My fiancee wants to experiment with another girl!
Q. My fiancee wants to experiment with another girl, I see this as cheating, but also am quite turned on by the thought. She also wants a 3some with me and another girl, I just feel that seeing her being intimate with somebody else, end vice versa, c...
A. 29 August 2006: Well you are a brave man, I wouldnt allow my partner to do that, but each to their own as they say. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
He suddenly asked if I would be ready for a baby ? He doesnt know im still a virgin!!!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my b/f for 5 months.He told me he loved me 4 months into the relationship. We have not been 'intimate' yet, shall we say and I realy want to but the thing is he does'nt know I am a virgin.(He isn't) Anyway.... Yesterday i...
A. 29 August 2006: Babes, go to the docs just to make sure that you are ok, if the pain is localised on your right hand side for example you may have a kidney infection or a U.T.I (Urinary Tract Infection)
My sister had one, its nothing serious as long as you get ... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex with my married cousin!
Q. dear cupid. I'm in desperate need of guidance. Since having unprotected sex with my cousin I'm worried I might be pregnant. He has a wife and four children that he lives with and another child that he has refused to see for 14 years. What do i do???...
A. 28 August 2006: Thank goodness for that!!!! Sweetie, dont let it happen again, because he is married with his own family and despite how you feel, you cant be together. Take care xXx... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex with my married cousin!
Q. dear cupid. I'm in desperate need of guidance. Since having unprotected sex with my cousin I'm worried I might be pregnant. He has a wife and four children that he lives with and another child that he has refused to see for 14 years. What do i do???...
A. 28 August 2006: Wait, are you pregnant? Is that a typo, should it say thankfully I'm NOT pregnant or that you are? Please tell us, thanks. xXx... (read in full...)
He suddenly asked if I would be ready for a baby ? He doesnt know im still a virgin!!!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my b/f for 5 months.He told me he loved me 4 months into the relationship. We have not been 'intimate' yet, shall we say and I realy want to but the thing is he does'nt know I am a virgin.(He isn't) Anyway.... Yesterday i...
A. 28 August 2006: Oh I see, I did misunderstand you, that was his line to initiate sex? Smooth talker isnt he!!!!! Well my dear I am glad he was loving and kind, the bleeding is common if it was your first time, but how long have you been having abdominal pains? If ... (read in full...)
Losing the will to live!
Q. I feel that life passes me by. Sometimes I don't even feel part of the human race. I've lost my ability to enjoy life, to have fun, to be happy. I moved to a foreign country a year ago, to work in cancer research. It's a nice job and a great op...
A. 28 August 2006: Listen dear, please do not entertain the thought of wanting to end it all, my dear, I haven been there myself. Some days I woke up and would actually be annoyed that God had granted me yet another day when all I could see was that death was the ... (read in full...)
Her parents have banned our relationship
Q. My girlfriends parents wont let her see me anymore. Her mum and dad let me stay over with no hassle and even let me stay in the same bed as her, when i did we fooled around a bit but i made sure we didnt have sex as it would be too loud. However her ...
A. 28 August 2006: I agree totally with Dr Psych, and you must look at it from the parents perspective, the thought of anything going on in the bedroom under their roof is disrespectful to them. You should try your best to apologise to the parents, and give them some ... (read in full...)
I have cheated
Q. i have bein going out with my boyfreind for a year and a half he his my soul mate, i have recently cheated on him with someone reaaly special and means alot to me, i dont know how i feel abot him cause a ge reallt jealous of him being with other ...
A. 28 August 2006: Sorry I dont understand, you say you cheated on your guy with someone special, but who is it you dont know how you feel about, is it yor boyfriend or the guy you cheated with? Explain that to me first then I can suggest what perhaps you could do. ... (read in full...)
Is it important to find someone to date who is in your social class with similar values? Opinions needed.
Q. Just wondering what peoples views are on this question. Is it important or perhaps socially more acceptable to find someone to date who is in your social class / league with similar values and been brought up same way, that your family wil get on ...
A. 28 August 2006: When choosing a partner there are lots of factors to consider however ultimately its your choice on who you date. For example, I may not date a man who is not a Christian because our beliefs will clash, I dont want to impose my beliefs on him, and ... (read in full...)
He wants sex all the time but I don't. Could the pill be affecting my sex drive?
