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writes: hi there, iv been in an on off relationship for the past 12 years , i think i still love him (not sure im a bit confused) although we get on well most of the time hes not very interested in me , if i am enthusiastic or happy about anything he just acts like im invisable or that what im happy about is stupid, he doesnt want sex very often and when he does it is just a quickie with no pleasure for me which im not happy about so on the odd blue moon when he wants sex i refuse, i have asked him if he loves me , he says no but he likes me and likes being with me . i have become very miserable and iv no self esteem or confidence any more , im afraid he is the only person who will ever be around for me . i used to be happy, confident , brave, outgoing and chatty but i no longer resemble the person i used to be. i have no other family and i feel alone and lost in the world . if anyone has any advise for me i would be very grateful. thankyou for reading this
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reader, Wendyg  +, writes (25 May 2006):
 Time to move on... If things are really this bad hun, I dont see some miracle making all the probs disappear and him turning into Mr prince charming. Get out and explore the world a bit. Tell him you dont want him anymore and go out find someone that will respect you, love you and look out for you. I cant believe you have been stuck for so long in something so stale... there is so much better out there hun, go out and a find it, we get one life, and its a short one, we all deserve to be happy, go out and find that happiness!
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reader, Toria +, writes (24 May 2006):
 There are plently of people out there that could love you so why settle with someone that doesnt and probably never will love you? i say get out of the relationship and concentrate on being you and doing things for you that make you happy.
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reader, shania +, writes (24 May 2006):
 Get your hat and coat and tell that loser,you are off!...What are you doing with this man? He said he doesn't love you.....the sex is crap because he is only interested in his own pleasure....he has zapped all your confidence and self esteem....but you put up with it because you feel that you cannot do better....well you can.You are staying together out of habit and you probably only enjoy his company sometimes because you feel grateful.Take a look at what you have got in this dead end relationship....nothing,he is using you,simple as that.Do you have any friends?....if not,join a sports club or do classes with a subject you like...you will meet different people and it will build you up confidence wise.Life is short and you dont want to wake up in another 12 years time and still stuck in the same relationship,with a man who doesn't appreciate you.You are stuck in a rut and you need to take charge.Good luck.
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