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writes: I have just found out my wife has cheated on me, but I am not sure as to what extent. She arrived home at 4.30am Monday morning after being out with work colleagues. The next day she was acting strangely and I could tell she was lying about where she was until this late hour. She eventually gave in and told me she was kissing with another man and that is as far as it went. I later found evidence in the laundry basket that would suggest she done a lot more than just kiss this man. I am 99% sure she is lying to me and I need to be sure. Should I get the evidence tested or should I take her word that she was just kissing?
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reader, eddie  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 I think you're all taking this WAY to lightly. She lied and told her husband one thing and only admitted to JUST kissing another guy when she was caught. She really doesn't deserve the benefit of the doubt. She was making out with another guy. Isn't that enough? She's the one that should have to proove otherwise.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Without sounding to crass or graphic, thrush is very common, and can leave a nasty discharge,white staining in your panties! its a yeast infection that causes some discomfort down below and really isnt very nice at all! But I hope that she voluntered the information saying she had thrush before you asked her. But like I say there was a differnt explanation that what you first thought. Now with a bit of luck you two can get back to normal without you having to doubt her, and she was probly just acting strange the next day as she knew she shouldnt have been out quite so late and snogged a work mate! I would put it down to experience, if there is no other reason to doubt her and I wouldnt worry too much.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 May 2006): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThanks for you help Wendy G and Iboy. I have already presented this evidence to her and she did say it was thrush as you have suggested. Being a bloke I don't know much about this and don't know if it leaves these stains on clothing. This is why I didn't know if she was making this up or not. If you say Thrush can leave heavy staining on underwear, then maybe I should take her word for it. I don't want to risk her leaving me because I don't trust her word.
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (25 May 2006):
Well maybe confront her with the evidence and see if she will admit it. See if she has an explanation for this evidence that you think you have, by this im guessing you think you have found some semen, now although it all points towards this and she admits to kissing this guy it could be something silly like thrush, or something like that... Before you go getting it tested (although I dont know how you would do that) ask her for her version of how this evidence got there and what it is. If she was intent on hiding something from you why would she leave something like that in the laundry basket ? At least try and get her to admit if something did go on, but if you have no other reason to doubt her then hear her out.
Good luck!
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reader, lboy +, writes (25 May 2006):
 well i would say that she's your wife and you should give the benofit of the doubt, but in this case it sounds like you really should get that evidence checked because if it turns out to be what it could be then she has definately not been faithful to you, but don't tell her that you are testing it until you get the results because if she finds that you've tested for things like that then you might lose her trust forever, good luck i hope it all works out for you.
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