I love my girlfriend, but fancy her sister, what should I do about it ?
Q. I fancy my girlfriend's sister but i still love my girlfriend what should i do about my feelings? ...
A. 15 June 2006: If you truly love your girlfriend then dont allow lust to take up any room in this relationship. You may fancy this girl my friend but is it worth risking a relationship for the sake of lust? NO. xXx... (read in full...)
I'm 10 years old - is my boyfriend using me?
Q. Hi I am 10 and I think my boyfreind is using me. How do I find out?...
A. 15 June 2006: Wait a minute, why would a ten year old have a boyfriend? My dear why are you dating at such a tender age, you are not even a teenager, you are a child, children dont date. Come on, give yourself some time to grow up first. You are way too young. ... (read in full...)
How can I get my ex-fiance back?
Q. How can I get my ex-fiance back? She said she still loves me but we haven't got back together yet. ...
A. 14 June 2006: Yeah I do agree with Martini, I mean what are the circumstances of the relationship? Did one of you cheat? Did you drift apart? Is it a long distance relationship etc etc, as Martini said, we are not psychic so we cant give advice when we dont have ... (read in full...)
I'm in love with a married man... ! (still)
Q. Iam still in love with this married man I lie awake everytime and imagine what it would be like if we came together heis good looking and has nice eyes and everything I feel shy when I see him but I really like him alot I deerpately would lkike to ...
A. 14 June 2006: My dear friend, STOP THIS. This infatuation you have with this guy i sgonna end in total disaster. He is MARRIED, so leave it be. There is nothing you can do. I have been there myself, but my sense of morality and self worth explicitly told me ... (read in full...)
I don't want to have sex with him in case something bad happens....what can I do?
Q. I have a slight dilemma. I have been going around to my best friends house almost every day for the past year now. (he is 22, i am 17). One day, about 5 months ago, he kissed me. I shall not go into further detail, however it has escalated to a ...
A. 14 June 2006: Totallyagree with Dr Pete, perfect answer there for you now, and now let me add my portion.
You need to learn some discipline, you know you should not be sleeping with him, so stop doing it. He is purely using you for sexual gratification and noth... (read in full...)
He won't wear a condom, what should I do?
Q. My new bf sais he wont wear condoms, I am on the pill though. Should i have sex with him?...
A. 14 June 2006: I certainly would not be sleeping with him if I were you. He needs to learn some respect for you, if you want to be protected against potential diseases he needs to use protection. Its selfish of him to refuse to wear a condom, what is his excuse ... (read in full...)
She acted all girly around me. Does that mean she fancies me?
Q. I'm 15 and there is this girl at school and she keeps looking at me and been nice. To day she asked me if she was fat and then started acting really girly. I said no you are slim; stop being stupid. Does she fancy me?...
A. 14 June 2006: Well its a possibility but auntie_claire is spot on, try and at least be freinds first and see how you get on!!!... (read in full...)
I had unprotected sex, period was very light, could I still be pregnant?
Q. I had unprotected sex, I got my period but it was very light compared to normal, even though I got my period could I still be pregnant??...
A. 14 June 2006: A pregnancy test would provide the answer to this question my dear. xXx... (read in full...)
How do I stop this embarrasing situation from happening?
Q. This is really embarrasing but something has to be done. My boyfreind suggested that he do me up the bum, so I thought, why not! We used a condom. When my boyfriend took his penis out it had my poo on it. I was really embarrased but my boyfriend ...
A. 13 June 2006: Martini: Does that also mean that people shouldn't have oral sex, since the mouth is for eating, or licking, since the tongue is for tasting, or masturbation with our hands because it's for holding other things?
No your post should not be removed,... (read in full...)
Why do men fancy my friend and not me!
Q. hey! im 16 an whenever me an my mate go out an about men are always looking at her and beeping at her in cars, that always happens to her cos she is so tall and slim. but i am average height and quite curvy, but slim aswell, so why dont men look at ...
A. 13 June 2006: I have to totally agree with Camille, I mean if these men are beeping their car horns why do you assume that it is automatically for your friend? Could it possibly be that they actually like you? Dont be so hard on yourself. Coming from myself who ... (read in full...)
I don't want to go against my religion, but I do want to give my girlfriend what she wants!
Q. Hello I am 14 years old. I have been dating this girl for 4 months 2 weeks and I have already proposed to her and plan to spend the rest of my life with her. She asked me a couple of nights ago to have sex with her soo I said yes. I'm highly a ...
A. 13 June 2006: Why on earth do you want to be having sex at your tender young age? What is the hurry? If you are a Christian as you say then stick to your faith and beliefs and dont comprimise them just cos your girlfriend wants sex. If she loved and respected you ... (read in full...)
