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writes: i have been with my girlfriend for 3 years and we decided to split up for a while due to use arguing all the time so after that things were going well then one day she said shes not happy no more and wants to split for good what do i do i love her with all my heart.
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reader, anonymous, writes (31 October 2006): I know that it hurts, most if not all of us have some similar experiance. The truith of the matter is that time does heal and you will start to see things in the other person that you disliked all along and eventualy you will even start to wonder why you were with that person. However that does not heal your pain right now.
I do not recommend going to them and asking them why. Unless you want the brutal truith or bruital lies, both of which you dont need. Move forward. In some cases looking for someone else to fill the void works however remember this might just be a rebound and those dont allways work out. Many try exercise (to exhaustion) and there are benifits to this also as it makes you more attractive to others and eventualy you start to have good feelings about yourself (which you deserve).
Pain hurts and this pain is real. Were there for you and with you. Dont beat yourself down, there were reasons, either good or bad but whats behind you makes no difference. Remember a car has a large windhsield and a small rear view mirror for a reason, its whats ahead that counts.
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Maybe try and talk to her and ask why shes not happy with you guys anymore. Perhaps after you know this you will be able to move on, sorry to say it soundslike she already has. At least give it a shot and see if you can feel a bit better knowing why she wants go her seperate ways. Try not to dwell to much, and see how goes.
Take care
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reader, ShortandSweet? +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Try to find out if the damage is able to be repaired, otherwise, move on , sweetheart Talk, talk and TALK, honestly - it's the only answer! xx
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reader, matron +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Hi, Being apart and away from the tension that argueing brings has probably made her realise that her feelings for you weren't as they should have been, weren't as deep as she once thought, she's probably enjoyed the freedom and not having to answer to anyone, making all her own decisions without hurting anyone. It's hard having to face what you dread happening, the pressure has been off you both and that's why you've got on so much better but the truth is if you got back together you would probably slip back into the arguements and back to square one. Your ex obviously doesn't want to hurt you and probably thought that by having the break would help you to move on but she could tell that you were waiting for her to be ready to give it another go, and she clearly wasn't thinking the same way as you. Its really sad when you feel so much for someone and they dont feel the same way, but who knows, try to remain friends, she could change her mind but in the mean time get out there and have some fun you may feel differently in a few months, you may realise that it was for the best. Good luck LoLx
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