terrible idea and not healthy for any decent relationship. Please dont entertain this idea my friends. xXx... (read in full...)

If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?

Q.   Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...

A.   16 August 2006: To Wild Thaing, I would probably just tell myself, why dont you just ask him for goodness sake, and stop being so silly, or just get over him, he is obviously taken!!!!! but in reality I dont think I would do that. Anyway again, thanks for your ... (read in full...)

If you're married would you always wear your wedding ring?

Q.   Hey guys, its me bonym!!!! Just a quick question about something that has been bugging me for ages!!! Ok, its really for married men, but I dont really mind who replies!!! Ok, so here is the deal, if you are married, would you always wear your...

A.   16 August 2006: Thanks guys for all your replies. I think if I just asked him that would make bEtter sense!!!!! Maybe, we will see! Thanks again. xXx... (read in full...)

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