My period is 12 weeks late, I'm not pregnant, so what is wrong with me?
Q. Hi, My period is 12 weeks late and I dont know why. I have done a pregnancy test and it is negative and my periods are usually regular does anyone have any ideas why this could be? Thanks x...
A. 13 June 2006: My dear there are a lot of factors to consider for example, how old are you? Are you eating a well balanced diet. Late periods can be due to diet, i.e. under eating can cause periods to be dormant for a while, other reasons may be stress etc. If ... (read in full...)
How do I stop this embarrasing situation from happening?
Q. This is really embarrasing but something has to be done. My boyfreind suggested that he do me up the bum, so I thought, why not! We used a condom. When my boyfriend took his penis out it had my poo on it. I was really embarrased but my boyfriend ...
A. 13 June 2006: I totally agree with Anja, God never made the anus for sex, it is purely for excretion purposes, the vagina is intented for sex. God is not stupid, he created our bodies very intelligently but we as humans take it upon ourselves to defile what He ... (read in full...)
He is sweet and very courteous, always compliments me, does this mean that he likes me ?
Q. I like this guy, he's sweet, courteous and likes me too. well i think he does. he told me i was beautiful, and when we were talking about fun i said i didnt have much of it, he said well u need a boyfriend, i said im looking. would that have went ...
A. 12 June 2006: My dear friend, I think this guy likes you as I am speaking from experience. Telling you that you are beautiful is surely a great start!!! I think you are good at giving yourself advice, should i wait till the deal is done and see where it goes from ... (read in full...)
Is it love if there is no physical attraction?
Q. Do you think it's possible to fall in love with someone if you are not physically attracted to them, even after a few months of dating? We have great chemistry and get along quite well, always laughing and having fun, but the spark isn't there. ...
A. 12 June 2006: My friend consider this, lets imagine you were born blind, so you have never ever seen anything in your life, you have no concept of colour, black, white, pink, they mean nothing to you, I cant describe colours to you because they are colours and ... (read in full...)
24 yr old virgin with very experienced guy! Afraid he'll tell everybody on a drunken night out!
Q. I am a 24 yr old virgin, and recently met a (very experienced) guy through mutual friends. I'm not embarrassed to tell him I'm a virgin, but I am embarrassed about our friends finding out. On a drunken boys' nights out, he sometimes lets slip with ...
A. 12 June 2006: My dear its not a stupid question at all. Let me tell you, be honourned that you are 24 and are chaste, its nothing to be ashamed of. Virginity is precious, once its gone, its gone, aint never coming back. Listen, who cares about the friends finding ... (read in full...)
I slept with a man I like from work, help!
Q. there is a guy i work with we have been flirting and emailing all day long.i bumped into him on a night out and we ended up sleeping together and had an amazing night.i really like the guy but i feel that now he doesnt want anything more to do with ...
A. 12 June 2006: sorry here is the rest,I pressed enter by accident.....
I do have to agree with her. Dont just go to bed with a guy so soon after a night out, get to know each other, build a relationship, become lovers first not lust partners. xXx... (read in full...)
I slept with a man I like from work, help!
Q. there is a guy i work with we have been flirting and emailing all day long.i bumped into him on a night out and we ended up sleeping together and had an amazing night.i really like the guy but i feel that now he doesnt want anything more to do with ...
A. 12 June 2006: My dear it looks to me as if this guy was not really into you as much as you would have hoped and the alcohol unfortunately may haver had some part to play in the fact that you slept together. I am not going to say that you are stupid and you ... (read in full...)
Are we underage to have sex?
Q. hi, i need help to find out if my boy friend and i are illegal. my boy friend is 17 and i'm only 15. we've been dating since last september it will be exactly 10 months this year. he doesn't turn-18 until next march 9th and i wont turn 16 until may ...
A. 12 June 2006: We do have bit of a sex life..... errm ok. Well if you already are having sex why are you asking if its illegal, if we were to tell you that it is illegal wil you abstain from it? As far as I am aware, that is illegal, but as I am based in England I ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: All the best David, I hope everything goes ok as my heart truly goes out to you. xXx... (read in full...)
I am a virgin and a bit confused about sex
Q. i am a virgin and im confused. when u have sex for the first time my mates have told me something pops when u have it to say u are not a virgin anymore. and apparently the thing that pops really hurts when it pops or something like that. what are ...
A. 10 June 2006: My dear what you are being told is not entirely true. The phrase he "popped my cherry" comes from the rupturing or tearing of the hymen which covers the entrance to your vagina but your hymen may not necessarily be in tact just cos you are a virgin. ... (read in full...)
Do good manners really exists these days?