Q. my boyfriend and i have been together now for a year, but it seems like all he wants is sex. i have been taking different birth control methods to eliminate cramping pain until recently my doctor put me on a pill where i dont have a period for 3 ...
A. 28 August 2006: It is a possibiity that the pill you are taking has affected your sex drive. How is your relationship at the moment, are you happy? If you are not happy then talk to your partner and explain how you feel. I am sure if you talk with him he will ... (read in full...)
My partner is controlling and calls me down. What should I do?
Q. hi my partner is bossy he likes to be in control of everything and he thinks he knows everything he keeps phots of his exs and if we fall out he will call me down and say they were better i feel trapped we have a daughter hat will i do...
A. 27 August 2006: My dear why should you have to put up with this, you deserve better ad so does your child. Have you got the will and confidence to get up and leave him? Once you are gone, he will then see the error of his ways but it will be too late, dont be a ... (read in full...)
I'm having sex with my third cousin. Is this wrong?
Q. Recently i have been having sex with my third cousin, it's been going on for the past month now, i really really enjoy it, and i feel like i love him, i cant get him out of my head. But when im not with him i think about the what ifs and get really ...
A. 27 August 2006: Well I dont like to use terms such as "sick" and "gross" etc when it comes to describing the actions of others but I always say this: "If I have to ask wether or not something is bad, it must be" What I mean is, if you are questioning what you are ... (read in full...)
Chasing my girlfriends best mate
Q. i am going out with a girl and weve been in a relationship for so long. but we havent even kissed and for a fiver i kissed a mate who i now fancy! she means more to me now than my girlfriend! and i want to leave my gf for her. but my gf is best ...
A. 27 August 2006: Well your current relationship doesnt seem to be going anywherem, why are the 2 of you still together? You say that the girl you kissed for a fiver means a lot to you, but you only kissed her, do you know a lot about her, you say she is popular, so ... (read in full...)
I slept with my friends crush, help!
Q. Hey, Me and my best friends' biggest crush (pete) had sex! I know i shouldn't have done it but ive been single for 2 years and ive had 2 boyfriends but my best friend has had no boyfriends and shes had the biggest crush on pete ever and she still ha...
A. 27 August 2006: My dear, I know that you know what you did was awful and deceitful and very very wrong. I am a bit confused though, just enlighten me,is your friend now with Pete and does she know you had sex? If so, you need to start winning her trust back. Ask ... (read in full...)
Is Two Years Too Much?
Q. I'm almost 16. I've been getting close to this guy that just graduated (he's 18). We've been talking on phone/computer and now he wants to take me on a date. (He's from my school, not some random guy, we just never talked before) Some of my guy f...
A. 27 August 2006: Personally, that isnt even an age gap to me! So stop worrying my dear, if you said he was 38 then I would say that is an age gap, however its not for me to say what is too much of an age gap. I have said this on numerous posts, my late grandma was ... (read in full...)
Confused about virgin things
Q. this is probably a stupid question but here it goes... My boyfriend fingered me for the first time the other day, I really enjoyed it but it really hurt aswell, im a virgin at 17 and i was'nt sure if i had lost my virginity to him by him fingerin...
A. 27 August 2006: Its not a stupid question. No you have not lost your virginity, in order for that to happen, intercourse must take place, so yes you are virgin. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
Boys tease me about having no breasts. What can I do?
Q. im 14 and have no breast and all the boys tease me wot can i do?...
A. 27 August 2006: I would not recommend implants at your tender age, you are stil developing, I was the same at your age, I hated it, but in time they just grew naturally, now I wish they were smaller because then men would look at my face and not my chest sometimes. ... (read in full...)
Wife refuses intimacy so I moved out. Still want to be with her but should I go back?
Q. i have been married 11 years I love my wife but she is never intimate with me anymore. I know some women go off sex after having a baby, but we have not had sex now for nearly 2 years,we tried talking about it many times but always end up arguing ...
A. 27 August 2006: There is obviously something bothering your wife and instead of packing up and moving out, try to establish what it is. Why have a married couple not had sex for 2 years? Thats something that you both need to discuss even though you end up arguing, ... (read in full...)
I feel more towards her than just friends, what should I do ?
Q. hi there is this girl i konow we r realy good mates but i feel a lot more for her but i dunno what to do plz help me Thanks ...
A. 26 August 2006: How well do you know her, are you good friends, is it worth risking a friendship? If she is single and so are you, just ask her out for something to eat, see a movie. Good luck. xXx... (read in full...)
