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writes: why do i always get jealous when my boyfriend friends which are boys come around him? i dont know how to stop it can yall give advice?
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2006): Girl! i feel the same way sometimes!! i mean my bfs life surrounds around his friends and sports.......and yah sometimes i feel somewhat left out!! i mean like durring free times at school.....expecialy when its warm out (not winter) and hes playing basket ball and football!! then i feel totaly left out........but i just live with it...and remember that he loves me.....even if hes hanging out with his other friends! i mean every guy needs needs thre guy frinds and sports to live!!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (26 May 2006):
 Dr Pete is spot on with this... The only reason you dont like it is because your not centre of attention in your mans world when his friends are around. We all need friends, try and be a little less selfish and let him have his friends. Im not sure if your asking how to stop his friends or to stop you getting jealous... so in answer to both, you cant stop him having friends its part of what makes us "us" and we all need someone or somewhere to escape to, he cant just ditch his friends because you are there as what would happen if you guys fell out he would have no one. In answer to the jealousy, make some more friends of your own, also try and involve yourself more with whats going on with your man and his friends, if you feel more included you will less inclined to feel left out or second best. You cant be centre of attention all the time, but sometimes you will be. Learn to adapt to your surroundings, and find some things of your own that you can do so that you dont have to rely on your bf for all his attention.
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reader, Smiler +, writes (26 May 2006):
 hello.
its ok that you get a little jealous of his friends, i think all us women are a little the same in that department, wanting to have all his attention and give him the same in return. But babe thinking about really would you want him around you 24 hours a day 7 days a week? i'm sure the answer to that is no cause he'd drive you crackers, trust me on that one. plus i'm sure you would be more than a little concerned if he spent every waking minute with you and you alone wouldn't you. so i guess what i'm really saying to you is try to relax a little bit i'm sure he loves you as you love him ok.
You Take Care ok
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reader, ShortandSweet? +, writes (26 May 2006):
 A boy, as well as a girl, needs their mates around.
Ask yourself how you would view him if he had no mates and wanted to spend absolutely ALL his time with you??!!! Would you like that?
If they are constantly around then I can understand you getting peeved and you need to sort out some time together.But if he's just being yer average , normal male, perhaps you need to look at yourself and suss out where this insecurity (i.e jealousy) is coming from. It's a destructive emotion as I bet you know - it can destroy relationships and make you unhappy in yourself.
Why not agree to both of you spending X amount of time together and X amount of time with your mates - both of you? Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): dont worry that is exacly the same as me! i know its well annoying. i think i have sort of figured it out for me. i think yeah i want all his attention and also i am jelous he has other mates aswell as me. i want to be his best mate and his girl friend. hug and kiss him more and act more like g/f and b/f then soon u will hopefully feel like u are his top girl and his proper girlfriend and his mates are just mates. good luck and dw, u are the person he is wiv and wants to hold. not his mates (well hopefully lol!)write bk on this page to let us know it goes
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reader, anonymous, writes (26 May 2006): Would you say you like and want his attention and want to feel the most important thing to him?
When you see him with his mates, maybe you arn't getting that attention you want and so perhaps feel second best?
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