Q. If a man really tries to be a gentleman in this stone age like opening car doors for you, let you go first as a lady. Does that mean he is showing good manners or just trying to impress you or hook you?? Do good manners really exists these day...
A. 10 June 2006: My dear at the department where I work, most of the men are in their thirties and forties, married with kids etc, but let me tell you 9 out of 10 of them are the most chivalrous men I have ever met. Chivalry is the term used to describe men who are ... (read in full...)
Sex doesn't feel like anything!
Q. Hi my name is Maya. Whenever I have sex with my boyfriend, I don't feel a thing. I just feel normal and I never told him that. Is there anything wrong with me? I don't know what sex feels like. Please help me....
A. 10 June 2006: My dear I really dont think this is a case of different positions, you go on top, he takes you from behind etc etc, well I am certainly not going to advise you on positions, have you thought that perhaps you are not suited to him? Do you love him? ... (read in full...)
I have just found out that I am dying and don't know how to tell my partner
Q. I have just found out that I am dying, but have just got engaged last week. My fiancee has noticed that I am crying all the time and keeps asking what is wrong, she seems to think I have guilty feelings about something and is starting to accuse m...
A. 10 June 2006: David, this is awful, you are so young as well and to have this burden on you must be so stressful. If you dont tell her, she will be absoulutely devasted beyond measure if you were to unfortunately pass away suddenly. If you do tell her, then at ... (read in full...)
I am happily married but I have feelings for someone else!
Q. hi my name is ben and my question is I have been very happily married for 6 years and have known my wife for 8 years and we have a son together, but in the past month I have noticed that I have developed feelings for another women, she is madly in ...
A. 10 June 2006: Hello Ben, I can sort of understand what you are feeling but let me tell you this, I thought that switching off feelings was virtually impossible but listen to me, I had these incredible feelings for a married man, my word they were beyond my usual ... (read in full...)
If I were to get into his bed as a muck around, do you think that he will think I want sex ?
Q. hi i'm 15 an me and my boyfriend have been together for about 2 months. i am wondering if when i go round his house (like i normally do once a week). he normally goes and gets us both a drink an brings it upstairs to his room. while he is getting me ...
A. 10 June 2006: Here is an example, If I dont want alcohol why would I walk into a public house or a beer garden? Can you see my point?
By getting into his bed you are subconciously putting sensual ideas into his head, you may think its all innocence but then he m... (read in full...)
He said if I get pregnant again..he would leave or make me miscarry. Should I leave him?
Q. i have a partner who is 19 i have a two month child with him and i ask a hyperthetical question on what would he choose happiness or family he asked me and i choose happiness but he didnt answer so does he really love me as much as he should? also ...
A. 9 June 2006: ......and i fell pregnant again what would he do he said he would leave me or make me abort or he could punch me in belly to make me miscarry.
Hold up, did I just read this? Your bofriend said he would MAKE YOU MISCARRY? My dear wake up, this guy... (read in full...)
How do you get over having an abortion??
Q. How do you get over an abortion when the reason for it was a medical complication and you actually really wanted the baby??...
A. 9 June 2006: My dear I sympathise with you so much because there are some women who have no regard for their unborn baby and an abortion is simply the solution to an unwanted child. My dear, I cant say I know how you feel, I havent been there, but you must not ... (read in full...)
Have I lost my virginity? Could I be pregnant?
Q. Me and my boyfriend were missing around and were going to have sex without a comdom, but my bf couldn't get it all the way up and he wasn't there for long. Does this make me not a virgin and could I have got pregnant from what we did?...
A. 8 June 2006: No you are not a virgin anymore. This tripe I hear about "He has to pop my cherry then I am no longer a virgin" is rubbish. Your hymen can be torn and ruptured froma young age if you do bike or horse riding etc. Just because you didnt have full ... (read in full...)
BF says I only look good wearing make-up & mini-skirts!
Q. I would really like if someone could help me because I'm hurting really bad. I've been with my boyfriend for a little over a year. He is 4 years younger than me and when we first started going out he was doing all the running. Lately he is always ...
A. 8 June 2006: There is a line in a song, it goes "I'm a loser baby, so why don't you..........." I wont say the rest.
I am sorry but this guy of yours is a jerk. How can he have the audacity to say you only look good in make up? Thats damn rigght disr... (read in full...)
He was a real brute in the bedroom and forced himself on me, and then couldnt understand why i chucked him out! Do men get kicks out hurting women during sex ?
Q. hiya everyone, this is my sister in laws account. she recomend i go on here with my problem as she didnt really to know my problem. well im not sure if this is going to get posted because its a little extreme but if it does, oh please some one help. ...