My lover thrust too deep; now there are problems "down there"
Q. i had sex with my b/f when he came to visit... when we had sex he went really deep and kinda hurt my lower stomach and i think my bladder... my vagina was really swollen and now when i go and pee it kinda tickles and is tingly.... the outside of ...
A. 26 August 2006: If it persists, you are best off going to the docs to check that everything is ok. I havenot experienced the pain myself so I cant advise you from a personal perspective but see your GP. And perhaps tell him to be a little more gentle next time ... (read in full...)
Im really happy with my guy, so why did I let someone else kiss me, will things be the same again ?
Q. i have the most beautiful boy i could have ever of hoped for we are so happy together and can talk about anything together.....however he went on holiday for a few weeks and i dont know what happened i missed him so much it was really hard being ...
A. 26 August 2006: My dear, you made a mistake, you acknowledged the error, were decent enough to tell your boyfriend and he is willing to forgive you so what is the problm? I dont see why it cant be the same as before, you are beating yourself up about it, stop it, ... (read in full...)
I like my supervisor but he said he's in a relationship, but I can't help thinking he wants me!
Q. I really like the supervisor in my office and we have been flirting non-stop. I plucked up the courage to ask him out and he said 'for now I'm in a relationship, so at the moment anything other than a friendship would not be possible at this time.' ...
A. 26 August 2006: Just because you may think he wants you more, he is decent enough to say that whilst he is in a relationship, you can only be friends. Why are you trying to turn him into a cheater? When you say you have been flirting, well as I said in another ... (read in full...)
I'm supposed to be getting married, but I have feelings for someone else!
Q. I have a partner of 3years and we are due to get married next July. I love him to death but there is a guy at work I think is really nice n gorgeous and he is a bit older than me and married. We get on so well and flirt alot. Do i tell him how I ...
A. 26 August 2006: The guy at workis older and gorgeous and married, and what? He is MARRIED, you are about to be married, who cares that he is gorgeous, my dear, there are millions of gorgous men out there, where I work, I see loads, some married, some not, but if ... (read in full...)
I thought the guy was 17, like me... but he's only 12!
Q. I'm 17 and I met this guy who I presumed was the same age as he looked so old, but then I found out he was 12! I'm so confused as he looks and acts my age. He's so sweet, I've never met anyone like him before, but I can't help thinking it's wrong as ...
A. 26 August 2006: Merciful God, of course he is sweet, he is 12!!!!! My dear girl, I know you didnt know he was 12 until afterwards but seriously, his voice probably hasnt even broken yet, he is way too young right now anyway. Take care. xXx... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex with my married cousin!
Q. dear cupid. I'm in desperate need of guidance. Since having unprotected sex with my cousin I'm worried I might be pregnant. He has a wife and four children that he lives with and another child that he has refused to see for 14 years. What do i do???...
A. 26 August 2006: My dear what the hell were you thinking? He is your cousin, he is married, has 5 children and yet he still slept with you. Ask yourself what sort of man is he to do something like this. There are 2 things you need to do, first get a pregnancy test ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is M.I.A. and I don't know what to do
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend told me today so randomly that he is going to be M.I.A for one week. He said that we can not speak or see each other during this time. He told me to trust him and that he loves me. I am so confused. I haven’t heard fr...
A. 26 August 2006: Well, I do think its a bit strange, but I do agree with what Wendyg has written. Maybe he isnt ready for a serious relationship yet and he needed some kind of excuse to cool it for a while. If you leave it for a little while longer and see how the ... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is M.I.A. and I don't know what to do
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend told me today so randomly that he is going to be M.I.A for one week. He said that we can not speak or see each other during this time. He told me to trust him and that he loves me. I am so confused. I haven’t heard fr...
A. 26 August 2006: Thank you Wendyg! Its true that you learn something new every day!! Thanks very much. xXx... (read in full...)
I have a big crush on my Teacher... should I tell her ?
Q. i am in love with my english teacher i even dream about her she is so nice to me in class. should i tell i tell her that i love her or not....
A. 26 August 2006: How old are you? Either way I dont think its wise to tell her because she is in a position of authority over you and any potential relationship will result in her being sacked. Dont tell her whilst she is your teacher. xXx... (read in full...)
