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female
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writes:I am stuck on what to do - i dont know if contacting my boyfriend will make things worse. A few nights ago my BF seemed to get angry about something and saying he would stop coming over to my house. Nothing actually happened so i dont know where it came from. The next morning, he gave me the silent treatment. I asked him what was wrong etc but just sat their in silence and and only said it wasn't me but still would not elaborate. Later that day he wanted to come back to mine to pick up a few of his things (he stayed the night before). He got very angry that i did not answer his texts and calls straight away (i was at work and then driving) and i get home quite late. I ask him to give me a bit of time before dropping by as i just walked in the door. He told me no and that he would be at mine in 5 minutes. He banged on the door, walked in, didn't say a word, picked up his things and walked out leaving the front door open. I haven't heard from him in 3 days. I still dont know why he was so angry. We didn't have an argument or disagreement. It was fine one minute and the next it was like this. Do i just let him be and let him contact me when he is ready or do i give in again (this type of thing has happened before) and contact him?
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (7 June 2012):
 Not only should you not contact him this time, you shouldn't continue dating him anymore at all. Not only does he have serious immaturity issues, he also has communication problems which is critical to a relationship. The anger problems worry me for you too. Sounds like he needs to grow up and work on some things before getting into a relationship. Getting angry for no reason then giving the silent treatment/no communication and then storming into your house?? No excuse for it. And it has happened before?? Yeah, get out of this one. Good luck.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (6 June 2012):
 No why should you contact him? He is the one that took a strop and stormed out and you never done anything. Maybe there are other things going on in his life at the moment, but it still does not give him permission to treat you like this. Don't let him walk all over you. Contacting him looks like you are weak and he can walk all over you. Do not allow it.
If he contacts you again tell him he better have a really good explanation or else things are over and see what he has to say. But if this has happened before then maybe it is best you call things quits. Off course that choice is yours to make.
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