A. 8 June 2006: Wendyg is SPOT ON. This is RAPE and he should not get away with this. This is not rough sex, did you actually say you wanted to have sex with him? If the answer is no then this is rape because you had sex against your will. My dear go to the GP ... (read in full...)
Visit my dying uncle or take my English exams?
Q. Hi I have English exams on the 6th and 8th of June. I am really streesed about it because I found out yesterday that my uncle had 48 hours to live, so I guess that means 24 now. The problem is I want to see him before it's too late but he lives ...
A. 6 June 2006: Lillaum I am so glad to hear that. I know your uncle is still ill but God has given you a chance to see him and do your exams so its good all round. God is good. And people say there is no God!!!
Whatever!!!
Take care and all the very bes... (read in full...)
What is a normal sex life?
Q. This may sound stupid...Im just wanting know everybodys opinion on this, how many times or how much sex should a couple have a week, every month in order to be considered a normal, healthy, loving, relationship or sex life? I know that a ...
A. 6 June 2006: My dear I am not intending to sound like a sarcastic individual, but we are not dealing with maths here, there are no averages for howmany times a married couple will or should have sex. And no I dont think the quation is stupid, but its one of ... (read in full...)
Pressure to have sex, but I'm not comfortable with it!
Q. My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him. I've done it before but I don't feel comfortable with him. What should I do?...
A. 6 June 2006: The answer to your question is very sinple, if you are not happy doing something with him then you simply dont do it. If your boyfriend loves and honours you he will respect your feelings but what you need to do is establish why the two of you are ... (read in full...)
Should I wish my ex happy birthday as I still have feelings for her
Q. Do you think I should text my ex fiance to wish her a happy birthday - even though its been several months since we have spoken and the relationship ended poorly? I still have feelings for her even though she is now with someone else......
A. 6 June 2006: I agree with Dr Pete, its not going to cause harm by sending someone a birthday wish is it? It would be a different scenario if you were trying to get back with her while she is with somone else, but you are only wishing her happy birthday! Go on, ... (read in full...)
Does this guy like me or is it just sex?
Q. Hi im a 19 year old girl whos had a bit of a "thing" with a guy for the last 8 months. We've recently started sleeping together, but always only when we're both drunk. Last night my friend heard him slagging me off and saying he has me wrapped ...
A. 6 June 2006: But thats the problem, he does have some sort of power over you because if you truly respected yourself you would not condone this fella slagging you off and you would or ought to abstain from any sexual relations with him. Why do you need to just ... (read in full...)
I had sex with my ex, I love him, but I am married
Q. i am inlove with my exlover but i am married what can i do i had sex with him and i still love him i dont know what to do...
A. 6 June 2006: Well I have to totally agree with Shania in all that she has said, why did your ex become an ex? Its obvious you never fell outlove with him and there was still some chemistry so why on earth did you marry another bloke? I cant really add any more ... (read in full...)
I have been dared to have a gang bang at 13!
Q. hi am a jade and i am quite young still i am 13 years and 11 months and i am quite average i like to wear girly clothes and do social thigns but yesterday i went bowling with 5 of my guy mates that i get along with really well. i enjoyed it and we ...
A. 6 June 2006: My dear this is not at all a good idea, please dont do this, you are strongly going to regret it after if you do.For starters you are way too young to be participating in lewd acts such as this, its wrong. My dear I have been your age, I have got ... (read in full...)
Visit my dying uncle or take my English exams?
Q. Hi I have English exams on the 6th and 8th of June. I am really streesed about it because I found out yesterday that my uncle had 48 hours to live, so I guess that means 24 now. The problem is I want to see him before it's too late but he lives ...
A. 5 June 2006: My dear considering your circumstances I am sure that the teachers will allow some compassionate leave and let you take your exams again at a later date. I think you should see your uncle, my regret up until this very day and will be with me till I ... (read in full...)
What are male preferences for girls hair and height?
Q. teenage male advise - do you prefer a girl with their hair up in a pony tail or down? second question - curly, wavy or straight hair? third question - do you prefer a girl that is tall or average height cos my mate is very tall and all the boys loo...
A. 1 June 2006: My dear I know you asked for MALE advice but let me tell you this. So if lets say 20 men say they like what is the total opposite of you are you going to believe that all men like girls like this? Of course not, its not the case. These sort of ... (read in full...)
I can't stop thinking about my boss, help!!!
Q. I think my boss is interested in me and I can't get him off of my mind. What should I do?...
A. 1 June 2006: Well firstly having a relationship with your boss is not always a good idea. You need to establish if he really is interested in you and then if he is, I hope he is single, otherwise there will be major problems. If he does like you then you need ... (read in full...)
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