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writes:My husband is obsessed with women. We have a great life together but he can help stopping and looking at other women. And has done since we have met. I find it really hard at the moment be heavily pregnant seeing him watch other women knowing he would rather be going to bed with them, not me. i love him dearly but dont think i can spend the rest of my life feeling the way i do. im so depressed. just a little advise needed!
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reader, prttymtlkitty +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Just curious, but did you think he would rather sleep with other women when he looked at them before you got pregnant? Its hard to ask someone to curb there behavior you once accepted, but he needs to know how much of yourself you have to give up to have this baby, and physically you may never get it back. I don't think asking for a little consideration and respect is too much to ask of him. But he should also beware of what it takes for you to recover from a pregnancy. If he doesn't give you the space you need to recover, this feeling of inadequecy can become a real bear. Been there, done that too.
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reader, Country Woman +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Look men always look at other women it's the way of the world. You are feeling hyper sensitive right now and not your normal figure but remember one thing, he married you and loves you and you are pregnant with his baby, what more can be said about the way he feels for you eh!!
Unfortunately my ex always looked at other women and did this from the first moment we met until we finally finished. I work with him still every day and so very amicable.
The thing is with men that some men are just not very good at being subtle and your husband may be one of these. It is the animal instinct to look at the opposite sex. I look at men and if an attractive man walks by me and has a cute bum or nice eyes then yes I think ooh. I try to be subtle as I think most women are but I also did this when I was in a relationship as well.
It means absolutely nothing and just try not to let it get to you as it is not good to stress yourself out right now as your baby will pick up on your stress levels as well and it is not like your husband is being unfaithful or anything he is just being a red blooded male which is what we all want really at the end of the day. Our men to be just that men.
Just try not to blow this all out of proportion, if your husband was chatting other women up or making sexual advances to them then I would understand how you felt but he's not.
You just feel unattractive right now and I think most pregnant women go through that. I know I did as my partner would not touch me all through my pregnancy although he said he would before I got pregnant. Even talking to midwives etc he always thought that he didn't want to hurt me or the baby and I was absolutely desperate for sexual attention at the time. I must admit there were times when I thought I couldn't even think about sex especially in the latter stages of the pregnancy.
You are just feeling normal that's all and so don't punish yourself or him. Maybe tell him how you are feeling right now and say how much it is upsetting you as he probably doesn't even know he is doing it. But at the end of the day it is not a crime to look just if they touch eh!!
Take care and if you want to chat again, I'm around OK.
BFN
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reader, zhyid +, writes (28 April 2006):
Hi, well i think you have to speak here, if he always stares at other women when he's with you, i mean like walking or at the mall maybe there's a problem, you says it been from the start and it's bugging you now that you're pregnant, my advice here is speak to your husband, tell him the truth about how you feel, ask him if he loves you, i think since you're pregnant you tend to be more sensitive and need more emotional support. So have a nice talk and let him now how you feel about it.Good Luck
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reader, bonym +, writes (28 April 2006):
 Dear reader, congrats on your pregnancy, I hope you have a healthy baby and a good birth. Now, your husband is not abnormal, its normal for men to like women even if they are married etc, but I think maybe you are overeacting. Your husband is still with you. My dear, as long as he has been faithful, you have nothing to worry about. Youare having his baby, so who cares if he looks at other women, and the end of the day, he is married to you and you are pregnant with his child. When the baby is born, go and pamper yourself, show him that there is no reason for him to look elsewhere, make him see that YOU are the most beautiful woman in the world. If it carries on, give him an ultimatum. I know you may feel insecure if he is looking at other women, let him know that. He is your man, NO ONE ELSES!! xXx
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