My boyfriend is M.I.A. and I don't know what to do
Q. Dear Cupid, My boyfriend told me today so randomly that he is going to be M.I.A for one week. He said that we can not speak or see each other during this time. He told me to trust him and that he loves me. I am so confused. I haven’t heard fr...
A. 26 August 2006: Sorry maybe its true when people say awful things about people from Manchester are not quite with it yet because we live in some far out desert place away from the major city of London but what is M.I.A? Someone enlighten me, I know for a 23 year ... (read in full...)
Is coming out to your catholic family about you being bi-sexual, a good thing or a bad thing?
Q. Is coming out to your catholic family about you being bi a good thing or a bad? I am afraid of their reaction and if they would think badly of me for the rest of my life. only my close friends know this about me, but im starting to think that my ...
A. 26 August 2006: typo: should say "judge" I am sorry!!! Cant spell today.... (read in full...)
He suddenly asked if I would be ready for a baby ? He doesnt know im still a virgin!!!!
Q. Hi, I have been seeing my b/f for 5 months.He told me he loved me 4 months into the relationship. We have not been 'intimate' yet, shall we say and I realy want to but the thing is he does'nt know I am a virgin.(He isn't) Anyway.... Yesterday i...
A. 26 August 2006: This is most bizarre, if you have been together for 5 months and have not had sex, well thats fine, nothing wrong with that, but I am a bit miffed as to why he would suddenly say he wants a baby when you havennt even been doing anything which causes ... (read in full...)
I keep giving him oral sex while e dates other girls! I can't seem to give him up. What's wrong here?
Q. hi im a teen and i had a boyfriend and we broke up and after that he said he still liked me but was with another girl and after they finished i gave him oral sex and then 2 weeks later he went out another girl. Then whilst he was with this other ...
A. 26 August 2006: I agree with Layla and the anonymous poster below her, why do you keep doing it then, he is just having is caking and eating it too. He us using you, surely you can see that. Why continue to give him what he wants and then he goes off with other ... (read in full...)
I really like her a lot but her horrible vaginal odor is putting me off! How do I tell her?
Q. For months i had lusted after this lady i ran into at a friend's party. She is tall, beautiful and a succesful professional. She lives in her own home with her son, so it was convenient to visit her. After weeks of heavy dating, she finally allowed ...
A. 26 August 2006: Juliette is right, whenever you do something too much it has the opposite effect. I mean take me for an exampl,I love to smell strongly of perfume, because I believe that a womans scent is something that gets a mans attention, so I do go a bit over ... (read in full...)
Is coming out to your catholic family about you being bi-sexual, a good thing or a bad thing?
Q. Is coming out to your catholic family about you being bi a good thing or a bad? I am afraid of their reaction and if they would think badly of me for the rest of my life. only my close friends know this about me, but im starting to think that my ...
A. 26 August 2006: Well my dear it depends on your family. As a Christian myself, it would go against what Chritianity teaches, however I am not a Catholic and dont know how exaxtly your family would take it. Remember, no one has the right to jusge you, I may not ... (read in full...)
I'm a virgin at 38 years old...do I tell this to my new guy?
Q. I have just met the man of my dreams, but i dont know whether i should tell him i am a virgin at 38 as he might think i am some sort of weirdo or something or will he work it out for himself, also as he is thin i am over weight he has not mentioned ...
A. 26 August 2006: If he loves you then he will not think you are a weirdo at all because there is nothing weird about you at all. Dont put yourself down my dear, you have met someone special, let your moment be special. xXx... (read in full...)
During lovemaking he shouted "I love you, Betty" Guess what...I'n not Betty!
Q. My boyfriend of three years and i were making love after a few drinks recently when he shouted "Betty, i love you! Well my name is not Betty!Immediately this happened I pulled away. Betty is his ex girlfriend whom i know he is still very fond of and ...
A. 25 August 2006: You need to talk to him and demand that he be COMPLETELY straight with you about how he feels about this Betty woman. I dont really think he has an excuse for what he has done, and you deserve to know where you stand with him. Good luck. xXx... (read in full...)
I feel rejected and alone...can anyone help help me
Q. im having a really hard life at the moment. My brothers are leaving home to travel for a year, i will miss them so so much. To top it im moving schools and everyone has already forgotten about me :( i feel so rejected and alone and no one ...
