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writes: What should i do , when my partner of 7 yrs has been invited to church several times by his boss and family and he does not include or invite me,but he continues to go alone? Then acts as if nothing is wrong? Reply to this Question
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reader, Hopeful +, writes (29 May 2006):
 I had a partner who was invited to church by a friend and my partner didn't invite me because it was a church that was very different to my faith. He assumed that I wasn't interested (which was a safe assumption in his case) but still it would have been nice to be asked.
Perhaps your partner is assuming that you wouldn't be interested or is scared that you will make fun of it or something - ie. some churches have certain reputations for doing different things in their masses that are perhaps very different from your faith.
I would ask him about it and find out what the deal is and then say "perhaps one day I should come with you, I would be interested to attend a service/mass and see what it is all about". See what he says then.
I wouldn't think there was anything sinister,perhaps he just doesn't think you would be interested.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2006): prepare yourself next time to go with her look after her reacton.
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reader, Ainley +, writes (28 May 2006):
 well a have you asked him because maybe he doesn't think you'll like it or maybe he's embaressed and doesn't want you to think he's a total loser? tell him for next time that you would like to come along and if he shrugs you off then confront him and ask why.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (28 May 2006):
 Maybe ask him why he doesnt include you. Maybe he just presumes that you wouldnt want to go and its not your thing. You will have to maybe drop hints that you would like to go too. Unless you let him know that you are feeling left out and what to go, hes not really going to see that hes doing anything wrong. You have been together long enough I think to just casually mention it. Or maybe next time hes getting ready to go ask if you can go along to and try and include yourself, or next time he goes when he comes back ask him about and if you act interested he may just suggest that you go along next time.
Good luck!
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