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writes: im really frustrated.....some ppl think that 13 is too young to have there bf go yup your shirt.......i dont think so!! i need some opinions!!!i dont feel like im 2 young!! i wouldent let some random dude do that!! me and my bf have been going out for a few months.....but weve been best friends for about a year.....and ive known him since we were 3......if i dident like him as much as i do......i wouldent let him do that...now would i? i dont think that there is an age that bf's can go up there gf's shirt............ok yah maybe under 13 is young.......but common 13!! its not like i just turned 13!!i personaly think that its a persons choice to do that!!!but......idk i need some opinions on this!!!!pls help!!!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): Hiya,
i think that 13 is 2 young 2 be letting ur bf go up ur shirt.
Maybe w8 till ur 14/15, so u know u both like each other n r really serious bout each other. If he does again den tell him 2 give u a bit if space 2 think before u rush in2 things!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 June 2006): Bit of hard question this one, since we dont really know you for who you are, only your yourself know that. But in my own opinion, 13 is too young. Mentally and Physically. When i was 13 i was only too happy for girls to let me touch. Now i look back, and the girls who were willing are all pregnant or single mothers. all before they are even 22. I now respect a girl a whole lot more if she makes me work for her attention, and doesnt "dish it out". Thrills always die off and we are always looking for new ones. touching will become old news and the next step will happen. Take your time, wait till the guys are old enough to really appreciate you as a person, have some self-respect. At 13, their mind is on one thing no matter what we as males say. its genetics, we always want one thing. If we didnt, you and i wouldnt here. leave off, be patient and you will appreciate it so much more, and for so much longer. promise.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): No, I do not think you are too young to do that sort of thing. Being 'too young' is an outdated tradition that needs to be re-addressed. It depends on the refinement of ideals and the maturity of the two people involved in such acts.
Further, I do not believe a 13 year old is any more innocent than say a 23 or a 33 year old. It depends on what the person has been through, what s/he has experienced, how much that person can take in intellectually.
Being 'ready' is relative to what you feel. Before I ever had sex, I thought it would be an awesome feeling - maybe even an instant orgasm. However, when I did have my first sexual experience, it wasn't whether I was ready for it or not. It was simply if I wanted to and if there were repercussions or not.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): I think we get the message with all the exclamation marks going on there in your post. Well my opinion is that 13 is a bit to young to be doing that sort of thing, i mean you want to keep self respect right? It is inevitable for one thing to lead to another as other people have said before me so I would just stick to kissing or something a bit less physical than going up any shirts.
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reader, anonymous, writes (29 May 2006): Why do you ask a question when you already know what the answer in your own head is, and then shout at people for their responses. You said you needed 'opinions'. That's what you're getting. Grow up!
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reader, Smiler +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Hey There
so your 13 and ready to take on the world huh? yeah i remember that age.... lol, but as my friends above have written yeah your a little young to be fumbling and fumbles lead else where even if you think they won't at the moment they will... sweetie don't be in such a rushg to persue this area of life your time will come its just a matter of being patient......
hope this helps
You Take Care X
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): im the person who asked this q
im not trying to have sex!! i dont want to have sex!! im not stupid enough to have touching lead into sex!! i mean cant he just put his hand up my shirt with out leading into sex? YES!! of corse he can!!! not everything leads to sex!!! expecialy when your 13!!! neither of us r stupid!!!!
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (28 May 2006):
 I think you are a little young to be engaging in this kind of activity. One little fumble can lead to other things. Just because you think its right at the moment, doesnt mean that it is. You are far to young to be thinking about sex, and acting in this way could lead to trouble. The legal age for sex is 16, remember this age was put there for a reason. You dont want to end up becoming pregnant, and starting off having relations of this kind way to see could lead to something that you really are not ready for. You are a little to young to be taking on something so big, enjoy being young. Try to keep to kissing and cuddling until you are a little older when you will be a bit wiser as to what decisions to take. Keep your innocence, there is no rush to get into any type of sexual activity.
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reader, matron +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Hi, i'm sure you're not the 1st 13 yr old to have a fumble and you wont be the last but... fumbles lead to other things and i dont think you are ready for that, not to mention the fact that you are under age and my guess is so is your b/f. There's no rush, you are young have fun but dont go there, its not big or clever and it could bring heartache to so many people. It only takes one slip up and you could find yourself pregnant and i'm sure you or your b/f are not ready for that.Like i said have some fun,you've got a life time ahead of you. stay safe, say no!x
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