A. 25 August 2006: Sweetie, listen to me, do you have food to eat every day, clothes to wear, a bed to sleep in. I know you think that times are hard right now and I am not trying to say that they are not but my dear, you are just going through a rough patchand you ... (read in full...)
My friend and I fancy the same guy. She's told everyone she likes him so what should I do?
Q. I'm 14 and there's a guy at school that I fancy. I'm scared to tell him, and to tell anyone else, because one of my friends fancies him too, and she's told most of her friends. What should I do? Katie xx...
A. 25 August 2006: Do you both know that you like the same boy? Its just one one of those situations where either you or her may end up with him or neither of you be with him and the two of you remain friends, surely you cherish your friendship more than this boy, ... (read in full...)
When I have sex I bleed! Why?
Q. have met somone new! when we have sex i bleed! Why?...
A. 25 August 2006: Are you tense? Were you a virgin at the time, or have you had sex before? If were not a virgin when you slept with this guy has the problem happened before? If you tell me a bit more I may be able to sugest what it could be but until you do I dont ... (read in full...)
The past 6 months..my periods have got lighter until they stopped! I'm not pregnant ..so what is happening?
Q. Im 19 and in the last 6 months my periods have got lighter untill i stopped having them at all - i havnt had one for over 2 months!! i know 100% that im definately not pregnant, but what else could it be? where im currentlt staying, i dont ...
A. 25 August 2006: Sometimes irregular and odd periods may be due to diet and stress. Are you eating properly, i.e three square meals a day, or ar eyou stressed out or wirried about anything? Worry and odd eating patterns may cause periods to become lighter or even ... (read in full...)
Since we have lived together we argue, and its stressing mum out!
Q. I feel really stuck at the moment. Im with my boyfriend who ive been living with for the last 5 months or so. We have never stopped arguing since that point and i know we need space to clear the atmosphere and have time doing things apart, bu...
A. 25 August 2006: My dear why has your fella not got a job? Is he unable to work, or has he been finding it difficult to get a job? B3x has given you great tips to assist yur bloke in finding employment, the internet is great, are you UK based, if so try ... (read in full...)
Are all men really only after one thing ?
Q. Hi. are all men after one thing? I'm a youg 27 odd year old and I'm too afraid to sleep with a guy for the simple fact that they are using me. My father brought me up to believe all men were after one thing. from learning this I don't plan on let...
A. 25 August 2006: I do not know every man on the face of the planet, but even if I did, not all of them are purely after sex,there are some decent, intelligent intelluectual men out there who are not just after sex. I have met some perverted men, some decent men, ... (read in full...)
My BF tells all his mates about our sex life!
Q. I just found out my boyfriend is telling all his friends about our sex life. I dont know what to do! Should i end it?...
A. 25 August 2006: Sweetie,I would say to you as simple as that, dump your fella, but you do need to have a good talk with him, its wrong of him to blurt out private details to his mates, its disrespectful and childish. I would talk to him about it and tell him that ... (read in full...)
My fiancee wants to experiment with another girl!
Q. My fiancee wants to experiment with another girl, I see this as cheating, but also am quite turned on by the thought. She also wants a 3some with me and another girl, I just feel that seeing her being intimate with somebody else, end vice versa, c...
A. 25 August 2006: My opinion is that polygamy is wrong and monogamy is correct. You are right, it may well destroy what you have, I totally agree with you, it is a ludicrous idea, I personally would advise against it. Why introduce poison into a perfect remedy, i.e. ... (read in full...)
I am a virgin and my ex wants sex wih me
Q. My x boyfriend and me are still like really good friends and he wants to have sex... But Im still a virgin and Im affraid that it might hurt.. And I want to know if i should or not.? He told me that he doesnt want me to do stuff that i dont want ...
A. 25 August 2006: My dear why are you considering doing this? He is no longer your boyfriend yet he wants sex with you, why did you break up? Your first time ideally would be nice if it was with someone you loved and were in a relationship with. If you are worried ... (read in full...)
It's a love hate thing...
Q. Please help me out. me and my boyfriend have been dating for 2 months. I hate his feet which feet arent supposed to be attractive anyways. Sometimes the way he moves his hand up and holds it up i hate it. It reminds me of someone gay. Just little ...
A. 25 August 2006: No one is perfect, we all have some defect or something about us that either we or our partners dont particularly like, if you truly love him and want to be with him, something as irrelevant as his feet will not be a major issue. But if you dont ... (read in full...)
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